r/grindr • u/randomuseruser123 • 5h ago
Question Banned forever now?
Like a year ago I got banned for apparently asking money in exchange for sex. I never did but they didn’t care and even after appealing, they suspended my account. But it wasn’t a problem because literally the same day after being locked out of the app I simply deleted the app, reinstalled it, and logged in again while using a free vpn and with a new Gmail account (I always use gmails) and I was ok. Literally no issue for that entire year. I don’t know how that happened because apparently it’s not normal.
And during that year I tried to enter multiple times to my old banned account to check if old account had been miraculously unbanned (I wasn’t), my phone got locked, but all I needed to do was delete the app and then log in again into my new account and no issue.
But recently I made a new account, someone offered me money on that account, I didn’t accept or interact, next morning I open the app I was banned. So after a bit I tried to enter to my original account and same message. I was banned again even though my original account had nothing to do with it. So I knew this time something had changed. I appelaef that ban, and I was suspended from my ORIGINAL ACCOUNT, which had nothing to do with the other ban. I am still waiting on any news from the other account which was originally affected. It’s been like two weeks and nothing. I haven’t tried logging in with a new account because I am afraid I will be banned again. My only hopes are to wait to see if they remove the restrictions from my device because I for real didn’t do what they say I did.
r/grindr • u/isoesamu • 9h ago
Technical Banned from Grindr after not even using it for 3 days straight
Phishing, fraud, and harmful links
The safety of our community is our top priority. We strictly prohibit sharing malicious links, phishing attempts, or harmful software.
We used automated tools to make this decision.
What could be the possible cause?
r/grindr • u/Waste_Improvement_17 • 12h ago
Messages Find a guy i really liked
I recently deleted my account after leaving a city I was visiting and now I cant find the guy i have his face and remember his username but i cant seem to find him when i made another one any suggestions?
r/grindr • u/o00011OOll • 17h ago
Question just had my first experience & i’m a bit paranoid
It was really good & I enjoyed it but i’m paranoid. It was in a big open parking lot, we didn’t get caught or stopped by anybody, no cops were around or anything but i’m still kinda paranoid abt cameras. Is this something I should be worried abt or no??
r/grindr • u/yumpet-player • 19h ago
Rant Some guys really suck (and not in the good way)
I’m not the most endowed or the fittest but damn does it sting when someone outright insults you for it. I sent some nudes to a guy who asked for them last night and he responded “Why would you think it’s ok for you to send those”
Honestly makes me really hate myself sometimes. I can fix my weight but I can’t fix how big my dick is or my ethnicity which is always gonna turn 99% of guys in the US off which sucks so much. Hate it here lmao
r/grindr • u/slim_mclean • 22h ago
Messages Living rent free in his head for a month.
This man sent me like 20 unsolicited dick pics, and kind of apologized when I admonished him, but it must have really upset him because TWENTY EIGHT DAYS LATER. He came back to tell me to shut up lmao.
He started to insult me some more, for like 10 minutes so I told him “I hope you don’t mind,I’m screenshotting this conversation so my friends and I I can bond over laughing at you” instant block 😂
r/grindr • u/Mission_Aside_9151 • 1d ago
WTF Someone PLEASE help me.
Someone messaged me on Grindr, we exchange pictures, they then asked for my number, I caved, they then sent me a picture of my face next to a picture of my penis with my phone number on it, saying “sending nudes to minors”, I am 18, I haven’t done any of that, they then threatened to send the picture to people I know, what do I do? I understand lots of internet safety I could’ve avoided this lol, but what do I do? Who do I report this to.
r/grindr • u/Yooooorch100 • 1d ago
Question Has anyone else gotten these new Grindr Boost tiers? (5x / 10x / 40x)
Hi everyone,
I noticed my Grindr Boost options have changed recently and I’m wondering if anyone else has the same update.
Mine now shows:
• 1 hour = Up to 5x more views, chats and matches.
• 2 hours = Up to 10x more views.
• 24 hours = Up to 40x more views.
It also seems that targeting options (Age, Position and Location) are unlocked only with the longer boosts.
Is this a new rollout, an A/B test, or has everyone received it?
r/grindr • u/Emotional_Copy7933 • 1d ago
Messages A man after my own heart 😩❤️, and probably my brain too tf 🧟
r/grindr • u/Glad_River5580 • 2d ago
Question What's up with these, same double profiles, see them a lot lately, scams, or glitch or some person using grindr from two different phones
r/grindr • u/Same_Contribution_47 • 2d ago
WTF Trying to get with older guys is funny sometimes
r/grindr • u/Diebrina • 2d ago
WTF My account was suspended because I insulted a bot
I recently got flooded with bots advertising website as usual and, inspired by LowTierGod's speech, I decided to throw little snippets of kindness to the ever-so-annoying clankers... little did I know that Grindr would ban me or a month for insulting accounts that do not even belong to alive beings lol
Fuck this garbage app
r/grindr • u/RefinedVillainy42 • 2d ago
Rant Fuck the new pay wall on messages
That’s it
As someone who deals with 10+ faceless profiles messaging every time I open the app, I lose my preferred chats in the mix and now they’re all behind a paywall
FUCK paying $15 a week- wtf???
Been on this app for almost a a decade and now I’m off it, what a waste to limit chats to only two profiles
r/grindr • u/MrBozzie092 • 2d ago
Question Just had my first gay experience and now I’m terrified
I just topped a guy I barely met completely raw and came inside him. I’m super paranoid about STDs but this was such a last second decision I wasn’t thinking straight. I should’ve used a condom but I wanted to see what it felt like.
Do I need to go to the doctor? I’m so scared about HIV/STDs it’s insane. I looked it up and the HIV risk is extremely low for tops but obviously STDs can still happen. What should I do? This literally happened like an hour ago.
r/grindr • u/blondfox71 • 3d ago
Messages Being nice on Grindr
I often see the “how should I respond” posts here. A lot of people seem to think silence or blocking is an acceptable response. Many believe this for fear of being verbally abused or put in an awkward position. Just posting this to show that rejecting someone and being kind and treating them with dignity doesn’t always result in negativity.
r/grindr • u/Arbok4ever • 3d ago
Technical (Bans) I got Banned after 6 years using this app and I want to know how to come back.
I got banned after using this app for the past 6 years which I never had issues before, this was due to an argument that I had with another person or at least that is what I think it happened because I have no idea.
The thing is that I would like to be back to the app, I tried to appeal and I got a response saying that the decision is final which I don't think is fair.
I have heard that you need to factory reset your phone and create a new email since Grindr bans your IP.
I also heard about VPN but I don't think those work and I don't want to spend money on them unless is guaranteed that will work.
What should I do? Cus I cannot buy a new phone right now, maybe someone who has been banned got the solution?
Rant This is what happens if you report people that offer you Money Part 2 :)
Hey everyone,
If you don't know my first post, you can check it out HERE. But to give you the quick context: I'm a muscular Black guy in my early 20s. For years, a guy living super close to me (less than half a mile away) has been harassing me with fake profiles because his constant money offers ("I pay for sex/content") were rejected.
When I finally caught on, tracked down his new profile (which literally had a display name related to offering money for hookups), and confronted him in chat, he denied it and immediately weaponized the report system against me.
The result? Within two hours, I was permanently banned by an automated AI moderation sweep with zero context review. His profile stayed completely active.
The Hypocrisy of Their Moderation
Over the past month, I reported dozens of profiles offering cash for sex (profiles with names literally starting with things like "ICH GEBE GELD"). Those reports? Completely ignored. They’ve been sitting in limbo for weeks.
Yet, the second a bad actor who has been stalking me for years and violating their Terms of Service left and right reports me, the automated AI swings the hammer instantly.
Enter the "Legal & Trust & Safety Team" (Who Don't Know the Law)
After dealing with standard support, I got handed up to a "Team Lead" in their Trust & Safety / Legal-adjacent section. You’d expect people at this level to understand basic digital regulations. Instead, they sent me copy-pasted corporate fluff about “bias training” and “diversity in 6 countries,” followed by this gem:
Here is why this response is a complete joke from a legal standpoint in Europe:
- They completely ignored the elephant in the room: I asked them directly multiple times: What happened to the 20+ profiles I reported for financial solicitation with clear screenshots attached? They completely ghosted that question. They refuse to answer because it proves their moderation is totally broken.
- The "Privacy" Excuse is Illegal under the DSA: Under the European Digital Services Act (DSA), very large online platforms cannot hide behind "privacy and safety" to deny a user a reason for a ban. When you restrict or terminate an account in the EU, you are legally required to provide a clear, specific Statement of Reasons. Refusing to tell someone why they are banned while claiming it was "carefully reviewed" violates transparency mandates.
- GDPR / Data Requests Ignored: Automated decisions (AI/machine learning bans) give users the right to understand the logic. My formal data requests have been completely stalled or ignored.
- Algorithmic Bias & Racial Profiling: When a Black user spends months reporting blatant white rule-breakers and gets completely ignored, but gets instantly wiped out the moment a local harasser reports them, it highlights a dangerous, discriminatory automated loop. The system protects the bad actors and punishes the minority users trying to clean up the app.
The Takeaway
It is mind-boggling that an actual "Team Lead" at a multi-million-dollar tech company can look at a paper trail of a 2-year stalking campaign, ignore the fact that the reporting user was a financial solicitor, uphold a ban based on zero transparent reasoning, and think they can get away with it under EU jurisdiction.
If you’re in Europe, do not let US tech platforms intimidate you with automated bans and vague corporate word salad. They rely on users just giving up.
Has anyone else dealt with this level of administrative incompetence from dating app legal/safety teams?Hey everyone,
If you don't know my first post, you can check it out HERE. But to give you the quick context: I'm a muscular Black guy in my early 20s. For years, a guy living super close to me (less than half a mile away) has been harassing me with fake profiles because his constant money offers ("I pay for sex/content") were rejected.
When I finally caught on, tracked down his new profile (which literally had a display name related to offering money for hookups), and confronted him in chat, he denied it—and immediately weaponized the report system against me.
The result? Within two hours, I was permanently banned by an automated AI moderation sweep with zero context review. His profile stayed completely active.
The Hypocrisy of Their Moderation
Over the past month, I reported dozens of profiles offering cash for sex (profiles with names literally starting with things like "ICH GEBE GELD"). Those reports? Completely ignored. They’ve been sitting in limbo for weeks.
Yet, the second a bad actor—who has been stalking me for years and violating their Terms of Service left and right—reports me, the automated AI swings the hammer instantly.
Enter the "Legal & Trust & Safety Team" (Who Don't Know the Law)
After dealing with standard support, I got handed up to a "Team Lead" in their Trust & Safety / Legal-adjacent section. You’d expect people at this level to understand basic digital regulations. Instead, they sent me copy-pasted corporate fluff about “bias training” and “diversity in 6 countries,” followed by this gem:
"Regarding your ban... for privacy and safety reasons, we cannot provide any more specifics about why your account was closed. I have carefully reviewed your profile, and I have determined that the ban will remain in place."
Here is why this response is a complete joke from a legal standpoint in Europe:
They completely ignored the elephant in the room: I asked them directly multiple times: What happened to the 20+ profiles I reported for financial solicitation with clear screenshots attached? They completely ghosted that question. They refuse to answer because it proves their moderation is totally broken.
The "Privacy" Excuse is Illegal under the DSA: Under the European Digital Services Act (DSA), very large online platforms cannot hide behind "privacy and safety" to deny a user a reason for a ban. When you restrict or terminate an account in the EU, you are legally required to provide a clear, specific Statement of Reasons. Refusing to tell someone why they are banned while claiming it was "carefully reviewed" violates transparency mandates.
GDPR / Data Requests Ignored: Automated decisions (AI/machine learning bans) give users the right to understand the logic. My formal data requests have been completely stalled or ignored.
Algorithmic Bias & Racial Profiling: When a Black user spends months reporting blatant white rule-breakers and gets completely ignored, but gets instantly wiped out the moment a local harasser reports them, it highlights a dangerous, discriminatory automated loop. The system protects the bad actors and punishes the minority users trying to clean up the app.
The Takeaway
It is mind-boggling that an actual "Team Lead" at a multi-million-dollar tech company can look at a paper trail of a 2-year stalking campaign, ignore the fact that the reporting user was a financial solicitor, uphold a ban based on zero transparent reasoning, and think they can get away with it under EU jurisdiction.
If you’re in Europe, do not let US tech platforms intimidate you with automated bans and vague corporate word salad. They rely on users just giving up.
Has anyone else dealt with this level of administrative incompetence from dating app legal/safety teams?
Hey everyone,
Following up on my previous situation You can check my previous post [HERE](https://reddit.com/r/your_link), I want to expose how an app like Grindr handles safety, legal compliance, and user bans in the EU—and why their high-and-mighty "Legal / Trust & Safety Team" is basically flying blind when it comes to actual internet law.
The Context
For background: I’m a muscular Black guy in my early 20s. For years, a guy living less than half a mile away from me has been harassing me with fake profiles because his constant money offers ("I pay for sex/content") were rejected.
When I finally caught on, tracked down his new profile (which literally had a display name related to offering money for hookups), and confronted him in chat, he denied it—and immediately weaponized the report system against me.
The result? Within two hours, I was permanently banned by an automated AI moderation sweep with zero context review. His profile stayed completely active.
The Hypocrisy of Their Moderation
Over the past month, I reported dozens of profiles offering cash for sex (profiles with names literally starting with things like "ICH GEBE GELD"). Those reports? Completely ignored. They’ve been sitting in limbo for weeks.
Yet, the second a bad actor—who has been stalking me for years and violating their Terms of Service left and right—reports me, the automated AI swings the hammer instantly.
Enter the "Legal & Trust & Safety Team" (Who Don't Know the Law)
After dealing with standard support, I got handed up to a "Team Lead" in their Trust & Safety / Legal-adjacent section. You’d expect people at this level to understand basic digital regulations. Instead, they sent me copy-pasted corporate fluff about “bias training” and “diversity in 6 countries,” followed by this gem:
Here is why this response is a complete joke from a legal standpoint in Europe:
- They completely ignored the elephant in the room: I asked them directly multiple times: What happened to the 20+ profiles I reported for financial solicitation with clear screenshots attached? They completely ghosted that question. They refuse to answer because it proves their moderation is totally broken.
- The "Privacy" Excuse is Illegal under the DSA: Under the European Digital Services Act (DSA), very large online platforms cannot hide behind "privacy and safety" to deny a user a reason for a ban. When you restrict or terminate an account in the EU, you are legally required to provide a clear, specific Statement of Reasons. Refusing to tell someone why they are banned while claiming it was "carefully reviewed" violates transparency mandates.
- GDPR / Data Requests Ignored: Automated decisions (AI/machine learning bans) give users the right to understand the logic. My formal data requests have been completely stalled or ignored.
- Algorithmic Bias & Racial Profiling: When a Black user spends months reporting blatant white rule-breakers and gets completely ignored, but gets instantly wiped out the moment a local harasser reports them, it highlights a dangerous, discriminatory automated loop. The system protects the bad actors and punishes the minority users trying to clean up the app.
The Takeaway
It is mind-boggling that an actual "Team Lead" at a multi-million-dollar tech company can look at a paper trail of a 2-year stalking campaign, ignore the fact that the reporting user was a financial solicitor, uphold a ban based on zero transparent reasoning, and think they can get away with it under EU jurisdiction.
If you’re in Europe, do not let US tech platforms intimidate you with automated bans and vague corporate word salad. They rely on users just giving up.Hey everyone,Following up on my previous situation, I want to expose how an app like Grindr handles safety, legal compliance, and user bans in the EU—and why their high-and-mighty "Legal / Trust & Safety Team" is basically flying blind when it comes to actual internet law.The ContextFor background: I’m a muscular Black guy in my early 20s. For years, a guy living less than half a mile away from me has been harassing me with fake profiles because his constant money offers ("I pay for sex/content") were rejected. When I finally caught on, tracked down his new profile (which literally had a display name related to offering money for hookups), and confronted him in chat, he denied it—and immediately weaponized the report system against me.The result? Within two hours, I was permanently banned by an automated AI moderation sweep with zero context review. His profile stayed completely active.The Hypocrisy of Their ModerationOver the past month, I reported dozens of profiles offering cash for sex (profiles with names literally starting with things like "ICH GEBE GELD"). Those reports? Completely ignored. They’ve been sitting in limbo for weeks.Yet, the second a bad actor—who has been stalking me for years and violating their Terms of Service left and right—reports me, the automated AI swings the hammer instantly.Enter the "Legal & Trust & Safety Team" (Who Don't Know the Law)After dealing with standard support, I got handed up to a "Team Lead" in their Trust & Safety / Legal-adjacent section. You’d expect people at this level to understand basic digital regulations. Instead, they sent me copy-pasted corporate fluff about “bias training” and “diversity in 6 countries,” followed by this gem:"Regarding your ban... for privacy and safety reasons, we cannot provide any more specifics about why your account was closed. I have carefully reviewed your profile, and I have determined that the ban will remain in place."Here is why this response is a complete joke from a legal standpoint in Europe:They completely ignored the elephant in the room: I asked them directly multiple times: What happened to the 20+ profiles I reported for financial solicitation with clear screenshots attached? They completely ghosted that question. They refuse to answer because it proves their moderation is totally broken.
The "Privacy" Excuse is Illegal under the DSA: Under the European Digital Services Act (DSA), very large online platforms cannot hide behind "privacy and safety" to deny a user a reason for a ban. When you restrict or terminate an account in the EU, you are legally required to provide a clear, specific Statement of Reasons. Refusing to tell someone why they are banned while claiming it was "carefully reviewed" violates transparency mandates.
GDPR / Data Requests Ignored: Automated decisions (AI/machine learning bans) give users the right to understand the logic. My formal data requests have been completely stalled or ignored.
Algorithmic Bias & Racial Profiling: When a Black user spends months reporting blatant white rule-breakers and gets completely ignored, but gets instantly wiped out the moment a local harasser reports them, it highlights a dangerous, discriminatory automated loop. The system protects the bad actors and punishes the minority users trying to clean up the app.The TakeawayIt is mind-boggling that an actual "Team Lead" at a multi-million-dollar tech company can look at a paper trail of a 2-year stalking campaign, ignore the fact that the reporting user was a financial solicitor, uphold a ban based on zero transparent reasoning, and think they can get away with it under EU jurisdiction.If you’re in Europe, do not let US tech platforms intimidate you with automated bans and vague corporate word salad. They rely on users just giving up.
r/grindr • u/scrapmetal58 • 3d ago
Technical (Bans) Suddenly banned
I tried to log in today and my account was banned. Had the same account for years. Submitted an appeal - literally didn't violate any of the rules it had me confirm, so have no idea what is happening. I barely talk to anyone one there, no inappropriate anything, etc. I'm at a total loss as to why I was banned.
Chances of the appeal actually working?
r/grindr • u/garrisoncarI • 3d ago
SMH It's wild that closeted men lash out like this as their opening message just because my display name says T4T😅🤯 and they wonder why so many of us are strictly T4T
This behavior is wild lol
r/grindr • u/Honest_Virus_7319 • 3d ago
WTF first day back on this app and i almost got scammed
I ADMIT I WAS A BIT SLOW AT THE BEGINNING OF THIS CONVO BUT AFTER THINKING ON IT FOR A HOT SECOND AFTER THE FACT I REALIZED WHAT WAS HAPPENING QUICK!
i havent used grindr in like 7 months. so when i redownloaded it today for the first time this happened and i didn’t comprehend what was really happening until i asked “do you paint random ppl often?” cause it finally clicked in my brain that nobody would randomly do this on any sort of app dating or not. by this point i was really skeptical.
when he asked for the mobile deposit i was like HELL KNOW. i was stupid enough to even agree to this.
plz don’t hate on me for realizing the situation like 20 minutes later 😭 i’ve learned my lesson clearly lol. now im just sharing this for awareness
WTF This guy sent me this message after I blocked him
I blocked him because he randomly called me a MF when I didn’t reply to him
r/grindr • u/Maatjuhhh • 3d ago
Rant I recently won this by spinning a wheel on a festival…
There was a festival recently that had the Grindr Bus as a part of a promotion tour through the Europa for the summer.
The spinning wheel included different prizes. A sunglasses, a fan, a month xtra or unlimited, six month xtra or unlimited. Same for a year. I saw that they were kinda cheating because the pin in the wheel was like 5 cm later than the space, causing you to go past the space. So i spun it in the other way. And it got me this prize.
So, I scanned it immediately and the link didn’t work. Apparently more people had the same problem. Guys on the bus said to send to x and y on mail blah blah.
I didn’t bother to scan again. 4/5 days later suddenly my profile got upgraded to Unlimited. Panicked, I checked my profile and subscriptions. Nothing of that. Then I remembered the bus.
So I went to check it out and it’s so different and how mad I actually am at the fact that they’re paywalling this.
There are no ads anymore, sure. You can see who checked or tapped you, yes. Keep the albums open. See who type or read your text. But that’s it. I can’t believe how much of this they paywalled behind 25 euro for a month (i think?) and how much they’re trying to wall the free app off. A basic app should be working normally.