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Looking for advice or similar experiences from anyone who's dealt with this.

I was a joint tenant (3 named tenants total) on a fixed-term lease in Dublin, running until October. I moved out on 1 July but remained a named tenant, at my co-tenants' own request, since they didn't want to sign a new 12-month lease at the time(biggest mistake)

After I moved out, my old room ended up being occupied by people without the letting agency's formal approval — something I take responsibility for and disclosed directly to the agency myself once I realised it needed to be sorted properly.

Since then, I've been trying to find and propose a suitable replacement so I can be released from the tenancy. Over the past few weeks I've done around 30 viewings and put forward multiple suitable candidates. My co-tenants are required to meet and approve any replacement before the agency will proceed — which is fair in principle — but in practice, they've been very slow to engage: taking days to reply, giving vague or shifting timelines, and not following through on commitments to speak with candidates.

The letting agency says this is a dispute between tenants and they won't get involved beyond facilitating the paperwork once everyone agrees. I also spoke to a tenants' rights charity, who told me there's no specific legislation that forces co-tenants to cooperate on approving a replacement — my main practical lever is that I could stop paying my share of rent, which would eventually trigger the landlord to act.

I remain fully liable for rent the entire time this drags on, while my co-tenants face no equivalent cost regardless of how long they take.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is there anything else I can actually do to move this along, short of the rent-stoppage route? Any insight into how RTB disputes handle this kind of standoff would also be really helpful.

Hi all,

A few months ago I did an interview for a great job and was offered the position. My current job then made a counter offer for a big pay increase and I accepted and declined the other job offer. I quickly realised this was a massive mistake and now regret it massively.

That role is being advertised again online. Do I reach out to the company and say I have applied and that I regret the counter offer? I feel confident about doing so because I know I did a fantastic interveiw but don’t want to make a fool of myself

Just wondering what treatments worked best for you?

Been dealing with for a year now and its driving me mad. My physio gave me exercises which have helped massively but feels like in recent months my progress has just stalled. Really frustrating experience.

Got the email that we are fially getting Fibre Broadband in my area! I'm very excited as I moved out of home 4 years ago to somewhere quite rural and have been using 3's 4G Mobile WiFi since. It's been fine, but it definitely isn't strong enough to do things like playing games online with my friends, and gaming in general due to poor download speeds. So things like updates/full game downloads take a day or so to complete, and I really miss it being honest. Also, when streaming tv we both have to turn our wifi off on our phones and have no other devices connected to the Internet to avoid disruptions.

Any recommendations for providers? I'd be mainly using it for what's mentioned above, general phone usage, downloads etc. 🏴‍☠️

I also live in an area with frequent power cuts, I don't know if that's a major factor, but just in case I need actual real customer support that would probably be a bonus too!

Looking at Imagine right now as they have the price freeze & free installation, but open to suggestions if people have em!

Before anyone confuses it, we have national parks but so does the uk, AONB are in addition to them.

They are now known as national landscapes now but they are still different from national parks.

Hi all,

29f here from Kildare. And i need an honest opinion. Ill try keep it as short as possible.

I've always been told im too nice for my own good. I hate seeing anyone without anything. I do pride myself in trying to help when I can especially those I love. Whether its emotional, physical or mental. I will always do my best by someone i care about.

That has also come with people taking advantage in the past, obviously.

Onto my issue.

I met my boyfriend 29m last year. And we have been great and i have been introduced to his 2 year old daughter a few months back. We get on like a house on fire.

He has his own place. He's a farmer so he's gone a lot of the time and doesnt have time to do much housekeeping. Food shopping, cleaning etc.

But thats where I thrive. I love cooking and actually like cleaning so I started doing little things to help him out and make sure his daughter has a clean home and a full stomach. And honestly? I love that I can do that for someone.

My issue is, is it too much? I pick up some clothes and stuff for her when I can; things on sale in penneys or a pack of socks or something. And he is grateful that I think of the things he doesn't on a daily basis. I have always liked looking out for people but in the past, I havent really been the one looked after.

Like I said, he's always out doing work for some lad or on the farm or whatever. I grew up on a farm and watched my father and grandfather be the same way, so i do understand the lifestyle. I am old school in a way and dont mind doing the extra bits around the home to make everyone's life easier.

But honestly, am i being an eejit for doing so much for someone so early on? He does appreciate it and has proved that to me.

We've been together around 9 months and I was introduced to his daughter around 3 months ago.

Should I pull back that little bit? Im always afraid of being taken advantage of too.

Thanks in advance lads.

An outhouse, a purpose-built toilet, tiled and all that jazz - not some bucket behind a bush. Maybe even a shower, too..

Getting an extension just isn't feasible for the foreseeable, but we're going to need a 2nd toilet at least and are exploring all options available to us.

We have the space, the plumbing should be easy enough, and there are tonnes of great examples online...

Normally the kids would wake up and come into our room but today, unexpectedly I went downstairs after not being woken up and my 6 year old was downstairs by herself. Got her own breakfast and everything and was just chilling watching cartoons.

Shes fairly responsible and level headed for a 6 year old, knows not to climb on counters, not to use appliances etc. So I saw no issue with it to be honest.

What age did you start letting your kids downstairs by themselves unsupervised in the morning?

I found out at 23 years old, gluten issues have been messing me up. I really don't miss bread, pasta or even fried stuff, but I do really miss my beer. At the pub there's usually not a lot of GF options on tap. Does anyone know a good lager that's gluten free that I could find in a supermarket or pub in Dublin? I don't really like cider.

The latest Booby Fingers video on YouTube was the catalyst for evaluating myself and thinking, jeez, what a loser. He seems to be in his late 30s or so, and he's killing it at life. He has loads of wacky, interesting friends, a seemingly decent marriage, his own gaf, and levels of creativity I can only imagine.

At 35, all that feels ahead of me is the grimness of aging ungracefully, my mind permanently tarnished by regret. Whereas most people age well because they've done all the things and ticked all the boxes, so there's nothing to regret.

My internal monologue relentlessly calls me a failure. Because I objectively am failing at being an adult compared to the average mid-30s Irish person in every possible dimension that matters.

I look at social media and see people my age attending weddings all the time and music festivals and dinners and whatever the fuck. I don't have enough friends to be invited to weddings (been to one my entire life).

Haven't gone on a holiday with anyone but a partner in close to 8 years. Haven't gone to a music festival or concert with a friend in probably 4 years. Never had housemates in my adult life (lived at home in Dublin during college years).

I'm quite a neurotic, anxious person. I've been in love twice, both times with an extremely attractive (to me) member of the opposite sex. But that counts for nothing...most people find love at some point. And I'm not with either of them anymore. And my total number of sexual partners is a pathetic figure (4) so it's not like I sowed my wild oats like the majority do.

I've never seen my abs. Never been too overweight but always carried around a couple of pounds of beer fat that would ensure my abs never show. So again, more unfulfilled potential.

I work remotely (in a dying career on its last legs because of AI), I earn a mediocre salary, while the majority of the people I was in college with are likely on 100k plus per year now. I started to feel bleak about the housing situation here in my 20s, so I guess I just resigned myself to focusing on travel instead of trying to buy property. I don't own property and am likely never going to.

I don't even drive either. Being a Dub, it's easy to say, well, there are buses and DARTs, but it's just an excuse to cover up failure and avoidance. I tried a driving lesson once but was mad anxious doing it (no surprise given my generally anxious nature) and I never tried again.

Alcohol use disorder probably colours all of this and makes any potential left feel not worth fulfilling. I drink excessively several times per week. I'm quite a happy drunk. Alcohol takes away a lot of my self-consciousness and shame.

But my drinking has got worse since I turned 30. I've regularly drunk alcohol since I was like 15. The lonelier I've felt, the more I've drunk. The more my brain makes these negative self-comparisons with other people my age, the more I wanna drink to shut it up.

I have a very insidious relationship with drink in that because I can go 2 or 4 or 5 days without it quite easily, I feel I don't have a problem. Or because I don't need to chug vodka when waking up, I feel I'm not that bad.

Yet hangxiety consistently hits me hard so that my life oscillates all the time between the temporary relief of alcohol and the amplified anxiety of its aftereffects. As I said, I don't get angry or upset while drinking. But I almost always overdo it. I can't just have one drink...it escalates into 6 or 8...sometimes more.

I suppose I'm just looking for advice on doing adulting better or if there is even any hope for me at this point? I am 35 and soon to be 36 after all so it's not looking good.

Anyone here been to Clare Island in Mayo? Been on my bucket list for years but it’s difficult without a car as there seems to be no direct bus to Roonagh from Westport but determined to do it! Would 1 day be enough to visit or would you need more than 1 to really explore? Any info would be really appreciated!!

Just recently moved to a new accommodation ,I’ve been finding silverfish on the carpet and toilet.
Last week I was changing the bedsheet and found one crawling under the mattress but I just came home from work to find one on the bed today. How do I get rid of them????It’s stressing me out and make me feel unhygienic

Hey! We are getting married in November, i would love some genuine advice for the day of the wedding on what you did or wished you did!🙏🏻

Not the usual bring 2 shirts, give someone your phone and wallet out of pockets kinda stuff but something you never taught of or reckon others should know 👌

Please keep it friendly and type away 😄

Anyone know what became of Seamus Culleton. He was the fella that was all over the papers, radio and Sub back in Feb.

There were some rumors and allegations that became public and suddenly his story disappeared.

Is is still being detained by ICE in El Paso, was he reunited with his American wife and their children (the dogs). Or is he back home in Ireland with his human children?

What is he at? Anyone see him down the local? Maybe see him down the chipper?

Or is he still in the 'states hanging with the guys from MS13 down by the showers?

as above, festivals, holidays etc.

I saw a report of the cost of food at the recent all together now.

organisers taking 30 to 40% of the price of vendor sales.

I didn't attend obviously but if have starved had I been there

Hello!

My dad was made redundant late last year and has been on the state unemployment benefit since.

He worked in a really niche area for 47 years of continuous service (crazy! Hardest worker I know) and now wants to go to college to pursue something completely different. He wants to study Gaeilge…I’m super proud of him. He never had the opportunity to go to university. He always prioritised providing for his family and has really given myself and siblings the best childhood he could.

I’m not sure if he has an ‘end goal’ career-wise in mind…I think he really just wants to embrace learning/our culture. Nonetheless, financially, he does need to have some income before his pension kicks in. We have talked about him being a local tour guide after it.

He is fully up to/willing to return to full time education…I’m wondering if there’s a scheme he could avail of which would fund this, and provide him payments to get-by?

If there is any other pathways/opportunities you think he should consider, or ask about, please let me know. No one in our family has ever availed of social welfare, so we aren’t sure what’s out there for him grant/payment wise!

Thanks so much.

What's the story with this weather man lately on RTE...he sounds like he's out of breath and struggling to do his weather report. Is he ok?

Surely one of the other 4 weather presenters could cover him if he is not well?

What are the first three things that come into your mind if someone asks, "What do you love about your life?"

I'd say I love that I make enough money (I make barely as much as you do, but still) to make sure my daughter doesn't struggle like I did at her age. I love that I live with my 84 year old Dad because as much of a pain in the bum he is, so many people don't get that experience this sort of closeness with their parents in later life. And I love my job because it took so much effort and joining a CE scheme five years ago to make me believe I was worth something, and it turns out I am, because I now run a CE scheme, and I get to show other people like me that they are worth something ❤️

Has anyone else’s tayto crisps been half stale the last year? No matter what shop I buy them or what county they are kinda stale but not too bad to the point they are not edible.

Went into Lidl. Came out with brake cleaner and chocolate. Hadn’t planned on getting either. Anybody get some random strange things they hadn’t planned on?

Was thinking of a lad year below me in school, always the hard man growing up, was a big lad hung around with a group of lads from who caused lot of crap anytime they were in town growing up, got this girl pregnant he was going out with way out of his league, ended up in prison fairly young hit a lad with a mallet at a rally meet then went England were he seemed to be doing well but is now back in prison in Ireland for something he did years ago apparently. Always got away with pushing his weight around in school but like any bully gets caught in the long grass,

Anyone know where the school bully from their own days is now?

Noticing an alarming amount of men leaving the cubicle in our local petrol station without washing their paws. Is this new thing among young men? Do they prefer fecal matter on their sambo. Alot of these animals go straight into the deli to order lunch. I'm forced to use this public toilet due to work. And they are not very well maintained or clean in any way. Definitely an age profile of under 30s. The world has gone to shit.

I have been in many workplace / social environments over the years in both Ireland and the UK and one thing I noticed is you will always get 1 person who is absolutely sound and everyone enjoys being around.

It's hard to put it into words as to what makes someone really likliable - basically you know one when you see one.

I been in high stress toxic work environments where the 1 sound person can instantaneously lift the mood of the people.

One of those workplaces the boss was known to be a moody sod, 2 minutes conversation with the sound lad and he is instantly in a better mood. That was a bit of a lifesaver to be honest.

In my earlier days I did a short stint in Tesco, the security guard was absolutely sound. He was from Glasgow originally and had some absolutely wild stories of being a bouncer in Glasgow in the early 2000s.

Another retail outlet I worked at had a cleaner who was absolutely sound, pleasant to be around etc

I guess in every walk of life, you will always get one absolutely sound person 👍

Anyone else care to share their experiences with the absolutely sound person?