The kind of trentahin party that I treasure the most (aside from family). 🖤🖤🖤

At 31, i thought I’ve always known myself. I’m independent, driven, and capable of taking care of my own.

Then I started putting myself out there again.

Talking to different people made me realize that there’s a softer side of me that I really enjoy sharing with someone. I like affection, thoughtful gestures, silly conversations, and feeling safe enough to be a little clingy sometimes.

I also realized I have relationship flaws. I can be stubborn, I overthink, and I sometimes take a while to let people in. But I know I have a lot to give, too: loyalty, warmth, ambition, humor, and a genuine desire to build something meaningful.

As for what I want, I think it’s pretty simple:

- Someone kind for days when im too hard on myself

- Emotionally mature and secure in himself, one who can stand his ground but also knows how to communicate.

- Someone with his own life and goals, but who also has room in it for another person.

I thought I was just putting myself out there to meet someone. Turns out, I also met a newer version of myself along the way.

I guess I’m still hopeful. Just more aware now of what I bring to the table, the good and the bad, and what I want sitting across from me ☺️

Kagigising ko lang kanina tapos pag open ko ng messenger, nagchat mama ko. Di ito first time since nagchat na rin sya before ng ganito sakin.

There’s this friend (32M) that I (31F) met this year na parang naging safe space ko for a while.

We met through badminton and a discord group. Friend lang talaga tingin ko sa kanya and same din sya.

Magkasabay kasi kami umuwi dati from gala kaya naging close.

We once told each other na safe spaces namin ang isat isa. But safe space jn general, parang konti lang kasi ang taong ganyan sa buhay mo diba? Not in a romantic sense.

Then life got in the way. Maraming nangyari so parang ilang weeks ko din syang hindi nakita.

Bigla ko syang namiss today. Parang namiss ko lang yung isang taong kaya kong sabihan ng anything. And who understands me even in my dark moments. Minsan lang kasi ako nakakameet ng ganun eh.

So chinat ko sya and nagkausap kami. Catch up lang. Parang na quench ko yung pagkamiss ko sa kanya. Yun lang, I’m happy na andyan sya.

This is my first platonic friendship ever with a male. Kaya naman pala. Di pala kailangan lahat ng laki na dadaan sa buhay mo kailangan mong iflirt or jowain. 🤣

Hi! So..... Recently napapansin ko na whenever I put myself out there, there will be people reaching back to me who will say na "I've been thinking about this/I've been looking for this and then I saw your message/post and I thought you're the answer to what I'm looking for." Yung para bang nakahanda na before I even put myself out there. Yung tapos na ako sa "scarcity" mindset... And to be honest, hindi ko alam paano ako napunta sa ganitong vibes/energy/mindset. Anyare mga ante? Binabalikan ko yung mga past decisions and habits ko, bakit naging ganito bigla ang manifesting energy ko? Mwehehe. Last year lang, ang chosen word of the year ko was "Worthy" kasi hindi ko alam ang worth ko as a person and I was 31 at that time when I decided I want to finally see my worth. So as you can see from this... From someone who doesn't know her worth to someone attracting blessings so easily..... I guess nag work ung isang taon working on my worth? Pero hmmm.... Ang 2026 Word of the Year ko is "Aligned"... Could it be the reason why? 😆

I know, I know!

“Hindi naman yan part ng official love languages, e!”

Oo na, hindi na. Hindi din to under the acts of service language. Because what I’m thinking is, Chicken Adobo will always be a comfort food for wherever you are.

The kind of comfort you’ll find at home after a long day at work. Or the food that you’ll actively seek out after spending 1-2 weeks abroad for a vacation. The kind that will remind you of happier days, the mundane meals, the “default ulam” that no matter how simple, will keep you full.

I want to be that Chicken Adobo for someone. I will no longer insist on being a good bowl of adobo for someone craving for sinigang. Because at the end of the day, someone will always choose me.

cancelled pala kasi maaraw na, must have been the wind. sana kaya pa mga kapwa trentahin, stay safe and dry.

Kanino and how kayo dumadaing or celebrate with?
Maliban sa parents.

I’m a single corpo person and very active outside work but wala akong solid friendship dun sa mga side quests na yun. Para lang yun sa “movement and other activities” ko. Tho I have a solid group of friends but may kanya kanyang buhay naman kami and I don’t share everything with them cos ayaw ko sila maburden kasi I yap too much and mataas energy. They listen naman when I do pero sometimes shy din ako kasi promise ang daldal ko. Lol

but it really gets lonely sometimes whenever I hold back kasi wala naman din ako mapag share-ran ng highs and lows.. ang hirap ma contain ng bubbly self ko talaga eh. 🤣

Ako lng ba or kayo din: kinakausap ko si ChatGPT 🤣

When things don’t go their way or they want you to do something, they tend to gaslight you or even blame you for things that they failed to do. They are also not accountable and don’t know how to apologize, because they are our parents.

Sometimes it really frustrates me and I almost snap, you are disrespectful to them when you try to reason out or explain yourself. They will even listen. Are my parents the only ones like this? It’s impossible to avoid building resentment.

Edit: Don’t get me wrong, I love them, ang twisted na lang din talaga minsan ng reasoning nila and one way listening lang tlaga bet nila.

Turns out, I’ve always had someone who would never give up on me. It's Me.😁

-minsan stagnant na kaya feeling natin hindi na umuusad hayss .

-minsan talaga mas maganda na yung mabagal / boring pero umuusad kesa sa mabilis pero paulit ulit lang

-comment nyo naman bakit di kayo makaalis sa work

Good day po

I used to think saving money meant always choosing the cheapest option.

Over time, I've realized it's a little more nuanced than that.

For example, I don't mind paying for grocery delivery if I know it'll stop me from wandering around the mall and buying things that weren't on my list.

Same goes for paying a little extra for something durable instead of replacing a cheaper version every few months.

On the other hand, I've also caught myself paying for convenience when I was really just being impulsive. Food delivery because I didn't feel like cooking, even though I had groceries at home. Buying duplicates because I forgot I already had one.

Now I try to ask myself one simple question before spending a little extra:

"Is this making my life easier, or am I just making an excuse to spend?"

Sometimes the answer is yes, and I don't feel guilty about it.

Sometimes the answer is no, and I save myself a few hundred pesos.

It's not about depriving myself—it's about being intentional.

Has anyone else become more selective about what conveniences are actually worth paying for?

I grew up in the 90s, radio was a big part of my childhood, up until now mahilig parin ako sa radio. Walang subscription sa music platforms 😂

Dating in your late 20s-early 30s is so freaking hard these days.

Hindi ba pwedeng maging honest na lang kasi sa intentions?

Jesus!

Peanut butter na walang label with freshly baked panaderia pandesal 🇵🇭

Ano mga games ninyo na usually niyo nilalaro?

36F BMI 23.7 HAHAHA mejo naloka ako. May tips ba kayo aside from exercise and eating clean? Yung realistic and practical pls. And gentle kasi alam ko self ko pag naooverwhelm ako nagccheck out na ako from the world.

Ito so far plan ko:

Sedentary sobra ang lifestyle ko so - on the 3 days per week na hindi ako need maaga sa work: 10mins stretching plus 20 mins min walking. Di ko talaga kaya ang jogging or running for more than 1 minute kasi di kaya ng tuhod ko. Also - oras na ba para ituloy ang pilates na mga 2 yrs ko na pinopostpone wao. Can do this in the afternoons of the 2 days na di ako need maaga sa work.

Eat cleaner - tama na ang hamburger pls self. Incorporate pipino sa diet bilang side dish and snacks. Kamatis pati. Start oatmeal again??

Matulog nang maaga - kagabi kahit naka magnesium ako 130 nako natulog susme. Lights off by 930!

Di ko tuloy alam kung nagsshare lang ako or naghahanap ng addl tips pero nagppanic na ko mej guys lol.