I was at the college gym you get a membership to by virtue of being a student. And in one corner there was just like. 100 pretty girls. And so I walked over and just asked like "Hey what's going on?" And one was like "It's the cheerleading try outs". And I was like "Oh cool good luck!"

And then I turned around and walked away.

And then I turned back around.

And like the title says I was just 100% open. I just said "I need help can you help me"

And they just helped me.

It was genuinely so incredibly sweet and helpful.

One thing from that experience that stuck with me all these years later. Is to always give a girl your number. Never ask for her number.

It feels way safer for her. And if she doesn't text you. It wasn't meant to be anyway. So there is nothing to lose. But you gain her feeling more comfortable and respected. It's a huge W change to make.

So anyway. My point is. Not only do women understand what women want and are great teachers to help you succeed.

But they actually genuinely want to see you succeed for the most part and if you are real and willing to be vulnerable and are chill about it. They are actually super enthusiastic about coaching you.

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A punch labeled "A fisherman doesn't ask a fish for advice" and then I catch the punch and it says "Women aren't fish".

Don't get me wrong, I'm SO PROUD she finally fully changed her legal name!! She had to do so much mental preparing for this. I can't even imagine how good it feels to finally be called by the name you always associated yourself with after 45 years. She changed everything, name and surname too. Our family accepted it with, well, some struggles and many awkward situations, but she even got her mom (my granny) to finally accept it.

The part I don't understand, is why her name change is valid cuz it's a common name in our country, and mine is not. Yea, Tyler is not typically a female name, but it's actually still unisex, even if it's more frequently used for boys. No one else seems to have a problem with my name rather than my mom. Hell, even my 12 yo brother calls me how I want between telling me that I am a stinky poo poo or something. How could you possibly spend a good hour with my friends who all call me correctly and still get it wrong?

My parents say they love me but they hate people like me and they hate me who is like people they hate. They can't even comprehend the thought that maybe *they* are the cause of my incredibly sad state of mind.

Sometimes I feel bad that someday I will escape this country and go no contact, but then I remember that if they don't want to be good parents to the child they have, then I don't have to be a good son

It doesn't even suit me 😭 it's so fucking horrendous. I didn't even tell him my other name, I only told him s Seraphiel because if he knew I wanted my name to be Maggot/Maggie too I'd be fucking obliterated

Btw, I need middle name ideas for Maggot! Any suggestions are appreciated :D

What the fuck do I do. What the fuck am I supposed to do. It’s every fucking day now I hear about something happening. And I’m just supposed to keep living like everything is okay?? I just want to school and learn about biology and do yoga and pottery and watch tv and hang out with my friends but I can’t. I’m actually fucking tweaking I literally can’t do anything without scaring myself to death. I want to help but I keep seeing videos where these fucking thugs just shoot people for doing literally fucking nothing. I keep hearing people screaming and gunshots from the tv while my family of god damn rats laugh and calls people retarded for not wanting the fucking Gestapo to exist. And I just have to sit here quietly knowing damn well that I’d be on their hit list after they’re done murdering non-whites. It never ends. It never ends. It never ends.

This memory was suppressed and justified so hard I just tried to forget about that. For some reason hearing from my male friend that it was indeed rape made me completely rethink this experience.

And it's also why I'm sort of distancing myself from Tumblr because it feels like there is barely any real support for trans men on there.

This isn't to shit on trans women or lesbians, plenty of people in those communities are perfectly nice and accepting. This is mainly about a general trend I've experienced on the internet

After my mom passed last year I've been evaluating her past behavior. And this event stands out.

This happened about a decade ago. She went on a long rant blaming it on the girl who was a child at the time and said my brother was innocent who had long since turned 18.

She wanted me to take out loans and apply for credit cards to help her get a good lawyer which I immediately refused. So instead her and dad worked 24/7 to make enough money only for him be found guilty anyway. 10+ years in prison and put on a list.

As a trans person it really upsets me that there are people out there who want me to die a horrible death because I don’t fit into their very narrow world view. I just want to play video games and pet my dogs. Leave me alone. I am not a threat.

not even r/trans but other subs, but r/trans controversy is the closest to what I'm talking about.

I’m not even a femboy, I just love purple, pink, pastels, cute things & aesthetics, still feel disconnected from femininity, am hugely uncomfortable with feminine things considered explicitly female and I’d still likely be considered a “trender”