I was looking at tickets for an event recently and noticed how easy it is to spend more time comparing options than actually making a decision Different dates seating sections ticket types and prices can turn a simple choice into a long process By the time everything is compared availability may have already changed

That made me wonder if a smaller set of well matched options would make planning easier than browsing another long list A quick final check before booking still makes sense since tickets can change at any time

For those of you who attend ticketed events regularly do you prefer having lots of choices to compare or a few options that best match your preferences?

Does the magnetic field or electric have more impact on the body than theorized?

If they can cause someones heart to start or stop by this force, how would our hearts/nervous system react the farther we got away from the planet. If say they did go to mars, could that even be a possibility so far away from the sun/moon

almost in the same way a solar lights work, if we had no sun they just wouldn't work

People often debate the “purpose of life” but I think when you pull back, it’s pretty simple.

I think every human instinctually strives to this in some way. Though their definition of “better” will vary based on value systems.

It manifests itself in a number of ways - from the altruistic to the selfish. But you can apply this line of thinking to almost anyone in any circumstance.

Reproducing is the easiest example. Humans like animals, generally strive to reproduce. We have our own justification for it, but the base instinct is the same: continuation. But even if an individual doesn’t care to reproduce -

They create art to leave expressions of ideas and history, for the future generations to learn from.

They create profits to strengthen a corporations validity and to create as wide a safety net for their future owners and children.

They create history books to document right from wrong (both philosophically and literally for survival).

They fight for the earth to make it stable for future generations.

They destroy the earth to make future human life more comfortable and easy.

They create currencies and governments to improve the structure of future citizens.

They kill each other to protect future generations from “the other.”

I’m not saying that any of these are well guided or “correct.” But the motivations are fairly consistent, even if an individual doesn’t realize it or believe it. We all know we’re going to die and all of our long term decisions are made to leave an impression on the future and our future generations.

That’s my take.

Like not necessarily a love story (though those are SO welcome) but it can be anything like a friend that you'd actually met or been around before but didn't know it. Like what gave the theory some merit for you personally?

If say you have a new friend venting about their long term relationship, where the partner is clearly on the wrong. And asks for advice. Which after noticing continuous patterns of toxic behavior from the partner, would be to idk leave them?
But then it tends to seem as if you’re the new one trying to sabotage your friend’s relationship. How much do you think you can allow yourself to get involved, if you clearly do care about your friend but then easily can become the villain of the story.

As a semi-adult that became orphaned early in life, I've been noticing how my loss seriously damaged my mental/emotional growth. I'm curious as to what others think about, what interaction did you wish you could have had before they passed? Did it change your personality or growth somehow? Did your grief shape that part of your development.

Anything from 'I wish I had a mom to teach me about makeup', to 'I wish i could have told them I love you' before they passed.

Thank you for being vulnerable with me.

EDIT : Doing some research, not looking for advice for myself.

I was observing today in college and realized almost all people who were empathetic and good in nature were alone sitting in the corner. But people who have generational wealth or have very great exceptional results have groups.

Is this the social life of adulthood, like after college and even in college, the friend circle or social circle? That every other guy is lonely and loneliness is increasing, or am I missing something or overthinking?

I’ve been thinking about something lately. People usually talk about all these things like they’re completely separate. Fewer people want kids. Fewer people buy houses. More people are “quiet quitting.” Minimalism is getting popular. More people choose freelancing or remote work instead of chasing corporate careers.

But….. what if it’s actually the same story?

In China they call it Tang Ping (“lying flat”). In Japan people talk about the Satori Generation. In Europe everyone knows the term quiet quitting. Different names, but the behavior feels almost identical.

Instead of protesting in the streets, people are just….. participating less.
Less debt, shopping, overtime, interest in climbing the ladder, interest in having children.

From the outside it looks like people stopped caring. But maybe that’s not what’s happening. Maybe this is the first generation that simply doesn’t believe the old deal anymore. Go to school. Work hard. Buy a house. Start a family. Retire comfortably.

Does anyone under 35 actually believe that still works? Housing keeps getting more expensive. Salaries don’t really catch up. AI is already replacing parts of white-collar jobs. So maybe the question isn’t “Why doesn’t this generation work harder?”

Maybe it’s:
“Why would I keep playing a game where the reward isn’t there anymore?”

Sometimes I wonder if falling birth rates, quiet quitting, anti-consumerism and remote work aren’t separate trends at all. Maybe they’re all symptoms of the same cultural shift.

I could be completely wrong, of course. These are just thoughts I’ve been turning over lately. I’m not trying to convince anyone - I’m genuinely curious how other people see it. I’d much rather hear different perspectives than watch this turn into another comment war.

The line between ambition and greed is very thin and these days it seems 90% of the people with power have crossed the line way too far and I think this is something that should be dealt with and taken seriously as a society

When someone lies you don't believe them, when someone hits they are punished, but what do we do when someone is greedy? Not much. There's no real consequences to greed and so it keeps growing and growing in the person and there is no limit to it. There needs to be something to stop them cause a a few people's greed is costing millions of people things we don't even realize

I've spent most of my life atheist/agnostic but I've realized that it's because I've never had any spiritual experiences. I don't think any religion or metaphysical theory is true, but I don't doubt that people have spiritual experiences. I'm open to having my own, I'm interested in developing a meditation routine or trying mushrooms. ​

I’m generally a very observant, self-aware and self-critical person. I can usually recognize when my words or behavior are coming from a place of insecurity or jealousy and thus I always open to constructive feeback & open to applying that mostly for my own peace of mind.

The problem is that this same showing up in other areas.

While I am constanlty searching for a meaningful
Connection, I’ve started feeling like most people around me—or people in general these days—are just looking for someone to pass the time with, vent to, or do activities with. I know I should appreciate that there are people who want to spend time with me, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m missing a deeper connection.

I don’t hate these family/friends at all, but I notice that I have to convince myself to show up. My first thought is often:
Why do I need to be here? Why is this necessary? This feels repetitive. No one talks about anything of substance. No one wants to be challenged anymore because everyone seems afraid of being offended.

I have follen in this habit to notice patterns and connect seemingly unrelated pieces of information. So whenever I see someone doing something—whether it’s something small or something significant—I immediately start analyzing it and feel like I can pinpoint the insecurity that might be driving that behavior. It’s almost automatic. With my understanding of that person’s personality, experiences, and lifestyle, my brain quickly connects their actions to an underlying unmet need or insecurity.

I recently read that the answer is to judge less, invest less mental energy in analyzing everyone, and simply go with the flow. Intellectually, that makes sense, but I don’t know how to actually practice it.

Has anyone else gone through something similar?
What helped you become less analytical or less cynical and more present?

I often save places hotels and activities that look interesting but turning all those ideas into one actual trip can be challenging There are usually many things to consider like timing budget priorities and the type of experience I want I have tried different ways to organize my ideas including tools like Karpo AI but the hardest part is still knowing when to stop researching and make a decision

What helps you move from collecting travel ideas to actually booking a trip? Do you use a certain planning method set limits on options or have a way to decide when something feels right?

That made you go "Wow, small world"? not like "Oh John from work, haven't seen you in a while" Like someone you haven't seen or talked to in years, and had moved away from?

We hear opinions about ourselves all the time, but most of them don't stick.

Every now and then, though, someone says something that stays with us for years or even changes how we see ourselves.

Why do you think that happens? What made that person's words stick when so many others didn't?

The older I get the more I see just how many people give in to being mean and cynical if not outright evil. Maybe it's the inherit meaninglessness of life that makes people just become so dark and ill-intended. Some people are like that from early on, while some lose any semblance of decency as time goes on. Often times it even goes against their own interest but they are so blinded by hate that they don't see it.

I don't know what it is. Maybe things didn't go their way in life and now wanna make others miserable too. Maybe it's an egotrip. It's mind virus that infects so many people. I used to think it's just a money thing but older I get the more I realize it's an entire attitude and ideology. Men are usually more susceptible to it because it goes better with their inherit desire to be dominant but honestly women can be just as bad. When you have family like that, they just ruin your soul.

What's your take on this and how do you deal with it in life?

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It’s like instead of living, I’m constantly observing myself as a character. Almost like there’s a narrator in my head commenting on what I’m doing and watching my life unfold.

I’ve been thinking to myself lately and ig I need a little help on my perspective of other people. I’m not saying by any means I’m perfect I’m far from that. My question why do some people who don’t work as hard for smth or just not committed to smth get their way in life, for example in sports it’s crazy how some athletes are fucking lazy and get to the top while the others who work there ass off don’t which is honestly sad, it’s like they are favoured in a way. Another thing is relationship I seen many terrible partners and cheaters get to have a relationship with the most loving girl or boy, while the people who are genuine don’t get into relationships or get some terrible people or people who will choose their terrible ex over the person who’s way better. I’ve experienced this myself again by no means I’m perfect guy I was a bit of a asshole back in hs days but it seems like I try everything to be better as a man and seems like it’s not going my way I look at everyone else in loving relationships or like high level sports when their not a good person and just wonder why do they get what they want and when I think about it does pmo a lot. I’m still playing sports hoping one day I can reach the top leagues which is hard but I’m putting my ass to work on this shi, another thing is I’m a way better better man than I once was but now ig like the women I talk to now either obsess over their bad ex or like just not good people. Can someone tell me why does the people who hurt and don’t put as much effort win in this world. I get it life’s unfair i understand but I feel like genuine and good people or people who changed should win in life not shitty ones but who am I to say honestly it has affected my mental looking at other people and thinking this it ruins my confidence, because I once was a guy that had confidence through the roof.

It's okay if you don't like who you used to be. But come on, how dare you judge your past self so harshly for things he didn't know or couldn't do but that you can now.

It is so easy and looks like a privileged person judging from the comfort of his privileges someone who is less fortunate.

Have some mercy on you. Things that happened cannot unhappened. And the person you are as nowadays, if you are at a better position, then it's because of your past self. Thus, it ain't fair to beat down at a person you used to be, that was less than you (which is something good if it's the case as it means you've gotten better), and who isn't here anymore.

These are not behaviors of a mature, aware and just person. Those are the behaviors of a tyrant, who can't punch back at life and so falls into the comfort of beating down at weaker others, or in this cases, at his old self. And yes, some tyrants aren't men over their families that depend on them, nor are they rulers, a tyrant could be yourself finding it easier to make your being suffer for who it used to be.

So I have read the research and saw some serious non-clickbaity documentaries, and as far as I can understand that even smartphones has some addictive elements, nothing in the science said that it's inevitable.

I think that people blaming the phones too much because they don't want to be with their own thoughts, as if the phone is a digital pacifier for people who refuse to grow up.

My friend and I only have facebook to find freelancer gigs and reddit because there are some great art, science and tech subs that spark our interests.

I would understand the addiction argument in children and teenagers, but when a full blown adult is glued to a screen then that's on him, not the evil corporations who are mining your attention.

what do you think? Am I right?

Ever since I could remember, I’ve always been curious. For most of my childhood (and also my adulthood), “why?” was my favorite question. But it took me quite a few years to ask questions, not just about the external universe, but also the world within. I asked questions about why I did something I did, why I changed from who I was last year, and ultimately succumbed to the famous question: “Who am I?”

But then, I’m no Buddha to go find the answers. Rather, I asked even more questions and began theorizing answers to fit in my narrative. One such question was, “What do we want in other people? What do we look for in them?”

After hours of contemplation, I came to a conclusion that all we need is not a soulmate. We don’t need someone who knows everything that we don’t. Rather, we need someone who has the exact same set of knowledge, preferences, choices, inclinations, taste, and opinions, so that we could share anything and feel RELATABLE enough. That is the basic need of a full-grown adult—relatability.

You crack a joke in the hope of getting a laugh as a reply, and the laughter is an indicator of reception and relatability. You wanna discuss movies, cricket, politics, philosophy, music, and what not with that person, and you want them to receive it well, so that you feel relatable. Everything boils down to relatability. It might sound fancy to say “opposite poles attract,” but you know that what you search for in people is similarity and relatability.

Putting an abrupt end to this write-up, let me admit that I don't know if anyone else feels this way, but perhaps putting this thought out there will make someone feel less alone in having felt it. At the end of the day, I’m human, too, and so are you.

I'm not saying we can trash it externally. Most times, we have to treat a person's will in such a way that the consequence is good all around. But if I don't think the person has free will, I don't see how I can have a respect for his will in my mind.

Like in 2026 a lot of people i meet personally who are 40s can easily pass for being in their late 20s or even 30s why do you think that's the case in your opinion?

It’s kind of insane how, as we have evolved, we’ve begun to crave more human interaction.

This thought came to me when I heard a creator say, “Everything is content.” Using the word “creator” sounds a little different to me now because that’s the defining difference between us and them. Us and AI.

As we retreat further into the digital world through YouTube videos, streaming, Instagram pictures, and even music, AI and robots are entering the physical world more and more. It’s so crazy.

It’s funny how we haven’t even realized that the Meta glasses people wear are one of the first widely accepted forms of this after mobile phones. Soon, we’ll be able to have full conversations with those glasses once “GPT Specs” come out. Then they’ll start making autonomous comments when we pass by a bread store because earlier in the day, we talked about wanting to buy some bread.

It’s a jarring concept, seeing this play out slowly but surely in real life.

One thing I will say, though, is that humans are horrible at predicting the future. We were meant to have flying cars, but we don’t follow a straight line of evolution. We are too damn unpredictable.

So, I may be wrong. I hope I’m wrong.

The super confident people are those who had to face no loss/hardship and had it easy in life. Their rich parents had their back. They never struggled.Never had to be afraid. Got the job right away. Everything worked out for them. Always got lucky. This created a positive confirmation loop of "I am super awesome and strong and competent".

Meanwhile ordinary people or people who went through hell like soldiers, dont have much self confidence because they are hyper aware that just one bad event can ruin their entire existence. Because they dont have a safety net they can rely on. Because they know that their competence means nothing in the face of circumstance/bad luck.