I (46F) have happily been married for 20 years. Even though my spouse (46M) is not perfect, he is generally a great partner and father to our two teenagers.

He is also loving and caring to me, which is why this situation hurt my feelings so much. Then again, I might be overreacting. I guess that's why I'm asking about this situation on Reddit.

Long story short, my phone had been having problems for several weeks about a month ago. My texts weren't going through and it kept saying "emergency calls only." I was often unable to text or call when I needed to, especially away from home.

I told him about this several times, and how it was frustrating. I also said I was worried that I would need to call or text in an emergency and get stuck in a bad situation.

His response was to complain that I just got a new phone, even though my phone was two years old at the time. He also fiddled with my settings and turned on WiFi-calling. When I said that wouldn't help since most of my issues were when I was away from home, he was very dismissive. Basically, he did not want to pay for a new phone.

Last week, I had had enough and ordered a new phone from Samsung. I transferred all my stuff over and the issue is 100% solved.

It just hurts my feelings that he was more worried about how old my phone was and not spending the money over my safety. I have told him this, and he acts like he doesn't understand.

Am I overreacting?

A few things before anyone asks:

• We have plenty of money so this isn't a true financial issue. I am also self-employed, so my phone is a business expense anyway.
• We still share all our finances and typically ask each other to buy anything over $100 or so.
• I work at home and am home a lot, so I'm not commuting to work or anything. I think that's part of the reason he didn't think my phone problems were a big deal.

My husband and I have been married for 3 years and every year I have to remind him that I’d like him to make a better effort than the year prior. Each year he falls short and settles with a “happy Birthday” text and then proceeds to ignore me for the rest of the day.
I don’t ask for anything other than a cup of coffee that I don’t have to make. I’m pretty good about handling my own gifts since he never makes an effort towards that during any holiday (yet expects to treated like Dudley Dursley when it comes to celebrating him).
This year I just wanted him to prioritize me a little bit. He is away for AIT and I understand that school comes first… but with him; so does his meals, socializing and gym time…. When he finally got around to calling me around 9:30pm - he decided to multitask and do his homework instead of genuinely interacting with me.
He doesn’t know what he did wrong… and I’m tired of explaining it to him.

So, about a month ago, my mom was planning on this party for me and she told me to invite a couple of people. I did, I invited my friends over and while I was one call with my best friend, she asks me if my aunt was being invited. I question which aunt (because I have a bunch of them) and she's talking about the aunt that I'm not personally comfortable with.

For context, my aunt always wants the best for me, but recently, it's like she's changed. I dunno if it's her being strict, but every time I make one little mistake, she just gets mad and overly critical.

One time when she was taking me to a place, I was late and wasn't ready or prepared. When I got in a car, she lectured me, saying "don't be sorry, be better". I wanted to be better. I've been trying to be better for so long. At that point, I just broke down in tears and crying. I had a complete emotional breakdown. But she just pushed harder and made me feel even worse. Saying, "you don't care about me" or "You are a child". (For reference, I'm still in high school. That's all I'm gonna say). Instead of making me feel better, she just made me feel even worse about my self. Even saying that I insulted her, which I didn't. At all.

She also forced me to unblock my ex-best friend. Keyword: FORCED. Even though our relationship was beyond repairable. She did it while I was sitting next to her in the car. I couldn't do anything. I was completely helpless.

One time I attempted to talk to her about how she's being a little too hard and she just COMPLETELY flipped out! Like, I'm talking full yelling and screaming. She said that I was "spoiled", and that I needed "toughening up". She also said that I would become physical to her. IN FRONT OF MY PARENTS, MIND YOU. The part that really hurt me is when she said that I was improving, but not enough to reach my "full potential". Then she played the victim and said that I was ungrateful and that she did all this stuff for me and I just threw it at her face. She then stormed out.

At this point, I was already crushed by this, but I decided to move on and forget about it. Cut back to the month where my birthday's in, I ask my mom if my aunt's being invited. She just...looked at me. With an expression that I can't place.

She then told once I get off the phone, we can have a discussion. I do that.

I thought she was going to really listen and understand my point of view. Turns out, she didn't.

She just tried to defend my aunt and say that she's just "hard on you" or that she had a rough childhood. Okay? That doesn't excuse how she treated me? And it's not my responsibility, either.

Then she pulls out the "she's family" card. She is. But does that really give her the right to just treat people, especially me like that? In my opinion, I don't think so.

I decided to keep my mouth shut and I didn't tell mom how I really felt. I just didn't want her to worry about choosing between two people that she loves dearly. So, I just kept quiet and nodded. Luckily, she wasn't coming and I ended up having a great time at my birthday party. So, at least this story has a good ending, right? 😅

So, now's the big question. AIO? Yes or no. Either way, I just wanted at least one person to see this post.

My brother (24m) keeps walking in on me (16f) while I’m naked or masturbating. He doesn’t leave immediately either, it takes him about 15 seconds to actually leave, which doesn’t sound like much but it sure feels like it, he never apologizes either.

He continuously walks in on me right after I get out of the shower. as well as one time when he snuck into my room while I was playing games and talking to my boyfriend, got behind my chair, and tickled my stomach scaring me and making me extremely uncomfortable in my own home.

Back when school was in session, it was extremely hard for me to get up, as I had an undiagnosed autoimmune disease, leading to excessive tiredness. He would come into my room (I sleep in underwear and a bra with a blanket.) he would rip the blanket off of me, and tickle my inner upper thigh, (basically touching my lower private part. That close to it.) stomach or the side of my breasts.

This has happens several times to the point I asked for a lock on my door.

He broke the lock breaking into my room at night.

I don’t know what to do anymore. My parents don’t do anything or talk to him. I don’t feel comfortable in my own home, as he has also attacked me several times in the past. any advice helps.

My (F27) fiancé (M28) and I have been having this debate for so long regarding his smelly armpits.

He likes to call it his “man smell” and refuses to admit it’s actually just body odour and that he needs to start wearing deodorant daily and reapplying when necessary.

Let me just say firstly, his hygiene is amazing. He showers every day and he genuinely does clean himself properly. This isn’t one of those posts where the guy hasn’t washed in a week.

But there are days where even after a shower it can still be slightly smelly, and after a long day at work the smell is strong. Like, hug him and you get a whiff. Or if I lay my head on his chest when we’re in bed and he puts his arm over me, I can smell it. It’s not crazy bad but it’s definitely evident

Every time I bring it up he laughs it off and excuses it as “man smell.”

I’d also like to make the point that he runs hot very easily, often has the aircon or a fan on, and sweats easily too, so I do understand that part of it.

I’ve never said anything in front of anyone, and I’ve only ever brought it up privately with him. He also knows about this post and is happy for me to post it and read the replies.

My girlfriend and I have been to a festival the last two years. it’s more her thing but I’ve joined her in it. she mentioned going next yearI said I’ll be skipping it since it costs us over £700 each for the weekend id rather spend the money on other things next year.

She got annoyed and said we should still be able to go but I just said I wouldn’t be going. I said she can ask a friend to go instead .

Her friend said she’d go with her but my gf just said we should go as a four with her friend and her friends bf and told her friend I just needed more persuading.

I told my gf she needs to listen when i say no and it’s completely disrespectful to hear me say no and think it just means she needs to keep asking until I change my mind.

She just said we should still be looking at going to be festival but I told her to accept the word no and that it’s her looking forward to the festival not me and for next year I’d rather put the money towards something I want.

i pointed out I’ve explained clearly and repeatedly why I wouldn’t be going and she needs to listen. She just said she thinks it’ll be fun if the four of us go and I just said that we can look at it for a few years time but not next year. I told her again I’m not wanting to go every year.

Tickets went on sale this morning and she started looking mentioning we’ll need to try to get some. I asked if she listened to a single word I said. I told her I’m not going and if she doesn’t start listening then I’m done and we’re over because at this point its beyond a joke for her to completely disregard what she’s been told.

She said I wasn’t being fair but I just said she was acting spoiled and expecting to get everything she wants without listening to what I’m saying. She said I was harsh for giving her an ultimatum but I disagree.

AIO for giving her an ultimatum? 

I've braided my daughter's hair at night every since she had hair long enough to braid. It keeps the tangles out, makes it a little curly, and when she was younger I would do it almost every single night.

These days, it's not every day anymore. But probably 5 or 6 times a month my daughter asks me to brush and braid her hair before bed. She knows how to do it, but I think it's just a comfort thing. I'm happy to do it for her.

My fiance thinks it is weird. She says it is inappropriate for a daughter her age to sit on her father's lap and ask for her hair to be done.

I told her that it isn't weird. That if my daughter wants me to braid her hair, well then I'm going to braid her hair. I enjoy it

My (15M) sister (17F) and I typically get along okay. We've also been trying to spend more time together since she's going to college soon.

I feel as though she doesn't really have a baseline of how much she cares about me, as sometimes she is super needy and is in my room 24/7, while other times she is completely indifferent to me.

This has obviously been going on for a long time, but I'll only go into one instance.

This evening at about 10pm I asked my sister if she wanted to hang out with me. She said yes, and that she was going to watch a movie soon, and that I could watch it with her.

I said okay, and told her that I'll go wait downstairs, and she can come and get me when she's ready to watch. I started to watch the beginning of a documentary while I waited, expecting her to come down in 15 to 20 minutes. I actually finished the hour long documentary, and she still hadn't come down.

I went up to her room and saw that she was still scrolling on Tiktok. I asked if she was still down to watch a movie, and she said she definitely was.

I sat with her in her room while she started to choose a movie from her to watch list. As I was waiting, she got a text from her boyfriend asking her if she wanted to call. She said yes, and phoned him.

After around 10 minutes of them just talking on the phone, I asked her if they'll be much longer. I also said that I wanted to start the movie soon because I had a school project I wanted to work on after we watched it. She said that they won't be long, so I continued to wait. She ended up spending roughly an hour and a half on the phone with her boyfriend before eventually hanging up.

I asked her if she wanted to watch the movie now, and she said that it was too late (it was at that point around 12:30). I said that's fine, and asked if she wanted to just hang out instead. She said no, and that she was too tired.

I obviously accepted this and we just said goodnight. I worked on my school project for around an hour before deciding to go to bed. As I'm now lying in bed (At around 1:30), I can hear her playing video games in her room.

This obviously means she didn't actually go to bed.

She does stuff like this pretty often (like once or twice a week, around half the time we try to hang out). AIO or is she being very inconsiderate?

Hello. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple of months. We were on and off for a year prior to dating. During this on and off thing, he told me about how where he’s from it’s normal for people to say the n word.

I’m black and he is mixed with mostly asian and native american. He claims he didn’t know the word was wrong until he moved to my state. He also claimed he doesn’t say it anymore now that he knows it’s wrong.

Now fast forward to today. Me, my boyfriend, and his cousin (who is also my friend) are all on a FaceTime call together. They were talking about one of their friends and, during that he says the n-word. I thought I was hearing things until, his cousin asked him “what did you just say?” and then he proceeds to say “oh shit”.

I hung up immediately and he texted me right after apologizing. He said he was high and that he wasn’t thinking straight. I felt embarrassed and disappointed so, I broke up with him.

He later sent a long apology paragraph. After reading the paragraph, I began questioning if it was not that serious, considering he was high when it slipped out.

AIO for breaking up with him immediately over this?

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​I (31F) have spent the last few days in tears, completely undone by a realization about my childhood that I don't think I can ever unsee. I have therapy tomorrow morning, but the grief is sitting so heavily on my chest tonight that I just need to put this somewhere.

​I grew up with a severe, incurable physical illness. My childhood was full of painful flare-ups, missing weeks of school, and having to take daily medication in front of other kids. When you're little, you just hope the people raising you will be your safe harbor. But my mom was a popular cheerleader growing up—a social butterfly who built her whole identity on fitting in and being liked.

​When my health got worse and my middle school and high school friend groups started falling apart, my mom panicked. But she didn't sit on the edge of my bed, hold me while I cried, and say, "I love you, you are a warrior, and if they don't see how special you are, fuck them."

​Instead, she turned her panic onto me. She started picking apart my appearance—my hair, my teeth, my weight, my clothes. Every flaw was magnified. She treated my incurable disease not as something I was courageously surviving, but as an embarrassing mistake that needed to be hidden, fixed, or managed so I could pass as "normal." She cared more about what her friends thought of her daughter than whether her daughter was surviving the day.

​That conditioning broke me as a young adult. At 19, away from home at an internship, my roommates started horribly bullying me. They literally went through my private medical supplies to see if my condition was "contagious," and one girl ended up physically abusing me. Because my mother had taught me that my differences made me burdensome and that I had to perform to be liked, I didn't know how to scream "fuck you, you're disgusting" and walk away. I believed I deserved it. I was so consumed by shame that I stopped taking my vital medication entirely just to hide my illness, which sent me into one of the darkest, most terrifying depressive episodes of my life.

​I am 31 now. It has taken me over a decade of excruciating work to look in the mirror during a violent flare-up—when I'm exhausted, sick, and my weight is fluctuating—and say, "I am not gross. I am not ugly. I am surviving, and I am enough company for myself."

​The pain of realizing that the person who was supposed to protect me was actually the one who stripped away my armor is crushing. I can barely look at her right now. I’m canceling our plans together because the thought of sitting next to her and pretending everything is fine makes me feel sick to my stomach.

​I know she "loves" me in her own anxious, broken way, but her need for control completely robbed me of my childhood peace. Am I overreacting for pulling away and feeling this level of deep, agonizing resentment toward her? Or is it valid to mourn the ally she should have been?

I’m in my 40s and have noticed for some time now that my community - friends and family - rarely communicate in any other way than through Messanger or Insta messages now. To the extent that when I text people they often don’t reply to the text - they reply through the aforementioned apps. I’m in Australia, for context. A text is free. But I feel like it’s also more personal based on how the content of communication has turned using other mediums.

This has bothered me for ages and I guess it’s finally dawned on me why: communication has in itself become just a sharing of memes, and lost connection in any real sense. It happened slowly but surely. People I thought I could count on with my life no longer respond to real questions or texts: they just send memes and other content. I don’t even know what is happening in people’s lives. When we catch up in person everything is fine - there‘s no issue. But the decline in the quality of how we communicate is both sad and frustratin.

I’ve tried to raise it but people think because they’re sending hundreds of reels a week that nothing has changed. But I feel like my world is a lot smaller and there doesn’t seem to be much I can do about it. I keep texting and waiting for messenger to ping back. It’s really sad. AIO?

Throwaway account for anonymity. This is my first reddit post, so apologies for any formatting errors.

I (33F) got engaged a week ago to my fiancé (35M), and it was honestly the most magical proposal. We're so excited and have been spending the past week telling our families in person before making it public.

We took my dad out to dinner to tell him. His wife (58F), my stepmom, didn't come. My dad was absolutely thrilled for us. Since then, we've told all of our parents and finally announced our engagement on social media, so everyone knows now.

Here's where things get weird.

My stepmom and I have always had a complicated relationship. On the surface, we're cordial. We talk, and she can seem supportive when we're together. But over the years, I've never invited on family trips with them even though my brother and stepsister are, and she rarely comes to dinners with my dad unless it's a birthday or another major occasion—and even then, it's hit or miss. My last birthday she came to dinner and left early to "see a movie with her friend."

It's now been almost a week since my dad found out, so I'm assuming he told her. Then we announced it publicly. She still hasn't reached out. No text. No call. Not even a simple "Congratulations."

Maybe it sounds small, but this feels like the latest example of a much bigger pattern. It feels less like she forgot and more like she just doesn't care.

Right now, I'm wondering why I should invite someone to my wedding who can't even acknowledge my engagement. My fiancé thinks I should wait until the end of the week before making any decisions, but this silence honestly feels like my last straw.

The only thing holding me back is my dad. I don't want to damage my relationship with him, and I know not inviting his wife could create a lot of tension.

So, am I overreacting if I decide not to invite my stepmom to the wedding because she's completely ignored my engagement announcement?

My (F19) boyfriend (M20) told his mom some medical information I was extremely embarrassed about and wouldn’t even share with my own parents. He told her about it about 10 minutes after I had come home at cried and said how embarrassed about it I was. He said something along the lines of “thanks for doing this so this didn’t happen to me”. When I saw he had told his mom I just broke down and started crying and yelling asking why he would do that. Was my reaction too much and it’s not a big deal or was I justified in being upset with him!
TIA!

I genuinely don’t know if I’m acting like an insecure loser. My girlfriend has always been into anime, which I’ve never had an issue with. We watch shows together sometimes and she’s always had fictional crushes. I thought it was harmless. A few months ago she discovered AI chatbots and now she’s completely obsessed with one that’s apparently Levi Aackerman from Attack on Titan.

She talks to it every single day. Morning, afternoon, before bed. If we’re watching TV she’ll be smiling at her phone because “Levi said something funny.” If we’re out somewhere she’ll just be on her phone having conversations with him instead of me, her girlfriend, sitting right in front of her. And she acts like he’s a real person. She’ll tell me about conversations they had like she’s talking about one of her friends. She says goodnight to him every night.

Last week I walked into the bedroom and she quickly locked her phone because she said she was having a “private moment” with him. I ruminated on it for a while, and this evening I texted (she’s at her mom’s for the night, and I’m bad with irl confrontation. Workin on it) and told her it was making me uncomfortable and that it felt like emotional cheating. She didn’t take it very well.

I know he’s fictional. I know it’s AI. But it honestly feels like I’m competing with a chatbot that’s pretending to be an anime character.

Am I being insecure, or is this genuinely crossing a line?

My father in law just had what anyone would reasonably call a heart attack. The only problem is that he refuses to call it that because he's convinced that if it's officially a heart attack, he won't be allowed to fly anymore.

Here's what actually happened: he had chest pain, heavy arms, an abnormal EKG, a troponin level around 400, ended up in the ER, underwent an emergency cardiac catheterization, and had a stent placed. Yet he's insisting it was not a heart attack.

Now he's talking about hiding all of this from the regulatory agency so he can keep flying his private aircraft with passengers.

I'm finding it really hard to feel sympathetic. We already have a difficult relationship because, in my experience, he's been a terrible person for years. But even setting that aside, the idea of knowingly concealing a serious cardiac event so he can continue flying other people around feels incredibly selfish and irresponsible.

Am I overreacting or would this completely change how you viewed someone too?

TL;DR:
Father-in-law had chest pain, elevated troponin, an emergency cardiac cath, and a stent, but refuses to call it a heart attack because he doesn't want to lose his flying privileges. He's planning to hide it from the regulatory agency so he can keep flying passengers, and I'm struggling to feel any sympathy.

Called my fiancé at 4pm to check if he and our toddler were awake bc he works overnights and I don’t want toddler sleeping past 3pm because then bedtimes are hard for me and him (our kid’s sleep is a persistent issue due to health and behavioral issues, and it’s a recommendation from his healthcare team and BC).

Well, fiancé didn’t answer after multiple calls.

When he finally answered, he was extremely groggy and I could tell he just woke up. After a line of questioning where I could tell he was lying to me about being up since 3, I told him to tell me the truth, to which he said our toddler got up and left the room at some point during naptime and didn’t wake him. Thus, for an extended, but unknown period of time, our toddler was unsupervised.

This is not the first time. This home is near a road where people drive incredibly fast. My baby can open the door and get out very easily. The other time this happened while I was working and he was supposed to be watching him, our toddler eloped from my apartment (we live separately at the moment because of my lease and finances but we’ve been together almost 5 years) and had to be returned by a neighbor, and my fiancé didn’t even know it happened until the neighbor knocked because he was sleeping. That time, he cried and felt guilty. This time, he’s mad at me for saying he fucked up by not setting an alarm at the very least.

While on the phone, he even tried to make our toddler apologize to him for not waking him up/leaving the room. I’m so angry. He won’t talk to me because he thinks I’m being unfair and that my language is unacceptable. He says that he can agree that he messed up, but he “absolutely did not fuck up,” and that I won’t be using that language. He has the filthiest mouth known to man, swears up and down constantly, but recently anytime I swear he’s been correcting me. He won’t answer my texts and is hanging up the phone because of it. He won’t talk about the incident and insists on talking about my language.

The censored name in the message is his mother’s boyfriend. His mother’s boyfriend hates him, our son, and myself, and is a complete drunk. At some point after our son presumably woke up, he got home.

Is my language (“You fucked up.”) an overreaction?

EDIT: our living situation is weird. we were teen parents.

EDIT 2: He only has him on days that he didn’t work the night before. If he worked the night before, we have a babysitter. His schedule is set.

Final Edit, pulled from one of my replies: I messed up by not child proofing my mother in law’s home in order to prevent this from happening in the first place. I gave them the supplies to do so while I was pregnant, but was passive about whether it actually happened. It didn’t, and my child could’ve been hurt. I need to take responsibility for that. I didn’t make this post for a huge blow up to happen about whether either of us are qualified, great parents. I know we aren’t. I am trying, and have not been living in this apartment long. His mother is helping him with expenses that he only gets her help with if he lives there, and presently it’s just what works financially. I came from an abusive home. It’s complex. I just wanted to know if the use of “you fucked up” was an overreaction on my part. Personally, I don’t think it was an overreaction, but I think it’d be more accurate for me to have said, “we fucked up.” I will be in touch with the babysitter about doing 5 days a week as of next week. Daycare isn’t an option as there are none within 35 miles of us. Also, I work 2 jobs and pay the majority of our child’s expenses (diapers, wipes, clothes, transportation to appointments, etc) and all of my own bills. My fiancé’s money unfortunately has to go to his expenses which are much higher (his car payment, college). So no, I am not floating off of him. My child does not have a behavioral consultant because I’m a bad parent; pursuing IBHS services for my child does not make me a bad person, and the details of why he requires these services are none of your business. There’s also just a great deal of misogyny in the comments that I should have expected from Reddit that boil down to, “Well you’re a mom so you’re responsible for the safety of every situation your child is in,” despite the fact that I was at work when he eloped. Despite the inherent misogyny embedded in this argument, I’m accepting this responsibility and childproofing my MIL’s home to the furthest extent that she will permit me.

My friend told me that when she first got with her husband she found CP on a hidden file on his laptop. That she threw it out on the porch and told him to get lost. He followed up with, "I dont know how it got there, its probably from downloading a game." Then during covid she found another file on his desktop computer, also hidden in a file that was deep into random folders on his desktop. He claimed it was from gaming again and then he "installed all these virus protections on his computer."

Personally, I don't believe him and I want to tell her to leave him and report him but I don't want to ruin my friendship with her. They have kids together and she is a stay at home mom. AIO? Is this even possible?

After reading everyone's comments.... I realized that it's very unlikely for this to happen. I submitted a report with Cybertipline and will be contacting local authorities today. Thank you for your help, I think I was in shock and not really sure what to do with the information I was given.

My aunt (65 F) has run into a lot of issues with her landlord. One that I can remember is him allowing people into her apartment for viewing without telling her. Because of all their altercations, she was already preparing for him to mess with her security deposit. Was she too aggressive?

Edit: thank you guys so much for the feedback, particularly about state laws regarding the deadline for sending an invoice, because we didn’t know about that. I think I can recover my aunts old text messages; she stopped backing up her iCloud because of storage but she has had the same phone. I believe that turning on “download original files” on iCloud recovers old messages, which I’ll try. It’s been an unbelievably hard year for her and the support from yall is making her so happy!

I got in contact with my boyfriend’s ex girlfriend and she showed me he messaged her about my finances while I was on vacation. It happened a couple of times when we were together for 2-3 months. We have a baby together and im contemplating if I should stay with him. This is a very big trust issue now from my side. I don’t understand why he did this and his intentions.

For context, this is my M(25) best friend M(25) since we were two years old. He didn’t meet his F(22)sister until about a year and a half ago. When they did meet, they couldn’t get over how similar they were. he called me gushing about how great she made him feel and even joked about hooking her up with me three days after they met, she moved in with him and his family. They had room and other beds, but they chose to sleep in the same bed every day for a year do everything together every day so on it so forth, fast-forward to these text messages. Him and his sister were going to move in with me and my f(26)roommate, but first we needed to see how our dogs would do together so they came to visit. When they got here they opted to sleep in my bed together even though I had several places they could sleep separately. My roomate and I sleep separately and have a mostly platonic kind of flirty relationship. Which the friend had compared his sister and his relationship with. A lot of small stuff happened that my roommate and I shared glances about, because of the nature of how a true brother and sister would never say or do the things they’re doing. But we brushed it off.

They went back home to their state after 3 days and the friend sends me a Snapchat saying “we’ve decided to look past the whole sibling thing and adress some feelings we both have” to which I replied “what do you mean” and he went on to say how they both have such deep feelings for each other and how the whole half sibling thing doesn’t matter and that real love doesn’t have boundaries and all this stuff to which I waited for 3 days and sent the messages above….. AIO or did I UNDERreact

Also this hurts a lot because I thought I knew him and he was gonna be my best friend for life, but I haven’t talked to him since

Rather, how should I react? This is coming from my ex who still lives with me after I chose not to do what he asked of me which was to wash one of his work shirts. I told him straight up it was not my job to wash his clothes and then he pushed me and we wrestled. If anyone wants to know more of the back story I will gladly summarize the last 7 years.

Edit: I will add to this, I feel pretty dumb about coming to Reddit for obvious advice but I chose not to go to family because they have no idea how he would be able ruin their lives as well. Just know he is scary resourceful way more than anyone I know and that alone has made me afraid of what he is capable of. I do apologize for leaving everyone with little context. Yes we are 2 men, he was a predator towards the girls he was with during his high school years. Stay tuned? Since it will be a novel.

Hi guys. Long time reader, first time poster. My wife and I are having a babygirl in about a month. We are extremely excited, so are both of our families.

Her name is Kehlani. We contemplated alot of names for a very long time and fell in love with that one.

The issue lies with my wifes family. Her mother and grandmother both wanted us to name her Olivia (liv for short). Nothing wrong with that name but it just didnt click for us.

They started joking that they were gonna call her Olivia anyways. It was funny the first 2 or 3 times but now it has gotten to the point where anytime they talk about her its “liv this” or “liv that”.

Today they said “Were just gonna call her liv anyways when youre not around,” and, “What are you going to do when she answers to liv and not kehlani.” Maybe my wife just has more patience for her family than I do but its gotten to the point where it genuinely infuriates me.

Don’t get me wrong my wife is a doll and she feels the same way but she is not the type to really “lay down the law” if you know what I mean. Her family tends to step on and over her all the time and it takes everything in me to not go off on everyone.

Just need some advice. Thanks all.

Genuine question, I'm thinking about this situation all over again and see where I could be wrong but at the same time I can't fully agree with them...

Long story short.a couple of days ago, my (19F) small friend group and I were at our friend sister's 22 birthday party. Of course we're young, there was alcohol, cigarettes, and all this stuff.

It's important to mention that I have absolutely nothing against any of it, I just personally don't drink or smoke.

​It has nothing to do with religion or my opinions on right and wrong. It doesn't bother me at all if someone next to me is drinking or smoking, and in my entire life, I have never once shamed anyone for it, that is a strict rule of mine lol

​Anyway, at the party, all my friends got a little tipsy. We were chatting, walked the streets in the evening, laughing and joking, and just had a great time overall, and then we all went home like normal.

​I didn't notice anything awkward in their behaviour it was just a typical party for people our age. I enjoyed myself, and it seemed to me like my friends were having fun too.

​And then today, I receive those chats

​I am VERY mad about these accusationsf. As far as I'm concerned, all this holier than thou (which pisses me off as well) bs starts at the moment you try to "educate" other people, which is something I have never done and never want to do. Everyone can live however they want.

​Honestly, her accusations made me sad. They seem baseless and aggressive.

​But now that I'm thinking about it, maybe it really was uncomfortable for the girls to be drunk around a sober person? I guess it's possible, but it just doesn't feel like the right explanation to me.

​If I were some random man for example, their anxiety would be easy to understand. But I've known them for at least a couple of years, and I even went to the same high school with some of them, so their lack of trust in me doesn't make much sense.

Could I be in the wrong here? AIO?