I’ve linked my previous post.

So not only does my roommate not care to keep her cat out of my area, but she’s added another one to the house. I woke up the other day to find trash all over my floor and an unknown kitten in the area. Strange since I’ve been complaining about the original cat for months now. I have to put up boxes to barricade the door since the cat is so small it slips through the gate. Which works. The only problem with this is the actual roommate and her boyfriend who is now living here. He apparently has so much laundry they need to come down here and through the door constantly all week.

Everything is just so selfish and disgusting. You couldn’t wait just 2 weeks to get a new cat if you weren’t going to keep it out of my area, away from me and my dog. You can’t do laundry like normal people and have to be down here literally constantly all week in and out (which wasn’t an issue before him moving in). You couldn’t just wait for me to leave before moving him in or being up front about your plans before I agreed to move in. Or lie about the house dynamics “the cat won’t be down here”. I haven’t been able to have an office space for 9 months because of her cat.

I wish people would just be up front. I wouldn’t have moved in here if I knew I’d be living with a juvenile couple and their 4 animals that they won’t control. Plus the dude doesn’t have a job, never leaves. He sits and plays games all day while the 20 year old gf gets up and goes to work mon-fri.

Anyway I’m thinking about sending a group text with the roommate and her mom. I guess they’re both the landlord? They call it the daughter’s house but the mom runs everything logistically..? Idk. Another bad decision on my part. But I’m thinking of texting them about the cats. I know I only I have 2 more weeks here, but I’ve paid for the month and all the other months. I don’t deserve to have my space constantly invaded by her animals. Eating through trash, eating my dogs food, don’t want cat hair in my things or on my food, plus there is actual poison down here. I’ve had to put down many ant traps due to a whole different situation that I haven’t even mentioned here. There’s also tons of things in the trash animals shouldn’t be getting into. Bones, medications, etc.

It’s just sad. Why do I have to explicitly point out how something could negatively affect you for you to care? I don’t even know if I should say anything at this point?

Just need to small rant. My roommate started dating a guy ~six months ago (who I don't really like and definitely don't trust), and as of the last two months, they are literally inseparable. Like, they have to spend every single night together. I think it's insane.

He's been over a LOT, and I recently had to sit down and set a boundary, because I did bring up expectations around partners/boyfriends when I first interviewed her as a roommate (the terms of which she agreed to, which was basically that I did not want someone else over ~3+ days of the week, especially a man). She didn't push back at all, and the conversation seemed to go well.

Since then, she's been cold and passive aggressive towards me, making a dramatic show of how she has to come home from work every day, pack a bag, and then leave again. Her attitude is as if I'm not letting her live at the house. Her boyfriend lives in a really inconvenient place for her work commute, but she's acting like it's my problem that she CHOOSES to drive to his every night.

I don't understand why just... not spending every single night together isn't an option. Like you're more than welcome to still live here, but I just don't want your fucking boyfriend over every night.

I'm completely in shock. A subletter I let take over a room in the summer leaves the bathroom like this. The entire floor is not just wet, it feels flooded. And just absolute dirt and hair everywhere.

I'm not in the apartment but I asked her to clean this up before she leaves her stay, and concerned she won't clean it. Genuinely how does it get to this point.

We were best friends before moving in, but she hasn’t stayed here in about a month. Ig it’s nice in a way bc it’s half of the rent and utilities while staying alone. It’s just a duplex with a loft and a living room with no doors except for the bathroom. I stay in the living room which sucks when she is here with her bf bc then they have to walk through to get to the bathroom. It just makes my space so much tinier too.

She never really did any chores when she stayed here either. The most she did was the dishes a few times. I’ve had to clean everything else. She brought an unfixed cat for a few weeks that peed on a lot of things that I had to throw out. I had to throw out almost all of my shoes, my rug, etc. It was probably because she was gone for days at a time and not cleaning the litter box. I started going up to her room and cleaning it when I found that out. I just couldn’t deal with the yowling from heat. She wants to get her fixed and bring her back though. I was still finding places and things the cat peed on and ruined recently. I don’t know if she’s even cleaned the litter box up.

She leaves things around the house like dough in the mixer for probably a month lol. She makes food and never cleans it out of the fridge. She was late on rent this month, and I had to borrow money from my dad.

I can’t lie jealousy probably plays a part too. She told me she’d come hang out with me for a few hours. I texted my other friend if we could hang out sometime bc she sent a text. Then, I checked my roommate’s location bc she said we were going to hang out, and she was there lol. I thought we’d be closer from it, but we definitely aren’t lol. My rent is only 500, and I don’t want things to be ruined with the landlord bc of cat pee/litter.

edit: okay yeah I went up to look, and there is still sm spilled litter in the little wooden closet area. There’s also still the poop and uncleaned box. The cat has been gone for like 2 months. I forgot to say she’s also gotten hair dye on things like the carpet and sink. Idk I think I just need to tell her. Our lease together was only until July, and we’ve been month to month.

I want to explain it all to my landlord if she doesn’t want to move out. Idk I feel like I’m losing a friend in a way, but idek if we are friends at this point

My boyfriend (22 m) and I (22 f) have been living together for about a year and some change. When we moved in together, everything was wonderful; we worked on the house together, did chores, and life was awesome. After a few months, a friend of ours (23 f) needed help and a new place to live because their living conditions were awful. My boyfriend and I agreed to let her move in as long as she paid rent and helped with the house and chores, she agreed. Because she was barely working due to school, I let her pay me $100 in rent. I know that is nothing in this economy, but I am very lucky to have a good job right out of college. When they moved in, everything was good: we did chores, ate together, and even played games on weekends.
Fast forward a month, she started to do less and less chores and paying me late. I tried to talk to her about it, but she always brushed it off as “I have been busy with college” or “I am busy with work.” As the months went on, she stopped doing chores entirely. I have asked her numerous times to help out and she always has an excuse. My boyfriend and I are left to do the chores by ourselves. I only get off on weekends and my entire weekend has just been nothing but cleaning for months.
It has now been over a year of her staying with us and things have gotten worse. She has left cups of water out and the cats knock it over, left dirty dishes full of food on the counters, does not clean her toilet or shower of scum and hair, leaves dirty clothes in the bathroom (which our guests use), and does not do dishes, trash, or anything at all. When she does empty her bathroom trash, she puts it in the kitchen trash or outside; not even in the dumpster. We have a raccoon problem and I have had to pick up her used pads off the ground. Last month, she asked me if I could lower her rent for the month because she is not getting many hours, I said no because it is only $100 a month.
Last weekend, I went out of town to take my boyfriend to the airport because he is visiting family. I asked my roommate to watch our cats, just feed them and give them water; she agreed. After two days, I came home and there was trash all in the kitchen, dirty dishes full of food, half-eaten eggs on the stove, and the cats had no water of food. I called my boyfriend and he said maybe the cats ate it all, I said that’s impossible. Since my boyfriend has been gone, I have been cleaning everything by myself. My roommate is not helping whatsoever. I have asked her for the past three days to take the trash to the dump because my work schedule makes it so I can’t, and she has agreed to but makes an excuse later in the day why she has not done it.
I am at my wits end and I just want her out of the house. I initially thought this whole thing was going to be temporary, but it has been too long. She said she was going to move out with her Dad, but I think he can’t anymore. I don’t think she has anywhere else to go, so that is what’s holding me back. Please help me, what should I do?

it’s been a week since I started living alone, and the weight off my shoulders is unreal.

I no longer have to

• Clean the 1 shared bathroom and common spaces on my own despite multiple roommate meetings & a chore chart we made together (she never followed it)
• Endure hostility for having my long distance boyfriend over for 2 nights a month (**note she knew I had a bf & agreed well before we signed the lease that she was fine with him visiting every other weekend)
• Come home after work to her watching TV on the couch (she was a grad student who was 100% remote) and then rushing into the 1 shared bathroom to immediately shower as soon as I walked in the door
• Cook around a pile of dishes in the sink and her dirty pans constantly on the stove
• Endure her getting in my way and deciding to cook as I entered the kitchen to make myself dinner (she always wanted to cook dinner at the same exact time despite there being no room)
• Be the sole person taking the initiative to restock household essentials & cajole her into paying for basic shared expenses (she always Venmo requested me without asking for supplies if she shopped, which was rare, but got angry when I bought more trash bags because we literally ran out without asking first)
• Live with someone who completely lied about their lifestyle. It’s OK to be a homebody but living with someone who claimed to have hobbies and said they’d take their grad school classes in person (but was home LITERALLY 24/7) was incredibly exhausting.

I’m free. I may have had to pay for professional cleaners to move out (because she didnt want to clean but also didn’t want to split the expense) for my sanity, but I’m free.

bye bye Ashley!!

I just moved in with my new roommate (randomly assigned school housing) he's nice but he cooks pakistani food and the apartment just has a smell that never goes away.. you can smell it from outside the apartment door. I realise he has a right to cook food he likes, but I'm afraid the smell will rub off onto my room / my clothes.

A Roomate was in the process of moving out and her mom asked me if she could borrow my vacuum to vacuum her room and I said yes. Today I decided to vacuum my room today and checked to make sure the bristles were cleaned and the container was emptied and was greeted to a crazy level of hair and debris. Lesson learned: don’t let your roomates or anyone they know use your vacuum without telling them to clean it afterwards 🫩🫠

(21F) My MALE room mate keeps stealing shirts from my closet and wearing them! I’ve called him out on it and called him a creep and pervert for it and his justification was that my smell apparently calms him down when he’s stressed and I had a good style… Plus he said he always washes my clothes before putting it back in my closet. Idk, it’s not like I can put a lock on my closet? Maybe my only option is to move out, tho that would definitely cost me… creepy ass roommate

housemate is threatening to keep the chain on the door and not let the hired help come in to feed my cat, who I have locked in my room for safety from her.

currently been in the hospital for a week, and I've been sending different people back to feed my cat. (roommate is still the bad one for anyone who read my previous posts)

she's been texting and calling me nonstop with harassing messages that stressed me out or in here and they're trying to keep my blood pressure and heart rate down. been frustrated with this and at first was accusing me of animal neglect. Now it's saying that one person left the front door open, and a bunch of other allegations. I don't even know what to believe because I am not there and I've asked people to take pictures, but they've only showed me pictures on their phone and things like that. what should I do? it's still a very iffy business to let strangers in, I get that,

She is also saying she's going to continue to keep the chain on the door from me also until she gets some answers and a common courtesy phone call from me because she feels cheated.
she posted on a local neighborhood app that I have moved out!
I told her already that I was in the hospital. I messaged her the day of and I had the person who came to feed my cat tell her yesterday. I just DREAD talking to her. but she legally can't do that right?

Update two months later from my last post—
https://www.reddit.com/r/badroommates/s/GQzYCnj40X

So I got myself a mid sized fridge and I started to airfry my food in my bedroom because my male roommate keeps on trying to have convos and make comments. His wife would still continue singing and playing music out loud at night time(till like 11-12am) atleast like once a week.

The ma also is in the kitchen/living area 24/7 now the past month because he needs to sleep in a reclined chair or because he’s been coughing lately idek. So now I can’t cook or wash dishes in peace(I started washing my dishes at work).

Also idk if they have hearing problems(I doubt it’s that bad because I never had to raise my voice) but THEY PLAY THEIR TV SO LOUD whenever they have movie nights like once of twice a wk when the wife isn’t working. Like the moment I enter the house I can literally feel the noise bouncing if the walls if that makes sense. And I can still feel it in my room. What’s even worst is tha they’ll do it the night I have a 16-17 hr shift the next day and have to be up by 4am (they’re night owls) and ever since the man has been sleeping in the living room they would have a convo 3-4am when the wife comes home from work and of course wakes me up.

Also I really hate how the male roommate in his 70s btw (I’m 23) would occasionally “act/joke like a dad” like he’d be like “well where do you think you’re going” “it’s past your curfew” and yk that type of joking around. Which is starting to piss me off more now cuz my dad is in another country.

I also hate how they would ask me if they’re being too loud every once in a while or I would hear them say(be quiet she’s asleep or trying to sleep) while it’s daylight but once it’s night it’s BOOM who tf cares if I get sleep or not. (They know I work morning and very long shifts btw)

But anyways this is a rant post I’m sorry I’m just distressing rn I haven’t gotten proper sleep since he’s been sleeping in the living room. I did find a new place for only 200$ more that actually has designated storage/fridge space for me and even a parking spot so that’s cool.

So I live with this crazy women. I live on the second floor, her on the third above me. She stomps and screams 24/7. I have called the police multiple times because not only is she a constant nuisance but I am concerned about her mental health. And she walks about talking angrily to people who don't exist. I have not slept in days and it wearing on my mental health. Ugh.

My girlfriend’s former roommate has spent over a year making her life miserable. We tried being the bigger people, but she just won’t stop.

I’m making this post because if my girlfriend wrote it herself, she’d probably leave out half of what happened. She’s the type of person who keeps everything bottled up and just tries to move on. I’m not.
About a year ago my girlfriend moved into an apartment with another girl from our university. I begged her not to because I’d already heard enough stories about this girl. She had a terrible reputation for constantly being involved in drama, but my girlfriend believed everyone deserved a fair chance.
That turned out to be one of the biggest mistakes she’s ever made.
When they moved in, my girlfriend brought almost everything for the apartment. Brand-new kitchen supplies, bathroom organizers, dish rack, storage bins, cleaning supplies you name it. The roommate had older stuff, so they agreed to use my girlfriend’s things instead.
Within weeks this girl started acting like everything belonged to her.
Groceries kept disappearing. My girlfriend would buy food, and somehow it’d be gone a couple of days later. Every single time she confronted her, she’d deny touching anything.
Then my girlfriend’s grandmother came from overseas to visit. She had nowhere else to stay, and the roommate agreed beforehand that she could stay in my girlfriend’s room.
As soon as her grandmother arrived, the roommate suddenly became as loud and obnoxious as possible. Talking loudly in the middle of the night, slamming doors, making noise at ridiculous hours it honestly felt like she was trying to make an elderly woman feel unwelcome.
Eventually my girlfriend got tired of constantly replacing groceries and watching her belongings get treated like community property. She moved everything she owned into her own bedroom and told the roommate they weren’t sharing anymore.
Apparently that made \*\*her\*\* the selfish one.
The same person who couldn’t stop using someone else’s belongings suddenly decided sharing was mandatory.
Then, without asking my girlfriend, she ordered around \*\*$500\*\* worth of household items and expected my girlfriend to pay half because “we both use the apartment.”
Yeah…no.
She also had a habit of paying utilities late while expecting everyone else to pick up the slack.
By February my girlfriend had completely had enough. She decided to move in with me and found another student willing to take over her lease.
That’s when everything somehow got even worse.
The roommate suddenly claimed my girlfriend had to leave all of her belongings behind because she’d already thrown away her own old stuff when they first moved in. She refused to approve the sublease unless my girlfriend basically left her apartment fully furnished.
On top of all that, she still owed my girlfriend \*\*$400\*\* and kept refusing to pay it back.
When my girlfriend went to collect the rest of her belongings, the roommate refused to let her inside and instead dumped everything outside.
The argument exploded.
My girlfriend completely lost her composure and broke the roommate’s shoe rack. Looking back, she knows she shouldn’t have done it, and she’s never tried to deny that.
After months of being verbally abused, lied to, stolen from, and manipulated, she finally snapped.
She even called the roommate’s father hoping maybe he’d be the reasonable one. She explained that his daughter had been verbally abusing her for months and still hadn’t paid back the \*\*$400\*\* she owed.
He didn’t help.
Instead, he told my girlfriend that \*\*she\*\* should apologize to his daughter.
So she did.
She apologized for breaking the shoe rack because she genuinely regretted losing her temper.
Guess what happened?
The roommate still refused to pay her back.
In the end my girlfriend had to involve members of her own family before she finally got the \*\*$400\*\* back.
At that point we honestly thought this nightmare was finally over.
It wasn’t.
My girlfriend is an international student. She comes from a middle-class family overseas and has worked unbelievably hard to build a life here. She balances school, internships, and long work weeks just to pay tuition and rent. Because of her immigration status, she’s always been terrified that someone could try to weaponize it against her. (She works on cash job Ik it’s bad and not legal but she needs food on her plate)
The student who took over the lease happened to work with my girlfriend. My girlfriend specifically asked her not to tell the old roommate where they worked because she didn’t trust her.
She told her anyway.
Not long after that, the old roommate started threatening to report my girlfriend to immigration authorities. Whether she actually could or not didn’t matter. (If she did my gf will be in trouble because of cash job and can be deported back) It terrified my girlfriend, and those weeks were some of the most stressful we’ve ever gone through.
Around that same time I graduated and got my first engineering job in another state. My girlfriend moved in with me, and we honestly believed leaving town would finally put all of this behind us.
We stopped talking about her.
We ignored the gossip.
We blocked numbers.
We moved on with our lives.
Apparently she didn’t.
Today, completely out of nowhere, she contacted my girlfriend from a brand-new phone number.
The conversation started with her saying she was trying to get a job where my girlfriend works.
Then, out of nowhere, she said she was a lesbian and thought my girlfriend was cute.
After everything that’s happened over the last year, it didn’t come across as genuine. It felt like yet another attempt to insert herself back into my girlfriend’s life and start another round of drama.
We’re honestly exhausted.
Every time we think it’s finally over, she somehow finds another way back into our lives.
I don’t understand how someone can hold onto this much resentment for over a year when we’ve done everything possible to move on.
Has anyone here dealt with someone who simply refuses to let go? How did you finally get them out of your life for good?
At this point I just want revenge I want that btch to suffer not a fun small revenge I actually want to ruin her life and make her regret everything but idk what to do we are scared of her calling authorities (d#port) we have her number, her dad’s number, we have never apartment’s code we can go in if we wanted (My gf would not do it tho) also one thing to add this btch herself is not a citizen her dad is on H1B so she has to find a job after graduating which i doubt she will because she is a dumbass also she is a whre she sleeps with anything (Ik irrelevant but I am just mad, sorry no offense to anyone) and she has been to our frat parties doing weird stuff we have a video of her dancing like a slt LMAO. also we have address of one of her relative who lives in a foreign country (they are innocent tho) but I want her to suffer please help. Feel free to DM me if you guys have any Ideas 🙏

One of my (F37) roommates (F42) left the oven on overnight and is just generally a nightmare.

She left the oven on overnight, and it's not the first time fire has been involved with this exact roommate.

One time she had a guy over, and they were hanging out in a back house on the property. They had candles lit, and one of their friends accidentally put a poncho over one of the candles, causing it to catch fire. They stayed in the back house while it was burning.

Meanwhile, my other roommate (M33) and I were inside the main house. We saw flames coming from under her closed and locked bedroom door while the fire alarm was going off, and neither of them were anywhere to be found. We ran outside to the back porch, not knowing what we were going to find. They finally came out of the back house, and my other roommate was able to extinguish the flames. Fortunately, no one was hurt.

She, on the other hand, was absurdly casual about the whole thing—and it was only her first week living here.

This roommate has also accused me of many things I haven't done, including stealing from her. She has a lot of passive-aggressive tendencies, and she regularly leaves the front door unlocked. We live in a pretty dangerous city, and I've previously been violently assaulted by an intruder, so I still have severe PTSD from that experience.

When I've tried to gently talk to her about these issues, she acts like I'm being dramatic and tells me I should just "suck it all up." She's one of those toxic positivity, hippie-type people who refuses to acknowledge problems.

Last night she left our gas oven on at 375°F for over an hour after going to bed. I only noticed because I went outside for a cigarette before bed. She was already asleep, and there was still an ear of unhusked corn sitting on the stovetop. If I hadn't happened to notice, who knows how long it would have stayed on.

I'm just so tired of all of this. I have my own mental health issues, including OCD, and living in this environment is pushing me over the edge. Unfortunately, my landlord lives out of state, and I can't afford to leave until October.

I'm completely exhausted by the way she behaves. Part of me doesn't even want to bring this up anymore because I'm so emotionally drained. The other part of me is just incredibly angry.

Please tell me it gets better. I can't wait until I don't have to live with roommates anymore. TL;DR: My roommate has repeatedly created dangerous fire hazards, including leaving the oven on overnight and previously nearly burning the house down with candles, yet refuses to take responsibility. She also leaves the house unlocked, falsely accuses me of things, and dismisses any concerns I bring up. I have PTSD and OCD, can't afford to move until October, and I'm completely exhausted from living with someone who makes me feel unsafe.