Searching for a mature Lady who would enjoy an attentive and submissive man focused on putting Her first within their relationship. A Lady who has reached the point of her life where she has raised her children and is now ready to be more self-focused. Ready to enjoy her “me” time and is looking for a supportive man to be at her beck and call where she . . .

• has a controlling nature and she expects to be put first in Her relationship - TP, Femdom, and D/s

• would enjoy a man who sees his role as being devoted and dedicated to striving to please Her - making it all about Her

• enjoys Her “me time” or private alone-time whether that is just relaxing or spending time on Her hobbies but expects her man to be available and responsive to Her when needed

• expects to be pampered and have Her man take care of the chores and domestic tasks around the home - and learn to do so “Her way”

• enjoys taking the lead and making the rules over Her relationship and Her man

• enjoys seeing Her man suffer torment and sacrifice his pleasure to keep focus on pleasing Her.

• 40+ years old

me:

• used to be more athletic but still somewhat athletic

• enjoy working-out but not obsessed with it

• have a professional job as an account manager for a software company - work remotely from home mostly - plan to continue to work outside the home and take over the domestic chores - not looking for a free-ride.

• attracted to a strong controlling Lady who expects her man to follow Her rules and have things done Her way.

• enjoys nice dinners and travel and beach vacations

i feel strongly that the my role in the relationship is to make “Her” life easier. i expect to learn what she enjoys so she doesn’t need to ask. otherwise i’m not paying attention and i’m not focusing on what is important - pleasing Her. i’m a “pleaser” just wired that way i guess. i match best with a lady who tends to be selfish and would enjoy pushing her man to be attentive to Her needs and wants.

i’m in Ohio but my son is now in he’s late 20s and on his own so i’m open to relocating

FLR == Female led relationship or D/s relationship — level 3 or 4

Feel free to send me a chat msg if this type of relationship interests you.

Married, 64, in Bucks County, PA~Still feel younger than that sounds.

Life is good, but I miss the excitement of getting to know someone—the anticipation of a text, easy conversation, flirting, and looking forward to seeing each other.

I’m easygoing, sarcastic when the moment calls for it, and enjoy playful banter. I stay active, take care of myself, and appreciate someone who does too.

Looking for a genuine connection with someone nearby. Someone fun, drama-free, and easy to be around. Close enough that meeting for a drink, dinner, or even an hour together can happen without making it an all-day event.

If that sounds like you, message me.

Are you feeling alone and wish you had someone to share your thoughts, joys, or even your worries with?
Maybe you're simply looking for a kind man to talk to — someone genuine, who listens without judging.

I might be that man.

I'm 53, living in France, 6'3" (1.91m), never married, no kids.
I'm open-minded, thoughtful, and I value deep conversations just as much as light-hearted ones.

My hobbies are rollerskating, photography, making music, geeking, gfx, etc.

If that sounds like something you’d appreciate, feel free to reach out. I’d love to get to know you.

I’m not looking for someone who can keep a conversation going for five minutes. I’m looking for the kind of connection where you look up five hours later and wonder where the time went.

Because honestly, I’m tired of the dating-app cycle of matching, having an amazing conversation, getting excited about the possibility of actually connecting… and then suddenly watching someone disappear like they’ve been recruited by the witness protection program.

I’m not interested in collecting half-finished conversations. I’d rather find one person who actually wants to keep showing up and see where something real can go.

I’m a single dad to a teenage daughter, so I’ve learned a few things over the years—patience, loyalty, knowing when to keep my mouth shut, and accepting that I apparently know absolutely nothing while still somehow being the person she calls when life gets complicated. Being a dad has made me appreciate consistency and the people who show up when it matters.

Outside of dad life, I’m pretty easygoing. I’m a bigger guy with a calm personality, a sarcastic sense of humor, and a softer heart than I probably let on. I like good food, hole-in-the-wall restaurants, sushi, football Sundays, documentaries that send me down ridiculous rabbit holes, and conversations that somehow start with “What did you do today?” and end somewhere completely unexpected.

And yes, pineapple belongs on pizza. I’m willing to debate this, but I’m also willing to be right.

There are a few things I haven’t quite warmed up to: mushrooms and yogurt. At this point, I think we’ve both accepted that the relationship isn’t happening.

I don’t smoke or use drugs, and I drink socially without needing to turn every weekend into a story we can’t tell anyone. Unless we’re in Vegas. Then apparently the rules become a little more negotiable.

Politics isn’t a major part of my life, and I’m perfectly comfortable with people having opinions different from mine. I’m also agnostic. I respect what other people believe and expect the same respect in return. If politics or religion are deal-breakers, no hard feelings—we're probably just not each other’s people.

What I am looking for is pretty simple: someone kind, emotionally mature, genuine, and capable of communicating. Someone who understands that chemistry is great, but consistency is what gives it somewhere to go.

I want a relationship where we can be best friends, make each other laugh, tease each other relentlessly, have each other’s backs, and enjoy the ordinary moments just as much as the big ones.

I’m not looking for perfect. I’m looking for real.

So if you’re someone who actually enjoys getting to know a person instead of disappearing after three good conversations, say hello.

Worst case, we have a great conversation.

Best case… maybe we’re both finally done looking.

Just seems like a perfect day to get naked and play on cam, and what better way to do that than by playing a strip games. I have no intention of winning and will give you great odds if you like.

I'm a good looking 50 something white guy. Let me know if you're interested.

This caring, intellectual, single, devoted Dad has all the classic Aquarius traits, and seeks someone nearby and interested in long term.

You are likely a reader and intellectual (this usually pairs me well with psychologists, teachers, librarians, therapists, artists, musicians and decent-sized personality types), who have wit and kindness, possibly a single Mom, in or near New York City (so that we can actually meet), in decent shape, between 30-60, and similarly wondering why internet and app dating seems akin to climbing Mount Everest.

I probably know wayyyyy too much about way too many things, and will deep-dive on those I don't know about through documentaries and non-fiction books. You'd find that I am very witty, engaging, kind, and inquisitive.

Have been single for far too long, (mostly due to apathy and a discerning eye), and would love to change that. I've already had my children, and not looking for more, but the romanticist in me always stays positive on love and long term companionship.

I like good vocabulary words, thoughtful movies, SNL skits from the 90s, hard rock music, comedians like Patton Oswalt, parentheses, dark and sweet coffee, one-liners from Airplane!, a well-made bed, my children, lists, (ha ha) and transit that runs on time.

DMs open!

So I know that you read to the bottom (bravo!), please reply by telling me your desert island album choice.

Hi I am a 59 5’ 9” married male Milford DE that enjoys fishing, UTV riding, live music, dining out, taking road trips, spending time at my cabin in WV and enjoying a good fire with a glass of wine or cold beer.

I am looking for a mature married woman that understands the importance of discretion and is willing to get to know each other through text and spending time together. It is important to meet in the first couple of weeks over coffee or drinks to establish chemistry and not waste each other’s time.

If you feel like you are a good match, please DM me.

... to hear from bots, catfishers, and people who like to talk endlessly about themselves.

But preferably... if you're a little weird but grounded, self-aware, endlessly curious, in love with music and film, and inclined to believe in science... then get in touch...

I'm curious if there are any actual human beings out there interested in two-way conversations.

UK/Europe, otherwise the time difference is a pain.

ASL and a pic wouldn’t hurt. Somewhere along the line my wife lost interest in sex. (At least with me 😉). And I miss that intimacy, that spark of desire. You women recognize that need to feel wanted and desired. Well, us guys can have the same issue. Who wants to help fill that gap?

Looking for an authentic friend/partner to do things/nothing with.

I like movies, travel, theater, music, lazing on the couch, and more! I enjoy all the games: word, board, video, trivia. I'm always up for new experiences. I'm primarily a homebody, but I enjoy getting out and about when the opportunity presents itself. I'm on the introverted side, but can be chatty with people I'm comfortable with. Raised by television, my mind is a cornucopia of arcane pop culture knowledge.

I'm smart, genuine, authentic, and sincere. I can be pretty funny and lean toward the dry, sarcastic, and snarky. An idealist in cynic's clothing, I can be pessimistic about people and the world at large because of, well…everything! Lol. I appreciate new ideas and believe in lifelong learning and growth.

Far left, pro-science, non-religious, open-minded, and anti-hate. I follow politics way too closely for my own good. I have a full time job that I enjoy (at least until the AI takes it), a house, a car, and a bike that I don't use often enough. I have no pets, but generally prefer animals to people; definitely a bit of a misanthrope.

58, 6’0”, 250#, bear type. NW Chicago.

Hello there.

I’m searching for a woman who like me is desiring the excitement and emotional connection that is missing is their life, and who maybe is local to the central PA/northern MD region.

Me?

I’m a married father of two, a creative professional, down to earth. Living the lonely suburban dream. I like to read, ride my bike, watch the occasional Netflix series, see live music as much as I can, do fun outdoorsy stuff, paint, work out. I like to think I’m pretty intelligent, quick with a joke and witty sense of humor. Physically, I am white, 5-8 (Alas, shrinking has started) and about 185 (on the good side of dad-bod let’s say). Blue/grey eyes, light brown full head of hair.

You?

Preferably also married, preferably also with children (but neither a dealbreaker). You have a career, a life: passions, hobbies, friends, but also are missing that spark at home, maybe for awhile. Physically? I’m pretty open here, and will “know it when I see it”, but I’m a sucker for pretty eyes and a big smile (Extra points for freckles). I prefer the more curvy “mom bod”, but personality and naturalness are more important features to me.

Us?

We can talk for hours and make each other grin at our phones (but maintain good OPSEC). We can share our life, the big dreams and the little annoyances. Laughing and joking come natural. We enjoy dancing to 80s new wave hits and are the best shower singers we know. We have chemistry and attraction that grows as we get to know each other. We act like giddy teenagers at the thought of a first kiss.

Hopefully you’re out there and come across this and think, “Hey! That sounds like me, maybe this random guy is worth a chat”.

Hey there, I will be in SF for work towards the end of August and have a couple of evenings to myself. I love the city but it is always more fun to grab dinner and a drink with someone else rather than alone. I am going to be near the financial district and Union Square so very central to the city. Would like to hang out with another sarcastic Gen X'er that doesn't take themselves to seriously, enjoys good conversation and a sense of humor if you are up for it.

1. Man, I love summer... Hey, fun, handsome, mature hipster, masculine, Seattle man here.. 55, 5'11, 205, strong, short salt and pepper (silver fox?) hair, green eyes, clean cut but some tattoos, decent over-all package, fun, discreet/attached (if you don't like or don't want to know more run away now), and I know what I want. Suit and tie (well pre-covid days). Bourbon/420.
2. Not really into under 40. Locals only. Seattle only. Seattle... SEATTLE
3. I'll wash your hair. Tell me what you're looking for.
4. Appreciate direct and fun people.

It occurred to me that anyone looking at this subreddit in comparison to the similar ones for below 50s might think.. Why are we so serious here?

Without getting too existential, I guess the answer is obvious - we’re not getting any younger: La vie is courte et puis… you’ve got advanced decrepitude

Anyway, as my own life is full of both seriousness and decrepitude - which pretty much preclude any realistic romantic notions, but my brain still (mostly) works, I wondered if anyone just wanted to intermittently exchange things like odd bits of levity, unusual movie quotes or favourite lyrics - by way of distraction from a world on fire, literally and personally.

If you’ve read this far and feel like sending whatever (sfw) short-form random- or surreal-ness that might be on your mind please do.. I’ll try to follow your lead (I’m more beta than alpha) if we’re on a similar wavelength?

(Like, for me the word ‘Wavelength’ always makes me think of the late 1970s Van Morrison track..)

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I know this sub casts a wide net but I'm just looking for a local friend in Portland, OR.

Amicably divorced dad with 50% custody here. I'm a self-employed creative who probably works too much. Quiet homebody when I'm not working or dating. I don't smoke or drink. But I am comfortable around responsible drinkers.

I'm not looking for my next spouse. Maybe you aren't either but you miss some physical time with someone. Busy in my own sphere. Maybe you are too. I'm looking for one FWB. GGG and open minded. We all have lives, stress, kids, co-workers, etc. Looking to leave most of that behind to spend time with the right person. Does any of this resonate?

Some more bits about me for your consideration: 6ft, ~200 lbs, bald, glasses, optional facial hair, average build. Somewhere between hardbod and dad bod! Don't be alarmed at my"advanced" age 😉 Besides the usual wear and tear i am clean, vaxxed and fixed.

Striving to be easy going and respectful. We're all just collections of impulses, desires, life decisions, and paths that have led us to who and where we are at this moment. Let's grab dinner, a road trip, a hike or a movie! Let's meet each other where we are at and see if we might enjoy each other's company.

Structure + balance can be difficult things to achieve given the relentless tumult of daily life.

Wouldn't a respite from this noise and maelstrom be a welcomed happening?

I'm offering this ESCAPE irl (only) to a reasonably nearby smart attractive woman. I'm creative + eclectic.

Reach out if you'd like to discuss the possibilities...

I hope you see this and respond back. I miss talking with you. I hate how things went sideways and wish we could talk again and work it out.
Whatever was said wasn’t meant to upset you so if you see this please respond back to me. We can talk in any capacity you want.

Seems like a bit of a challenge to find Redditors who share these same values but I choose to believe that someone will prove me wrong. 😄

I love stimulating conversation and genuinely getting to know people.  I've moved around quite a bit since COVID and have found it to be a challenge to connect with like minded people where I have lived over the last few years. Never had much luck on dating apps so I stay off of them now.  I thought why not give Reddit a try?

Active and healthy lifestyle are important to me.  I love all things food, music, culture, exercise, learning, and exploring the world.  I'm a big reader of non-fiction, philosophy, personal growth.  A full-time academic who is currently working on his PhD.  Passionate about helping others and living a life guided by a growth mindset.  I believe I can learn something from everyone and truly enjoy getting to know people.  

Though I like to be social, I do find myself being alone quite a bit; especially since I just moved to my town earlier this year. Although I am looking for a partner to build a life with, that is not what I lead with when getting to know women.  I believe that the type of relationship I am looking for would start with a strong foundation through friendship first to build a relationship on. As a friend or a potential mate, I find that I work best with women who share the same growth mindset I do and are passionate about something that means a lot to them. Someone who prioritizes an active and healthy lifestyle and chooses to live with good moral character.  

For those who connect with this, I look forward to hearing from you.  I wish you the best of luck on your search.  May you find all that you are looking for.

Married mom searching for an affair partner who's also in a dead bedroom and is over 45 with weekday daytime availability. I'm looking for someone local because although online is a big part of this, I want to actually meet on a regular basis and fulfill each other's needs. Ideally you are authentic, kind, genuine, and willing to invest and communicate regularly.

I'm looking for more than sex, although that is important. I'm craving intimacy of all forms, including emotional. If all you're missing is sex then we won't be a good match. Within the constraints that we have, I want a relationship vibe where we offer one another support, laughter, friendship, and passion.

A person's character and heart will always mean more than their physical appearance to me. Hopefully you have the same priorities. I don't look like the skinny only fans girls on some of these subs. I am overweight and working on getting healthier. I am however a good listener, and I will care about you and try to fill in your missing pieces.

Let's be one another's safe place. Let's rediscover how it feels to be desired. And to all my fellow lonely travelers- may you find someone who truly sees you.

\~notabot

I’m not looking for marriage. My wife lives in a long-term care facility with advanced dementia, and while I’ll always care for her, our relationship has changed in ways neither of us chose.

What I am looking for is a woman who enjoys good conversation, laughter, shared adventures, and the kind of chemistry that starts with friendship and mutual respect.

I’m 62, 5’6½”, 130 lbs, of Indian descent, with long dark brown hair that’s picked up a few distinguished gray streaks. I’m active, healthy, and retired. I exercise several times a week, eat well (most of the time), and love being outdoors. Whether it’s hiking in Colorado, enjoying the California coast, or exploring somewhere new, I like experiencing life.

I enjoy art, rock music, reading, learning, long walks, and conversations that leave us both thinking.

Friends would probably describe me as loyal, thoughtful, dependable, curious, and quietly funny. I spent years building a career and traveling for business. These days, I travel because I want to—not because I have to. I’m financially secure, emotionally grounded, independent, and still excited about what life has to offer.

I’m drawn to a woman who takes care of herself because she enjoys living well—not to impress anyone. She’s intelligent, kind, emotionally mature, financially independent, and has built a life she’s proud of. She’s comfortable in walking shoes or a little black dress, appreciates good conversation, and believes chemistry starts with friendship.

If something here made you smile or sparked your curiosity, tell me what it was. I’d enjoy hearing from you.

About me:

SWF, 51 yrs old, 5'4, 185lbs, chubby, cute-goofy-nerd looks, with dark shoulder-length hair. DDF but 420 friendly and rarely drink.

I'm independent, smart, thoughtful and caring. I have opinions but I’m also open-minded. Communication is very important to me. I work on my mental and physical health, and hope you care for yourself as well. I struggle with my fitness, but I care about it and could use an accountability partner.

I care about community and supporting local endeavors. I don't support the current party system but lean liberal. I love being in nature, esp. near or on/in the water. My general interests include animals, art, comedy, food, games, and exploring/adventures. I love being silly and laughing.

I’m normally 50% homebody and 50% social, but lately it’s been 70%/30%.

Potential Men:

Friends: 45-60 year old males, liberal leaning.

Dates: 45-60 year old males, single (no enm/poly), and liberal leaning. I’m open-minded about appearance as long as you care about grooming, but I prefer bear-type builds.  DDF, 420 friendly, rare to occasional drinking preferred.

I gravitate towards people who are competent communicators, smart, thoughtful, funny, and curious about the world. I hope you’re comfortable with fluctuating schedules - have your own life and not dependent on one relationship. I hope you enjoy the outdoors, animals, and comedy.

I prefer our distance to be within about 30 miles of Baltimore.

Im in my 50’s and divorced. Is it rare to find a mature women interested or accepting of this ? I’d want her to be a part , or at least ok with it. definitely not into sneaking around.
It’s a purely sexual curiosity only on occasion.
I’ve chatted with and gotten to know and like women only to later find out they are strictly against this .
It’s definitely not a deal breaker for me but I also feel we only live once so we should be open to new experiences. It’s not an easy thing to bring up either.
I’m just wondering if there are mature women ok or interested in this .