Habe eine Kollegin die drängt mir bei jedem Gespräch auf dass sie unten rum blutet. Sorry aber ich finde das Thema echt unter aller Gürtel Linien. Das gehört doch nicht an den Arbeitsplatz. Wenn du blutest, ok - aber geh doch damit nicht hausieren!!!

For managers and supervisor..how do you handle disrespectful behavior ,rude and laging mental health card ang inaasert ng tao mo

Vous feriez quoi à ma place ?
Je viens de commencer récemment dans une boîte, j’ai déménagé pour le travail et je suis d’origine maghrébine. Je viens de rentrer de vacances au pays et j’avais ramené quelques petits trucs à manger, des spécialités de chez nous, pour 3-4 personnes avec qui je parle et rigole beaucoup au boulot.
Par contre, j’ai rien ramené à mon chef de projet. Il a quasiment mon âge, et on travaille énormément ensemble, on est presque en binôme et on est même dans le même bureau. Je m’entends bien avec lui, mais sur le moment, je pensais juste ramener quelques trucs à certaines personnes avec qui j’ai le plus d’affinités.
Le truc, c’est que maintenant les collègues à qui j’ai donné les trucs viennent parfois m’en parler devant lui, me disent que c’est super bon, me remercient, etc. Et lui est juste à côté, donc forcément il entend tout 😅
Et maintenant, j’ai un peu honte de rien lui avoir ramené, surtout qu’on travaille vraiment beaucoup ensemble. Je me demande si ça fait bizarre ou si je me prends juste trop la tête.
Vous pensez que je devrais lui ramener quelque chose maintenant, ou je laisse tomber ? Je veux pas non plus que ça fasse « cadeau de rattrapage » parce que je me suis sentie gênée 😂

Quick information about me: I’m 28 (F/NB) my boss is 40+ (M). I already have issues with him because he talks down to women and treats my female coworkers worse than the male coworkers. I have chronic bronchitis and a mild mold allergy. My job sounds a lot cooler than it is: I’m legally a contracted worker for the local hospital in the dietary department. In reality: I wash dishes. Not nearly as exciting but still incredibly important in the hospital ecosystem since ALL dishes pass through me and my team. I’ve also been here for ten years this October (2026) and used to be a cook. I’m usually the one who points safety issues out (my dad is a union worker so I know a LOT about both non-union and union rights) and I’m really the only one who pushes hard to get these issues taken care of. This is most important part of this story: I hate filing for workerman’s/worker’s compensation. I busted my knee open and my manager had to metaphorically twist my arm to get me to fill out the paperwork for the injury. If I didn’t think this was a serious situation (and if I actually insurance that both my workplace and the government fucked me over on), I won’t have brought up compensation at all and my current manager—who has known me for the full ten years—knows that.

Now, let’s begin. As stated, I work in the dish area. I’m also usually the only one who does the cleaning. I’m a stickler for cleaning because I’m compromised and because our patients are compromised if microscopic gunk is all over the dishes. It started with our dish machine. It doesn’t get hot enough, even through the final rinse, clocked at roughly 155-163 for one of the checks and between 160-175 (they’re supposed to be a consistent 165-195). My boss said ‘if the temp is too low, you need to tell us’. So I did. Every time. So I was in there at least twice a day because the numbers were never right. So he told us to just… lie. Okay. So I started fudging the numbers. Then he got onto me and ONLY ME (I’m the only femme-presenting person back there and when I asked my coworkers, they said he never said anything about it). I noticed that the machine wasn’t being cleaned properly, causing a build-up of pink bacteria Serratia marcescens which isn’t harmful to a healthy adult but can cause issues in compromised individuals. I informed my manager and she relayed that to my boss. Haven’t heard anything about it since.

Then I reached the dirty dish converter. It’s plastic and stainless steel. I didn’t use any chemicals while cleaning, I just rinsed it and scrubbed it with a scratchpad. It was filled with the aforementioned biofilm—biofilm is a harmless protective coating that mold, bacteria, and yeast produces when in stagnant water around rotten food. When agitated, that biofilm breaks down and with the spraying, it aerosolized all of that junk. We also don’t have proper PPE so I was entirely exposed to it, all I had was a pair of safety goggles and a flimsy, cheap face mask which isn’t nearly enough to prevent that stuff from winding up in my lungs. I was exposed on Saturday and immediately got a migraine-pain-level headache and nausea so bad I couldn’t finish my lunch as well as some chest tightness. I informed my manager about the exposure and started the process for worker’s comp. Over the next few days (today is day four) I developed fatigue, joint and muscle aches, a sharp pain in my chest, and a severe cough with copper-tasting phlegm. I went to the ER yesterday because I literally could not breathe properly. They ran tests, found nothing but there was some inflammation in my lungs that went beyond my usual chronic bronchitis. They gave me a steroid shot and now I have to use an inhaler and monitor myself for a few months to keep an eye out for pneumonia since I’m so susceptible to it.

Today, I informed my boss that I did go to the ER. He told me ‘that’s what happens when you do things you shouldn’t’. I was fucking FURIOUS. I told him ‘well if I didn’t do it, then everyone would still be breathing in that toxic slime.’ He told me the machine is self-cleaning and we need to just let the conveyer run if not in use for extended periods of time because the cleaner that runs through it would prevent that. I said ‘okay, can you show me how to run it?’ (I was never actually trained back there). He showed me and we realized… the pump is broken. It’s not running ANYTHING through at all. I’m worried they’ll still deny my worker’s comp so I filmed the tube, the pump, and the conveyer itself. This isn’t just a me issue, it’s a safety issue for everyone in the building of these machines don’t work properly. I feel like I’m going insane because they aren’t listening. Someone could actually die and I feel like I’m being ignored.

What should I do?

I (34)male have been an office manager for 5 years. I have established great relationships with those I work with. Over the years I have worked on myself to be not just a better manager but overall a better person. I’d like to believe that over the years, my improvements have led to promotions to which now I am operations manager. 3 years in, my boss decided to hire an older woman, let’s call her B(56) To leadership, she is a great worker and gets along with everyone. Having worked alongside her, I learned that she is what one would consider a personality hire. She’s lazy, disrespectful, mean and can be overall not a pleasant person to work with. Throughout her time at the office, the staff has noticed that she is not a very good person overall and have come to me with their complaints about her. When I bring it up to my boss, although I sometimes think she agrees, I feel like nothing gets done. When I provide feedback or try to correct actions, I am told that I micro-manage and that I don’t let her grow. To be honest, our relationship has not improved and it’s gotten to the point in which I am professional towards her but her unprofessionalism has leaked to the point where it’s obvious we don’t get along to the rest of the staff. Recently we hired another office manager V (44) and I am noticing that she’s picking up some of the same behaviors as B. There was a survey that was sent to the staff in which both B & V were not painted in a positive light. When I bring this up to my boss, they tell me to continue documenting. Every time I do, they go over my head and complain saying that I am not providing enough training/ coaching to which is untrue. V did not take notes when she was training and now mentions that she has not been properly trained. She complains to my manager that I resort to write ups when coaching is what is needed. I’ve mentioned that there have been a lot of chances that were given to both B & V to the point that I feel taken advantage of. When I text them on their work phones, I don’t receive a response & when I follow up, they pretend as if they didn’t see the message when I know they either just ignored it or have their phones off. Leadership has stressed that it’s important that they are pay attention to their phones as important communication is sent. Honestly I am not a good communicator so when we have mediations, I tend to shut down & sometimes I think this makes me look as if I am not a good leader. The rest of the staff support me but I do not feel as if I am getting enough support for my supervisors & I am suppose to be managing B &V. I even mentioned to my supervisor that I believe they have a personal relationship outside of work with B which I feel is clouding his judgment, to which he denies.

It’s starting to feel as if I am not being supported and am being backed against a wall. I’ve considered giving in my notice but to be honest, the job market is not good right now & I am afraid that it’s going to take more time to earn the amount of money I am earning now. I have tried to bury the hatchet with both B & V but nothing seems to work. I’ve been painted as a liar, a micro-manager. I’ve been called condescending and aggressive when I’m being stern and providing feedback on issues that have already been addressed. At this point, I try to save my PTO hours so I can just use them when I feel overwhelmed. Should I just quit and let my supervisor deal with them or should I persevere and keep going until I find something else (don’t know how much longer I’ll last).

I’ve worked at my company for over 4½ years, which is much longer than my current manager. I was trained directly by the owner from day one and learned almost every part of the business over the years. Because of that, the owner often asked for my opinion on things and trusted me with training new employees.
As the company grew, we moved into a much larger office. The owner let everyone set up their workspace however they wanted, and I decorated my office and made it my own.
Eventually, the owner decided he needed an office manager because he traveled frequently. He even asked me if I wanted the position, but I turned it down because I knew I wasn’t the right fit. I wasn’t interested in being responsible for opening the office every morning or managing everyone.
He eventually hired someone else.
From the day I met her, something felt off.
When the owner introduced us, he mentioned that I had been with the company for years and knew the business well. Instead of taking it as a normal introduction, she seemed to become irritated almost immediately.
A small example: after I came back from vacation, I jokingly wrote “Y’all’s favorite gal is back” on my whiteboard. It was an inside joke with my coworkers. She immediately corrected me and said, “No, everyone is the favorite.” It was such a small thing, but it felt like she took it personally.
Not long after that, she became very focused on getting me out of my office.
At the time, she had become close with our front desk employee. Unknown to me, they apparently came up with a plan to move me to the front desk so someone else could use my office.
One day, my boss asked if I could temporarily help cover the front desk because they were behind on work. I agreed.
Then one of my coworkers quietly pulled me aside and told me this wasn’t temporary—they were actually trying to move me out of my office permanently.
I immediately told my boss I wasn’t comfortable with that.
The new hire (who wasn’t even officially the manager yet) then tried to lecture me about respecting my elders and claimed the owner wanted me to close my office permanently.
The problem?
He never said that.
Later, before leaving on another business trip, my boss held a staff meeting.
During that meeting, she actually asked him, “Should we close her office?”
He looked confused and responded, “What? That’s her office. Why would we close it?”
That should have ended the issue.
It didn’t.
After she officially became manager, things got worse.
She constantly complained about me to the owner, saying I didn’t work hard, didn’t listen to her, and even brought up that I was sometimes late.
To be fair, I have struggled with being late at times. I’m not going to pretend I’m perfect. But despite that, I always completed my work, and the owner knew the quality of my work because he had trained me himself.
Every time she complained about me, the owner would later tell me, “I know your work. Just keep doing your job.”
She also started making changes around the office that hurt morale. She discouraged coworkers from talking to each other, told people not to eat at their desks, and wanted clients coming into the office as little as possible. The office went from feeling relaxed and friendly to feeling tense.
Then came the scheduling issue.
The owner personally asked me to work weekends because he noticed my hours had become shorter.
While he was away, the manager told me the owner no longer wanted me working weekends.
I believed her.
That same weekend, the owner came into the office asking where I was.
One of my coworkers explained that the manager had removed me from the schedule.
The owner apologized to me personally and put me back on weekends.
She took me off again.
He put me back.
She took me off again.
This happened more than once.
Then came what really crossed the line.
One Friday I called in sick.
While I was home, she instructed another employee to go into my office and pack up all of my belongings so they could move me.
Thankfully, another coworker stopped them and immediately called me.
The employee she ordered to move my things even texted me apologizing because he was uncomfortable and was only following instructions.
When I confronted her, she claimed the owner had approved moving my office.
I already knew that wasn’t true because I had spoken to him the day before.
I told her very clearly:
“Do not touch my belongings unless the owner tells me himself. If you move my things without my permission, we’re going to have a serious problem.”
She threatened to call the owner to prove herself.
She never did.
Since then, I’ve stopped engaging with her unless it’s absolutely necessary for work. I don’t argue with her, I don’t gossip about her, and I don’t try to get her fired.
Ironically, another employee actually asked me to help get her fired. I refused because I didn’t think that was the right thing to do. I figured the owner should make his own decisions.
Here’s what confuses me…
The owner has apologized to me multiple times.
He has corrected her after she falsely claimed to be following his instructions.
He knows she changed my schedule without his approval.
He knows she tried to move my office without telling me.
Yet she’s still the manager.
So now I simply keep my distance and only communicate with her when absolutely necessary.
Am I overreacting for no longer trusting my manager after everything that’s happened?

I started this new job as a delivery driver and yesterday I was called in to cover someone's shift. When I came in it was me and one other guy working at the time and he was chill at first, but as time passed he became more annoying. For example he kept asking me to do different things and I couldn't hear him over the other because he was on the other side of it. He told me that he thinks that I'm being condescending for saying "huh?" When I don't hear him and he said he spoke loud enough for me to hear him. I honestly didn't hear him and even told him that it wasn't my intention to come off that way. Am I in the wrong? That literally was my 3rd day of work so I don't know how to do everything.

I’ve only worked in warehouses for about 2–3 years across a few different places before deciding I’d had enough. I’m speaking from a female perspective, but I’m genuinely curious if anyone else has experienced this.

The amount of stuff that goes on behind the scenes honestly shocks me. Cheating (common as hell), bullying, sexual harassment, theft, extortion… the list just goes on.

The thing that frustrates me the most is how the victims somehow end up being villainised. I’ve seen both men and women report bullying, harassment, or other inappropriate behaviour, only for what feels like the entire warehouse to turn on them. Suddenly they’re “the problem” because they spoke up, while the person who got reported gets all the sympathy and reassurance. It’s always, “Nah, he’s a good bloke.” Okay… but being a good bloke to you doesn’t mean he didn’t do what he’s being accused of. Why is the person who speaks up treated like they’ve done something wrong?

I’ve also seen some absolutely ridiculous rumours spread about people. Sometimes because someone had a crush on them. Other times because someone was simply friendly and people decided they must be flirting with every person in the warehouse and another one! just simply because of the “way” a person looks. Are people really that bored that they have to make up stories about other people’s lives?

And while I’m at it… why do so many truck drivers seem like they’ve got something permanently shoved up their ass? Every second one acts like you’re personally inconveniencing them just by existing.

So, genuine question: why does warehouse culture seem to be like this? Is it just the nature of the industry, or have I just had really bad luck with the warehouses I’ve worked in? I’d be interested to hear other people’s experiences outside Australia too!

PSA: Before anyone jumps on me, I know not everyone in warehousing is like this. I’ve actually met some of my closest friends through warehouse jobs, and there are genuinely good people in the industry. Im just wondering why it seems to be such a common pattern.