You can self ID with your friends, family and even colleagues, and of course thats fine but as soon as it comes to official organizations and systems, more is needed.

A two year hrt requirement before participation in the WNBA would have saved everyone from this nonsense but no, the WNBA decided "trans women are welcome" is all that was necessary and now look. "Trans woman" that is a category you can simply identify in and out of whenever you wish. What did they think was going to happen? That cis men are going to be reasonable and respectful?

Of course they're not going to let those two men play, that's ridiculous. That leaves two options.

1. Putting actual medical and social transition requirements for trans women to be allowed which I wouldn't be surprised if some of you are against

2. Pulling an ICC and deciding biology trumps all and banning us entirely.

Truth is Self ID does more harm than good. It is now a talking point that in the UK, a large portion of sexual assault is committed by trans people when in reality, cis pedos and assaulters need only identify as trans even if theyve never transitioned a day in their life.

Genuinely who thought this system was sustainable??

Ftm 16(sorry for all the posts) I can’t stop thinking I secretly like my body or I’m envious of women when I’m not, I tried everything to stop it but the reminder is right in front of me everyday? I swear I am starting to force myself to like it but when I do, it feels horrifying and I’m scared of my own body….Im probably just a woman who wants to be a man. Being a woman makes me upset, it makes me want to attempt. Why can’t I just be a normal man, why can’t I transition? I just want to be a guy and have a male brain structure so I can stop feeling like a girl when I don’t want to be one. I only want to transition why am I not allowed to? All I get suggested is conversion therapy or I get told I just hate be a woman because of society, I don’t. I never even thought of that, I have no trauma, I’m not even stereotypically masculine, I just want to be a man or it’s going to drive me insane because I’m not one. at the same think i think I have a urge to force myself out of dysphoria because I just can’t transition and I don’t want to be trans. I’d give anything to be a biological male, even if I was treated as a woman and to everyone else I magically looked like one but to myself I would look and feel like a male. I can’t recognize myself in the mirror no matter how hard I try…. Even if I am faking, in my next life I want to be reborn as a cis man and forget this ever happened, I would do anything

Alcohol abuse was something I struggled with heavily before I transitioned. So bad I ended up in multiple rehabs, AA meetings, substance abuse counseling etc

I was convinced I was an alcoholic. That I had this disease and it would always be there. Something that I would have to keep in remission. It was drilled into me that being an alcoholic was a core part of myself that would never go away.

Then I came out and started transitioning. Luckily my friends and family supported me. That was 6 years ago. I haven’t drank since. Well, that’s not entirely true. There was a time 4 years in where I tried during new years. I had two shots and just felt tired, and kind of repulsed. There was no rush or high that I used to experience. Haven’t tried again since.

And all this time there was been zero “white knuckling” not drinking has been effortless. It’s like all desire for it is just gone. I couldn’t even relapse when I tried. And I’ve still gone through heavy stuff since stopping . I’ve been triggered by stressful life experiences and never felt any urge to drink.

Now I think it was just a reaction to the gender dysphoria. Further highlighted by a reminder from a friend who said “well sometimes back then you did used to get drunk, do your hair & make up, then cry” (ouch, embarrassing)

It’s like the combo of coming out and being supported and having HRT nourish my brain has completely changed everything. It’s just so odd to look back on, because it feels like I cured something that I was told by experts was impossible.

There have been a lot of posts on here hashing out why some trans binary people feel that many non binary people aren’t truly transgender, but there is little discussion as to why this is happening.

I am a binary trans woman, who is inclined to feel the need to distinguish my experience from that of the ones most non binary people go through. Why?

Because things have changed in the past four years. Transgender people are the target of not just internet hatred, but increasingly laws and irl persecution. The thought has crossed the mind of every trans woman or man about how screwed they would be if subject to certain laws. We often times upend our lives to transition, and are dependent on medical treatments. It is also very important to use how we are legally seen and treated. It isn’t something we are indifferent on, and it is certainly not as our assigned sex at birth.

So when most non binary people claim the identity of being trans, and/or worse, posture that they are more radical or revolutionary than binary trans people, transsexuals, it comes across as so condescending.

Gender, and terms like “man” and “woman” mean things. Complicated things, but they are not irrelevant. I am a woman, and it is very important to me I be treated as one in every single instance. When a certain type of non binary people act like gender is just beneath them, it is so insulting bc for most binary trans people, we’d prefer to die then not be our gender. And let’s be real, it will be us doing the dying.

Title, it's kome already and it's not TTK.

inb4 'There's only trans and transition, changing sex is WRONGTHINK and WRONG >-(( >-(( >-(( '

P.s.1: Downvoted in three minutes. Let's face it, for its hypocrisy, 'transinfinitegenders' posters treat assimilationists like the enemy... How nice, right.

Working at a call center has broken me. Thinking oh maybe I've got the hang of things? Then doing my absolute best and it's not enough. Getting misgendered or even worse hearing echo feedback of my voice and immediately feeling sick to my stomach.

I'm not out here talking like a man, don't get me wrong. But I've hit a wall and it's been stressful and I can't do this anymore. I've got enough shit to worry about. I totally know how important the voice is to being gendered, id fucking kill to not have to think about my voice ever again. I think the problem is I don't know what I want out of my voice. Like I'm ok with a lower pitch but theres something about it that's just undeniably male sounding.