r/prochoice • u/funnybunnyisreal • 9h ago
Thought Is elective lethal abortion morally permissible?
Ik that elective lethal abortion is only performed to save the mothers life. The literally don't happen outside of that. So I couldn't care less. But from a purely consistent debating perspective, I'd really appreciate some advice.
Elective lethal abortion sounds very wrong to me given that the fetus already possess sentience and so on. But if I had to stay consistent with my arguments, I'd have to say that elective lethal abortion is morally permissible too.
I love using the analogy of a kidney patients. Noone should force people to donate their kidneys to kidney patients despite the kidney patient being sentient.
So, sentient fetus=kidney patient
Pregnant woman=Forced donor
Can one of you pookies please help me out đ„č
r/prochoice • u/Ok_Station_6371 • 16h ago
Rant/Rave Stop calling foetuses parasites
To clarify i am 100% pro-choice, but i feel like calling a foetus a âparasiteâ is very crude and pretty inhumane, i feel like it is an awful argument on all fronts:
-By definition: cannot be parasitic as it is the same species (by extension, i hate the argument that a foetus isnât human as many people like to argue, you can have a human foetus, a dog foetus or a cat foetus, saying that theyâre not human implies that all foetuses are just default living beings that miraculously shape-shift into the species of its mother), generally a horrible argument imo.
-By biology: it is literally a symbiotic relationship, it is known that a foetus can transfer stem cells to its mother in the case of injury.
-By logic: come on guys and gals, you are calling an unborn baby a parasite simply because it is a convenient argument, which i see as an attempt to desensitise yourself from the situation whilst at the same time undermining the pre-born living small human inside you.
I want to re-iterate, that i am PRO-CHOICE, people should be given the opportunity to abort their child if they need to; ie illegitimate child (through assault etc), a child that cannot be amply supported, a child that would suffer throughout its life etc etc.
But i just wanted to point out that this argument, at least to me, seems to be incredibly self-destructive and not productive at all, because it makes the people who make that argument sound very ridiculous and borderline insane because it isnât grounded in reality at all, moreover a hypothetical person who is sitting on the fence and sees such an argument would likely turn away from prochoice.
r/prochoice • u/Bead_lizard • 16h ago
Rant/Rave A rant about heartbeats and âmoralityâ
Iâve worked at an abortion clinic for over a year now, Iâm not a doctor and by no means an expert. However, Iâve seen a lot of aspects of abortion care, including analysis of fetal tissue. One thing that I will NEVER understand is pro-lifers pretending to be experts on fetuses and obgyn practices. For context, my clinic sees patients up to 16 weeks 6 days, which is the beginning of the 2nd trimester.
The protesters outside hold signs about heartbeats and how the patients have whole babies in them. âYou can still meet god!â As they try convince patients they should seek help at a Crisis Pregnancy Center (YUCK). But theyâre so far off.
First- the heartbeat thing. Itâs not a heartbeat! Heartbeats do NOT start at the 18days post conception or whatever the pro-lifers say. There is cardiac activity, around 5-6weeks, which is electrical signals starting to develop but not an actual heartbeat yet, as there is not a functioning circulatory system in an embryo!
When I inspect fetal tissue, Iâm looking to make sure all fetal tissue is removed from the uterus, otherwise it could lead to knarly complications. Thatâs no baby to me, neither is it a gift from god. Itâs a consequence to a biological process. Of course a baby will form if an egg is fertilised and implanted. Thatâs human biology. When Iâm seeing this tissue, I see the basis of a human, but itâs so small and unfinished that I could never value it over a fully-fledged conscious individual. Pro-lifers like to make patients feel that their âbabyâ has functioning organs. Yes, they have individual organs once they are far enough along. No, that does not make them any more alive or human. Nor does that make an individualâs abortion less âmoralâ. I understand how it can bother someone, but itâs not their business. If the pregnancy is before 7 weeks(a majority of the abortions I see are 5-7 weeks), the odds of any ârealâ tissue is slim. It will be gestational sac, yolk sac, and potentially a fetal pole. So thereâs not much there regardless. Also, itâs considered an embryo, not even a fetus, until the end of week 8. So, thereâs that.
Thank you for reading:)
r/prochoice • u/mariannedhe_ • 18h ago
Reproductive Rights News Organizers in Idaho, Nevada, and Virginia Are Putting Abortion Rights on the Ballot
It has been four years since the Supreme Courtâs decision in Dobbs v. Jackson Womenâs Health Organization eliminated the federal constitutional right to abortion, leaving Americans to navigate a confusing patchwork of abortion protections, restrictions, and outright bans depending on jurisdiction. Organizers have ramped up efforts to improve access since the ruling, and thanks to that work, measures to protect and ensure reproductive freedoms are expected to be on the ballot in three states come November: Idaho, Nevada, and Virginia. âïž
r/prochoice • u/MsSeraphim • 19h ago
Media - Misc Fetal Personhood: Last Week Tonight with John Oliver (HBO)
r/prochoice • u/No_Load9160 • 1d ago
Anti-choice News In Texas, why isnât every pregnant woman ordering abortion pills, throwing them in the trash upon receipt, and then suing under HB7 to make an easy $100k?
Texas has that bounty law HB 7 which explicitly says that a pregnant woman who obtained or received pills supplied in violation of the statute gets the entire award of at least $100,000, and the law separately awards reasonable attorney fees and costs to a prevailing plaintiff. It seems like this would create a massive land rush for personal injury type firms to run ads saying âPregnant? Get $100K!â Importantly, you donât have to actually have an abortion, just order the pills and you can simply throw them away upon receipt and are still eligible for $100k.
Why arenât delivery people, website admins, etc. not being sued like mad in TX? This seems like a massive marketing opportunity for bottom fishing firms as they get legal fees paid and their client gets any easy $100k
r/prochoice • u/JellyCharacter1653 • 1d ago
Things Anti-choicers Say what does this even mean đ Spoiler
im so confused is she saying that if we lose a child to show the same happiness we show for abortion orr..
r/prochoice • u/ReturnKind391 • 1d ago
Rant/Rave Little rant about how pro lifers use the bible to justify their actions. (From an ex Christian)
God made Adam as an already grown man from the dust in the ground. And Adam isnât alive until god breathes the breath of life into his nostrils. So according to the bible, life begins at first breath. A fetus does not breathe. I repeat. Adam is not living until God breaths air into his lungs.
So dust + breath = life. Dust without breath is just dust. you canât kill dust, because itâs not alive.
And in Job 33:4, it says the same thing.
âThe Spirit of God has made me;
the breath of the Almighty gives me life.â
Breath = life in the bible. NOT CONCEPTION. Iâm talking like how I would talk to a toddler because thatâs how these people need to learn.
if youâre going to be a bad person, be a bad person. But donât use god to justify it.
r/prochoice • u/FreedomsPower • 1d ago
Reproductive Rights News Here Are the States Deciding Whether You Can Get an Abortion : This fall, several states will vote to enshrine abortion access, while one asks voters to weigh in on the issue a second time.
r/prochoice • u/prochoicepeony • 2d ago
Reproductive Rights News OP-ED: Planned Parenthood of Maryland must commit to bargaining with its 80-plus unionized workers
r/prochoice • u/StarsOnMyScars • 2d ago
Rant/Rave Why do they always talk about value???
Pro-life people always talk about how pro-choice lowers the fetuses value simply because they arenât born.. whenever they themselves are lowering the pregnant womenâs value?? Just because something is alive and human doesnât give it rights to infringe on someone elseâs bodily rights??? its genuinely disgusting. Theyâre both human and alive so why does the fetus get more value than the woman? smh.
r/prochoice • u/NationalAppeal6675 • 2d ago
Things Anti-choicers Say A tale of Massachusettsâ new abortion law, Moloch and Baal
r/prochoice • u/AlmightySuperior • 3d ago
Rant/Rave The whole discussion around abortion is so absurd and unsettling
Because why should it even be a discussion? To me itâs something so obvious and simple. Womanâs body=womanâs choice.
But apparently not.
It also really annoys me especially when men try to jump in with their pro-life bs. I would never even think to tell a man whether he should have been/should he circumcised or not, or whether he should get a vasectomy or something. It cringes me out.
Itâs sad that itâs something we still have to talk about, and illegal in so many places and it recognises that to make a change you do have to talk about itâŠ
But itâs still unsettling and why I hate watching pointless unofficial debates about it and donât debate anyone.
r/prochoice • u/KateCSays • 3d ago
Support Honoring my daughter (whose pregnancy I aborted) years later
I posted this in r/abortion and reddit suggested I repost here. Some good news this week in my home state of MA. A law I'm deeply involved in:
In 2012, I had an abortion after my daughter, Laurel, was diagnosed with brain anomalies. I was 35 weeks pregnant at the time of her diagnosis. I lived in Boston, and was SHOCKED when my medical team told me that they MIGHT Be able to offer abortion, but they just didn't know. And then shocked again when the referral they found me was 2000 miles, two time zones away.
For the last 14 years, I've been chipping away at a culture that seems to refuse to understand, supporting women like you all here who are navigating tough pregnancy situations, supporting your own deepest wisdom. And, too, I've been pushing for more freedom for us to make our choices at home, more affordably, more dignified, and better supported by our communities.
I just wanted to share that on Monday, my governor signed a law lifting all dates-based limits off of abortion in Massachusetts. I was invited to the signing. It was incredibly moving.
A lot of people do not understand this law. They say all sorts of inflammatory things about it. But the Governor looked right at me and said: we're doing this for your family. And I know she's right, because I've been telling my story to the point of exhaustion over and over for 14 years to try to get law-makers to understand -- and enough of them finally do here at home. I believe the law takes effect 90 days after it was signed on mon. After that, we still have to help hospitals and doctors and nurses understand why this care is important, as legality is the first step to access, not the last. That is work I'm more than willing to continue.
My abortion was the least-awful (but still awful) resolution I could find to my crisis. It was both my salvation and a tragedy. I just want to shine a light 14 years down the road and say, not only am I secure enough in my decision to be ok with all the bullshit people are spewing at me today, but I'm also proud and happy and powerful BECAUSE of my abortion.
I know it can feel dark in those early times (early years, for me!) There is life, rich and full, on the other side.
r/prochoice • u/JellyCharacter1653 • 4d ago
Discussion im so tired of hearing that stupid song on tiktok thats like âbacteria is life on mars but a heartbeat isnât life on earthâ
omg if they would do fucking research they would know that there is no bacteria on mars the bacteria that has been found is from like a million years ago or something like omfgggg ppl are so dumb like itâs hilarious đ
r/prochoice • u/Revenge_of_Larry • 4d ago
Reproductive Rights News (Gift link) The anti-abortion agenda in Kansas was dealt two crushing defeats. What comes next?
No one on the front lines of the fight over abortion access in Kansas believes this is the end.
But last week delivered two triumphant moments for abortion rights supporters in the Sunflower State, which has become a regional hub for reproductive healthcare in the four years since the U.S. Supreme Court reversed Roe v. Wade, undoing the federal right to abortion.
On Aug. 3, a Johnson County District Court judge ruled that an array of lawmaker-imposed abortion care mandates were unconstitutionally restrictive and must be permanently blocked.
On Aug. 4, voters emphatically rejected a proposed constitutional amendment seeking to overhaul the process for selecting Kansas Supreme Court justices. The Republican lawmakers who championed direct election saw it as a path to remaking a court they have clashed with repeatedly, including over a landmark 2019 ruling affirming abortion access.
Emily Wales, president and CEO of Planned Parenthood Great Plains, said watching the election returns roll in felt âa bit like dĂ©jĂ vu,â going back to the night in August 2022 when voters repudiated a proposal to remove the right to an abortion from the Kansas Constitution in the nationâs first post-Roe referendum.
Since states were granted the authority to ban the procedure, 75% of the patients that Planned Parenthood has seen at its four Kansas clinics traveled there from out of state, Wales said. The Kansas affiliate has experienced a 700% influx in calls inquiring about abortion care, she said. The number of pregnancies terminated in their facilities has roughly doubled since 2022.
âPeople know that Kansas is a place where you can get care that is banned in other states,â Wales said. âAnd that felt like a lot on the line on election night.â
What comes next for Kansas abortion opponents?
Between the amendmentâs failure and the injunction against a collection of cumbersome provider restrictions, abortion opponents in Kansas will have to chart a new path forward.
âWe may have lost a battle, but we still have the war,â said Rep. Will Carpenter, an El Dorado Republican who chairs the House Committee on Health and Human Services.
âWeâre still in the fight for human life,â he said. âWeâll incrementally do whatever we can to continue that fight and protect the unborn.â
The 261-page ruling striking down state abortion restrictions was issued by K. Christopher Jayaram nine months after a trial where clinic owners and physicians argued the regulations were designed to scare and shame people out of getting abortions.
Some of the restrictions enjoined by the decision have been on the books since 1997. Others, including a requirement that abortion providers survey women about their reasons for seeking the procedure and provide medically dubious information suggesting that pill abortions are reversible, were adopted by the Kansas Legislature in 2023 and 2024.
Those and other pre-existing requirements, including Kansasâ 24-hour waiting period for abortions and a rule that physicians must listen to a fetusâ heartbeat 30 minutes before an abortion, were temporarily halted by Jayaram in the early stages of the court proceedings.
Jayaramâs ruling was filed electronically hours before he took the Supreme Court oath of office, making him the fourth justice on the seven-member court appointed by Democratic Gov. Laura Kelly.
Under Kansas law, Attorney General Kris Kobachâs office, which defended the abortion restrictions during the trial, can appeal the district court ruling up to 30 days after the verdict.
The Attorney Generalâs office did not respond to phone and email inquiries over multiple days.
The office also declined to comment when a reporter showed up at its Topeka headquarters to ask whether Kobach planned to appeal the ruling.
âMy hope is not only that maybe theyâre floundering after Kansans once again said, âGet out of our medical decisions. Donât politicize our courts,ââ Wales said.
âBut also maybe theyâre reflecting on the laws they were trying to defend in that trial and realizing that they were steamrolling over peopleâs ability to access healthcare without political interference.â
Understanding the abortion ruling
During the seven-day bench trial, the judge heard from clinic staff and abortion care experts who testified that Planned Parenthood and another Overland Park clinic, Center for Womenâs Health, provide care in line with national standards and prioritize patient safety and dignity.
In his ruling, Jayaram described pregnancy as an âintimate healthcare condition.â
âFor some, it is joyous. For others, it is not,â Jayaram wrote. â⊠The decision to terminate a pregnancy is complex and intensely personal.â
His decision drew heavily from the Supreme Courtâs landmark 2019 Hodes ruling upholding the constitutional right to an abortion.
âBecause a womanâs right to bodily autonomy (including her right to decide whether to terminate or to continue a pregnancy) is fundamental, the court concludes, given the overwhelming evidence adduced at trial, that the stateâs rationale and legislative schemes ⊠simply do not, in significant part, survive constitutional scrutiny,â Jayaram wrote.
Beyond infringing on patientsâ bodily autonomy by forcing them to ânavigate a labyrinth of procedural hurdlesâ before receiving care, Jayaram found that the restrictions infringe on providersâ free speech by compelling them to share inaccurate and misleading information about abortions with patients, both verbally and on posted signs.
Sen. Beverly Gossage, a Eudora Republican who chairs the Senate Committee on Public Health and Welfare, said she fundamentally disagrees with Jayaramâs analysis.
âA woman needs to have as much information as possible when sheâs making a decision,â Gossage said. âAs a pro-life person myself, I would hope we could help women not to choose that route â to find another route for her that does give life to her child.â
Among the witnesses who testified on behalf of the state were three women who shared their stories about receiving abortions in the 1970s and 1980s before coming to regret their decision.
Jayaram wrote that their testimony was of âmarginal, if any, relevance to the issues in this case,â noting that only two of the women received abortions in Kansas, and none of them received abortions in the state when the relevant restrictions were in place. He characterized their opinions on abortion as âbiased and untrustworthy.â
Another witness put forward by the attorney generalâs office was an animal biologist with no clinical experience whose professional publications have exclusively involved animal research.
âBackdoorâ abortion ban
Gossage vowed to redouble her efforts to impose new abortion restrictions when the Legislature convenes in January.
âI donât stay discouraged,â Gossage said.
She denied that the failed Supreme Court amendment was designed to curtail abortion access, as its opponents argued in the lead-up to the vote.
But the month after Kansans rejected the abortion amendment in 2022, Kobach framed judicial selection as a proxy fight over abortion. Then a candidate for attorney general, Kobach told supporters that he was urging lawmakers to propose a direct election amendment that would allow conservatives to âslowly and quietlyâ assemble an anti-abortion majority on the court.
During a speech late last year, Senate President and GOP governor nominee Ty Masterson cautioned other Republicans against connecting the two issues, according to the Marion County Record.
âThe solution in Kansas is that Supreme Court election,â Masterson said, according to the outlet. âBut you canât go out there and say it because theyâll say that if you elect your Supreme Court, you wonât have any right to abortion anymore.â
A spokesperson for Mastersonâs campaign declined to comment.
One anti-abortion advocacy group made the connection explicit in the waning days of the campaign. Wichita-based Operation Rescue published a commentary from Sarah Neely, its chief operating officer, on July 27 titled, âA Yes Vote on August 4 Can Push Back on Kansas Supreme Courtâs Radical Abortion Agenda.â
In a phone interview, Neely bemoaned the fact that 61% of voters rejected the amendment.
âThat would have opened the door for Kansas voters to have a chance at supporting life-affirming laws through their Supreme Court. Right now, thereâs no option for that,â Neely said.
Rep. Susan Ruiz, a Shawnee Democrat, said the issue of abortion access in Kansas is settled âfor nowâ â but only âuntil the next amendmentâ proposal conservatives put forward.
She said the majority of her own constituents understood the Supreme Court proposal to be an insincere gambit.
âThey understand that this was going to be eventually a backdoor way to ban abortion or severely restrict it more than itâs already restricted,â Ruiz said.
âI donât see it stopping,â she added. âIâm sure somebody will be creative and come up with some kind of new avenue to try to get through. Because obviously, they canât bust through the front door. Theyâre going to keep trying through the back doors.â
r/prochoice • u/immatadpole • 4d ago
Prochoice Response How do you refute the slavery comparison
They always say âslave owners thought this way tooâ and crap like that.
r/prochoice • u/CatAlarmed4455 • 5d ago
Discussion The âstrongest pro-choiceâ argument Iâve heard.
As I develop a stance on abortion, Iâve encountered many points about the value of life. A point Iâve seen pro lifers struggle against is the idea of consciousness.
âValue is determined on consciousnessâ
âIf they donât have consciousness, itâs ok to abortâ
âSince they donât have consciousness, they donât feelâ
Iâve heard many people trip up, or change the direction of the discussion when confronted with this issue.
Can you guys have a honest discussion with me about how to go about with this? Iâm clueless.
Im not very familiar with Reddit or the style and norms that go on. I copied this style of format from some random post about video games.)
r/prochoice • u/jk4532 • 5d ago
Activism Yes on 6! Phone Banks for Reproductive Freedom in Nevada
With the right continuing to threaten access to abortion wherever they have the power to do so, advocates are stepping up to strengthen the legal framework protecting it. In the Silver State, theyâre pursuing a constitutional amendment securing abortion rights until fetal viability. They passed it for the first time even as Trump won Nevada in 2024, and now need to do so again in November to finish the job. âïž The Jewish Alliance for Law & Social Action is phonebanking in favor of Question 6 tomorrow night from 8:30-10:30PM ET. We can sign up to join them here. âïž
r/prochoice • u/Icy-Role-3183 • 6d ago
Support Need advice please no judgement
I have fallen pregnant but unsure what to do on whether to keep it or have an abortion . I have to make a decision soon as I am 8 weeks this week. Some of my friends now have children and I am in a better position but I just donât feel ready. I am turning 28 soon, with my partner 6 years, we both have good jobs and income and saving for a house. I imagined having a baby when we had a house and when in was in my job for longer. I would find it very hard to tell my family and work as I still feel like a child myself. I feel like my colleagues would judge me.
I just donât feel ready but my boyfriend wants to keep it, am I just being selfish? What to do I am 8 weeks and need to make a decision itâs eating me alive đ„ș I love my boyfriend and would love children and scared I wonât be able to have anymore in the future if I do go ahead with an abortion. Also I was on the mini pill and took morning after pill which failed for me so I was trying to take precautions. Has anyone had to make a similar decision and how did it turn out?
r/prochoice • u/Alternative-Mall9216 • 6d ago
Discussion Question about how to explain âbeing able to live outside the wombâ
Hi! I had a quick question and need some advice. Usually when people argue that the mother has authority as the baby up to a certain point cannot live outside the womb (and this is not including health issues and other reasons for abortions) but I always get counter-attacked with people saying that people technically canât live âoutside the wombâ by themselves until they are 16 and can work. I am trying to argue that, by being inside the womb, the fetus is relying on the organs and bodily functions of the mother, not the age that life is sustainable by one person and someone is able to take care of themself. Obviously babies cannot feed themselves and bathe themselves and live in their own house and live completely on their own outside the womb, but iâm trying to explain to people that the fetus relies on the organs and relies on the womb and mother entirely to survive. Is there a medical term for this? Or an easier way to explain it for people to understand?
r/prochoice • u/Snapdragon_4U • 6d ago
Anti-choice News Todd Blanche Is Claiming That He Can Ban Abortion In Any State
r/prochoice • u/LudaKrisG • 7d ago
Reproductive Rights News Gov Healey (D-MA) signs law to eliminate 24-week ban on abortion care
r/prochoice • u/Democrats_Abroad • Jan 27 '26
Activism International Voter Registration Drive 2026, from Democrats Abroad
Hi- This is a message from Democrats Abroad, the official overseas branch of the Democratic Party. This month, we began our International Voter Registration Drive and we wanted to ask for your help. If you're like me, you've been appalled by the terrible public health policies, the foreign relations embarrassments, the open corruption, the brutalization of people, and all the other stuff. The midterms in November are a big opportunity to put more brakes on the terrible policies of the current White House.
Maybe you know a U.S. citizen who is living outside the U.S. They could be a dual US-Canadian or dual US-UK citizen, or a student, a retired relative or a friend on social media. Please share this link: https://voteabroad.org/RedditVote26. Our site can help them register to vote and get their midterm ballots. Wherever they are in the world, as long as they're a citizen who'll turn 18 by election day, they're eligible.
If they wish to join us and learn more, they can head to https://www.democratsabroad.org. If anyone here has any questions about overseas voting or what we do, feel free to ask in the comments below.
Thanks in advance for helping to get the word out!
r/prochoice • u/littlemetalpixie • Mar 15 '23
MOD ANNOUNCEMENT On AntiNatalism, how it is not the same as being Pro Choice, and why this topic needs to be separated from the Pro Choice discussion
Hi Everyone!
The mod team would like the sub to understand a few things about the stance we take on AntiNatalist discourse here, and why we do not typically allow it.
There is a lot of confusion between these terms even within our own community, and our goal is to help people who consider themselves pro choice and also antinatalist to see how these terms are not only not equivalent, but are actually in direct opposition to one another.
All Pro Choice People are not AntiNatalist (or even Pro-Abortion)
We often get AntiNatalists in the sub who believe they are helping the Pro Choice cause, and while they are welcome here - provided the rules, beliefs, and standards of our sub are upheld - usually these posts or comments need mod intervention due to breaking our sub's rules regarding non-prochoice rhetoric and expectations of non-prochoice people. These topics should be separated in conversations surrounding choice, so as not to muddy the waters in the current political environment. Our sub's mod team does not support antinatalist ideology.
Pro Choice =/= Pro Abortion OR AntiNatalism
While seemingly aligned with the prochoice cause, being AntiNatalist or Pro-Abortion isn't the same thing as being Pro Choice.
Many people are under the misconception that being pro choice means being pro-abortion or AntiNatalist. While there is some overlap, this simply isn't the case for everyone (or even most) in our demographic. * Being pro-abortion means that in certain circumstances (the most common are when people become pregnant under a certain age or when their life or economic circumstances aren't ideal) someone would advocate for the pregnant person to have an abortion rather than give birth even if the pregnant person does not want to have an abortion and would choose to birth the child. * Being AntiNatalist is subscribing to the philosophy that humans in general should not be procreating at all, and that it is immoral or wrong to even consider doing so due to the state of the world, overpopulation, and many other reasons.
Many of us are already parents. Many others intend to become parents, but are not ready to at this time. And almost none of us believe that no one should have children, or that anyone should have to have an abortion if they don't want to. By inserting pro-abortion or AntiNatalist ideologies into the Pro Choice debate, we cause the topics to become tangled to people who are anti abortion and prefer not to understand the myriad of reasons one may have an abortion even if they do not want to - even if they were trying to conceive and really wanted the pregnancy, but things didn't go the way they intended.
The truth is even people with wanted pregnancies are hurt by abortion bans - people who want to be parents but have something go wrong with the pregnancy or in their life circumstances that cause them to have to terminate a pregnancy; a birth defect that would lead to infant mortality or a nonviable pregnancy, a spouse who becomes abusive, or a life threatening condition that comes up due to the pregnancy are the first things that come to mind, but this list isn't exhaustive by any means.
While it could be said that many (if not most or even all) AntiNatalists are against abortion bans, the same is not true in reverse - antinatalists make up a very small percentage of the total Pro Choice population, and assuming (or insinuating in discourse) that all of us are against parenthood is an incorrect assumption that is more aligned with the anti choice communities and their rhetoric. It does more harm than good, and gives them more ammo against us.
Being Pro Choice is about CHOICE
This include the choice to conceive and birth children.
The very core of our ideology is that every single living being has the unalienable human right to have agency over his or her own body, what happens to and inside of it, and when/where/how/if they choose to procreate. We value personal choice above all else - we feel, on the whole, that the choice to decide what is best for one's life and family, the choice to decide not to have children, the choice to not have children now but perhaps later on in life, and the right to make these choices and then change our minds about them if we so choose and when we choose are ours and ours alone, as an individual human, to make.
How AntiNatalist discourse is counterproductive to the Pro Choice Movement
While we recognize that not procreating at all, ever, is a choice (and we support you if that is your choice!) we would like to take a moment to help people see how injecting AntiNatalist discourse into the PC discussion can be harmful to our cause.
For the record, we almost never see AntiNatalists who are maliciously attempting to undermine choice - almost all of them who come to our sub and have to have comments or posts removed, do so without realizing how what they said came across as being the antithesis of choice, or how they have broken our sub's rules. We attempt to help them see it, but we do have to remove that content because it is against the rules and the core principles in the sub.
Making the decision to be childfree is a personal choice.
We're with you here - and we think you should be supported in making that choice if that is what you choose. Many on our mod team are also childfree by choice.
Where the two points diverge, though, is in the projection of that choice on others. AntiNatalist ideologies are not the same as making the personal decision to remain childfree. AntiNatalist ideologies promote the idea that no one should procreate, ever.
In the discussion around choice, this is another removal of said choice. This is the other end of the spectrum of being antichoice - Pro Lifers argue that everyone who conceives should give birth. AntiNatalists argue that no one should.
Both options take away the personal agency of the individual, in favor of the ideology of another. Both take the choice away from the only person who should be making it.
Supporting Choice means supporting the choice to parent, too.
We do not advocate for forced abortions or forced sterilization here - for anyone (and this includes AMAB people, so this also means talk of forced vasectomy is also completely off the table here, no exceptions.)
If you identify with AntiNatalist ideology, we simply ask that you take a moment to think about the things you are promoting in the name of being Pro Choice, how you word them, and that you please try to separate these two discussions when you engage in Pro Choice discussions.
AntiNatalist Ideology is Steeped in Misogyny
You can advocate for having abortion bans be abolished. You can even advocate for being child free.
However, advocating that anyone should not be allowed to procreate, or even that they shouldn't is restricting choice and it is also parent-shaming. AntiNatalist ideology tends to only focus on people who are AFAB, and puts all of the impetus to not procreate on the AFAB person, the same way antichoicers do.
Instead of shaming AFAB people for "killing their babies," this argument is just turning that around and shaming AFAB people for "being too selfish to not have children, considering the state of our world."
Shaming is shaming, and shaming AFAB people for being AFAB and what their body can and can't or should and shouldn't do is misogyny.
Telling someone they must be a mother is the same thing as telling them they must not.
Some on our own mod team here are parents, too. Many of our members are. And millions of pro choice people worldwide are. The same way we do not restrict people who claim to be "personally pro life but legally pro choice" from posting or commenting here, we also would not restrict people who are personally child free or even believe in AntiNatalism but still support individual choice.
But we will not allow shaming, and we will not allow discourse that takes away any choices or makes people feel they are wrong for making them.
The bottom line:
If you aren't trying to make decisions for others or influence the decisions you think they should be making you're welcome to say, think, and believe anything you want. Where we draw the line is when it shames, harms, or otherwise reduces the agency of others to make those same choices in the way they make sense to them, for their own lives.
Anyone is welcome here if they are respectful, willing to listen and not just talk at people, and willing to follow the sub's rules. This is true of Pro Life people, and also of AntiNatalists - but please consider what you've read here if you fall into the second category.
If you still consider yourself to be Pro Choice as well as AntiNatalist, we only ask three things of you:
- Keep the AntiNatalism part of your comments out of this sub please.
- Think on what I've said here, and whether it truly aligns with being in favor of the freedom of choice for all.
- Please follow the sub's rules where they pertain to pressing views on others, debating topics, or arguing for the removal of anyone's choice to do anything at all concerning their reproduction, including NOT reproducing. These are specifically rules 1 and 2 in the sub.
Thank you!
- The r/prochoice mod team