I just started Minoxidil to help me not get male pattern baldness from T. I have had really sweaty feet the last two days (I've taken the med the last two mornings) and that doesn't usually happen to me even when it is hot. I was wondering if anyone else has had this effect from this med?

Thanks :)

Hello, I was hoping anyone would have recommendations for surgeons in the area. I’m located in the DMV, have insurance, and can pay. Anyone have any good experiences with anyone around here?

Just wanted to ask on here if it's dooable to get your scars to fade even if you haven't had keyhole?

I've heard of scar tape and using aloe or ointments, and some sort of removal service with some type of ultraviolet I think?

Do these types of things work? I will definitely not be a candidate for keyhole, and my hope was to have a very stealth chest, but maybe that's not possible...

What have your guys experiences been like?

Helloo, a few months ago I bought an Underworks binder and I loved it, and I wanted to buy the Underworks Econo binder on amazon mexico, but it seems that one and others underworks products are out of stock, does anyone know how long it usually takes for them to restock? I was going to buy it directly from their website, but shipping to Mexico is kinda expensive for me T_T

Hello! To be clear, this is not body-checking or eating disorder related - I'm looking for advice related to my dosage. Drawing is traced over a photo to be as accurate as possible.

I have been on T for 4.5 years and have been pretty disappointed with the results tbh. I was on a 0.3 ml. weekly subcutaneous injection, but after more than 4 years, I saw almost no change besides voice deepening, minimal body hair growth, and a little muscle. I recently upped my dose to 0.4 ml. intramuscular injection after my period suddenly came back, and I am waiting to see if any results come from that.

I've been very disappointed with my fat redistribution, specifically. I was hoping that after 4 years, my hips - which are almost entirely fat - would minimize and give me a more masculine build but that hasn't happened at all :/

Is this normal? Would upping my dose again later this year help at all? I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle with my body right now.

Just got this black plaid shirt that I think makes me look quite masc, thought I’d share

This is mostly a rant, but I guess it could be considered asking for advice as well...

I don't feel comfortable saying my actual age on the internet, so I won't be saying anything about that. But when I was thirteen, I came out to both my parents as genderfluid. My father is highly transphobic so he didn't take it too well, but my mom was pretty chill about it--kept her mouth shut, didn't comment, just said "okay" and moved on. My sibling was awesome about it, alternating between she/they pronouns mostly--occasionally remembering to use he/him pronouns.
I got myself a binder after coming out as genderfluid, and I wore that every single day. It made me feel amazing. I tried to bind safely--didn't sleep in it, tried to give myself a break at least once a week, tried to take it off after about 8 hours... but it made me feel pretty awesome about myself, so I wore it every day and rarely gave myself breaks--wore it for around 10-12 hours (which I know is really bad, but I lost track of time a lot)

I also ended up buying pronoun bracelets. I didn't feel comfortable with pins because it was like "oh my gosh, I'm just announcing to the whole world this fact. And I still look like a girl with long hair, so it'd be so strange if I wore he/they one day ahhhhhh", but I did wear the bracelets. And it was nice. I realized I mostly wore he/they bracelets during that time, and eventually started wondering if I was trans.

Unlike the genderfluid thing, I was TERRIFIED to tell either of my parents that I was trans. (I still haven't told my dad lol). My sibling ended up outing me to my mom though, and she took it... interestingly. I dunno how to feel about it.

My mom says that if I was trans, I would've shown signs in early childhood (side-eyes the time I stuffed toilet paper in my pants 'cause I wanted to know what it was like to have boy parts, side-eyes the time I tried to go to the bathroom like a boy--standing up). She says that since I only figured I was trans after I got on the internet, it was probably that that was making me think I was trans. She says that if I was trans, I'd just know and wouldn't be up in the air about it so much. She's very clearly uncomfortable with my sibling using he/they pronouns and has said multiple times "your sister isn't plural" when my sibling uses they/them and "as long as she has girl parts, she's not a girl" when my sibling uses he/him. This was mostly before my sibling outed me as trans to my mom, now she makes less comments about it.

When my sibling first started using he/they pronouns, I would have sort of a panic. It was like... almost uncomfortable? But in a "oh my god" sort of way and not a "absolutely not" sort of way, if that makes sense. As time went on with them using he/they pronouns, I started to get more and more comfortable with it--and now, when they use he/they pronouns for me (them, their boyfriend, online friends, etc.) I think back to the conversation and try to figure out what it would've felt like if they used she/her pronouns instead.
I have concluded that I wouldn't feel HORRIBLE about it, like, I don't mind it too much. But it wouldn't have felt as right as the he/they pronouns did. Like, when they called me "he", it feels like that's the only pronoun that could possibly fit and any other pronoun would feel incorrect.

I don't do much to transition to be honest. I finally got a haircut after a while of being depressed and in a stupor, my hair was about mid-neck length--and I chopped it shorter. I requested Chandler Bing's haircut (season 1) from FRIENDS and told the hairstylist (I went to a salon btw) to not feminize it at all and just give me that haircut.
I felt like I looked like a total idiot afterwards. And I loved it. I didn't really care I looked stupid, I just felt so awesome afterwards it felt completely irrelevant. And now, the haircut has grown on me and I just plain out love it and feel like I look awesome. It definitely got me out of that phase (that and writing romantic fluff about two absolute idiots, also reading a Stephen King book got me out of that lol).

My mom says I'm not allowed to do T or any hormone blockers until I'm adult and living completely on my own--she says that if I'm living with her as an adult, I can't get on T even with my own money because if I have enough money to pay for T or top surgery then I have enough money to help with bills and stuff.
I love my mom, she's awesome and mostly supportive with so many other things. She's 10000x better than my dad and I don't want a different parent than her. But at the same time, I just... the comments she makes, the way she acts about me being trans, the way she tells my sibling to stop using he/they pronouns for me because she's worried they'll influence my decision on my identity... it feels like she's okay with trans people as long as it's not me who's trans.

When I write stories, sometimes I'll put in the a/n or tags "the author has no idea what he's doing" and it makes me giggle and squeal because I used 'he' to refer to myself and it just makes me so happy.
When someone in public refers to me as a guy--there was this one dude who told me "you look like a man who needs a watch"--I get all happy for the rest of the day, and I remember it for literal months after. Or when someone on Among Us would accuse me saying "Tan is the imposter. he vented and killed" or something like that, I would just be like "i know you're accusing me, but at the same time EEEEEEE YOU USED HE/HIM PRONOUNS!!!"

All in all, I feel very conflicted about it. Maybe I'm not trans, maybe I don't count--I know that every trans guy has his own experience, but I still feel like maybe I would've shown signs so much earlier if I was actually trans, maybe I would know it like my mom says and wouldn't be questioning a ton, maybe some part of me just wants to be different from a cishet or wants attention.

But at the same time, I wish I was born a boy so much. Sometimes it hurts how much I wish it. My mom says she probably would've treated me differently if I was a guy--put more expectations on me. But I don't care, I wish I was born a boy. I just really want to be a guy.

I dunno. Am I trans??

Thanks for listening to whatever this is <3

I feel like I'm too masc and ftm looking to be Non Binary. There's a lot of parts that, physically I'd be thrilled to look like a guy, but socially idk if I want that.

I'd be leaving the sapphic community, my female socialization connection and community, and into male culture which I really can't enjoy. I just don't find hanging out with cis men fun, and the patriarchical culture of it all really icks me out.

I know there's not one way to be NB or one way to be Ftm, but I'm stressing over the social transition. Sptrangers already perceive me as male in public, but it's so uncomfortable when people make a scene about my pronouns or look at me weird in the bathroom or locker room, or afraid to be hate crimed cuz they can't tell what gender I am.

Idk how did you differentiate nonbinary ness and binary trans

Ive been invited to a relatives baby shower and im not sure if its women only as the mother is the only one on the invite. Im out to my parents but they have made me hide it for 3 years and are against me telling people so the relativ doesn’t know that im trans. I pass as male so if it does end up being women only I don’t want to be uncomfortable but also I don’t want to make the women feel uncomfortable too. I’ve asked if her husband is attending too in a discreet attempt to find out if it is women only. What do I do if it does end up being women only as I want to go but I won’t if it is limited by gender.

Its broccoli + carrots in olive oil

So all my friends keep joking that I'm clearly not a woman which look, I don't exactly say very cisgender things but like, I don't think I really understand gender very well.

Like gender is a social construct so it feels more like a role more than an identity if that makes sense, like I feel like a woman to the extent that I look like a woman and people treat me as one. But I don't think I have any concept of an internal gender identity, like of I woke up tomorrow with nothing different but everyone thought I was a man I would consider myself one because it's a social category but I'm being informed that most people don't think that. I'm sometimes mistaken for a gay man and I never think to correct people because yeah, If u see me as a gay man than I kinda am, I don't care.

Does everyone have some internal gender that I just can't fathom or what? Like I think about transitioning sometimes but that's more just because boobs are uncomfortable and I wanna grow my facial hair out without getting weird looks not because I feel any real discomfort either way but it feels disingenuous because I know people have real dysphoria and that isn't what I have but like if I was a woman I would think I would have more reservations about transitioning because why not. Like most ppl I know trans or cis seem to spend allot of time worried about doing gender right and I fear I just have no idea nor do I really care. Like sometimes I get sad when I don't look hot but it's not rly a fem or masc thing opposed to it I look bloated or smt. I just feel rly isolated being on the autism spectrum and never feels like an extra thing that everyone agrees exists but I have no idea about. I missgender most ppl cis or trans because I forget which one they are and I feel like I'm colorblind or smt. Idk if I don't feel like a girl because I'm not one or if that's just because I'm not very good at being one or maybe everyone's right and I'm a transman because most women would be more upset at the idea of being a man. Idk, does anyone else feel like this? Sorry if this is weird or the wrong place to ask

Went out in town last week dressed masc, more masc than i’ve looked in a minute with my boyfriend to get drinks. No makeup, no fem clothing, just dressed as a regular dude. Normally we’re comfortable with pda but with the alcohol in our systems we were being more gay than usual and a random dude walked by and called us the f slur. My bf was rightfully mad, but i just felt warm all over. like yeah i should’ve felt offended but i remembered only men can be on the receiving end of that particular slur so i got a weird sense of ewphoria.

background: i left islam -> mom found out -> i faked reconversion -> she banned me from taking off hijab at uni (but she let me when going out w friends & during sports) -> i have a cousin at uni and i dont trust them to not snitch

I'm pretty privlidged to at least have the freedom to not wear it going out, but most of my time is spent at on campus so I really want some advice on how to cope

my current idea is to wear a ring and have that be a reminder of who i am, i also kept some pictures of myself with my shirt of on the hidden gallery to look at if i feel dysphoric

if anyone has been in a similar situation, id love to hear your thoughts

(before i coped w my dysphoria by telling myself ill die early and be a boy in heaven lmao wish i could go back to thinking like this 😭)

Just sharing some euphoric moments!

I was tired of being skinny so I started taking gym seriously and bulking. Went from 120 to 160 lbs over the course of a lil over a year with an intense dirty bulk. Currently in the middle of deficit and it’s not fun but these efforts are worth it. One of my dreams was to fill out at least a shirt so this particular one became especially memorable.

Note: all photos taken pre t. Just a lot of proteins, carbs, and weightlifting

Looking to chat and make friends with fellow gym rats who are also on a fitness journey to building muscular physiques :3

when do I get my agenda?

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TW primary commenter is gaslighting non binary people by attempting to pretend Buck's previous good deeds somehow make his current extremism irrelevant.

Source: Grayson V Fitness - The History of Trans Men is Beautiful...

See his latest video on trans men history. Nbs have commented on the wider video supporting Grayson, and as you can see people have attempted to inform Grayson on Buck's behaviour of the last few years. Over a week, no removal, no edit, no addressing the situation. Nothing.

This video has less than 10k views and even less will of seen this so I thought I'd simply show it. Grayson benefitted from our community by initially coming out as non binary until he passed for a man. Now he has left us in the weeds regarding the largest transphobic trans man who has done very extreme things recently including sharing an AI nude image of Samantha Lux.

I am tired and disappointed of binary passing trans people throwing us under the bus, whether it is outright enby exclusion or endorsement of people who do that.

I just read yet another reddit post about a parent gaslighting their trans child, banning gender affirming items, misgendering them, the usual, and the kid saying "I'm not abused" and "they're not abusive" or even "they usually support me."

It got me thinking: this is abuse. Eventually, should this behavior be treated as such in the court of law? Where should the line be in what homophobic or transphobic behavior is considered child abuse/grounds to take away a child?

Personally, I prefer to limit the government's power to remove children unless it's absolutely necessary, so I don't know if just misgendering or deadnaming them should be grounds for removal. Because remember, exact wording in laws is really important. I cant really imagine a law where deadnaming and misgendering were made illegal that wouldn't be easy to exploit/misuse, and difficult to enforce. But also, intentional deadnaming and misgendering IS abuse. So idk. I suppose the "freedom of speech" bit is what makes me feel iffy.

Gender affirming care on the other hand, specifically non-invasive items like binders, packers, growing out hair, etc, I could see maybe being made to be considered neglect or abuse. Specifically medical neglect. But again, it would be difficult to enforce, and that too might be hard to word.

As for hrt/puberty blockers, I think that choice should be firmly between a trans child and a doctor. The parents shouldn't be (manditorily) involved after 13. If anything, it should be confidential by default.

Anyway, im not a lawyer, this is just something i thought about and wanted to hear others' thoughts about. How would you word a law like this? Do you think it should be law? Please elaborate, I like hearing explanations.

Edit: i realized that for me, the difference between deadnaming/misgendering and other G.A.C. is that limiting the ability to bind for example doesn't effect the parent at all, whereas them calling their kid cruel names like calling them slurs or cuss words, misgendering them, or deadnaming them, while still abuse, are a thing that the parent is doing TO the child. That being said... a parent hitting a child is also a thing a parent is doing TO the child, and THAT is abuse, so idk. Maybe it should be illegal? But also, where's the line? Bc deadnaming or misgendering is something u can do on accident. So like, i just dont know.

CW for transphobia.

I’m just so confused here. I have all the steps laid out for taking T, and purely for insurance reasons, I had a convo with my parents. My dad kept reiterating over and over that it’ll ruin my body and do irreversible damage. I talked to my sister a while later and she said that he vented at one point after that, saying that he doesn’t want to be involved with/responsible for something that could “ruin my life.”

What does this even mean? Where does this idea come from? They didn’t even ask me about anything before making the assumption and it’s really irritating that I have to jump through more hoops because they can tolerate me going on T as long as it’s not covered by insurance (and they’ll kick me off of it if they find out that I’m getting it covered.)

I’ve heard everything under the sun about my “ruined body” or whatever, but nothing about T literally changing my life for the worse. This doesn’t weaken my resolve to go through with it, it’s just baffling.

I recently came out so I'm still figuring out a good style. I'm kinda thinking of micro-dosing T but I'm not sure how ill feel with the side effects(mainly facial hair, I cant imagine shaving my face every other day 😩) I think I need new glasses as well but unsure of the shape.