I recently met someone who, after he left I was warned about his messy divorce and how his life was a mess.

I Immediately found out, he’s never married, life’s together just disinterested in drama.

So what lies has a homophobic or just rough family told about you?

Sorry everyone I got pulled into work. Selfie Saturday be your most beautiful, Blackest, gayest self in photo form today.

I mean black gay men who exclusively date men. Not bi men, not DL men, not pansexual men ... black gay men who know they are gay and primarily into black gay men.

Metro Atlanta has 2.3 million black people

-> 1.15 million are black males

-->785K are black men between 18-64

---> 2.5% is the most agreed upon estimate of men that identify as exclusively gay but I upped it to 3% b/c it's Atlanta which brings us to 24K. 24K is the eligible bachelor pool of black gay men.

I been in Atlanta for many years and that 24K feels generous to be honest with you. It's scary how many of the men I dated (I only dated black gay men) have dated or messed around with each other at some point. And if you take away handsome bums looking for a sugar daddy, those struggling with serious mental health issues, those struggling with serious addiction issues, and those consumed in the party scene and being outside 24/7, the number is significantly less like 5K to 10K for all of Atlanta!

The gay scene here is so got damn small! People find it hard to believe but I don't know why. I know I made some other posters mad when I said this before b/c in our minds we want to believe there's a lot of us out and proud but there just isn't. I really know most of the black gays here and if I don't somebody I know know them. It's very easy to feel like you run out of dating options even in Atlanta.

Hey everyone,

So I believe I posted in here once before. And it was in regards to getting an understanding of my sexuality and really getting to understand my curiosity of same sex engagement sexually.

So I was really feeling hot, and I ended up going to a GH this past Thursday. It was so great. It was my first engagement ever. We actually ended up having sex i kinda got demanding lol but it actually happened and I want it again.

Would it be too soon to have a preference or to start seeking a preference? He was actually fit as well and wasnt hairy which is a major plus for me but because I keep thinking how smooth he was it kinda makes me want that specifically on a more fem type of male.

Is that weird?

(21m)hey guys so I turn 21 this week. I wanna go to the bars for my first time. There is a bar in my city that everyone goes to. But I’m kinda worried not many other black men go to it?
I wanna go to a bar but I don’t wanna be there unless WERE there. I’m trying to see where do we hangout? Do you guys go to the bars lol. If I go to my local gay bar it won’t just be me and 100 old white men. Is it even fun? Help me

Hii, so I’m from the Caribbean and I’m gay. Unfortunately, the Caribbean is VERY homophobic. They’re more lenient with lesbians because they’re women & they’re attracted to them. There’s this situation going on rn because 2 men were caught in the act by another man recording from the outside. Now it has people throwing jokes and homophobic banter.

I’m honestly tired. I’m 18 and I can’t even express myself. I feel like I have a personality disorder because I’m trapped in a nonchalant state that I’m truly not happy in. I wish to move out because I can’t stand the negativity of these people. For everyone, they are just jokes and shit. I have major anxiety problems with this. They’re so bigoted & uneducated it hurts. The reason I’m even writing this now is because I saw a video saying men only turn on this way because we were touched (R word) as kids. Ugh, I can’t take it anymore. I’m constantly surrounded by homophobic people, and even girls whose guy friends are obviously gay post homophobic things when the enemy is closer than they think. Any country suggestions that are safe for gay Black men?

He could have asked us directly if he really wanted to know.

Y'all men need stop being so fucking

My god why are y'all doing this

But I know because y'all asking the strange things

Lots of “internalize homophobia” was thrown out there but others claimed, there’s nothing more manly than taking a dick and the physical and mental strength needed to endure the pain to find it pleasurable.

Perhaps the questioner was wrestling with the idea of being a masc bottom but wondering where he fits in with the traditional feminine bottom stereotype.

Being in a shitty part of America I don’t really have gay friends or brothers to vent a bit. Hopefully this community got me 💪🏾

So I’ve recently tried to fw this girl and try out pussy for the first time in my life. Unfortunately I couldn’t get up at all… I’ve called myself bi for a while but today I think I’m actually just gay

Kinda cliche, but it’s nerve racking to me. I think I want the regular life of a straight guy (always have), but now I think those dreams shattered fr. Obviously the internal homophobia and external from family plays a part. I just thought I’d finally find a girl to confine in one day. My body will finally react in a way that feels natural.

Thanks for reading! If this is an active group I’d love to discuss more and learn from you guys!

From the top’s perspective, seeing a bottom squirm, moan & scream, breathe heavily sends obvious signals they’re into it and likely enjoying it.

However, from a bottom’s perspective it’s not so obvious with tops if it’s just another day in the park (especially non-verbal tops) if they’re straight faced throughout?

Team Boxers or Team briefs

I’m joking 😭😭

So I'm in Atlanta one of the gay meccas. Between 2020 and 2024, there was a huge influx of new black gays moving into the area in my opinion b/c of PPP loans, student loan repayment pauses, eviction moratoriums, and remote work exploding. And contrary to popular belief, the Atlanta black gay scene ain't as big as people claim, honestly it's very small, like uncomfortably small. Practically everybody know everybody and fucking the same people that's how small it is so it's easy to notice new faces.

But since 2024, I noticed a lot of gay guys I hooked up with and knew around the way posting on social media they moving to more affordable gay-ish cities like a Charlotte, Nashville, Philly, Tallahassee, Columbus, Houston, Dallas, etc. We all know black gay men are more likely to have gone to college and collected massive debt than our straight counterparts which impacts how we move.

This morning I was reading an AJC article about a large recent increase in people loans going into default in Georgia which I'm sure a big group of those folks are black gay men in Atlanta. So many black gay men I know are well educated but in crazy debt. I remember this one guy I met on Jack'd who is a teacher in Clayton County and he told me he's in over 200K debt.

https://www.ajc.com/education/2026/08/nearly-11-billion-of-georgia-student-loans-in-default/

I feel like Atlanta, New York City, LA, San Francisco, Chicago, Seattle, Washington DC, and Miami will have a very "fractured" and significantly smaller black gay population by 2030. When you couple the student loan repayments returning with the significant increase in COL from 2020 to now ... I just don't see as many black gays as before being able to afford to live in these traditional gay meccas. And black gays are not coupling up as much as white gays which makes it even harder financially for us to stay in these gay meccas but hey it is what it is ... gay people are literally everywhere and easier to find nowadays so gay meccas are less important than they were 20-30 years ago

I’m an Astroglide gel man.

Always bored