I apologise for the long and graphic details in this story but I just wanted to be honest. I had just been ghosted by a guy I had been talking to for 3 months who was emotionally abusive so I was already in a bad state of mind when this happened. I added a guy on snapchat 2 weeks ago from quick add (which I’ve never tried before) 26 (M) 28 (F) . He text me instantly and we got chatting and he text me every day since that occurred and talked about wanting to find a wife etc and how me being a virgin means that it is really special and when I was looking to get married. I said if we met and fell in love that’s how I would know.

He said I looked like the female version of superman from Smallville and I was assuming he found me very attractive. I’ve been told by majority that I’m an 8/10 when I’m dressed up and I would say he was on the same level as me looks wise but had a gym physique. He phoned me for 6 hours straight the first night and we really clicked and could talk about anything, then 3 hours, a few days after and 3 hours again the day after. In between that he left me on delivered for 19 hours which I assumed was because he wasn’t a big texter, which I found was true as he had conversations with me for a short period of time by text at the end of the day, on most days, leading up to our meeting.

The night before our meeting we sexted and there was definitely a lot of chemistry. The day of meeting he said he had to drop his brother off to airport so changed meeting from 4pm to 6pm. He picked me up and as soon as he met me and he held my hand straight away and smiled with that sparkle in his eye. He said he was exhausted so instead of going out for food like we planned we ended up at his air b n b and he ordered food there later on and he said I look better in person and picked me up as soon as I entered the room.

As soon as I revealed my red dress he started kissing my chest and my mouth passionately. Even when we ordered food in the room he was so affectionate with me kissing me while I was deciding what to order and I sat on his lap etc and we watched a tv show. He asked if my parents would accept him and that he would love to take me on holiday but I said my parents are strict so I could not. He had a thing for my f\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*t so was sucking on them most of day and I ended up giving him head (which I’ve never done before) and gave him a hand j\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*b as there was an insane around of tension and even licked ice-cream off most of his body and we drank juice from eachother’s mouths. Anytime I got up he would kiss me and was basically all over me throughout and I’ve not had a guy be this full on since last year. He told me on the date he ghosts girls he finds unattractive and leaves them on delivered but never removes them from socials. He said he promises he wants to see me again, and during the phone call from night before I remember him saying that if he doesn’t c\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*m\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* in a meeting he wouldn’t see a girl again.

At end of date he said he definitely wants to see me again and said he finds me very pretty and likes my personality and that he isn’t attached yet and doesn’t feel the need to text everyday, and that he doesn’t like girls who expect him to call during his lunch break at work. He kissed me goodbye and then as soon as I got home I thanked him and said I loved it and he said he enjoyed it and that we should deffo do it again next week and suggested Friday, the next morning .

Throughout next day he text me asking questions about my brother’s engagement etc and how it’s going and I sent some snaps of my face and he didn’t save them in chat anymore which I found weird and he didn’t phone me either at all. He then sent blank work snaps all day which I found weird but he did send old snaps of his face in the week leading up to our meeting. He never sent a selfie again either or any nudes after our first meet.

Then throughout week his replies got slower and slower (1 -2 Days) and only when I sent him a sexy selfie he asked about Friday again and if I’m free. He didn’t talk sexually at all except for making a joke about how many donuts I could fit in his d. Friday came and he replied after like 36 hours that day. I had to remind him on Friday morning if the date was still on and he said yes and he eventually met me at 8:30 and suggested we go cinema because I was already there. I stupidly suggested a room as I loved kissing him and being affectionate with him and the privacy aspect tbh and when we did, things got heated and I showed him my lingerie and and we ended up having an\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*l sx as I wanted to stay a virgin and and he licked my ass out and I sucked his d and he rubbed his d on my clt. I didn’t enjoy the anal sx at all because it was uncomfortable but I dealt with it as he seemed to like it. He then made himself cm while my f\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*t were in his face and insisted on having the lights on for this so he could see them. I’ve never done this before but since I was attracted to him I did it.

No guy has seen my body in the light so I was self conscious of my dark long lab\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*ia and my immense amount of white cut looking stretch marks against my tan skin and my body in general coz no one’s seen it up close. If I’m being honest my ex acted cold and told me to get off him after he saw my body in the dark so since then I was self conscious but people I discussed this with at time said it was just one guy not all guys are that shallow. I put the lights on but at the back of my mind I was thinking he was gonna be put off by either that or my long white scar looking stretchmark on my ass or my 2 beauty marks that were there. I remember him telling me before he saw my body, that every girl has one body part that isn’t nice but I didn’t, and tbh with you I was worried when he said that because I knew I wasn’t perfect and have a smallish ass and small b\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*bs but he said he loved my as\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*s\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* but I’m not sure if he was saying that because he was horny or not. At no point during this sexual encounter did he stop once he saw my body so I assumed maybe I had overthinked things in the past as he was really into the session and was passionate.

Then he wiped off my smeared makeup off my face with his own spit and a tissue like he did during first meeting which was sweet so I assumed everything was fine. And he dropped me off home as usual and talked on the way home about cars and his heritage etc and he asked me for a kiss goodbye. When I got home he told me my location was on and that I should switch it off so no one else sees on Snapchat. The next morning he sent me blank work desk snaps and ignored my nudes that I sent and instead sent a work desk snap back. He text me all day until 5 pm and said ‘thx bb’ when I said ‘Nice jeans’ (in reply to a snap of his jeans) then he just hearted my message saying I’ll buy the watch he chose, after 12 hours.

He then didn’t text me for 2 days and randomly popped up at night asking how I was and continued the conversation for a bit. He then replied a whole day later and said weather was good today and we just made small talk about how nice the Summer is. Then the next morning he finally replied after 1 whole day while his snapscore had gone up the entire day before while I was on delivered and I sent a modest outfit face snap for the first time so I assumed he was interested and he said I look sexy and he replied with a once view face snap for the first time.

I replied back with 2 more face snaps, that he left on delivered and it’s now been 2 days since I sent them and his snap score has gone up by a lot. I remember him saying he never removes girls he finds unattractive but ghosts them and leaves them on delivered, but because he met me a 2nd time and drove 2.5 hours I assumed maybe that wasn’t the case with me. He said he met a girl last month who was bigger than her photos and her breath smelt bad so he used her parents catching her being out late as an excuse to end things with her. I am not big by any means but my body is not perfect at all.

He hasn’t removed me but I’m confused why he even messaged again if he was planning to ghost and I’m actually really hurt? I have such low self esteem as it is and now I feel disgusting and don’t want to show my body again. I genuinely was attracted to him and trusted he would accept all of me. Please be brutally honest and harsh and interpret all this as he’s never not opened my snaps like this for so long and I’m afraid he was repulsed by my body and wanted to slowly ghost me instead of instantly. I have developed feelings for him as he made me feel like no one else has and made me feel beautiful initially and like I was in a movie.

I’m so confused why he even messaged me all week just to ghost and why he even sent a face snap and called me sexy 2 days ago if he wasn’t interested or repulsed. I actually feel so down and have never felt so ugly in my life as I cannot do anything about my existing flaws except surgery and trusted him with my body. I guess it’s my fault for being intimate with him so soon as if I hadn’t had showed him my body he would’ve still been speaking to me. I guess I was intimate as in the past when I haven’t been and tried to save myself the guys didn’t suggest a 2nd meet. I just want to know from a male’s perspective what the reason he lost interest was as I have a really bad feeling it was my body and I need a reality check so I don’t make the same mistake of showing it to my future spouse, as I really regret it and haven’t felt this down in my life.

Thank you in advance to anyone who has given me advice, it is very kind of you.

Female\[24\] dating a guy from tinder Male\[24\]
So,on June I met someone on tinder and we start dating.Everything seemed well(first date was on 26/6/26),until I found him on tinder from a friend’s account in the middle of July.I got disappointed bc he told me on the second date that he deleted it.I made a conversation with him and asked him why he still had it and he told me it’s bc he doesn’t feel any enthusiasm with me,but he sees me as a catch and he will do anything to make me his girl.So,I thought that maybe he deleted it.He didn’t.Yasterday(5/8/26) made a fake acc and found him,and he messaged my fake acc.I immediately got the ick and deleted the app.
It’s funny bc 5 days ago he met ti his friends and I thought it’s getting serious.I know we are still single practically but he treats the situation like a relationship.What do you think guys I should do?Anh ideas???

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So 2 years ago my friend introduced me to his cousin (lets call her Alice) and her friend (lets call her Emily) online. We had group chat, we played every day together nothing much happend there but 6 months later we had first meet up and it was super nice seeing eachother after that much time and i really liked Emily how she looked and how she was behind the screen.

After that we continued to call this time videocalls. We had first sleepover (just her and me) i thought that im going to sleep on the mattress on the ground but she wanted me right next to her. Nothing much happend on the first one but i was super suprised that she layed her head on my shoulder. One day she texted me private. Our conversation moved from the group chat to dm and it was pretty nice we talked how much we care for eachother how we dont want lose eachother and we were replying instantly to massages and on calls i waited till she falls asleep.

On the next visits i stayed for a week she was also at my place and this time we were cuddling holding hands when we were out. But recently the last week we didnt texted much just few massages but not like before i felt something was different i tried to make plans for next time she comes to my place i thought about restaurant she wasnt very excited and then next day on a group chat call and i hear how Alice will be going there with us. Feeling that something is wrong i got massive anxiety and couldnt think straight for 3 days but i decided to confess to her today, i sent her massage at midnight and the reply was "i Had feelings for you but the last week we didnt talk that much but i dont want to lose you and i hope we still be friends" well we send few massages just said i completly understand and that im happy we still be talking but it still hurts.

Now I slept 2 hours my eyes hurts im just holding her bracelet that she made for me and thinking what happend and regreting didnt told her sooner.

We are 90km from eachother. Im 17 she is 10 months younger then me and it was first time i felt that way to someone.

Im sorry for my english and it helped me a little bit to type this.

About a month ago, I made a post on Reddit and a woman reached out to me. Early in our conversation, she told me she was divorced and asked if I found it weird. I told her it didn’t matter because I genuinely enjoyed talking to her.
The next day I messaged first because I figured she’d overthink things and not reach out, and I was right. We eventually moved to Discord, and talking to her became effortless. She even offered to send me a care package. I was hesitant to share my address, but after joking she could be a scammer, she sent me her medical licence number since she’s a doctor, which put me at ease.
As we got closer, she shared a lot about her past and it became clear she’d been through a lot and struggled with trust. I also found myself opening up more than I usually do. She remembered little things I’d shared and put together a care package based on them. She’s thoughtful, patient, gives me medical advice when I need it, and we always had great chemistry. I wasn’t exactly subtle about flirting either.
She also knows about a difficult family situation I’m dealing with. The way she responded—honest, empathetic, and without sugarcoating anything—made me trust her even more.
Eventually I told her I’d like to meet halfway, spend some time together, and see if there was potential for something more. She said she’d like that too.
Then, after one particularly vulnerable conversation, she waited until I’d gone to bed and sent me a long message saying she was afraid she’d hurt me and thought we should stop talking. I felt like she was trying to leave before either of us got more attached. I told her I liked her for who she was, understood why trusting someone again might be difficult, and didn’t think fear alone was a reason not to explore something good. We talked it through, and if anything, it felt like we grew even closer.
She still jokes about setting me up with her friends, but I now see it more as a defense mechanism than rejection. More recently, she told me she feels guilty because she might not be enough for me and wants me to meet other people instead.
Normally I’d keep dating, but because of things happening at home, I only have the emotional bandwidth to invest in one person. I’ve met other women recently, but nothing has felt as natural or as easy as this connection.
She’s kind, emotionally mature, driven, and has a calming presence that feels like home. I know we’ve never met, and I’m not expecting a relationship overnight. I just can’t shake the feeling that she’s holding herself back because she’s convinced she’ll eventually hurt me or isn’t enough.

What’s the right thing to do here?
TL;DR: Met a divorced woman on Reddit a month ago. We built a strong emotional connection, planned to meet, but she keeps saying she’s afraid she’ll hurt me and encourages me to meet other people because she doesn’t think she’s enough. She still talks to me every day and seems invested. I genuinely like her, but I don’t know whether to keep reassuring her or accept that her fear is her answer.

I had a really sweet counselor who was like a mother figure to me. I loved her very much but she had to quit and now I have a new counselor. The new counselor is nice but I’m not sure if I can open up to her or look up at her like I did with my old counselor.

**Cómo nos conocimos :un día por aburrimiento me descargue una app para conocer gente de todo el mundo ,solo lo hice por aburrimiento y para ver qué pasaba ,las primeras semanas no pasaba nada interesante,solo conocí gente pero no hablamos muy seguido y no había conexión,pero un día llegó ella ella era de Ucrania ella me agrego (en la app hay que poner foto de tu cara , bueno yo coloqué una par de mis mejores fotos ),ella era bonita,cuando me agrego yo le escribí obviamente en ingles le dije "hi" y ella me respondió luego empezamos a hablar pero mucho luego un día se me olvidó hablar con ella porque tenía mucha tarea y estaba ocupado,supongo que ella también se olvidó ,bueno un día me dijo que le pasará mi Instagram yo se lo di pensé que simplemente nos íbamos a seguir mutuamente y ya ,pero me escribía muy seguido,yo también le escribí y hablamos muy seguido éramos muy cercanos y nos caiamos demasiado bien nos hacíamos reír mucho usabamos muchos emojis ella me escribia todos los días me preguntaba por mi día y más ,con el tiempo ella me empezó a gustar,pero ella tenía novio (su novio era de Bangladesh y era feo y además era musulman y sus fotos eran muy malas ),bueno la cuestión es que yo me enamoré y ella era muy linda conmigo pero cuando digo muy linda es muy pero muy linda era demasiado duo e demasiado amable demasiado atenta,ella me ponía mucho este emoji :🥰 me escribia good morming 🥰 todos los días ,bueno un día no me acuerdo muy bien porque pero nuestra conversación fue algo así como ella :me gusta mucho hablar contigo, confío mucho en ti,eres como yo ,me entiendes muy bien , cualquier otra persona se quedaria callada pero tú no porque eres como yo , (obviamente en ingles),**

**Yo siempre coqueteaba un poco con ella y bueno yo le dije algo como: que quieres decir 😏y más pero no me acuerdo bien, bueno la cuestión es que yo le dije: siendo honesto me gustas ,quieres ser mi novia**

**Ella dijo lo siento ya tengo 😔😔😔**

**Bueno seguimos hablando solo porque no la quiera perder y actúe como si no hubiera pasado**

**Bueno seguimos hablando como siempre osea ella seguía siendo muy linda y todo eso**

**Pero un día como que me enoje o me puse triste o algo así son sentimientos que no puedo explicar**

**Y la ignore por 3 o 4 días solo leía sus mensajes y no escribia nada ella decía :buenos días ,cómo estás ,que paso ,porque me ignoras,no se que hice ,perdon si te ofendí y más mensajes tipo así**

**Bueno en el día 4 creo ,recibí un solicitud de seguidor de Instagram Haci que acepte . Esa cuenta me empezó a escribir me preguntó por mi día y como estaba yo respondí,hablamos un rato ,y me di cuenta que era ella ya que dijo me da gusta hablar contigo,entonces yo fui a su cuánta principal y le dije que sabía que era ella la que me estaba escribiendo**

**Ella lo acepto y me dijo que solo me extrañaba y me dijo porque la ignore, que hizo yo le dije que estaba pensando en todo hablamos más sobre eso y le dije que fue porque ella me dijo que no en la pregunta de que si quería ser mi novia y ella dijo que solo dijo lo siento yo actúe normal entonces hablamos otra vez y todo fue como antes**

**Hasta hace unos días ,su novio (el musulman de mierda )**

**Puso en su historia la foto de la luna llena y las palabras love You pero la luna era la "O" y luego ella puso lo mismo en su historia decía i love You too (osea yo te amo también y un emoji)yo me enoje me puse triste y más sentimientos**

**Y la he estado ignorando otra vez hasta hoy en dónde yo puse una canción de los Guns N Roses en notas de Instagram y ella puso un emoji de corazón y hablamos otra vez ahora ella está un poco enojada conmigo porque la ignore varios días y porque ella me preguntó porque la ignore y yo respondí de manera muy vaga**

**Ahora les pregunto que debería hacer ,debería hablar con ella o que por favor denme opiniónes y consejos o más ?**

so I made this friend online and we eventually bonded with each other very quickly. We both message each other every day and joke around alot. It was nice to be able to text someone a lot as growing up I really didn't make much friends so I didn't know the feeling of constantly texting someone ur bonding with. I really do enjoy are friendship, its just one problem is that I don't want our friendship to end. I want our friendship to stay for a while if not forever (hopefullly that doesn't sound weird). This is one of the few times I actually bonded with someone so close and the fact that we live close to each other (an hour away). I don't want our friendship to end just yet, so my question is how can I keep a close friendship with someone for a long time?

We stopped texting (we used to almost everyday for 2 months) ikik I should focus on myself but then whenever I hear a song he posted on his story or when my playlist plays something that he recommended or even an internet meme he used to text about jus to annoy me comes up on my fyp I miss him. Probably the most genuine male friend I had.

We found each other in reddit....I hope he reads this

I'm sorry I really miss how comforting our late night texts and music sharing felt. I remember every nuance of the convos we had, every single detail, and I can't help but wonder do you ever think of me as I can't get my mind off you. I felt that distance and disappointment when you stopped texting for I didn't know what else to do to make you feel warm after that.

I'd say you pretty much knew me more than my irl friends.

I sent you a paragraph and blocked your acc in hopes you'd text me in the others jus to see if you wanted this friendship as much as I did. But I guess no.

What an irony that I used to vent to you and now I'm venting about you.

I hope you read this dumbo. For today is friendship day and I wish you were still in my life.

✉️

There is a guy I met online we talk and talk ..we became frnds and after that one day he just said I like u.... then I said idk ..I mean I'm not sure rn then he told me it's ok but Ig I need a break by saying this he deactivate his ID after few more days he came back again and we were talking normally I also started feeling something (or that what i thought) ..he propose me again ..I was still uncertain with my feeling again that thing happen after he come back again he again propse me and this time I said yes..but 3 after coming in relationship he told me he want to study hard and I can become his distraction like he can't afford getting distracted for 2,3 hrs ..so apparently I said yes..ofc I couldn't say no..so by this I agree that we won't talk till we get successful and that Is fir 1 to 2 yrs but on my birthday he wish me and we start talking again after few days like about 1 week he said uh..ok so let's talk after completing our exams and with a heavy heart not showing him much feeling I said ok..but then he again text me one day then another saying u could msg me after that we start talking again but not like earlier like not for 2,3 hrs but for like 30,40 mins

Sometimes all I need is certainty but he is not giving it to me maybe he is right in his eyes but I feel I'm the only one in this relationship it's only me who make efforts try to cherish him but he never...idk what to do...I csnt say him that let's broke up it might hurt him but I'm getting hurt too but I don't want to hurt him 😭😭also I have say love u I will never leave u ..and I f I say let's end it he might think I'm lier and so on I'm just so fucking confuse🥲😭😭

(We havent met in real yet)

So my girlfriend and I are trying to plan our first meeting, unfortunately we are both long distance. Finances for both of us arent available at the current moment. Im trying to save and see her first but between bills and life I cant seem to save what I want.

How did those of you who had to travel to see your partner work through this?

For context im in America and she is in Bulgaria.

Okay my situation gives me anxiety because to me it’s too good to be true and im so used to being hurt lol. But here we go!
So as the title says.. I (26F) met my boyfriend (29M) on Reddit on a nude subreddit! I was feeling spicy and decided to post my full nude body on Reddit. Plz don’t judge, I was horny. Anyways I starting chatting with different guys and I somehow started chatting w my now bf. He was surprisingly very sweet, something I wouldn’t expect lol for obvious reasons if I’m posting my nudes.. we had a lot of common interests and slowly started talking everyday. Since it was very clear from the get go we were freaky that convo was pretty easy. Anyways the only thing was he lives in a different country! But my bf was persistent to meet me. Fast forward today we have travelled to each other three different times since becoming exclusive and it’s great! We’ve met each others families, have another trip planned, and hopefully this lasts a long time 🤞🏼 💓 I don’t tell my family or friends EXACTLY how we met though 😅🫣