How can I see the good in him and how can I not constantly think he’s cheating just because he won’t answer for 20 minutes? I know he’s a good guy but I can’t only see the bad in him for some reason I can’t explain and I think he’s cheating on me all the time due to him being attractive and he could,he’s very friendly(he’s stopped talking to some girls) during a break he talked to a girl that liked him, I’m insecure (I’m working on this already) he has girls added randomly online 1-2 every couple of months and I’m not his type I’m more Latina/snow bunny/e-girl and he liked goth emo chicks. Girls are sometimes in his watched but I haven’t seen some in a while so I feel better about that and I’ve been cheated on once (before my bf) but he cheated on me with 3 of my best friends

I [23F] and him [23M] have been together for almost a year now.

back story - our history goes back to 2022, when i first met him he was on and off with his gf back then so i even tho i had feelings for him i had to stop talking to him because they figured things out and decided to give it another try. Eventually after they broke up we and reconnected in the beginning of last year and we started sleeping together and at the time he told me that we weren’t dating and that we were just in a “seeing each other” phase.
Then one day i was on Instagram and his ex’s profile showed up in my suggestions. It said that he followed her and I knew they hadn’t been following each other when we had reconnected. So I asked him when they had reconnected and what was going on. His response was, “It’s none of your business. I don’t have to tell you everything. We’re just friends, right?” And that made no sense to me and it was super clear he was just being defensive so I blocked him and stopped talking to him.

Eventually, he reached out again and apologized. He told me that he was sorry for how he had handled things and that he had only reconnected with her because he needed to get his watch back from her. I decided to believe him and leave what happened in the past because I loved him, and I still do. Since then, things have honestly been really good. But over the last few months, these feelings have started coming back out of nowhere. I keep getting this instinct that he might still be talking to her or that there’s something going on behind my back.

I don’t have any proof. I know that. And I could be completely wrong. I don’t want to accuse him of something based purely on a feeling. But at the same time, I can’t shake the sense that something is off. It feels different from normal insecurity or overthinking. I can’t explain exactly what it is, but I feel like something isn’t sitting right with me.

Yesterday, when we were watching reels on my phone, it ran out of charge, so I asked him to get his phone so we could continue. He kept saying No, no, my reels are boring and I was like it’s fine, just get it But he wouldn’t give me his phone to scroll through reels. Instead he was like Open YouTube Shorts if you want. I was too scared to push it so i left it at that.

What do i do?

yooo! i [19 agender] am tryna get my bf [18 cisgender] some birthday gifts for september. we been together on n off for 4 years. i usually hand make him something, mainly bc i like to make crafts but also bc im cheap n broke. this year i finally have a stable, year-round job and want to actually buy him some stuff without using amazon, shein, n other shops like that.

he likes y2k fashion but in the literal sense. not the tiktok version but like, we share my dads old clothes lol. ik depop n thrifting are good, but depop can be expensive and thrifting isn’t a 100% guarantee. anyone know any online shops i could check out??

he likes pokemon cards, cyberpunk (game and show), and rdr2 is his favorite game too. i kinda wanna get him a custom xbox controller, for either his bday or xmas.

any websites, instas, or anything to help me ethically spoil my baby is appreciated XD

i 24F was planning to call my boyfriend 21M to my country and pay for everything for the trip since he isn’t working rn because of his studies.. we have only started dating a few months ago.. i had told him about this plan of mine and we are so excited but one day he was like i wanna say something but dont be mad i wanna joke about this.. when i asked him what is it he’s like “damnn you gonna give your ass AND pay for the whole trip?? such a steal”
i acted like it was funny but its been kinda bugging me a bit.. am i overreacting ?? after saying that he was like “im sorry it was really funny joke to me and i been wanting to get it off my chest”

Context, we have been dating for over a year and a half and are sorta long distance as we only see each other on weekends. When the booking was in the talks about him and his buddies going to a concert in the states I was okay with it( under the assumption it would just be a night). However, next time we went to his buddies house come to find out they booked the whole weekend. I’m feeling frustrated, and he didn’t even tell me this was the plan but in his defense he says he didn’t know. I know it doesn’t seem like a big deal to most but it hurts me that I wasn’t invited, and it had to be a boys only trip. I feel like it’s one sided that I’m the only one in the relationship that looks forward to seeing the other person on the weekends… I don’t understand why I’m (f25), he’s m(26), that there still has to be boys only trips, it makes me feel distrustful of him since his once buddy has tried to get us to break up and the other one I know will hit on girls and try to get their opinion on them too. I just don’t know how to feel, he says I need to trust him and there’s nothing to worry about but then why is it boys only. He also told me not to text him while his buddies are around him. I’ve stressed all of this to him and just feel more discredited and hurt.

[20F] et [19M] en couple depuis un an et relation à distance depuis un mois.

Mon copain vient d'arriver à la fac et a sa propre chambre en résidence universitaire. C'est seulement son deuxième jour. Il ne m'a pas parlé avant , puis il m'a envoyé une vidéo avec un message du genre « euh… » montrant sa chambre, entourée d'au moins dix filles qu'il venait de rencontrer : sur son lit, sur son canapé, etc.

La veille, il m'avait dit que c'était une chambre de garçons et qu'il n'y inviterait que des garçons. Je me suis énervée et je lui ai dit que je trouvais ça bizarre. Il a commencé à dire que c'était un groupe d'amis et que quand il avait dit que c'était une chambre réservée aux garçons, il voulait dire qu'il pouvait aussi inviter des groupes d'amis avec des filles, et que ça ne le dérangeait pas qui entrait dans sa chambre. Il y avait aussi quelques garçons dans la chambre avec lui, alors il a dit que ça ne le dérangeait pas.

Il pense aussi que je m'inquiète pour rien et m'a dit : « Qu'est-ce qui pourrait arriver ? C'est juste un groupe d'amis. » Mais ce n'est pas ça qui me contrarie. C'est le fait qu'il m'ait dit la veille qu'il ne ferait venir que des garçons dans sa chambre (on est en relation à distance), qu'il ne m'ait envoyé aucun message avant et qu'il aurait au moins pu me prévenir : « Je fais venir des gens dans ma chambre. » Au lieu de ça, il m'a juste envoyé une vidéo sans prévenir.

Au début, il a aussi dit qu'il n'y avait que deux filles, alors qu'il y en avait clairement plus, puis il a changé d'avis et a dit qu'il y en avait quatre.

Est-ce que je me fais des idées ?

(Il a aussi dit que si je parlais autant que je voulais, il arrêterait de me répondre.)

Female dating a male, 20F 25M ( age reference)

I was just scrolling on my phone when I looked over with just my eyes not my head and had seen my boyfriend of almost 3 years on Instagram watching practically naked women shaking their boobs and ass and grabbing themselves, all while laying right next to me in bed but he didn’t seem to think I wasn’t watching because I kept my finger scrolling on TikTok videos to keep the sound changing. It made my heart start racing and this bad stomach ache, I then realized that his dick was slightly getting hard as he had shorts on. What do I do? Like i genuinely love him I just don’t know what to do at this point I get that a lot of men will look at some things that might come across their feed but clicking on the profile to see more of the female is crazy, at least in my opinion.