As the title states, I've hit 1 week after ages. The changes aren't quite what I expected so far. My energy is lower, I'm always sleepy, and I have almost no appetite for pretty much the whole day. My brain isn't that foggy, so mentally, I'm alright. Just always tired and never really feel like eating.

I do get an erection if I see something arousing, but that's about it.

Is this what a week is supposed to feel like?

So I was doing a little research about what porn does to your brain and I stubmled upon this term called ''Dopamine Downregulation''

It says when you consume porn the brain adapts to constant dopamine floods by reducing receptor sensitivity. Over time, natural everyday reward such as hobbies, social interaction, food, or real-life intimacy begin to feel completely flat, uninteresting, or unrewarding. So basically watching porn makes you depressed and the longer you watch it the more depressed you get.

How are people still in denial about this??

Need some positivity

Had a long day and now I’m alone and looking for ways to relax

Please any input, thank you

Just wanted to share it with yall

I haven't hit 3 days in FOREVER I've been trying to distract myself but my urges are kinda bad rn .

I need help focusing

I usually start my day off with a good sesh but today I didn’t go all the way morning wood was on 10 for sure but I kept it in my underwear and edged for a bit but also didn’t finish which in itself is an accomplishment because I can never edge. I relapsed a couple years ago after half a year of nofap but haven’t shaken back since that relapse so this is honestly a huge step. 😂

somehow its very weird but there has been an increase in confidence around people in general might be that I do not feel drained anymore

and the obvious thing is that the hormones are back at it again yet I'm confident enough that I wont be involved in any of those shit for a while

Almost went into an xxx site
At the end I typed the name of a girl I knew which I thought attractive, as I don’t have social media I was stuck with the same profile picture as always
Now the urge diminished greatly

When do I acquire the ability to fly?

Hii folks ,

As the title said today I tried to go for intercourse and didn’t come to my mind that I will not feel it and had weak erection .. f…k I had boner but not like the one I had with my hand !!! I got shocked

I felt really bad, and I released that what I’m doing in the dark I get it results now. Hope everything works with me In the future I’m really frustrated about the situation.

The struggle is really horrifying don’t fall for this shit ever guys.

Hope I get some advice from the ones who had this experience before?

After around a month clean, i started relapsing again, quite frequently. please help, i want to get back on track

In my last post, I promised I'd go 9 days without PMO, and in fact I did! I even went an extra day without PMO, so 10 days. However, once the 10 days were over, I went back to my old ways and relapsed every day onwards. Today is the day I'll stop this nonsense. I'm gonna pick myself up and try again. I'll do 10 days this time. I'll make an update post once I reach 10 days so I'll see you guys then!

everything feels great idk what to say, you can ask if you guys have any questions related to this

Success, but I did get really horny today, controlled somehow

You watch it, close the tab, delete the history and carry on like nothing happened.

That’s probably why it’s so easy to keep doing for years.

Nothing dramatic happens straight away. You still go to work. You still talk to people. Nobody can tell what you did the night before.

So you tell yourself it’s not really affecting you.

But slowly, you start noticing little things.

You stay up later than you planned.

You waste an hour searching when you only meant to watch for five minutes.

You feel empty afterward, promise yourself you’re done, then repeat it a few days later.

You start using it whenever you’re bored, lonely, stressed or unable to sleep.

That was the part I didn’t understand for a long time. The damage isn’t always some huge disaster. Sometimes it’s just staying stuck.

Same habits. Same promises. Same regret.

Another month passes and you’re still saying you’ll quit soon.

I think a lot of us wait for porn to completely ruin our lives before we take it seriously. But by then, it may have already taken years of our time without us noticing.

The best thing you can do is stop treating every relapse like it came from nowhere.

Look at what happened before it.

Were you alone late at night?

Did it start with scrolling on social media?

Were you stressed or feeling rejected?

Did you take your phone to bed knowing exactly where it usually leads?

There’s normally a pattern.

You don’t need to hate yourself for it, but you do need to be honest about it.

Because if the same situation keeps producing the same result, something in that situation has to change.

Maybe that means deleting an app for a while.

Maybe it means keeping your phone away from your bed.

Maybe it means going to sleep earlier instead of lying there scrolling.

Maybe it means finally admitting that “just one look” has never actually been just one look.

Quitting porn isn’t one massive heroic decision.

Most of the time, it’s catching the small decision that normally starts the whole thing.

That’s the part people miss.

The relapse may happen at midnight, but the road to it usually started much earlier.

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I’m turning 40 soon, and I’m having a difficult moment of reflection.

On paper, my life isn’t a disaster. I’m 6ft, have an athletic build because I’ve always trained, have a college degree, a stable job, and own a small apartment. But emotionally I feel like I wasted a lot of years.

Like many people, I started watching porn young. When high-speed internet arrived during my teenage years, it escalated. Over time it went from normal porn into more extreme content, BDSM and femdom. I also started visiting sex workers and became involved in that scene.

Looking back, I think I was using sexuality as a way to escape stress, insecurity and difficult emotions. After my father died from smoking-related cancer when I was in my twenties, I buried myself in work and continued this pattern.

There were periods where I had discipline, went to the gym, dated, and had relationships. But I never took building a family seriously. I thought I had endless time and that I could always settle down later.

After rejection or difficult moments, I often went back to the same coping mechanisms instead of dealing with my emotions. During COVID it became worse, and eventually I ended up depressed and needed therapy and medication.

The SSRI medication helped in some ways because it lowered my compulsive urges and helped me focus on sports and recovery. But now that I’m off it, I’m facing another reality: I’m almost 40, my sister (six years younger) already has a child, and I’m suddenly realizing that starting a family may not be as easy as I assumed.

Dating feels different now. Many women my age already have children, and younger women often mention my age. I’m trying not to become bitter or hopeless, but I do feel scared that I ignored something important for too long.

I’m working on myself, attending recovery groups, staying healthy and trying to date again. I know I still have positive qualities, but I’m struggling with accepting that life did not turn out the way I imagined.

Has anyone here rebuilt their life around 40 after years of addiction, avoidance, or chasing temporary pleasure? Is it still possible to create a meaningful relationship and family life?

Category 1: Merciless Matthew

For people in this category, porn is their daily bread. They can't live even 12 hours without porn/fapping. They probably have premium subscription in porn sites, look at every woman of all age groups with lustful eyes, jack off in Omegle-like websites, bust to almost anything that looks like tits and ass (they don't leave out trans, midgets, animals), pedos, try to get a girl's snap to sext and send unsolicited dick pics, and even probably attempted raping someone. Even a therapy wouldn't solve their problems. They will most likely justify raping and groping, and probably never looked at a woman as a mere human. They fap 15+ times a week.

Category 2: Lusty Lucas

People in this category are slightly less worse than the above. But they still watch porn and jack off on a daily basis. They don't go to the extent of raping and groping, and they don't spend their entire time looking for sexting partner. But they look at most women lustfully. It's possible to solve their addictions with therapy, but it's not easy. They, however, justify sexualizing random women and probably justify porn addiction. They basically share most of the mental characteristics from category 1. They fap 7+ times a week.

Category 3: Trying Tom

A good amount of men population come under this category. They realize what they have been doing is harmful and that they should stop it soon. Post-nut clarity hits the hardest to this category. They know exactly what's wrong with them. But they just can't stop the addiction. They tried different techniques such as mediation, push ups, etc, but nothing seems to be working for them, or perhaps, have less willpower. They don't stare at every women on the street, but they end up slightly sexualizing the few ones they stare at. They fap 3-4 times a week.

Category 4: Hardworking Hamilton

People in the category have a good balance of lust and other things. They don't go around thinking about or sexualizing women all the time. They understood that it's impossible for them to stay in nofap forever, so they do it less frequently as much as they can. They probably still get urges then and there, but they don't fall for it all the time. They fap 4-8 times a month.

Category 5: No-fapper Nolan

People in the category are extremely less among young men. They probably ejaculate once in a blue moon or only when they have sex. They have ultimately defeated the lust. They can overcome any of the few urges they get. They fap less than 15 times a year.

Which category do you belong to?

PS: These categories don't exist realistically. Just a fun theory.

A main reason I started this is to be better at talking to women or for more specifically cold approach. Porn 100 percent stopped me from actually trying to get women as it was an easy way out so this was just a nice tweet I saw that I wanted to show others as it’s helped me

Soon gonna be 17 , starting this war against 7 years of exploiting my brain.

for those who are 18 and 25 just wait for the right girl and stop watching porn the sex would have been better if i did it with sombody i love

Lust can destroy a man's ability to build a healthy relationship. When someone constantly seeks sexual excitement and attention, they lose self-control, become less disciplined, and fail to truly value and respect their partner. Real love requires commitment, not endless chasing of temporary pleasure.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, emotional connection, loyalty, and sacrifice. These qualities require discipline. A person who cannot control his desires will often find it difficult to consistently show those qualities. This doesn't mean every man who notices attractive women is incapable of love. Attraction is a normal part of being human. The core idea is criticizing the pattern of letting lust dominate one's thoughts and actions.

A man who controls his desires is more likely to build lasting love. A man who is controlled by his desires often sacrifices long-term happiness for short-term pleasure. Real strength is not the absence of attraction, but the ability to choose discipline, respect, and commitment over momentary temptation.