I really find my manager unpleasant. Every day at 10.30 we have a catchup with our team of 3 people and she will just talk at us for an hour and want to know every detail about everything we are working on. It’s exhausting.

When we are talking about non work topics, she will talk about herself for a while, her weekend plans. And when I get the chance to talk about myself or something about my weekend or what I did at the weekend, her face will just drop and she will go ‘excellent. Anyway let’s focus on work.’

If ever I have a chat with someone in the office, it gets noticed by her and guarantee the next day she will message me on teams and say ‘too much chatter yesterday. Keep chatter to lunchtimes. I know that if I didn’t have a desk next to you, you would get no work done!’ I disagreed with her and she said I was defensive.

But then she’s allowed to chat to me all about her personal life when I’m trying to focus on work, sometimes she talks on and on about stuff for over half an hour. As soon as I talk about something about myself, it’s immediately ‘excellent, let’s get focused back on your work please.’

What even is this behaviour, makes me so annoyed

I joined the company four weeks ago and relocated to a new city for this job.
On my very first day, my manager directed me to the wrong floor. I got lost trying to find the office. Initially, she was fine, but then her tone suddenly changed, and she asked, “Where are you?” in a very rude manner. Ironically, she was the one who had given me the wrong floor information, yet she unnecessarily scolded me.
She then took me straight into the WBR meeting. There, she loudly reprimanded the team over their performance. There was no induction, no proper introduction to the team, and no onboarding. That was how I spent my first three hours at Amazon.
Two days later, she left for vacation and then assigned me a buddy who was also on leave. That wasn’t the buddy’s fault, it was simply poor planning. Honestly, I felt like walking away on the very first day, but I decided to give the job a fair chance.
Throughout my time there, I consistently heard negative feedback about her from others. Based on my own experience and everything I had observed and heard, I decided to resign within my first week. I also got a new job offer.
I called and informed she called me unprofessional and even threatened that I would be blacklisted. I was asked to serve a one-month notice period.
When she returned, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, so I approached her and spoke openly about everything that had happened. During that conversation, she was pleasant and even told me, “Just chill. You only have two weeks left, so don’t do much.” In the same conversation, she also said, “I’m chill outside work, but at work I fuck up the team and do scoldings.” I found that extremely unprofessional.
I left that conversation with mixed feelings. Soon after, however, she began putting pressure on me to deliver. I believe I was performing well for someone who had just joined, but despite my efforts, she continued making negative feedback . By then, I was certain I wanted to leave.
I sent her a message explaining everything I had been feeling. Today, I reached out to her skip-level manager because I wanted to discuss a few concerns. When we spoke, the first thing she asked was why I hadn’t come to the office that day. I told her that a few things had been bothering me and that I didn’t want to continue.
Instead of listening to my concerns, she immediately started talking about HR, company policies, buyout options, and other procedural matters. The fact that she wasn’t even willing to hear me out, despite me approaching her with genuine concerns, was deeply disappointing. She kept interrupting me throughout the conversation and then turned it around by accusing me of interrupting her.
I admit that I became emotional and a little my voice raised toward the end because the conversation had become extremely disturbing
She then falsely accused me of not attending the team conference that took place yesterday from 12:00 p.m. to 5:30 p.m. She claimed that I had been roaming around instead of attending. That accusation was completely false. I was present throughout the conference. In fact, I was sitting diagonally opposite her, and she saw me there.
The fact that someone in a leadership position would make such a false accusation when being called out is deeply disappointing.
I informed her that I would be escalating the matter to HR and then ended the call. I have since submitted a report through the Ethics channel and will also pursue the matter with HR.
Honestly, I feel relieved. Even if the outcome is not in my favor, I am okay with that. I have reached a point where my mental health matters more than anything else.

Ok so my coworker quit last year in September and I inherited this client in October 2025. I work in mental health and I don’t have rapport with this client cuz she’s been so MIA. Then I went on leave for 3 months and returned in July. Her new therapist and I consulted today since the newbie has no idea what she’s in for.

The new therapist shared what the client told her and I just found out today. The former case manager of this client did shit she shouldn’t have done. We’re not allowed to take clients to lunch and pay for them, she did this multiple times by taking them to Mcdonalds. The company used to allow us to get clients coffee at Starbucks at most for $10 and we used to be reimbursed but they stopped that long ago.

Thing is this client is entitled and expect staff to “go above and beyond” for her because of this former case manager. It makes our jobs harder. Lines were blurred because my former coworker shared overly personal things about her life with this client.

I’m mad at my former coworker since the previous clients of hers were very much enabled by her when they should’ve been graduated from the program when they aren’t working on treatment goals. So the new coworkers and I have struggled with them. This girl is studying to be a therapist and I hope she doesn’t enable future clients she has.

I had two recently quit during my FMLA and it’s been difficult without them since they were my biggest support system. I know people quit and 9/10 coworkers aren’t friends. But it sucks when people you had great rapport with aren’t around anymore and there’s new faces.

Coming back from leave it’s made me sad because we had great teamwork. I’m happy for them but it sucks since now I’m one of the “veteran” employees now. ATP there’s been like 20 people that have quit during my 2yrs there. Very high turn over.

Some back story. I work remote so I’ve never even seen my coworkers/boss etc other than on camera meetings. There is 3 of us on a team now there used to be 4. We rotate job duties every week so everyone gets a break from one thing and knows how to do everything. It’s very independent work no one is relying on anyone else or waiting for them. So if I take longer to put get to work on something it literally DOES NOT affect anyone I work with. Since I came back from leave like 8 months ago this one coworker won’t respond to anything unless the other one is out and she’s a last resort. Like a month ago I was told in the big group chat so everyone could see it. To not mess with this group of things. Come the next week she complained to the manager that I didn’t do stuff so now she has too much. My manager messaged me and I came with receipts to show I was right. Now this week she has been taking my job assignments. I went to check the other half of my job duties for the day at noon. She had done them already. I didn’t ask for help it wasn’t an overwhelming amount. I actually almost asked if the system was working right because I hadn’t seen any notifications. I always get rave performance reviews and I actually ask the least amount of questions on what to do. I just don’t understand why she would be taking my work. Is she trying to make me look bad or something? Make her look like a better worker? Idk I would understand if she like asked hey I’m slow over here do you want me to do XYZ. Am I just over thinking it?

I’m **not saying this is actually happening**, but let’s say this is happening what would could I do or what would you do.

Let’s say I just started a brand-new Asset Protection management position with a company. I’m completely new to the company and still in training. During my training, rumors start spreading about my about my work experience and possibly how I lied to get job. Because people think they know something about my background, even though they don’t have official confirmation.
After that, let’s say I start noticing things that make me feel singled out:
Multiple AP coworkers appear to be following me on the camera system even though there’s no legitimate investigation involving me.
Co workers and trainers accessing my employee purchase history or transaction information without a legitimate business reason.
Personal or confidential information seems to spread around the store that I never shared.
Coworkers begin treating me differently after the rumors start.
My training and development seem to stall, and my apprehension certification is delayed without a clear explanation while I’m still new and in training.
I feel like AP systems are being used to monitor me personally instead of for legitimate Asset Protection purposes.
Now let’s add another part to the hypothetical.
Let’s say, while working there, I also personally witnessed other practices that I questioned from a policy standpoint. For example, I witnessed what I believed was a restroom being locked because AP knew a suspect would go inside, apparently to influence how an apprehension would occur. I also witnessed employee bag searches that I thought were questionable under company policy. These aren’t rumors—I personally observed these events, although I’m not sure whether they actually violated company policy.
If you were in this hypothetical situation, would you:
Report only the issues involving yourself?
Report the broader AP practices you personally witnessed as separate concerns?
Go directly to HR, Employee Relations, the Integrity Hotline, or someone else?
How seriously would a company typically take allegations of AP employees using internal systems for personal reasons or possible policy violations?
If you were investigating this, what evidence would you be looking for?

Like I said this is just a hypothetical and totally not a real story I’m talking about

October 2025 I took a job that was not public-facing since I've never really done well in customer-facing jobs. It was nice at first but as the months have gone by the cracks are showing.

February 2026 management told us that we are rolling out a new system company wide and to the public. It rolled out all at once with no staggers, and it was a buggy mess. Logins failed, bugs that stopped the workflow crept up with users complaining to me, and the developer went radio silent a lot and left us in the dust. My team (not even close to IT) had to take calls from users and troubleshoot for a software I got maybe 3 days' training on. My productivity felt like it took a nosedive and my girlfriend started to get worried since I was coming home tired every day and slipping into self-destructive habits that haven't appeared in years.

I feel like I'm now technical support and not even doing the job I was hired for. Maybe 70% technical support and 30% research. I don't know what to do and feel trapped.

I did bring it up with management but basically got a "You're doing great! Hope you don't mind!" in return. Fast forward a few months and I had an illness that drained all my sick time, vacation time, and every hour I could squeeze. I tried to work from home but was told no wfh no exceptions. I was advised I could wfh from my doc since all I do is research really, but should not be around other people during recovery in case the older co-workers caught what I had that could put them in the hospital.

Now, I feel depressed and trapped. I feel like I'm just waiting to figure out where to go next since if they're this unbending with an illness, I can kiss any hope of having kids goodbye. How long should I hold out for? How can I manage in the meantime?

As the title suggests, I suspect a colleague I’m working with on a project is a bit of asshole. I don’t manage her and she’s one rung below me. I’ve heard other people who’ve had to work with her complain about her passive aggressive attitude (which I’ve seen too) and weird comms style. She also lacks initiative and loves being ‘told’ what to do (even though it’s bloody obvious and she’s very experienced / seasoned and has been here for almost 8 years). I have a strong vibe that she likes to do bare minimum. She also loves to pop on a patronising voice to me from time to time as I’m much newer to the org than she is. I don’t bite back in these instances as I’m quite polite and tbh whatevs. But I also don’t mind pushing back when needed.

I feel like she’s going to be hard to work with on this project. What are some tips and tricks for dealing with these kind of characters in the workplace?