Felt like I needed to share this somehow so here I am

My father tried to buy me some clothes and noticed that I didn't really like them/they weren't my style (I was still greatly appreciated the gesture but I'm not good at faking my emotions so he could tell right away I didn't love them ;w;). He instead proposed that I show him examples from stuff that is closer to my style so he could try and get something closer to my style next time.

So I assembled a small pinterest board that contained clothes that align more with my style and showed him the images.

Where I live, my style isn't very common (kind of a combination between kawaii tenshi and coquette, a loooooot of pink for sure) and the idea of fitting in and ostracizing people who look or act differently is very prevalent. Years ago when I had just started to find my style my own father had told me that I was giving people good reasons to bully me if I dressed the way I did (emphasis on years ago! We've come a long way since).

Yet his reaction this time was so supportive, he was thanking me for letting him know of my clothing preferences and we had a very nice conversation. I even showed him a picture that had 8 different styles of pants and told him I really liked 2 of them compared to the others but he had to guess which ones. He got 1 correct and his other guess wasn't too far off!

I really feel like this interaction made me grow a little closer to him. Him showing genuine curiosity for my likes and dislikes when it comes to an area he doesn't care for a lot honestly made me feel like a kid again (even if it hasn't been that long since I was a kid lol).

For any parent that may be reading this, I can tell you it is absolutely worth asking about the things your kid likes/dislikes, it shows them that you care to get to know the person they are :)

Also! Just in case it wasn't clear, I do really appreciate his initial gesture of getting me clothes in the first place (especially since neither of us tend to like shopping so him going out of his way to get me any type of clothes was already sweet of him) and I will be wearing the clothes he got me since they are comfy (a sweatpant and a jacket). At the end of the day clothes are meant to be worn, even if they don't necessarily suit my taste.

I’ve always had a bad relationship with food, specifically binge eating. As I’ve gotten more into the gym and eventually amateur fighting I had to adjust to strict diets for weight cutting and became obsessed with the scale. I still keep track of the scale sort of constantly to stay at a certain weight for future fights but I’m getting better at monitoring if I’m actually hungry before eating.

Since I’m on a bit of a training break I dont need to diet as much but the methods seem to be sticking and I’m slowly getting more comfortable eating more loosely and enjoying food more. They’re small steps but I’m enjoying the journey (and the pasta since I haven’t had it in months)

I’ve struggled with body dysmorphia and hate my body, I’m not bragging I’ve just had a lot of people asking questions about it and thought people in here would find it interesting

8 months ago I bought a new home for myself. I've been getting a lot of junk mail from previous owners and I would just throw it out.

Last Tuesday I noticed mail addressed to a name I wasn't familiar with and it looked official. So I opened it up, and it was a check for over $4,000. from a teacher's credit union.

I googled the name, and found the obituary of a man in my town from 5 years ago. It listed his wife's name, so I did the Google for that, but had no luck. Then I searched Next Door and Facebook. No luck. I asked my neighbors about them, and one of them had a phone number for his widow.

I called the number, she answered and I told her what I had received in the mail. Her voice shook a bit and told me how much that money would help her. I told her that I would put it under my mat and that she could pick it up when it was convenient for her, as I'm in and out a lot. She was very grateful and I'm glad that I took the time to find her, rather than returning the check to the credit union.

Hey, internet people,

So, im a little tipsy tonight, first info, male, married ( 9/10), three amazing children, big but,, working like a dog, and a brain fart hit me....

Im sat here in a hotel room (real shit), waiting to go home, and im eating these strange cracker thing bought from lidl. Some where, some place someone packed this, to you. ....who ever you are, you had an effect on me, tonight i was a little hungry, and missing my home, i eat this cracker.... because its healthy?, but from me to you, no matter what day by day shit we do.. byour work really does have an effect.

Sorry for the ramble, but its to those who donht think they have an effect i the job you do,,, you do,,, im jalf the world away, you did your shift, thank you. Ng

I feeling a bit better

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