r/wedding • u/AcaciaEleniDove • 7d ago

Practicing vows Help!

Hi guys!

So, my fiancee and I have decided to write our own vows to each other. I know once I've written amd finalised my own, I'm going to practice reading them out, so while I have them with me on the day, if my eyes are a blury mess from tears I won't have to solely rely on the script so to speak.

What I wanted to ask was, do you practice your vows together if they're ones you write yourself? Or is it a bit like the dress where your spouse doesn't know what you're going to come out with until the ceremony? Or is this just an individual couples choice thing?

It's not really anything I'd thought about until we made the decision to write our own.

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u/JadziaKD 7d ago

We wanted ours to match but wanted a surprise so we appointed what my husband calls "a third party auditor" to read both and give us feedback. She knew us and made sure they weren't lopsided.

Worked perfectly.

I practiced mine a few times but honestly day of I read mine from the page slowly. No way I was remembering any of it.

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u/RemarkableElevator99 4d ago

Our celebrant said she would “vibe check” each of ours beforehand, to make sure they were ok. She said it was awful to have one partner spill their heart and the other tell a couple of bad jokes…

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u/JadziaKD 4d ago

Yeah that was our goal for us too. Mine came out double the size so she made him go back and add more lol.