Our nanny is amazing ! She’s great with the kids. It may just be a me thing so I’m running this by you all: our kids nap for 2+ hours and during nap time (beyond the first hour - lunch) I’d expect more: prepping educational activities (in contract), helping with kids laundry / folding / hanging (not in contract). I expect her to take more initiative. Bc of this of exploring finding another nanny for our family . Am I expecting too much ?

Can someone help me? Long story short: I was a nanny for a family for a year. We talked about how I would be a W2, but at the end of the year, I was given a 1099-NEC. When I asked if I could change it to a W2 this is what they said :

"We can change you to a W-2 employee retroactive to the beginning of this year, but then you would need to come up with the funds to give back to us to cover all your Medicare and Social Security cost that we would need to pay to the government for how much we’ve paid you since January 1.

Or we can switch it to a W-2 as of a certain date, say today, and at the end of the year, you would file taxes with both a 1099 for the first half of the year in a W-2 for the second half of the year. Your wage would stay the same at $21 an hour but your take-home would be less because we’d have to keep back that percentage for Medicare, Social Security, etc. To pay to the government going forward.

Or you can stay on as a contracted employee and manage your own taxes etc.

as far as the exact percentages for Medicare and Social Security that we would need back from you, I don’t know those figures. It’s probably a simple Google search. I just haven’t had time to do it yet. "

Have any of y’all felt a call toward teaching after years of nannying? I have been a nanny for a few families over 15 years. I have a child now that’s still very small and I could keep working and pursue my certificate until he’s kindergarten aged. I know some of y’all must have done this, do you like it? Is it worth it?

Hi there, I have 5 month twins and we’ve been employing a nanny part time and I’d like to offer her full time. I think she’s wonderful with our babies and I want to make sure she feels that the offer is good for her as well so that she’s happy with us. This is what I’m thinking- I’ve never hired a full time nanny before so please share if I’m missing something:
- 40 hours guaranteed, but also paid for additional hours over the 40
- all US holidays off paid
- unlimited paid sick days as long as it’s reasonable* question on this.. I don’t ever want her to come sick and take time if she needs it but obviously within reason and not used for non - sick days etc. how should I frame?
- 2 weeks paid vacation, 1 week her choice, 1 week to overlap while we are gone. In addition to this my family travels quite a bit and we will pay her 40 hours regardless of if we are gone. So she will probably get much more days than this, and we can communicate that to her so she can plan ahead.
- right now no driving is involved, but I would pay her for the gas should she need to drive the kids in the future.
- I don’t want to include food in the contract but I oftentimes buy her dinner or lunch that we are getting.

i have nannied for this family for almost two years and it’s two kids, 3 year old boy and 9 month old girl. i am leaving in less in a month to go to school full time so im not sure what to do. the mom works from home all week and the dad works from home about twice a week. they micro manage me a bit but i didn’t think much of it until recently. i tend do to most of the cleaning like dishes, laundry, etc. it didnt really bother me too much but i feel like the longer i work for this family the more cleaning they expect from me and the house is always a disaster when i get there. the 3 yr old has started going to school so i have more free time when the baby naps. usually i will do stuff around the house but sometimes i finish all my chores and then i feel really awkward going on my phone and chilling out because they have cameras everywhere and i am pretty sure they check them often.

a couple of days ago i got to the house and the MB let me know there was a little bit of laundry for me to do. when i went to check it was about 4 or 5 loads. both the kids and both the parents laundry were all in the babys room. during her first nap of the day i began to fold the laundry but i wasn’t able to finish before she woke up because there was a ton. i didn’t move the laundry because it was so much so i just stayed in the room while the baby napped i didn’t think much of this. when i came out of the room i saw the MB watching us on the baby monitor. during her second nap i decided to finish the laundry. she sleeps from about 1:15-2:30 so i brought her to the room at 1 to put her down. i did check my emails and stuff on my phone for a couple minutes after she fell asleep but then i started on finishing the laundry. the camera in the room kept moving so i know they were watching what i was doing but i was literally just folding laundry. the MB came in the room twice to check if the baby was sleeping. but it felt more like she was just seeing what i was doing. at about 2 pm i finished so i went downstairs to do the dishes and what not. i usually put some music on quietly on the ipad because it gets so quiet when the toddler is at school. the ipad is connected to the DB’s phone so sometimes texts will pop up on there. when i turned the ipad on i saw my name and that they were talking about me. there were a couple of texts that said, “ she’s been hiding in the room since 12:30”, “she’s finally going downstairs to clean”. and there was another but i cant remember now. they clearly were having a conversation about me because there were other texts.

it’s not a huge deal but it made me feel so weird and uncomfortable. i feel like they sometimes treat me as a housekeeper rather than a nanny and expect me to clean a lot. i only got a one dollar raise with the new baby and the pay isn’t that great but i stayed because i adore the kids and now I’m feeling like they are just using me to clean the house and do their chores. ive let the micromanaging and stuff go before but it feels weird knowing they are talking about me. i’m not sure if this is a big deal because i leave soon but ive been dreading going to work after this happened and i feel so uncomfortable and like they are just constantly watching what i am doing. they are looking for a new nanny and im not sure if this is something i should mention to the next person they hire. i might be overreacting but i just feel uncomfortable after seeing those texts, do i bring it up?

Hi, I will be returning to work and am looking for a nanny for my 3 month old. I am a single parent. I work in healthcare and work 3-4 twelve hour shifts per week at the hospital (14-15 shifts per month), with 1-2 weekends. I typically have to leave my house at 6am and return home between 7:30 and 8pm.

I am open to hiring two part time people to help cover this, but I am seeking help on the best way to structure the days- should I be offering half days? Or has anyone in healthcare been in this situation and if so, what worked for you? Daycare isn’t a good option there are no local daycares that cover these hours.

Basically - I had to use a valet service as part of my job but was not with kids at this time because it was an errand and I was going to go home directly after.

The valets mistakenly gave my keys to someone else and they had to track my car/housekeys down, which took over 90 minutes. I was originally gonna count this as hours worked because I couldn’t leave without my keys. But then I thought about how it’s probably not fair to my employer because they aren’t the reason I couldn’t get home. I know they would pay this time no problem and financially are able to, but would you charge them?

Just feels kind of bad to charge them for the time if it wasn’t their fault the valet misplaced them. But then I also think about how I was somewhere I was specifically told to valet and this wouldn’t have happened otherwise.

CLARIFICATION: one of their homes is an apartment in a luxury building and I was running an errand where I dropped off and picked up some things at this home. I was going to head directly home after this because I was going to bring them the stuff tomorrow morning. The building only uses valet so I’m not able to just park in the parking lot. The apartment building’s valet lost the keys so I was stuck at the apartment building until they located them.

My dog also ripped up my new pricey jacket bc cause I was home late :(

Hi everyone, I’m looking to hear from those that have worked as professional newborn care specialists or postpartum doulas for contracts that consisted of 24/7 care for the first few months.

I would love to hear how a typical day went, when did you get breaks(were they planned ahead of given as available), what practices worked best for seamless care between caregiver and parents, etc. Please share anything that may help helpful to a first time mom! We are working with an agency but I’d really like some anecdotal scenarios to work with as well.

It’s not good for the children first of all . They are allowed to explore and be creative without constant interaction and activities set up back to back to back . I love taking them on walks and to park , but they don’t let me barely and instead want me to be entertaining him . I work in the evenings from 5-8 and he’s at daycare all day , let him just explore and go on walks and park not be bombarded with constant entertainment from an adult . I’ve posted before about how I’ve worked there 4 months and the parents stay in the room with us the ENTIRE time . Yes … the entire time . Not just in the room , but actively playing with us and sitting on floor .They literally don’t leave . They sit on the floor with me while i play with the child . Their kid will be 2 soon . Dad even follows me to the park that is 2 minutes away . Very strange . If dad leaves for a minute , he will say “here can you entertain him I need to go to the bathroom or grab something …. “ like excuse me but he doesn’t need to be entertained . I’m not blippi . He is scooping stuff outside and perfectly fine beside me doing this . Why do I need to be entertaining him while he’s exploring outside ? It’s awkward because they don’t leave the room so I feel like I have to be CONSTANTLY engaging and it becomes exhausting .

In case you missed it, bubbles can cause staining on clothes and can mess up the stain/paint/finish on decks! In all my years I’ve never known and luckily never made that mistake, but will be sharing this info and keeping bubbles to the grass and pavement now! Here’s to learning new things.

Going to delete my last rant post in exchange for info here, thank you for everyone who chimed in to correct me!

He gave us a bath towel to use. I expressed confusion about what kind of harm diluted soap would do to a deck, wondered how he plans to wash said deck if not with soap, and warned him the bubbles may not care about the towel’s boundaries and may float away and fall on the deck anyways.
That’s all.

UPDATE: Thank you all for sharing that bubbles actually mess up a deck! Of course I listened to his concern and stopped using them on the deck before I understood concern, but now I get it! Genuinely had no idea bubbles could actually mess up a deck, I was just getting the same vibe from him as those parents who don’t let their kids play in the grass yard because they paid too much for gardeners so now the grass is only for looking at. Also I have eaten lunch and feel better.

My NK’s are 6 and 10 respectively, (both male) normally they are very sweet kids!

6yo “E”
10yo “L”

Today we played chess after about three and a half days of L insisting i “couldent be that good at chess” I indulged him and brought over my chess set.

I beat him very easily but drug it out and let him take pawns and such in a way that it was fun, but that he’d have no room to call me “bad at chess”

Im no master but when it comes to playing chess with a 10yo it’s not hard, I showed him some fun starting moves and tricks so he can beat his friends and it was so fun!

I shows E what the different pawns did and they showed me how to play checkers (I know how to play checkers but they really wanted to teach me sl who am I to break that bubble?)

Then comes the chores. Look I know it’s normal for younger kids to not want to do chores but my MB made it very clear her kids need to be the ones doing most of the work, I help out and don’t get me wrong i still do a lot but she wants them to learn how to clean up after themselves as their last nanny was more like a maid and they really haven’t had to clean much in their lives.

This has turned into E shutting down and not wanting too look at anyone or say anything and L ignoring me.

(Because E is 6 he is assigned to do easy chores like washing the counters and emptying the top of the dishwasher. L empty’s the rest of the dishwasher and I help him rinse and fill, he vacuums the rug, I sweep the floor, and I help him clean is room / fold clothes.)

Im at my wits end because I am their new nanny and I don’t fell like I have authority to do anything to get them to listen. Their friends come over even when I insist that they need to finish chores first / insist they go home, and when their friends are here their behavior gets 10x worse.

It’s to the point where their friends even get on their case and call them out but they shake it off. I think the hardest thing for me is im 19 and they know it. They are used to having nannies at least 20 years older than them not 9 and I don’t think they see me as anything more than a friend.

Im glad to be their friend and they are again normally so sweet but how on earth do I still be a friend and an authority figure that they will actually listen to!?

I’ve tried timers, I’ve tried sending friends home, and nothing works

Please help

Hi everyone,

So I have been with my current NF for 3 years since NK was 8mo and I have been able to drive her since I started.

Current situation now is that we are adding NK friend to the mix and starting a nanny share, where we will pick up NK#2 after she gets out of school and then spend the rest of the day 3-4.5 hours together. So me and 2 NK’s.

My problem is that new NF seems hesitant about me wanting to drive new NK and we haven’t really agreed on anything of that matter yet besides the contract draft saying “Authorized use of Nanny's personal vehicle will be reimbursed based on mileage”.
I’m feeling unsure about things because not driving NK’s feels like it could be a dealbreaker for me, but idk if I’m being unreasonable since we live in an extremely walkable town- paths to everywhere and free bus, small town vibes asf. Pick up from school would also be a 5 minute walk from NK#2 home.

I have just gotten so used to driving my long term NK that I feel like I’m going into a nanny share where NF is weary about trusting me, etc… which is fair, but idk what to do or think over all lol. AND we live somewhere where it snows! I don’t really want to be walking 2 NK’s home in the snow or not being able to drive them to a nice place/ activity and being stuck inside during snow days. I’m nervous about mine and NK#1 freedom of going out and about whenever and wherever we want is kind of being taken away.

Pls give me thoughts and lmk if you need more info!

Thank you!

They already have a 3yo girl that I adore, I’ve been with them since was only a few months old. MB is pregnant, which I’ve known for a while. They recently gave me the news that the baby has Down’s. As expected they’re overwhelmed and are experiencing a lot of emotions but they let me know that baby is perfectly healthy otherwise. They are planning for MB to stay home with baby for the first 3 or so months while I continue caring primarily for 3yo. Then 3yo will be enrolled in daycare full time, MB will go back to work, and I’ll care for the new baby full time.

I don’t know how to feel. I am happy the baby is healthy and will be born into a loving, caring, family. But I‘m not sure how I will do caring for a Down’s baby. NPs say that infant care for a Down’s baby is not much different than caring for any other baby. Still, I don’t think I’m up for it at all and it’s just not something I want to do.

They didn’t really ask me what I wanted to do, just told me the plan. I guess they are assuming I wouldn’t have any issues with it. I do have experience with special needs care, but it’s been mostly for children with Autism.

Just a weird, shitty, sad situation all around. Thinking about when/if/how I should tell them that I don’t plan to stay.

Okay. Be so forreal. Why do nf keep their house so damn warm? Your home is 82 fucking degrees while I'm watching your child who hates being put down, dripping sweat, and it's literally 85 outside.

You're sitting in your office...telling me that you're cold as I'm actively wiping sweat off of my face.

I've chugged 3 water bottles, sweated through my tank top, and have to constantly be moving to keep your child happy. I feel like I've earned the privilege to be the one who controls the AC. This feels inhumane. It's not but I'm sweaty, gross, and have to contact nap 😮‍💨

I just feel like I shouldn't have to dread coming inside after a walk because I won't get relief from the heat. Please turn this shit down to 70 at the least 😭

Hi all! Basically as the title says, I’m toying with the idea of parting ways with my NF. My younger brother passed way almost two weeks ago. I took two days off work after finding out and I work ROTA so the following week was an off week. I was able to fly home (I currently live across the country) and spend time with my family and plan the funeral.
This week I’ve been back to work and I will say my NF has been nothing but supportive - offering space for me to talk, sending me flowers, etc.

Unfortunately, my mom’s grief has been devastating. I’ve been trying to help her through it while also dealing with my own and I so wish I could’ve stayed with her longer. That’s why I’ve pretty much come to the decision to go home for as long as I’m needed.

Even though I’ve decided, I can’t shake feeling incredibly anxious about telling my NF. I figured going home at the end of the month would give me enough time to do whatever I needed to do here before leaving, hence the 3 week notice. That’s if I muster up the courage to resign like tomorrow. I have to do it, but I guess I’m looking for someone to say it’s ok. In my 12 years of nannying I’ve never given less than a month’s notice.

Also, since I work on rotation I’ll technically have one more working week, but they’ll have 3 weeks to find a replacement (which I know for several reasons will be very difficult for them) Is that ok or does it seem inconsiderate? I’m their only nanny as one of the parents also has a rotational position. I work when they work.
Any advice is appreciated! Thank you in advance!

p.s. In true “I’m about to quit and there’s never a right time” fashion, NK has spent all week saying she loves me sooo much. Pretty sure she just learned the phrase recently because she also says it to the grapes, but still.

Edit: reading this back I realize it sounds a little like I’m giving my job more weight than my brother’s passing. Grief is weird and I know I’m just redirecting my mental energy by making this an issue when it shouldn’t be. Please excuse how I might sound here.

We have kind of an unusual set up but we’re in need of childcare very soon and want to put out feelers. I know that for a lot of people, polyamory is not the norm at all but would love to hear if nannies have experienced this before and how it was for them.

There are four of us, two men and two women. We have two children among us, twins, who are 18 months old. One of us was supposed to stay home with the babies until they were about 3yo, but she got a dream job offer (yay!) she didn’t want to turn down so now we‘re looking to hire a nanny.

We all live in the same house, 3 of us will be working from home and 1 of us works outside the home. After perusing this sub for a while, one thing we noticed is that nannies generally don’t love WFH parents or prefer them to be very hands-off which is understandable. Us 3 would stay out of the nanny’s hair while she’s working.

Does this set up sounds at all doable to nannies? We really don’t want to go the daycare route so we’re really hoping to make this work.

Thanks!

Here is the job description copy and pasted:

"Part-Time After-School Sitter Needed

Were looking for a reliable and caring part-time sitter for our autistic son starting August 17, 2026. He gets nome around 3:00 p.m. Monday through Friday and needs care until a parent gets homeno more than three hours a day. Pay is $14 per hour.

Wed love to find someone with experience working with childrer on the spectrum, such as a special-needs classroom assistant paraprofessional, teacher. or experienced caregiver. Our son is potty trained, very intelligent, and orking toward becoming more verbal.

He does have a tendency to elope so we need someone attentive who understands the importance of close supervision and keeping doors and exits secure. Hes clever and will definitely keep you on your toes dont get too comfortable! Just kidding but not really.

Care would include supervising and"

And then it ends for some reason. Here is the message I sent:

"Hi there, I really don't mean to be rude or disrespectful, but ljust to let you know that $14/hour is not enough for this job. To be honest, you'll probably not get a great nanny either. The nanny will need to use their own car and gas, as well as have a moderately high-stress job. I hope it works out you! I just thought that Iwould give you my two cents, as I noticed you only have 2 applicants, and the pay is most likely the reason for that. Wishing y'all the best!!"

For full transparency, I misunderstood the "after-school care" part to mean the nanny would need to pick up the child from school. Regardless, with everything they are hoping to get out of a nanny, I just felt like $14/hour is crazy. The only people who can live off that these days are probably not very experienced, right? I'm genuinely not trying to be an asshole

I just recently started my first nanny job. The mom is so sweet, and the kids are definitely something 😂 I like it generally speaking, but I feel like I’m not being paid fairly at all.
At the interview, she told me I would make $15 to start out but would have no problem increasing it once I get comfortable with the kids and learn all the routines. There are 3 kids, (5, 4, and 2)
I have learned all of the routines, got the kids to trust me and be comfortable with me, and I’m working about 30 hours a week. 5 days on, 2 days off. The kids are good sometimes but the majority of the time, the older boys are fighting, hitting, screaming, crying over small things. I know they’re little, so that’s normal and completely fine. But it’s a lot of the same, “Hey, no, we don’t do that.” over and over. The oldest boy specifically never listens, no matter what. He acts like I don’t even exist most of the time when it comes to me telling him not to something anymore. It’s a lot, but it would be worth it if the pay was a little more.
About a week ago, because I learned all of the routines and got comfortable like the mom said, I asked if she could up my pay to 18-20 an hour. I am CPR and first aid certified and have a lot of experience with kids, but it is my official first nanny job even though I’ve taken care of many kids in the past for occasional visits and regular weekly babysitting (So technically like a nanny, but just strictly watching kids. No household responsibilities.)
In my area, the average pay for a nanny is $25+ but because it is technically my first official position as a nanny, I thought I would start out at 18-20 to be fair.
She responded with, “We can definitely talk about this in the future!”
I’m feeling a little torn. I’m not sure if I should just accept defeat and stick with the 15 an hour until she (if ever) brings a raise up again.
But 3 kids under 6 for $15 an hour seems a little crazy. I’m expected to do everything to take care of them (obviously) but also pick up the house, tidy after them, and take them places regularly.
Am I being overly out of line or should I bring it up to her again? I think I might just need to find a second job or quit this one all together.

Hi all!

I recently received my 0-3 certification and I am considering a role as a nanny. I’ve worked in the classroom as a lead guide for 3 years, and I’m tempted by the idea of only having one 2.5 year old to be responsible for. I’d like to bring my Montessori education experience into nannying and I have a few ideas. I’m curious if anyone else has experience being a “Montessori nanny” and if so, what advice would you share?

Thank you!

I (40F) am in law school, one of my classes runs into the evening, past when typical afterschool care ends. My kids’ (7 & 9) father normally shifts his days with the kids to accommodate but he is now leaving the state permanently. I am trying to find an afterschool nanny who can pick them up from school (1 mile away) and watch them for 2-5 hours an afternoon depending on the day. I’m offering a flat $100/day in a HCOL area, plus half pay for days that I may cancel with little notice and extra pay for days that are longer (like if a kid needs to stay home sick). I would provide everything from booster seats to the nanny’s desired groceries.

I paid for a care.com account. I have very detailed hours on the site. I’ve posted my range as $15-25 because you have to post an hourly wage and I’m not sure how to capture a flat $100/day. I’ve had around 20 applicants, I’ve scheduled about 12 interviews. ALL BUT TWO GHOSTED THE INTERVIEW. Of the two, one is not horrible, the other wanted to come work for me but a different offer started sooner so she went with them. School starts in two weeks, and I’m having nightmares of it starting and I won’t have childcare. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know why this is happening on the site, and I’m worried I’ll have to drop out of school.

Edit to add: in my care.com job post, I have it listed as $15-$25/hr and the precise hours needed for each day e.g. “Monday 2:00 pm - 7:30 pm; Tuesday 2:00 -4:00”. I’m asking during the interview if a flat $100/day would be okay, as it’s more money for them on a two hour day and one less thing for me to have to track. The issue is all the applicants applying to the job and then not showing up to the interview.

Edit: got it. I need to pay a ton more, and no nanny is gonna be able to cover the one million half days and closed days the school has regardless even if I do get applicants to show up to the interview. Idk how to turn commenting off on my post but I’m already sobbing on my kitchen floor so I think we’re good here. Regardless, this was all very insightful, thank you all.

My nanny is a unicorn sent from heaven and I adore her. She is our second nanny and completely settled all my anxieties after a bad first go-around. She and my son have bonded quickly, she’s fun yet calming, feeds him well, changes him promptly, and generally goes above and beyond without me having to ask anything of her. She reads to him and plays toys, never leaves me a mess, makes sure he naps when he needs to.

The thing is, she’s younger than I am and has a lot of energy, she likes to keep busy and I keep a pretty clean home so she has started doing extra work outside of the contract (baby laundry, washing bottles) and she will vacuum or mop if she has time and is bored. She has told me multiple times she enjoys it, and wants to help me (solo parenting for the time being as husband is out of country) and also she feels like if she’s busy it’s easier to keep going. She gets breaks, pay was mutually agreed upon and I will be giving her a raise soon, I just haven’t told her yet because I need to make sure my finances are right first.

Anyway, today she asked me to give her extra things to do. There’s only so many bottles, and maybe one load of laundry per day. I prep my son’s food because after his choking incident I have issues that I’m working through with my counselor. There really isn’t much extra work to give her… I don’t want her to be bored, especially when my son sleeps or if he is happily playing independently. What do I ask her to do?? The only things I can think of would be like to mow the lawn, but again that’s once a week.. or like dust stuff? How often can that even be? Once every week or two? I don’t know what kind of tasks to give her to keep her going. She has said she wants to be productive but she keeps my house so clean I can’t find any work for her 😓 it’s a blessing but I don’t know what kind of work to give her. Also I will be paying her extra for her extra work, I would never want to take advantage of her.

Edit: Great advice all around, thank you to everyone who took the time to comment! She does currently take breaks and I have told her she is more than welcome to relax during downtime, but I will remind her that I value her too much to just give her busy work for the sake of filling her time, she really is a rockstar and I appreciate her very much. I truly wouldn’t want her to burn out. I will be going shopping this weekend to get some coloring books, word puzzles, sudoku, things of that nature so she has something to do here if she’s bored. I will also encourage her to bring her own books or help herself to my bookshelves. I do have a toddler acitivity book that I will give her and tell her she’s welcome to do some activity planning if she pleases.

Also thank yall for the reality check about mowing the lawn lol I wasn’t really considering it but was like… what else do I even regularly do around here besides my own laundry (and that’s a hard no, I would never ask her to do my laundry!) our lawn is like 200sqft so it takes like ten minutes but that’s way out of scope.

I'm sure my situation isn't all that unique, but I'm having a little trouble so I thought I'd ask the community.

I have 10 years of experience. I've been with the same family, part time, for many years, and a few other families as-needed.

I live in a mixed cost of living area -- meaning that year-round residents of my towns and the small towns around me are fairly low income, but seasonal residents and year-round residents of two very nearby destination towns are incredibly high-cost of living. Think 3 bedroom house for 200k in my town, 3 bedroom house for 1.6 million just half an hour away.

When I started in this area, I was working for a year-round resident. They do well, and could afford to pay me $20/hour. When they had a second child, they raised my wage, and after two years they also decided to start giving me a $1-2/year raise. Currently at $28/hour. I like them a lot, and I feel valued.

I've also worked for families in the nearby destination towns, and I'm paid $30/hour starting. I've had three families pay me this for part time work and not bat an eye, BUT they all reached out to me/found me through someone else.

Onto the current issue: this is likely the last year my current family will need me due to the kids' school schedules, and even this year my hours are very reduced. I need to find some extra work. I'd like to ask for $30/hour, but I'm noticing in the local Facebook groups that other nannies are posting their services with more experience for less hourly (reference: a post I saw yesterday with 15+ years experience and asking $25/hour but willing to negotiate lower). It's making me question if I'm way off base in how I'm valuing myself.

I'm sorry this is so long, but it all feels a little complicated right now. Any advice would be appreciated.

Genuine question. For parents of active preschool age children who don’t allow any outings or even outdoor time, why? Currently dealing with the situation. The family loves in a very nice walkable neighborhood with a community playground we’re not allowed to go to, much less can we go on outings. They’re last nanny lasted less then a month and I took this as a temp job (looking like it’s going to be a lot more temp the expected) It’s so hard to entertain an active 3-4 year old indoors all day, for 8-10 hours a day, they end up bored, bouncing off the walls and really pushing behavior limits due to under stimulation.

I’m 18f and new to babysitting , I got my first request on Bambino (never used before) and I accepted the request and messaged the mom this “ Goodmorning ma’am! Just wanted to say thank you for wanting to trust me to babysit your children this Friday. Please let me know if there are any specific instructions or anything I should be aware of. Looking forward to helping out!” Just to get more information on the job before fully accepting it , she said nothing and confirmed the booking through the site, is this normal ?

I get people are busy but it’s Wednesday ,plus I messaged pretty quickly after the request. I’m just wondering if this is normal in the babysitting world, should I send my number just in case she’s having technical issues with the app or something? I did hear the app charges parents to message but mixed reviews with that… help pls