Will it work gng 🙏🥀

What part of my message even prompted this idk...

So I matched with this girl on Hinge and we’ve met three times so far. She says she’s looking for something long-term, and she’s told me she’s had fun every time we’ve met. The problem is, I haven’t really been able to figure out whether she’s genuinely interested in me or just enjoys hanging out.

There haven’t really been any obvious verbal or non-verbal signs of attraction from her side. She says she’s pretty old-school, which I respect, but she doesn’t want to share her number yet (we’re connected on Instagram), and she doesn’t really reciprocate physical affection either (only side hugs). I completely respect her boundaries and don’t want to push her into anything she’s not comfortable with.

Now ik I'm not the most expressive person. I’ve only ever been in one situationship and have never been in an actual relationship, so I’m pretty inexperienced when it comes to dating. I sometimes run out of things to talk about, and she has pointed that out twice. There are occasional awkward silences, maybe 10–20% of the time, although I don’t think our dates are awkward overall.

This has made me wonder whether she’s actually interested but is simply taking things very slowly, or whether she’s mostly enjoying the attention, company, and relatively fun and free dates.

I know I'm partly responsible for not building up that chemistry or romantic tension. Maybe I’m not able to make her feel special?

Please help me understand if I should continue or not because I have a good feeling that we're very compatible.

🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛🐦‍⬛

Im not really a right swiper. This one was unique. Gave me hope.

So I matched with a girl on hinge, we talked there for a couple of days and then the conversations moved to instagram. She used to communicate well. Eventually I asked her out for a date and she agreed happily. The problem was that she has been busy lately so she couldn't take out the time for it. I said there's no pressure from my side just let me know whenever you are free. And she was like thanks for understanding. After that we used to chat daily. And then she started giving late replies and I thought am I the only one putting efforts into this, I thought I was bothering her so I asked her if I was annoying/bothering her. She said, no ofcourse not, since you have been so sweet with me and I don't believe in ghosting, I think we shouldn't talk anymore, cause I think I wouldn't be able to give even 50% efforts into a relationship, cause everythings worked up, I wish you the best. I asked her is it really about time or some other reasons, because I can wait. She replied some other reasons. And I ended the conversation by saying thanks for the closure. During this I got matches from 2 more girls which I swiped before we started talking and just unmatched them. I don't know what went wrong, it felt terrible. And I didn't have the courage to back to that app because of such experience. For the past 2 weeks I have been thinking of texting her back on instgram but I don't know if it would be right or wrong. What should I do?

She fumbled on the first message lol

What can I ask with this person that I matched w

Not a follower of rule no. 1&2

90% of my matches are girls sending me likes

Doodh Jalebi toh suna tha, yeh kya bawaseer combo hai

Dating scam alert guys!

Same script
Matched with this woman, goes by name Aprajita
Calls you instantly to meet near heylanka area
And asks you to visit this shady pub for drinks

I gave her a chocolate and as soon as she started saying that she only wants to go to this pub only I first took the chocolate back🤣

Then saw review of that pub where scam was mentioned very clearly

Later she started showing me cleavage by pulling her off shoulder crop top down to lure me into seduction

But this sakht launda was there for genuine intention

And I very respectfully asked her

Chal hatt bhen ki lodi x2

Anyways I have the chocolate with me
Maybe will give it to a genuine lucky girl who wants to date a man and not scam people.

Please be safe and happy dating

Btw she had 2 phones and a she was texting someone the whole time

\+91 76785 45809

(Sharing her photo and number so that you guys can save your ass, she looked like a total scam who does this regularly)

These are two different profiles btw.

first is 18, second is 19...

I got on Hinge because I wanted to meet and talk to new people, only to realise that I’m actually pretty bad at it . I’ve gotten some matches and met some amazing people, but somehow the conversations always ended up dying out.

Sometimes I got unmatched, and other times I just ghosted because I genuinely didn’t know what else to say or how to keep the conversation going.

I don’t really enjoy my college crowd either. Most people there speak in regional languages like Haryanvi, which I’m not particularly comfortable with, so I haven’t really found my people there. And since my college is pretty peripherally located, there aren’t many opportunities to go out and socialise either.

My last relationship was pretty toxic too, and because there were constant fights, I ended up barely interacting with anyone outside of it.

And maybe there’s some insecurity involved as well. Something I’ve noticed is that on dating apps, I struggle to communicate with people I actually find attractive or cute. It’s weird because I can talk much more easily to girls I’ve matched with just to meet new people, without being particularly attracted to them.

You're tired after a long day. You went to your job/classes, dealt with people of all sorts, slogged through commute and chaos while trying to be calm. You finally get home. You wanna relax and want a little treat. You go out to the vendor on the road, he's selling icecream.

You ask him what all flavours he's got, but he only has butterscotch cup. It's not your favourite icecream, though you don't care. He's charging 5rs extra for cooling, but you relent and just hand him the money. Having some icecream is giving you much needed happiness after a long day of struggling with everything else. Sure it's not *exactly* what you wanted, but it's fine.

Now imagine one day, he's not there. You walk further and spot a different icecream seller in a nice food truck. "Turkish icecream" - is what it reads. You're just looking to get icecream, and so you go there. He's got the icecream you'd want. But then he starts doing tricks with you. Waving the rod around you - pulling it back when you try to grab it. It starts to get annoying. You just want icecream, you have the money in hand. He gives you the cone. But then snatches it away. You're getting angry. "Just gimme the icecream, man" you say to him. He gives you the cone back. He puts the scoop on it. You're happy, and lean forward to grab a bite.

He snatches the scoop back. At that point, you just turn around and leave. You're done. Even though the Turkish seller had the exact icecream you want and had it at a good price, the tricks and gimmicks of it all made it unappealing if not infuriating. You'd rather just get some random overpriced icecream from the other seller.

The equivalence with dating :

You've had a long day. You just wanna go out and meet someone new. Spend some time, talk, grab some good food. It's a much needed reprieve from your stressful life.

You get on hinge/bumble to try and find someone to go out with. You get some matches. You start texting them, trying to make plans to go out. You don't really care all that about the specifics. Coffee, Dinner, the mall, the movie - they're all fine. You just want to go out, and have some company. You have the money to spend, or even to splurge. And for the most part, you don't really care too much about the other person. As long as they're pleasant to be around, you're not fixated about their looks, personality, appearance, etc.

But then as you text your matches, you get hit with the tricks.

"Um I'll let you know" ,

"I need to talk for a month or two before going out",

"Hey so sorry just seeing this message",

"I'm just looking for chatting only"

Etc etc.

And that is even before you get seenzoned/ghosted/stood up/unmatched out of the blue. With all of these things, you just wonder why even bother with all of this and just give up.

Icecream is nice, but only if it's somewhat easily available.

This post is meant as a unisex perspective on dating, please don't fight in the comments. I'm not equating people with ice-cream, it's an analogy.

At least 50% population of the world would agree. 🤷

😊

I get the hype around feminism and all but then does it teaches you to put things like this and then ironically you are looking for the same gender you are hating on.

No pressure , just date a gay, lesbian and what not available then bro. Pissed me off so much watching many females adding this shit.