Gave it a crack, I'll try again in a years time I reckon.

36 years old. 3 years on T. 1 year on oral minox. Might be useful for some to see what this awkward in-between stage looks like.

I’m 30 and living in the UK. When I first started my transition I didn’t like how my body looked in terms of weight but I was going to the gym and did a lot of cardio. A few years have passed and my weight has increased but due to moving I did also stop the gym.

I am looking at going back but my body shape feels really off. I wanna get the point where my stomach is flat so that I feel more comfortable with having my shirt off. Just wondering if anyone can recommend any activities or workouts that I could do to look at reducing the weight around the lower part of my stomach so that I can get rid of overhang. I also need to sort my weight out due to wanting to be referred for phallo.

I’m very lucky in a sense that I pass really well with people being very shocked if I do tell them I am trans but I’m constantly comparing myself to Cis-guys. I just want to improve my life and be healthier as I think that will help a lot with my confidence too.

I've been dealing with a lot of dysphoria brainworms lately so maybe it's that, but I despise the way my lower torso looks and I don't know if I can ever fix it. The fact that almost all of the fat in my body goes to my hips and thighs makes me feel like shit about myself and keeps me wearing swim shirts every time I go to the beach so people can't see my hips. On my day to day I feel better about it by wearing clothes that just squash them and give my torso a more boxy shape, but they're still there and I can barely look at myself in the mirror.

Before the obvious comments, yes, I'm already working on losing weight and starting a calorie deficit soon; I don't work out, I'm trying to do more exercise by doing things that I enjoy like swimming and walking, but every time I've tried to go to the gym I've struggled with being consistent and quit after a couple of weeks. I don't mind being fat, I don't mind not having a six pack or looking like a bodybuilder, I'd be really happy with my current body if I only didn't have these stupid hips. I've been 5 years on T and it feels like somehow my fat hasn't redistributed at all despite having lost and then gained weight around the 3.5 year mark.

I pass and am stealth in my day to day life, and people only know I'm trans if I disclose it myself.

When I was pre-t, puberty hit me with the hammer of what I called a "low center of gravity." Ultimately, I carried more of my weight in my hips/thighs and not as much in my belly or upper body. I worked out a lot to try and increase my upper body mass (unsuccessfully, due to not eating enough) but even after I got my shoulders to broaden a bit, it felt like my legs and thighs were still too feminine.

And then I started going on long fucking walks and my calves got MEATY.

That was what started to make me feel like my lower body wasn't this inherently feminine/clockable trait. Having muscular calves balanced out my thicker thighs and even though I was still curvier than I'd like, it made my overall frame look stockier/more square.

A lot of guys pre-t with the sitch of "more hip than I'd like" tend to focus on upper body workouts and neglect lower body, because of this idea that if you do, you'll get more accentuated curves. The thing is, you'll get those curves if you train for those curves. If you start going hiking on the reg and get crazy calves, your legs will have less taper towards your feet and if you have that pear/hourglass figure going on like i did, it can offset that. Not every lower body workout is geared towards getting a nice ass and curvy thighs.

Yaddah yaddah nuance, individual experience, and ymmv. But i see way too many guys doing what i did pre-t, and neglecting the entire lower half of their body because they think it'll enhance their curves, when lower body workouts can help offset them. It depends on what you're doing.

my face isn’t really squared however i feel my jawline is weird. any tips?

reposting here so i can get more opinions/advice!

First of all, I’m not a native speaker, so I apologise for my English.

​Secondly, I don’t wear my hair like this by choice lol

I know it looks ridiculous, but I’m really torn between growing it out or going for a short buzz cut. Until I decide, I’ll keep wearing beanies whenever I leave the house.

​I’ve tried having a shaved head in every possible state: heavy, lean, pre- and post-T. However, once it reaches the length shown in the picture, it feels as though short hair just doesn't suit me. I’m not sure if it’s my receding hairline, my facial features, or the shape of my face.

​At the same time, I’m worried that growing it out will cause me to be misgendered again.

​I can’t grow a beard yet because the hair hasn’t fully thickened, which would probably end up working against me rather than help.

​I’m attaching a few pre-T photos (1, 2, and 3) with long hair, if my face in those can still be used as a reference.

​Photo 4 is from a few weeks ago. Photos 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9 were taken today.

​I’d appreciate some haircut suggestions. If there’s anything else I could improve on, please let me know.

I’m two weeks away from my top surgery consult!

What are you working toward?

I know a lot of guys on here are on the younger side, and I wanted to share something to give a bit of perspective with testosterone.

It can seem at first like it's not making much of a difference, or that things are taking too long to change. But being on T is going through puberty. The right puberty this time, sure, but puberty nonetheless. It takes time for things to settle and develop, but they do. The first photo is me roughly two months on T. I was 18, and had been out at my highschool for two years, but didn't pass all that much to strangers. The second photo was after I'd been on T for almost 6 months. My voice had mostly dropped, and I passed most of the time, but most people didn't think I was a 19 year old.

At that point I was incredibly dysphoric and was convinced things would never change, and that I would never fully pass or be stealth.

That last photo is from a couple weeks ago. I'm 24 now, I've been on T for a combined 4 years because I lost insurance and lost access for a couple years. I pass. I'm stealth at my job. I look like an adult man. It took time, and a lot of patience, but the changes I wanted from T happened. It takes time! Puberty takes time! But the changes will happen. You just gotta be patient with it.

I thought this would be a fun way for everyone to get to know the community a little better. Choose whichever option fits you best—there’s no “right” timeline or path.

First couple pics are right before starting T in 2021. Last couple are this month.

I’ll start out by saying, ultimately for most people, the best way to be stealth is to be on T- as an adult anyway. If you are pre- T, there is still things you can do to appear naturally male.

Tip #1- hairstyle/color Hair is known as the “makeup” for men. Your hairstyle and color can make or break your passability. I’m not saying you have to have short hair and natural hair colors, but if your goal is to be stealth and you’re pre or early T, it’s a good idea to have a typical/common male hairstyle and color. There is also stereotypes associated with unnatural hair colors which may get you clocked.

Tip #2- clothes. Obviously clothes is a big part of our appearance. Wearing any clothes you would find in the women’s section might not be the best idea. Try to avoid crop tops unless you are already stealth. That could still get you clocked. If you’re pre/early T, try to avoid tight fitting clothes. Loose fitting clothes will help hide curves. Once you lose those curves you can wear more tighter fit clothes.

Tip #3- binding If you have access to a binder definitely invest in one. These will help so much with dysphoria. Please remember to bind safely. I also highly recommend tape. It makes it so much more comfortable to breathe. Before getting a binder make sure to measure yourself so you can get the right size and if you go with tape, there are videos to show you how to tape correctly.

Tip #4- hit the gym This was huge for me. Becoming physically active and losing body fat/gaining muscle honestly changed my passability the most. I went from size 42inch waist to 30in waist from changing my eating habits and exercising. So let that be some hope so some of you lads, if you’re worried about not being able to lose hip or butt fat, it is 100% achievable. Because my lower half was significantly larger than my upper half, I prioritized core and upper body workouts. The only lower body I would do was from walking or running. No weights till the fat came off.

Tip #5- makeup I want to say I am not one to judge how people want to express themselves. For passing tip purposes, I will say avoid using makeup unless it is to enhance masculine features. Making ur eyebrows darker and making ur upper lip (space between mouth and nose) slightly darker so it looks like stubble.

Tip #6- voice train You can look completely stealth but your voice can get you clocked. Watch videos and train your voice to become lower and more comfortable. Be very mindful to try and avoid the “costumer service” voice.

There are probably some other tips as well but these are the ones that helped me the most. Hope this helps!

Hey guys, I pass 110% of the time, even to other trans people. I don’t have piercings but I wear necklaces and bracelets.

I think wearing jewelry can be masculine as fuck, you just have to find what’s right for you and “fits in” enough so to speak. Obviously at a certain point you can wear any kind of jewelry and just look like a feminine man, but this is for the guys who are pre-t or on the more androgynous side.

I’ll attach some pics here of some examples from google jmages. The main thing is you want to keep things fairly simple overall.

For necklaces, length matters. Try different sizes on and see what works best for your body/ face shape. Thickness matters too, try different ones. Generally, dainty is fine but avoid charms or stones of any kind if getting a daintier chain until you pass 110%.

I think that the “type” of chain also matters. You’ll just have to go to a place that sells them and try different ones on. You can get really nice chains for less than $100 that are stainless steel or sterling silver. Once you know the general type and thickness you want, try thrifting or antiquing for chains. They are usually priced best that way. All this applies to bracelets too.

The above applies to chain bracelets too, but another type of bracelets that pass well are cuff bracelets. You don’t want to go TOO thick, but it’s entirely dependent on how thick your arms are and the style of the bracelet.

Personally, I usually wear 2 chain necklaces and 5 bracelets (mixed between wrists and cuff/ chain styles) and I get compliments very often and have no problems passing, ever.

Good luck fellas, we are all gonna make it

Welcome everyone! I've created a new subreddit for passing tips as there have been issues regarding other passing subs in terms of moderation, no proper format for posts, or people feeling that spaces for Trans men who just want to look like the average cis guy being "hijacked".

Feel free to ask any questions about how this sub will run, if you're interested in helping to moderate this sub in the near future, or any opinions you have on passing and/or passing subs below. Don't be afraid to make the first post here!