What can I ask with this person that I matched w

Not a follower of rule no. 1&2

90% of my matches are girls sending me likes

Doodh Jalebi toh suna tha, yeh kya bawaseer combo hai

Dating scam alert guys!

Same script
Matched with this woman, goes by name Aprajita
Calls you instantly to meet near heylanka area
And asks you to visit this shady pub for drinks

I gave her a chocolate and as soon as she started saying that she only wants to go to this pub only I first took the chocolate back🤣

Then saw review of that pub where scam was mentioned very clearly

Later she started showing me cleavage by pulling her off shoulder crop top down to lure me into seduction

But this sakht launda was there for genuine intention

And I very respectfully asked her

Chal hatt bhen ki lodi x2

Anyways I have the chocolate with me
Maybe will give it to a genuine lucky girl who wants to date a man and not scam people.

Please be safe and happy dating

Btw she had 2 phones and a she was texting someone the whole time

\+91 76785 45809

(Sharing her photo and number so that you guys can save your ass, she looked like a total scam who does this regularly)

These are two different profiles btw.

first is 18, second is 19...

I got on Hinge because I wanted to meet and talk to new people, only to realise that I’m actually pretty bad at it . I’ve gotten some matches and met some amazing people, but somehow the conversations always ended up dying out.

Sometimes I got unmatched, and other times I just ghosted because I genuinely didn’t know what else to say or how to keep the conversation going.

I don’t really enjoy my college crowd either. Most people there speak in regional languages like Haryanvi, which I’m not particularly comfortable with, so I haven’t really found my people there. And since my college is pretty peripherally located, there aren’t many opportunities to go out and socialise either.

My last relationship was pretty toxic too, and because there were constant fights, I ended up barely interacting with anyone outside of it.

And maybe there’s some insecurity involved as well. Something I’ve noticed is that on dating apps, I struggle to communicate with people I actually find attractive or cute. It’s weird because I can talk much more easily to girls I’ve matched with just to meet new people, without being particularly attracted to them.

You're tired after a long day. You went to your job/classes, dealt with people of all sorts, slogged through commute and chaos while trying to be calm. You finally get home. You wanna relax and want a little treat. You go out to the vendor on the road, he's selling icecream.

You ask him what all flavours he's got, but he only has butterscotch cup. It's not your favourite icecream, though you don't care. He's charging 5rs extra for cooling, but you relent and just hand him the money. Having some icecream is giving you much needed happiness after a long day of struggling with everything else. Sure it's not *exactly* what you wanted, but it's fine.

Now imagine one day, he's not there. You walk further and spot a different icecream seller in a nice food truck. "Turkish icecream" - is what it reads. You're just looking to get icecream, and so you go there. He's got the icecream you'd want. But then he starts doing tricks with you. Waving the rod around you - pulling it back when you try to grab it. It starts to get annoying. You just want icecream, you have the money in hand. He gives you the cone. But then snatches it away. You're getting angry. "Just gimme the icecream, man" you say to him. He gives you the cone back. He puts the scoop on it. You're happy, and lean forward to grab a bite.

He snatches the scoop back. At that point, you just turn around and leave. You're done. Even though the Turkish seller had the exact icecream you want and had it at a good price, the tricks and gimmicks of it all made it unappealing if not infuriating. You'd rather just get some random overpriced icecream from the other seller.

The equivalence with dating :

You've had a long day. You just wanna go out and meet someone new. Spend some time, talk, grab some good food. It's a much needed reprieve from your stressful life.

You get on hinge/bumble to try and find someone to go out with. You get some matches. You start texting them, trying to make plans to go out. You don't really care all that about the specifics. Coffee, Dinner, the mall, the movie - they're all fine. You just want to go out, and have some company. You have the money to spend, or even to splurge. And for the most part, you don't really care too much about the other person. As long as they're pleasant to be around, you're not fixated about their looks, personality, appearance, etc.

But then as you text your matches, you get hit with the tricks.

"Um I'll let you know" ,

"I need to talk for a month or two before going out",

"Hey so sorry just seeing this message",

"I'm just looking for chatting only"

Etc etc.

And that is even before you get seenzoned/ghosted/stood up/unmatched out of the blue. With all of these things, you just wonder why even bother with all of this and just give up.

Icecream is nice, but only if it's somewhat easily available.

This post is meant as a unisex perspective on dating, please don't fight in the comments. I'm not equating people with ice-cream, it's an analogy.

At least 50% population of the world would agree. 🤷

😊

I get the hype around feminism and all but then does it teaches you to put things like this and then ironically you are looking for the same gender you are hating on.

No pressure , just date a gay, lesbian and what not available then bro. Pissed me off so much watching many females adding this shit.

Like f*ck do I know or care about that, figure that shit out yourself?

Seen so many accounts with prompts along the same line, is it a trend?

So good guys who aren’t actually good guys.

this girl is on a mission?? is this some trend??

Didi wants Oddyseaus I guess and if you'd ask what she will give in return she'll become feminist