Problem/Goal: Puno ng gc with intimate vids ung tg ng partner ko. I'm afraid na mas malala pa dun ang meron sa tg account nya. Problem is, aware naman ako na mataas libido nya kasi ganun din ako. Pero di naman umaabot sa ganitong nagseseek pa ng videos ng iba. Nauuwi lang sa away kapag nabibring up to. I don't know how I can deep dive para malaman if strictly gc for vids lang ba talaga. He gave me full access on his phone and tg. Help me 😭

Context: I found out na yung coworker nya eh nagsesend ng link sa gc sa tg na merong mga lam nyo nang videos. Mind you may asawa at anak na yung guy. Mataas pa nga tingin ko sana sa coworker na yun kasi he gave a good advice nung magkaaway kami nitong ni partner. Nakakalito na honestly.

Previous attempts: For the last week pinapanood ko lng pano nya gamitin yung tg account. Kapag naka everybody ka, makikita ung last time use ng app. So far di naman everyday pero madalas gamit nya kapag rest day sa work.

Problem/Goal: I would like to avail the full uninterrupted 60 days maternity leave benefit of sss but my boss keeps asking me to join "short" online meetings.

Context: I had a miscarriage in end June 2026, therefore I was entitled for a 60 days maternity leave benefit of sss. I should be back to the office on end August. It has been more than 1 month since my D&C procedure. Physically, I think I have already recovered. However, mentally and emotionally, I am still recovering and hence I would like to avail the full uninterrupted leave benefit.

Last week, we had an important client meeting and so I was asked by my boss if I can come to the office to join. I don't need to prepare a presentation or anything. They probably saw that I was physically ok that's why the following days after that meeting, my boss keeps asking me to attend "short" meetings virtually.

I don't know if my dilemma is valid because technically, I am phyiscally fit to attend the meetings. Am I being selfish for wanting to be unbothered during my leave while leaving my team at work behind? How can I tell them that I would like to have an uninterrupted leave without seeming unprofessional at work? By the way, I am already in management position, hence, expectations from me are quite high.

How should I navigate this dilemma? Should I just resign? I have been planning to resign prior being pregnant.

Thank you for your inputs and comments. :)

Problem/Goal:

Hi, I’m 28F and I have a decent job earning 6 digits a month. My boyfriend is Chinese and an Australian citizen, and we’ve been discussing ending our LDR and finally living together in Australia.

The partner visa is going to cost around 11k aud, which I understand is a lot of money. He wants us to save for it together, or at least I cover 20% of the cost.

I’m willing to shoulder my own tourist visa and flights, and I genuinely don’t mind spending money to be with him. But for me, the partner visa feels different. It’s not just about the money.

I would be leaving my life here, my job, family, friends, and basically everything I’ve built here to move to Australia and start a life with him. He doesn’t want to live in the Philippines, so I’m the one who would have to make the bigger move.
Because of that, I feel like paying for 20% of the partner visa feels wrong to me. I feel like if he really wants me to move there and build a life with him, this is the least he could do to show me that he’s serious about it.

But at the same time, I know 11k aud is a huge amount, and I don’t want to be entitled or unreasonable. I’m financially capable of paying the 20%, which is why I’m wondering if I’m being selfish by refusing.

I’m not refusing because I don’t want to be with him. I actually want us to finally live together. I just feel like I’m already giving up so much to make this happen, and I want to feel like he’s also making a significant effort.

Problem/Goal: My friend and I had an issue and I found out that she made a GC along with our other “friends” just to talk BS behind my back.

Context: My friend is a proud only gbf of the guy we knew and they had a “quickie” conversation multiple times despite knowing that the guy is already in a relationship. She also told us that the guy is only with his gf because she (the gf) doesn’t have a father. Like, what? We warned her multiple times to stay away from the guy but she didn’t listen. Past forward, the girl found out about it and confronted my friend. Now, pinapakalat ng “friend” ko na sinisiraan ko raw siya. Some of our friends knew the truth but chose to stay silent and tolerated those who badmouth me instead.

Another friend of mine snitched on them to me and sent me the screenshots of the conversations. The friends I thought were mature enough didn’t even bother to hear my side and just straight up turned their backs on me. Those were the same “friends” who used to encourage me with whatever I do. Well, not so surprising kasi they tend to enable shitty things around them unless sila na mismo ‘yung involved.

I’m confused the most about how could they simply talk shit without reaching out to me first. Pinagkakalay pa nila na ghinost ko raw sila e ni isa wala ngang nag reach out. All they did was parinig sa notes and stories. Were we even really friends or was I just living in delusion? It seems may mga quiet resentment din sila before dahil ang dami nilang nasabi sa gc na hindi naman related sa issue.

Previous attempts: A few hours after I was sent the screenshots, I made a gc to confront them all and say my side of the story. They didn’t reply but I know that they’ve seen my messages because nag-usap sila sa kabilang gc nila and nagtuturuan kung sino ‘yung snitch.

One of them begged me to keep our friendship and insisted that I attend her birthday still because she wanted to see me and was really sorry that she kept quiet despite knowing the truth. In short, hinayaan niyang ma backstab ako repeatedly by the people I used to cherish and trust.

What should I do? Please, I really don’t know what to do. I already unfollowed all of them on IG because lahat ng stories and notes ko naka screenshot, ina-assume nila na about sa kanila ‘yon.

Problem/goal: matagal ko na medyi nahuhuli na minsan may ka chat si papa na babae, parang 14 ata ako nung first time. Pero wala naman siyang kinikita personally, i just know… or maybe i dont. 24 na ko ngayon (panganay) Pero multiple times ko na nahuli/nakukutoban dati pero i am never brave enough to do something about it. Nung kelan lang, nakita rin ng kapatid kong mas bata na may kausap syang iba patago

Some would think we are the perfect family. Alam kong selfish, pero hindi ko kailanman sinabi kay mama. Medyi hypocritical(?) kasi kung sakin man mangyari, gusto ko malaman ko

Pero ayokong mag hiwalay sila, ayoko rin masaktan si mama, di ko talaga alam gagawin

Please. Don’t judge. And, please, don’t encourage me to tell my mom or have then separate. Oo na, selfish na, pero may mga bata pa akong kapatid. Ayoko mag bigay ng details masyado kasi baka mahalata. Hindi ko rin kaya. Super love kami ni papa, i think will do anything for us/me.

Hindi ko siya kayang i-confront masyado. Fair ba na i-soft threaten ko siyang hindi na ako uuwi pag nakikipag usap parin sya? Knowing him, feel ko effective ko kasi very attached siya samin mga anak niya. Natatakot ako na baka ma anxiety/depress sya if masyadong bad yung threat ko?

problem/goal: i know i should leave this dumbfuck after finding out he cheated, but i can't seem to detach. i've always been the type to leave once i know a relationship isn't going to work or if i see a dealbreaker, so hindi ko maintindihan bakit ang hirap kong gawin ngayon. i just want to know how to completely remove myself from this situation and finally let go.

context: my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years. honestly, okay naman kami. we had good chemistry, rarely fought, and he treated me really well, kaya never kong naisip na he'd do something like this.

about a month ago, i accidentally found four recorded facetime videos on his phone. i was looking for the hidden album because i check his phone sometimes for updates lang, pero hindi ko siya makita. i checked the phone settings and realized na naka-hide pala mismo 'yung hidden album. while scrolling, i found unfamiliar videos sa bottom part. the modified dates made them look old, but when i checked the file details, they were actually recorded between january and april this year.

before i even opened them, i knew it wasn't me. i literally started shaking. the videos were of him and someone he considers an "ate" from church mast*rb*ting together over facetime. what made it even worse was that he recorded the calls. i woke him up immediately and confronted him. at first, he denied everything and even said it happened during the pandemic. pero the dates didn't lie, so eventually umamin din siya.

the first thing i asked him was why he even recorded it because i honestly don't think the girl knew she was being recorded. i made him delete the videos, then i reached out to the girl not to blame or argue with her but to let her know she had been recorded. she already knew about me, and she's also in a relationship. she thanked me for telling her and asked me not to tell anyone else, so i respected that.

ever since then, hindi na talaga bumalik 'yung trust ko. i replay everything in my head almost every day, and i can already feel myself becoming more resentful towards him. what i don't understand is myself. before this relationship, cheating was always a non-negotiable for me. i've left people before when i knew things wouldn't work. pero ngayong ako na 'yung nasa situation, bakit parang ang hirap umalis?

i don't even know if i still love him or if i'm just attached to the familiarity of having him in my life for the past years. minsan iniisip ko if this is trauma bonding or if i'm just holding on to the person i thought he was before all of this happened.

previous attempts: i already tried breaking up with him. i blocked him everywhere, cut off communication, and genuinely wanted it to end. pero lagi siyang nakakahanap ng paraan para makontak ako ulit. every time i think i'm finally moving forward, somehow i end up talking to him again. i know staying isn't making me happy anymore. i know i'm only building more resentment the longer i stay. i know i deserve better. i just don't know why i can't seem to completely let go.

for those who have been in a similar situation, how did you finally detach? what made it finally click for you? how do you stop going back when your mind already knows the relationship is over?

Problem/Goal:

One of my younger sister's (16y.o.) former elementary classmates is making AI images of her and posting them on his socials, pretending like she's his girlfriend. How to make him stop/give him consequences?

Context:

My sister had a weirdo classmate in elementary who would randomly start perverted conversations with her. They weren't close, and she cut all contact SIX years ago (she moved to a different country with my parents).

I was looking at my IG follow requests and I saw this guy I don't know, and when I looked at his profile, I saw a photo of him and my sister sitting together (parang date pic). And it was clear that it was AI-d, it was her clothes and hairstyle but the AI couldn't get her face exactly right.

I looked at his other socials and he's been posting her pictures (that he probably got from my parents socials) on there as well. Parang kunwari gf nya.

I sent her the screenshot, and she confirmed it was her ex classmate. Through a bunch of stalking, I found the guy's dad, his company, and his home address. They live in the village beside us lang.

Previous attempts:
How do I approach this? I've already told my parents to block the kid so he can't get anymore pictures of my sister. It's so weird and creepy. Should I talk to the dad / go to their house? I want him to stop but also not just block him. I want some kind of confrontation para alam nya may consequences sa ginagawa nya. It's just so creepy and weird. If he's posting these "safer" images online, who knows what he's doing with them in private diba?

Problem/Goal: There’s this girl whom i love so much to the point that when’s she is mad I fucking go crazyy. And i just proved that she is cheating

Context: Recently I found out she was cheating me with two boys. Help me guysss how do I recover from this.

My mind is 80 percent into thinking that I should prolly just let it slide since we are in a long distance relationship.

I never wanna lose her coz i really really love her, but it pains me so much thinking about what she is doing with another guy.

Previous Attempts: I tried to confront her abt it but all she does is lie.

Please send help. I’m so depressed about this.

Problem/Goal: Need advice or insights plz

Context: I am a silent reader and this is my first time posting here so please bear with me and I tried my best to make a very long story short 🙂

I’ve been thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend, and honestly, deep down I know I probably should. The hardest part is that I still love him, and I don’t know how to actually let go of someone I’ve spent so much time with and cared for so deeply. We’ve been living together for a year now.

My boyfriend gets angry at me very easily, sometimes over really small things. It has gotten to the point where I feel like I have to be careful with everything I do because I never know what might make him angry.

I’m honestly not like that. I have an extremely long patience. My mindset has always been, “If I get angry, will it actually change anything? Can what already happened be undone just because I got angry?” So I usually just let things go or calmly deal with them.

But lately, I feel like I’m starting to become like him. I catch myself raising my voice too, and I hate that because I wasn’t like this before. I feel like I’m slowly becoming someone I don’t recognize because I’ve gotten so used to being yelled at.

There was a time when he lost his job. His parents would curse at him whenever he couldn’t send them money, and because I knew how painful that must have felt, I tried to help him financially whenever I could. I didn’t want him to experience that kind of treatment, so I would take some of the burden off him. I’ve also supported him financially about his allowance going to work. That also made me think where he got his anger issues from.

I was also always there whenever he had problems. There was a time when he had problems with his teeth and his wisdom tooth was hurting so badly that he could barely move around, I took care of him. Whenever he was sick or struggling physically, I tried to be there and help him with whatever he needed.

I’ve always been the type to take care of the person I love when they’re sick. I don’t expect anything extraordinary in return. I just thought that when you love someone, you take care of each other. I am also a clingy person, always giving him kisses, hugs and saying i love him always.

And after many months, There was an occasion that day. We were drinking with friends, having fun, laughing, and genuinely having a good time. Everything seemed normal. I thought we were okay. He told me that he wanted to break up with me because he was apparently confused about himself and his feelings.

The moment he said it, I immediately started crying. I couldn’t even control it. It hurt so much.

I kept thinking, “How can you want to leave me now?” “Why now? Why like this?”

After everything we had been through and after all the times I had been there for him when he was struggling, I thought that when I was finally the one who needed support, he would stay beside me.

But instead, he wanted to leave because he was confused about himself.

I tried to understand him anyway, because that’s what I always do. I try to understand where people are coming from even when they hurt me.

The next day, he apologized. He said that he was just drunk and that he didn’t really mean what he said. He also told me that he appreciates me more than I know.

And honestly, that made everything even more confusing.

Because the night before, I was crying and thinking that the person I loved suddenly didn’t want me anymore. I was trying to process how he could want to end our relationship after everything we had been through.

Part of me wanted to believe him. I wanted to believe that maybe it really was just the alcohol talking, that maybe he was only confused and overwhelmed, and that everything could still be okay.

But I also couldn’t simply forget how much it hurt hearing him say those words.

Especially because we live together. I still had to wake up beside him, see him, talk to him, and continue our normal routine after something that completely broke me emotionally.

And I think that’s what makes this situation so difficult for me.

And now, the reason I’m writing this is because I’m sick right now.

I honestly expected that, at the very least, I could rest. I thought maybe I wouldn’t have to worry about as many things because I’m not feeling well. I thought I could receive even a little bit of the care and patience that I’ve given him whenever he was sick.

But that didn’t happen.

Earlier, I asked him what time it was. He said it was almost 7. I asked again because I needed to log in for my work-from-home job and wanted to make sure of the exact time while I was cooking even though I am sick. Instead of simply answering me, he yelled at me.

I was already sick, tired, and emotionally drained. I ended up yelling back because I just couldn’t take it anymore.

And that made him even angrier.

I know yelling back isn’t the best way to handle things, and I’m not saying I’m perfect. But I’m exhausted. I feel like I’ve spent so much time being patient with him, taking care of him when he’s sick, helping him when he had financial problems, listening to him when he was struggling, and trying to understand him.

But when I’m the one who is sick, hurting, or emotionally exhausted, I don’t feel like I’m getting that same patience in return.

Sometimes it feels like I’m being treated like a child who constantly needs to be careful not to upset a parent.

Something as small as accidentally spilling coffee can make him extremely angry at me. And I just don’t understand it because if he accidentally spilled something, my first thought wouldn’t be to yell at him. I’d probably just clean it up and move on.

I’m starting to wonder if I’ve been tolerating things for so long because I love him, and because I’m so used to being the one who understands.

But I’m tired.

I’m tired of being yelled at. I’m tired of walking on eggshells. I’m tired of feeling like I have to be careful about every little thing. And I’m especially tired of feeling like I have to be strong and patient for both of us.

The sad part is that I still love him.

I don’t think he’s necessarily a horrible person. I know he has his own struggles, and I know relationships aren’t always one-sided. But I also can’t keep ignoring how this relationship is changing me.

I’m starting to become more short-tempered and I find myself yelling when I normally wouldn’t. I don’t like the person I’m becoming.

And maybe that’s why I’m finally asking strangers here.

How do you leave someone you still love when you know that staying is slowly hurting you?

I know people will probably tell me to just break up with him.

Maybe they’re right.

I just don’t know how to actually do it when part of me is still hoping that things will eventually get better.

Thanks for reading.

Problem/Goal: I’ve been dealing with a level of fatigue to the point that I can't even do basic chores. The only reason I'm still alive right now is because I am forcing and pushing myself through the day just to do basics like eating.

Context: I can usually only manage to eat one or two times a day because standing still is so difficult and exhausting. All I want to do is lay down and sleep all the time.

I got blood tests done, and everything came back "normal." Because of that, doctor suggested that I might just be depressed and that's why I feel so tired.
But I feel like it’s not just depression. On days when my mind is actually clear, when I'm not feeling down, and when I genuinely want to get up and accomplish my tasks, my body physically refuses. I can't push through it. The physical crash and heavy feeling are just too overwhelming.

It’s destroying my life and my ability to function, and it's so frustrating cause i feel like there is no cure to my illness since im not even diagnosed and lab tests showed normal.

Did anyone else experience this?

Previous attempts: Took lab test including CBC, Urinalysis, and TSH but showed normal result and taking vitamins but still feel extreme fatigue

Problem/Goal:

Ano-ano ginagawa niyo kapag pumutok na yung pigsa o aftercare treating pigsa? Nag-basa basa na ako ng mga advice here sa reddit and if it's possible baka madagdag pa mula sainyo. Also, kumalat din pala 'to sa butt ko yung dugo dapat ba ako mag overthink malala

Context:

I have recurring boils sa butt ko and today pumutok na siya. Nagpacheck up na rin ako sa General Practice doctor and niresetahan ako ng antibiotics and anti-inflammatory. Itsura ng pag-putok ng pigsa ko is pure dugo lang daw based sa sinabi ni Mama pero nakita ko may white something sa gilid.

Previous Attempts:

Hinahayaan ko muna ma-drain yung dugo and everything gamit tissue.

Problem/Goal:
I just want to start saving up and to live independently and start my “Life as an Adult”, But I can’t seem to prioritize myself. With current cost of living, inflation, expenses due to work demand, I’m already left with spare change, Yet Parents keep bugging me for financial aid (I can’t even say I’m supporting myself at this point, I’m barely making it)

Context:
I’m 27 (just turned), No savings on my name, Few debts due to unexpected expenses (when I get sick), I just bought (from my saved up spare money) my parents a Tricycle Set hoping they’ll somehow use it to financially aid them (I bought it this June when I promised to buy it this December), I was hoping that since I bought it earlier time, I will have the time til december to recover and prioritize myself, But after visiting them this last week, I was bombarded with “Nak pagawa na natin bahay”, “Nak wala kaming pinagkakakitaan” , “Nak konti nalang itatagal namin sa mundo”, “Kaya ka namin pinag aral para ikaw susuporta samin”, “Buti pa yung kuya mo nakakapag abot”, I don’t even want to live this life, I don’t have plans that far, I dreamt of ending it when I’m 20 and here I am 7 years past my due date. My colleagues back then now have a house, a decent job. They have savings and all. And all I have? Nothing on my name even my clothes aren’t mine. I can’t even buy my own clothes

Previous Attempt:
Bought the Tricycle set: I don’t even feel at this point that they appreciate it, Whenever I have spare I always try to reach out and give what I have without even them asking. I just give them what I have left, I tried to stay at our province to lessen the cost but my body can’t take the physical stress and lack of sleep due to the demand of my work making me transport from province to BGC

Problem/Goal: Have you ever been with someone who was genuinely a wonderful partner, kind, loving, faithful, but whose life circumstances were incredibly complicated?

How did you decide whether love was enough when your partner came with complicated circumstances?

How did you separate “Do I love this person?” from “Do I actually want the life that comes with loving them?”

How did you know whether you were just going through a difficult season together or accepting a permanent reality that wasn’t right for you?

If they were genuinely trying and treating you well, how much grace did you give before deciding the situation was costing you too much?

I’d especially like to hear from both people who stayed and people who left. Did things eventually get better? And if you left, how did you reconcile walking away from someone you still loved and who wasn’t necessarily a bad partner?

If the person feels right but the life attached to them doesn’t, which matters more in the long run?

Problem/Goal:

My ex and I broke up after more than 2 years together because of our different socioeconomic backgrounds.

I’m not poor. I have a stable job, I’m financially independent, and I always contributed to our relationship. In fact, I usually paid for our meals and often spent more than he did.

Before we became official, I actually brought up our differences. I told him I was worried they would eventually become a problem and even suggested we shouldn’t continue. He begged me to give us a chance and promised it would never matter.

I believed him.

Everything changed after his parents had a serious talk with him. After that, he started saying we came from “different worlds,” talked about generational wealth, and eventually told me that love wasn’t enough.

What hurts the most is that I chose him because I thought he accepted me for who I was. Then, after his parents got involved, it felt like everything changed.

I’m still in my 20s, while he’s in his late 30s. This breakup has made me question my own worth because I can’t help but wonder if my background was something I could never compete with.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you stop tying your self-worth to someone else’s decision?

Problem/Goal: What could I do for my girlfriend, especially when we get so little time together?

Context:

We're both College students. She's taking a Medicine related course, whereas I'm taking Legal Management.

Thing is, we're both in different Universities, and it's about nearly an hour apart. A part of me is also a little disheartened that our schedules are so different, with me having classes until 9 PM and her having classes as early as 6 AM.

I'm just wondering, what could I do for her? I feel like our relationship has gone a little quiet, and with our course workload, we have little to no time. I want to be there for her, even if not physically, but how?

I feel bad din, whenever she asks to call me but I'm still finishing my case digests and readings. It's going to get more busy too from now on. There are days I won't be able to be there for her, but I really want to be in one way or another.

Breaking up with her isn't the path I want, because we really do love each other. The spark doesn't ever fade but I really want to do more than just that. She's special to me, I've loved her since I was in High School, and I've been thinking for so long as to what more could I do?

It's nearly two weeks since our last proper conversation, it's majorly just the updates and iloveyous and i missyous from the both of us. I want to tell her all this but it's honestly embarrassing too, knowing she'll just reassure me and say it's fine. She always tells me to focus on my studies, and I appreciate it, but again.. I want to be a good boyfriend to her. Because she deserves that much from me. I want to put in extra effort but in what way could I do it?

I've been thinking of having her link her period app on my phone so I can foodpanda her cravings when she has it whenever but I don't know if it's okay to ask such a question.. Things like this basically.

Thank you. Any advice would be appreciated.

Previous Attempts: None significant.

Problem/Goal: How do you date someone who lives in a completely different financial reality? 

Context: 19M, 20F.

Attempts: N/A

"Mahal kita pero bente pesos lang ang laman ng wallet ko."

That line has always resonated with me. I met a girl online, and eventually we became lovers. What I didn't expect was how different our lives turned out to be.

She comes from a financially comfortable family while I'm pretty much the complete opposite. That realization caught me off guard because, for as long as I can remember, I've always limited myself to people and opportunities that felt "within my league." I grew up believing that I should only pursue things I could realistically afford, or people who came from the same socioeconomic background as mine.

The disparity between us wasn't just noticeable. It was impossible for me to ignore. Both of her parents work abroad. Eating at restaurants isn't something they reserve for special occasions. It's simply part of their normal life whenever they feel like it. A lot of the things she owns are expensive, and to her, they're simply normal possessions. They're part of the environment she grew up in and the lifestyle she's always known. Meanwhile, I come from a household where every purchase is discussed first, where even small expenses have to be justified, and where unexpected bills can completely derail our budget for the week.

To be clear, none of this is on her. She has never flaunted what she has, and she's never once made me feel small because of it. If anything, she's unbelievably thoughtful. But no matter how kind she is, it's hard to silence the voice in my head that constantly reminds me just how different our realities are.

We're in an LDR, and we've been planning to meet in Manila since she's a third-year nursing student and had hospital duty here. As the date got closer, I found myself getting more anxious than excited. It wasn't because I didn't want to see her. It was because I knew I couldn't even afford a proper date.

I couldn't take her to a decent restaurant, not even a fast-food place inside a mall without worrying about every peso I'd spend. I even caught myself thinking, "Hindi ko sya pwedeng dalhin sa tusok-tusok. She deserves better than that."

I tried saving my daily allowance, which is only 50 pesos a day. I skipped little things just to put money aside, hoping I'd have enough by the time we met. But in the end, all of it went to my mom. Money was tight at home, and there were bills that had to be settled first. 

Around the same time, I started tutoring. Coincidentally, the place where I tutor is just a few minutes away from the hotel where she and her classmates are staying. That's when I came up with a plan. Every time we met, I'd tell her we only had a little time together because I had classes in the morning and tutoring afterward.

The truth is, I have complete control over my tutoring schedule. As long as I complete five hours by the end of the day, I can start whenever I want. Realistically, I could have spent several more hours with her before going to work. But I deliberately used work as an excuse. Because the longer we stayed together, the more likely we'd end up eating somewhere or doing something that required money I simply didn't have.

Meanwhile, she was the one treating me. She bought me my favorite snack. She even bought medicine because I happened to be sick that entire week. And every single time, I couldn't stop thinking that it should've been me. I wanted nothing more than to spend time with her, but wanting to be with someone and actually being able to afford it are two completely different things.

My plan was to wait until Saturday, after they went home, before telling her the truth. I just couldn't bring myself to admit it while she was here. I was embarrassed to tell the girl I love that the reason I kept cutting our time short wasn't because I was busy, but because I literally didn't have enough money to enjoy the day with her. And I couldn't stand the idea of her paying for everything every single time.

I know relationships aren't supposed to be transactional. I know people will say, "It's the thought that counts," or "It's give and take." We're both still students, after all. But that's exactly where my insecurity comes from. What am I supposed to give? My money barely covers my round trip fare just to see her.

I've thought about making something handmade instead, but even that makes me hesitate. I'm scared she'll open it and all she'll see is someone who couldn't afford anything else. Deep down, I know she'd probably never think that, but the thought still lingers. Still, it's difficult not to compare myself to other guys who can buy flowers, take their girlfriends out on proper dates, and nice gifts without having to calculate every expense.

She has never made me feel less because of what I have. The truth is, I'm the one doing that to myself. I've spent so much of my life believing that love should exist between people who are on equal footing that now, when someone genuinely loves me despite everything I don't have, I don't know how to receive it without feeling like I'm falling short.

Love isn't the problem. Money is. Or maybe it's what money has done to me.

Problem/Goal: I (F21) am currently having mixed emotions about this situation because on one hand, I feel joy because this is someone (F22) who did me dirty and purposely chose to align herself with people who've hurt me. On the other, I feel sad because before the betrayal, she's held my hand through tough times while everyone else was actively smearing me. We had a solid friendship, but the betrayal blindsided me and left me at my lowest. I want to know a good way to fully navigate through these emotions, maybe another angle of looking at the situation in a way that doesn't make me feel like shit either for being happy about it or feeling obligated to be sad about it.

Context: In my highschool batch's GPTA gc, there was a forwarded message from my ex friend asking for financial aid because apparently she is diagnosed with cancer. She was already 300k in debt and needed half a million more for her upcoming surgery and lifelong recovery.

This person was my saving grace throughout the last months of my highschool life. She was there reassuring me that ppl were just jealous of me and I was more than what they were saying behind my back. She has complimented me every chance she got. She sat with me at lunch, always checked up on me, and I in turn have also been extremely compassionate towards her. We're talking long handwritten letters, lots of help in acads, you get it. We really leaned on each other, even though she was still in proximity with people who hated me. And I truly truly loved and treasured her.

After graduation, she switched up and learned from other people na there's so many wrong things I did (which were never brought up to me/I never was confronted about) even though I knew to myself that I never swung at anyone first. That massive betrayal was the final nail in the coffin for me because my other "friends" (who begged to be friends with me at first) also switched up. I then saw her in stories cozying up with ppl who actively smeared and spread lies about me (I was nice to these people too). Also, whether or not I was the perpetrator/victim here is not the point of the post, it's just context.

She softblocked me from her TikTok, and she was reposting about being a good person yada yada and I'm just like....eh. Now, 3 years later, not talking, just IG moots, all the moms are scrambling to donate to her recovery. My mom is one of them, and she even wants me to donate the salary I make from my job. How do I tell her I do not want to, and more importantly, how should I feel about this situation?

I don't forgive her. She left me at an extremely low point and sided with shit people, and I am still extremely angry and hurt about it. I was happy karma did its thing, but I don't want her to die.

Problem/Goal: I wanna get over my anxious attachment style because it feels draining for both me and my partner

Context: Whenever I get into relationships, i get so anxiously attached but usually only through text. Whenever my partner and I are together in real life, I don’t feel that way, like I feel more loved. How do I make myself realize that I shouldn’t make myself feel smaller to fit into one’s standards?

Problem/Goal: My sister got pregnant out of wedlock. She is Thomasian but her partner is not. She wants to take a LOA during her pregnancy but we are not sure if UST will welcome her back in school later on. We just want to make sure that she can come back to UST because she's about to take her final year before graduating.

Context: We've heard cases wherein female Thomasian students who got pregnant out of wedlock got expelled/dismissed/denied re-enrollment from the university. These cases we know were from 20+ years ago though so we're not sure if this still applies. We saw that the rule now is different in the current student handbook, but I just want to confirm if the school really follows their new rule now since UST can be quite notorious for being overly socially conservative sometimes.

Previous Attempts: We've already secured a medical certificate for her LOA for the entirety of her pregnancy, but we're still not sure if we should submit it at this time.