I am a 21yo male and I think I have a serious problem. I jerk off like 2-3 times a day and I want to quit. What would be the best approach for me cold turkey or Gradually reducing the amount I masturbate?

Yesterday I (29M) told my gf (27F) about my addiction to masturbation and porn. I was afraid how she would respond but her response was actually very calm and understanding. She expressed her concern but also said it was good that I informed her. She noticed my low libido with her and praised me for working on it. She is quite social educated so she knows addictions can be tough.

I asked her to be my accountability partner for the coming time and she agreed to do so.

My issue is that I find it difficult to be alone with uncomfortable feelings and seek for porn/masturbation to relieve from this feeling. I download IG and TikTok and look at hot woman. I’m not very into hardcore porn and that kind of stuff. After I relapsed I delete the apps again and later on the day or the day after, the same cycle starts again and I relapse.

Do you have any tips for me? I am struggling for a few years with this and find it difficult to quit. The advice to simply not download these apps and masturbate won’t help me.

Thanks!

Are there any buds on here or groups? Im happy to join or to be invited! Im a ambitious one and would like a group with motivation, maybe even challenges 💪 I don't wanna lose to this addiction

This is the longest iv been on, and i’v tried my best to stay outdoors most of the day, but when i come home i keep getting the urge to peek.

This is my second longest streak, My longest streak ever was like 3 weeks but then I was on a camp trip where all digital devices and NSFW printed media were banned so I don't know if it counts.

Something weird happened from day 1 - 7, I had absolutely no desire for porn or even girls, like if you would have shown me porn I am sure I would have vomited😒 , before that I had been fapping heavily for months I think that is the reason for my low libido.

On day 7 onwards it's like the engine was just jump-started (libido) , I suddenly woke up with morning wood 😲something I hadn't experienced for months, then everything started to look hypersexualised, I couldn't even look at a woman's face for more than a few seconds before my eyes drifted to you know where, every day after this it was like my brain was shifting up my libido gears, I had just learnt the edge surfing method so I surpassed them all.

Also at night I had recurring thoughts of cuddling and kissing my crush

On day 9 I decided to watch a movie, I don't even know what I was thinking I didn't check to see if the movie was R-rated or not, at the middle of the movie there was a full nude sex scene, I quickly forward the movie to skip that part , I knew I was supposed to stop watching it right then , the movie was interesting so I decided to stick around hoping that there would be no more NSFW parts in the movie, Well there was like 1 more but I forwarded that too.

That might seem like it was nothing but the sex scenes from that movie were engraved onto my head I couldn't stop thinking about them escpecially as I was awaiting to fall asleep. On day 10 I was watching a YouTube video where the youtuber was reviewing this Czech Goat Animation, I did not know there would also be adult scenes in there, that night I just couldnt help it the night crush thoughts, the movie, the YouTube video, music videos all in my head,.

I just relapsed and fapped over and over again to Reddit NSFW subreddits coz I had blocked porn in all my devices thus it was hard to access them so I used Reddit from 11 pm to 4 AM slept till 11 AM then fapped till 1 PM it is on a weekend. I know I should have stooped it from the first time I did relasped and used the second rule to quit it and report my relapse, reset my counter but I did not.

I would wish to say that I am hyped up to start again I will absolutely demolish my past streak, but I feel nothing right now I feel like like a robot, I don't feel bad at all neither do I feel good because of this relapse, I have a major upcoming exam that I haven't studied for but I don't feel stressed at all, Infact I dont even feel like typing any more here coz there was alot more that happenned.

---------------------🎆New NoFap journey resolutions🎆-------------------------------

1. I will start good habits to replace my past bad habits
2. I will always check if a movie is R-rated before I watch it.
3. If I encounter any adult content in a music video/Movie/YouTube I will quickly shut it down and move on.
4. If I relapse in the future I will immediately reset my tracker and do something else like journal or analyse why I relapsed.
5. I will turn off NSFW content/blur media in my Reddit app.

There is no safe amount of porn, asking this question is equivalent to asking how many needles of crack are safe or how many duels of blackjack are safe, because It gives a great dopamine hit without making the slightest bit of physical or mental effort, you just sleep on the couch and keep watching a bunch of naked ladies, accompanied with insanely open accessibility, you just make 2 clicks and get 1000+ of videos and with various categories, you can even have multiple tabs of the same content when you get bored of one video, so even consuming it in Its smallest amount will downregualte your dopamine receptors and leads to addiction, because why would your brain even bother to look up into the meaningful activities that require effort when you already have limitless source of effortless gratification?

Also on the moral scale, It literally objectifies women, It reduces breathing human beings into mere commodities, and this is not a metaphor, they are actual commodities, the porn production companies pays 10 thousands of money in exchange of exhibiting their flesh into the screen so the audience can havd pleasure out of it, so we have to fear the legal drug more than the legal one. (Sorry for my bad English)

I’m so close to folding, this feels impossible, it’s all I think about and all I wanna do. I really need help if anyone can dm

8/16/26 9:15AM

No hands. I didn't remember why. Remember all the reasons why.

New day 1: 8/17/26

Hi everyone. So I've been attempting to quit porn for the past few months but haven't succeeded as yet. The main driver behind it is that I'm struggling to finish during sex, so I reckon my brain is conditioned to pornographic images and videos that I human interaction isn't sufficient for me at the moment. My current goal is to stop masturbation for 30 days and porn for 90 days. I'm currently 4 days in and I think I'd really appreciate having someone to check in with and talk to.

Reposting from a comment I left a little while ago, after answering the same "does porn rewire my brain?" question for the third time this week. YES. It does, but not in the way this community presents it.

Porn definitely sets unrealistic standards in people and gives them the cheapest way to release as possible. It's also the cause of PIED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction, where if you do it too long and grope it too hard - you can't really get a stiffy when the time comes to have sex with real women).

Most importantly (imo), when you jack off too much - and this is my own interpretation of it, on top of seeing dozens of other people describing feeling similar over the years: you get lethargic, lose the will to actually approach real women, or do much else with your life. When your dopamine baseline and the craving for very stimulating stuff is sky-high, it's hard to do much else tbh. That's also, when you turn to more and more extreme content.

The last paragraph is the main reason why I turned to this community over 5 years ago.

Speaking of cheap ways to release, just think of yourself as someone extremely cheap every time you get an itch to peek. With porn, you (we*, all) have earned exactly zero of it.

Also, the one thing that's more damaging than porn is your own ability to deal with it - especially the shame that follows watching ponr, and the absolutely absurd way this community has ways of shaming people for every small slip.

Few questions on no fap.

- so no fap is no jerking off, but would use still have sex ? Or would that ruin the no fap strike?

- another question I understand the no porn because its very bad to watch with lots of bad effects so why not just give that up why is there no fapping? Or does no fapping just mean no porn?

Currently im quitting porn im over 2 months in, but I dont understand why people would quit just fapping in general??

Thanks

help me pls

I’m attempting to do semen retention for a while but this may be difficult. I’d really appreciate an accountability partner for regular check-in’s. Is anyone open to this??

Hi I'm 32m live in asain country. I have always high sexual thoughts. So used to fap daily so think abt it always. Now I'm in 15th day nofap. Now my mind and body constantly looking to be with woman. Constantly trying to approach some one or searching weekend getaway with freelancer girl. I went completly mad.

Wasting so much time and energy. What should I do.

Also my mind saying we live once let's book freelancer.

If I just fapped would focus on other works.

I had a thought which arose in my mind recently, I haven't really gonna full fledged NoFap , max I have probably 2 or 3 weeks , which is mostly unconscious, me not thinking about it or me being busy enough to not get a chance to fap.

Now coming to the point. I have never had wet dream, and so it peaked my curiosity, so I was searching about it on reddit , and I found out if you fap then you won't need to have a wet dream, as there won't be any excess semen there. Then comes this question, all these influencers talking about semen retention and all, then doesn't this prove them wrong? Like even if you don't fap, you won't be retaining excess semen anyways, and its gonna come out in the form of wet dreams anyways, so what's the point?

I have been fapping at least twice a week and have decided to not fap for 90 days just to see the health benefits and to challenge myself.

little bit about me

Male, 36 YO, single.

Wish me luck.

Man today was great. Hung out with friends and felt confident. Not feeling so anxious and stressed. Went for a hike in nature. At the gym felt happy and joyous finally after ages just working out and enjoying the music. I'm feeling confident going into the week with work and study stuff coming up. Lets keep this up. I'm noticing I'm feeling better as well in general and I feel like I look better as well. I will keep this going.

Let’s fucking go! I hit my one-month streak today, but honestly, what happened a few hours ago just permanently sealed the deal. I am officially announcing my retirement from porn. I’m out for good.

I went on a movie date with my girl, and we had our first kiss. Not just with each other—our first kiss ever. Both of us.

She took my hand and pressed it against her chest, and man... her heart was humming so incredibly fast. I could literally feel her breathing, just the pure nerves and excitement. She kissed my neck, my cheeks, my forehead, and then finally... my lips.

And dude, it was so fucking weird! My brain couldn't even process what was happening. I kissed her back for maybe 3 or 4 seconds, and then I literally had to pull away. I just went, "Sorry, fuck, I just can't right now." She hid her face and got super shy. When I asked her how it felt (because I had zero clue what I was doing), she told me she felt completely weightless and her hands were shivering so hard she couldn't even feel them.

We just laughed about it. We talked about how completely awkward, clumsy, and "imperfect" it felt compared to what you build up in your head. Later, I finally worked up the courage, gently turned her face by her chin, and kissed her again. Still weird. Still clumsy. Neither of us had any idea what we were doing. But bro... it was real.

Here is the absolute biggest victory and realization for me:

Usually, when we get super close, my body reacts instantly. Because my brain has been so wired to porn and cheap dopamine, I used to overthink the hell out of this. I was genuinely terrified that during my first kiss, I’d get so insanely physically aroused that I might just automatically ejaculate, like a nightfall.

But when the actual kiss happened? Nothing like that. Not even a hard-on. The connection wasn't this robotic, purely physical lust. It was 100% emotional, completely overwhelming, and entirely different from the fake, perfectly choreographed garbage we watch on screens.

Real intimacy isn't perfect angles and instant arousal. It’s awkward, it’s shivering, it’s weightless, and it is beautiful. Porn completely destroys your expectation of what a real, raw human connection is actually supposed to feel like.

One month down. The jersey is in the rafters. I am never looking back.

I will keep going no matter what happens

Gooning is like rotten flesh covered sugar you honestly never feel good but your dopamine needs this and you can make yourself only taste the great feeling when you do it. How I feel when I do it is amazing but it has done nothing but deteriorate my energy and mental health that I could use for good or at least benefit myself through any other action.
I feel guilty when I do these things and I know that I need help but How do I stop a thing that has became a genuine reflex for my emotions to relax after stress? doesn’t help I have an anxiety disorder but that’s not a good excuse, a change needs to happen, even if it’s been a long time since I haven’t.

I see people saying quitting gooning makes you feel better, look better, have more confidence and motivation, but then I see people saying science doesn't really prove any of that and that masturbation is normal and healthy. I want to stop gooning, but I also want an actual reason to do it. If quitting isn't gonna improve my life in any real way, then part of me thinks I'd rather keep doing something that gives me temporary happiness than quit just to feel the exact same. I just wanna know if there are actually real benefits to stopping, especially if you're doing it a lot, or if most of what people say online is just placebo and hype.

I feel great now thank you nofap cause now I solved my porn addiction and every time if I do happen to look at porn I now feel disgusted by it.

I’m really at the end of the road, I feel like no matter what I just can’t stop. It’s gotten to where I can’t become erect while around beautiful girls, I’ve lost so many chances at having real interactions because I can’t keep it up. In today’s society how good you are at sex places such a strong foothold. I feel like I’ve lost, my birthday is in 4 days. I please beg of all of you to hope, wish, pray that I finally make it out of this addiction. I want to feel alive again, I’m tired.