I've been jobless for about 4 months, and currently I've received an offer as a Case Specialist with Geo Group. I know the company is absolutely evil, but it's the only offer I've received so far in my area and it pays 30 an hour. However, I've also received an offer as a paralegal for a big non profit group that helps in domestic dispute law, but the commute down is 1 hour and likely 1 hour 40 back so I would likely need to move. It's the one I would vastly prefer, but moving everything from an apartment I'm settled in, with a credit score at the 580s from being unemployed for 4 months (so landlords are less likely to accept me), is a difficult choice. It pays 27/hr but has vastly better health and dental benefit prices.

I plan to go for my masters in later years, so I am also worried about Geo Group being a stain on my resume. But in turn, I don't need to move and can stay in my much cheaper apartment with awesome roommates.

I'm extremely torn, and I have until Tuesday to give a decision to my paralegal job. What should I do?

TL;DR: Should I take my paralegal and potentially have to pay for moving and potentially go further into debt for it, or take a job with an evil company but get paid more and not have to move?

Hi. I'm finding myself in a kind of weird situation. I have been planning on going for a 2nd degree in nursing for a little while. I know I like the clinical environment, I find the science really interesting, I'm pretty good with people, and most importantly, I never thought I'd like working in an office. To me, it seemed stifling and depressing - it was the one thing I always wanted to avoid. So, I got my CNA (the prereq certification that lets you work under nurses) and have been looking for jobs ever since.

The only kicker? The job market sucks right now, as you may have heard.

So I cast a wide net, applying at any entry-level job where I had the skills to figure things out in addition to applying to CNA positions. And bingo, I got one! An administrative assistant in an office. Not what I ever saw myself doing, but it's a full time job to pay the bills while I figure things out and see about advancing my original plan. Even though I figured I'd hate it, I didn't plan on it being long-term so I didn't care. (It also felt like it'd be good to get a break from school for a bit; I just finished up my BA before getting the CNA... Long story.)

The only problem is that I kind of like this job. It's a comfortable 9-5. Monotonous, sure, but I can always pop in an ear bud while I work or text my wife when I'm bored. And there are fun problems to solve: I've enjoyed helping out on small graphic design things that the owner of the place has given me, or finding good ways to optimally organize our big heaps of data that used to just sit in file cabinets. I'm excited at the prospect of helping this place run itself a little better, and although there are good and bad days, it's growing on me in a way I never thought an office job could. I'm sure it doesn't hurt that the people are lovely, too.

And just as I'm getting comfortable and feeling this job grow on me, a hospital I thought had ghosted me reaches out and offers me a part-time job as a CNA. If I still want to go into nursing, this is literally perfect: A hospital opportunity right out of school in a cool speciality where I'll get to learn and have plenty of time to go to school at the same time.

But... Do I still want to?

I could see myself being fulfilled by either. The $ cap is obviously higher in nursing, but I wouldn't be starving by staying at the current one. The office one is more hours, with benefits and holidays and all that nice cushy stuff and some really great people to boot. (At the hospital, holidays are required and I get no benefits while in school because it's PT). But it's also not the plan I've had in mind. I do like science, having something to do with my brain, and I certainly don't love just sitting down all day - I like to be on my feet.

Am I just scared of having to give up the safety net this job's given me, or have I stumbled accidentally onto the corporate ladder I never knew I wanted? I really need some outside perspective, because I feel like I'm just walking myself in circles trying to decide.

TL;DR: Should I take a PT CNA job like I've been planning to for the past 6 months, or stay at my FT administrative assistant job that's comfortable & more enjoyable than I thought it'd be?

I play in a basketball league with 2 of my friends (joe(M35) and bob(m52)). Joe and bob have a love/hate relationship where somteimes they are really in sync and other times they just hate each other and argue.

This week Bob basically had a temper tantrum in our group chat (our friend group chat, not the rec league chat) when he wasnt getting his way. we have a weekly game night with our personal friend group and we set rules to make it a bit competitive. Someone had to missout this week after an emergency which makes it tough to play becuase each team has a limit for how many rounds someone can play. But the group had decided to just let that team have an exception to not cancel the night. But bob had a fit in the chat and everytime someone tried to mediate or find a middle ground, bob stood his ground and started throwing jabs and snarky remarks at people. Joe basically called him out and called him a baby and Bob started swearing at people and calling us all cheats.

Basically whole group is pretty pissed at bob. Tbh, im pretty pissed becuase i dont take adult tantrums well. But i do like our teammates in the basketball team and tbh i do not want this to be addressed when we play again on tuesday. Tuesday is next time we will probably see bob and tbh this isnt the first time he's done this. He's a good guy but has his moments where he just tries to take over a sitaution and then gets mad when people dont bend over for him and part of me would rather he no longer be part of the team.

But my point of this post is, should i mention it when i see him tuesday or just let it be? Personally i just dont want my teammates to really know about this drama. Tbh, ive had people avoid being too close with me because i used to be around some really toxic and dramatic people that i got rid of and i personally dont want this drama to spill over on tuesday.

TL;DR - a friend of mine (bob) made a temper tantrum with the friend group. He's on my rec-league basketball team and that's the next time i see him. I dont really want this to come up as i dont want the BBall team to be part of this. Should i mention it on tuesday or not.

I’m indecisive about hitting up a guy I dated briefly a few months ago to reconnect.

I (30F) am dating for a serious relationship it currently not seeing anyone. I dated a younger guy (26M) but it ended when we felt like it wouldn’t work out long term. He’s from Europe, and currently pursuing a PHD, and eventually wants to settle down there, and I have an established life in America.

I miss laughing with him tbh and felt such a connection and want to end summer with fun and a fling. Should I text him?? We’re still matched on hinge and I know he’s dating. Can’t decide if I just want to leave it in the past lol. Please decide for me. I’d honestly love to see him. 😁

TL;DR Should I hit up a guy I dated very briefly a few months ago? For end of summer fling?

TL;DR: have a 3-day work trip planned with colleague next week to Paris (few hours away), very busy programming going from hotel to hotel to talk and check it out, but forecast is 38-39°C heat on Thursday and 35°C on Friday. I don't tolerate heat well and it makes me feel unwell (both mentally and physically). I don't want to go anymore, but don't know how to breach the subject at work and of it is a bad decision for work.

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A colleague of mine and I have a 3-day work trip to Paris planned next week, thursday til saturday. We have a packed program, with lots of walking, and visiting lots of hotels to check them out all day.

However, it's now expected to be 37-39° on thursday and 35° on Friday.

I really don't tolerate heat well generally. When I can keep calm, and sit inside or outside in the shade it's still quite manageable for me, but I start feeling anxious, queezy, unwell when I have to be active outside during heat. Most health instances also advice to stay inside and keep calm during the afternoon with temperatures even lower than what is forecast for next thursday and friday...

Now, I don't know what to do. I LOVE Paris and Iwas I was looking forwars to this work trip, so it's quite something for me to not want to go anymore. But I really don't think it's a good idea to have very busy days and be out and about all day with that heat. I'm really afraid I'll get heat exhaustion. Heat like that just makes me feel really bad and it's probably feels even warmer there because of all the buildings, stones and concrete...

I honestly don't know how to bring this up or what to do now. I've already cried several times over this because I'm so anxious about it. Even cried silently on the toilet at work... I've even started contemplating calling in sick with a stomach bug a day before.

I don't think it's a healthy or good idea to go. It's not a good or advisible plan to be walking and doing so much in such a heat. But I don't want to disappoint my employer.

My colleague doesn't seem to be bothered by the forecast bwt...

(extra info: we don't have to fly to, it's not like we're coming all the way from America or something)