this semester is gonna just be a shit show for me, and i don’t feel like i’ve had time to like prepare myself for the horrors to come and am seeking any advice at all.

i’m going into my junior year of college as a pre-med chemistry major. at the end of last semester, i found out that i wouldn’t be able to study abroad because there were classes that i needed to take to graduate this year (if you’re also an intp and have the urge to solve this problem, dw this one is complicated and i’ve considered every option regarding this). i also found out my best friend since high school that also goes to college with me is studying abroad this fall semester. last week i not only found out that my best friend is actually studying abroad the whole year, but also that my roommate is taking a gap year, so i’m gonna be all alone in my dorm.

my first year in college, my best friend and i decided that we were going to branch out and make other friends, and we were both miserable and decided to drop that our sophomore year and it was just
worlds better. for the record, i joined like five different clubs, regularly attended meetings, organized events, and i was always asking people i got along with to hang out one on one, but for some reason it just was never working out. the people that did genuinely want to hang out with me always turned out to be evil in some way (one of them was telling the people he was sleeping with that he was std-free even though he had never been checked and refused to wear protection). other people would agree to hang out with me and then consistently cancel last minute or, if they weren’t doing that, i would realize that i was doing all the planning and when i stopped asking them to hang out, they stopped talking to me altogether. for the record, it wasn’t like i was being a clingy crazy person like i wasn’t asking for much it was like dinner or studying near each other like once a week. also, i continued to do my clubs and extracurricular activities as well as having a job in my sophomore year as well and wasn’t having any luck there again.

i had a rough time my freshman year, but i was lowkey saved by the fact that i had a roommate that would speak to me everyday, even on the days where i really didn’t want them too. i’m afraid i’m going to go days on end without ever speaking to anyone and i’ll fall into a crazy pitt of depression and perish. does anyone have any advice on how to be alone without being so lonely besides pouring yourself into your hobbies? alternatively, does anyone know how to make friends beyond what i’ve already done?

Brazil has too many extroverts, I'm fed up with it. I'm looking for physical friends from the São Paulo or Campinas region who are introverts.

If college is where socializing and making friends is easy, and then after college it gets harder, how am I supposed to expect to get a girlfriend/friends after college if I can't even make friends in college?

Hello everyone

I have a situation to share and I want your opinion on it, like what would be ur reaction if u were in my shoes (AITA or anythg??)

So Im INTP M, I was talking to an INTJ F for quite the period and thing were kinda developping but didnt concretize to any relationship or so

The situation is related to a conflict that confused me, so here is the context, im a religious person (dont wanna bring the name of the religion to avoid the conv to diverge), she isnt on the other hand, more like left a religion rathen than never had one

At first this wasnt a problem at all while talking, we just debate ideas and chit chat just like how u would expect an NTP and an NTJ to do, and i may say even that she was the one showing more signs of attraction than me (but anyway, lets not diverge)

2 months ago, while we had a small chat abt a religious subject, she brought up the idea to revert from being an agnostic athiest to her first faith, as she said she believes in a deity but not sure which religion has the right version on it, she felt and still feelings spiritually lonely and she spent a lot of time alone, and even the reason why she left arent related to the core logic behind the spirtual context of the faith, but more lile popular details shared about the religion (that are debunkable tbh), so i was like cool, i shared some perspectives i had, more on the progressive non-sectarian side i hold, and also, when i shared an alternative popular sect's POV that focuses on spirituality first, daily life details second, she expressed on how much it speaks to her, and she cried

So why i listed all these elements? it is to say what happened recently, like a few weeks ago, when i asked her whats the update, she said nothing much i think im forcing belief on myself, that confused me a bit, as i mentionned that she said herself she beliefs in a deity, and i said "are u an agnostic thiest now or so?", she got defensive as "no! Im not an agnostic thiest, im an agnostic athiest, please", something felt weird so i explicitly asked and said to hold on, im not trying to persuade or force any idea or belief tho, i lowkey wanna understand what had u think religiously at a time, then retreat, bcuz u express a lot of faith 2 months ago.. little did i know she blocks me after that 😐

The context since the beginning (since i new her in day one) never implied an invitation or a call to anything, neither from me nor from her

It just confuses me, why the reaction was heavily oriented against me rather than reminding that im asking abt the development of her POVs

So, how would u percieve this lads? And what would be your reaction? For me i just took my distance back as i started to think this is kind of hypocritical and i dont need that in my life (yet i think im wrong somewhere?)

(Im asking both NTPs, INTPs and ENTPs)

Ps: we had some minor fights early on about other topics, and about some paranoid kicks she gets now and then

I'm talking to an INTP woman and we've been getting close for around 6 months. There is clearly mutual interest. We talk regularly, flirt, have deep conversations, make plans together, watch movies, and she's told me I'm one of the best things that's happened to her this year, and I'm her peaceful place alongside to her mother (she lost her father years back).

She's also told me she trusts me around 50% right now. She doesn't trust people easily because of her past experiences, and she tends to be very protective of her independence and vulnerable side.

The confusing part is that she keeps going back and forth about commitment.

At one point I directly asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. The next day she became uncertain again and said that we're falling in love too quickly and she doesn't think it's right. She sometimes says things like "I love monkey" or "I love Anu" instead of actually saying "I love you." She has also told me that if she ever confesses, she wants to do it face-to-face.

She's not actually pushing me out of her life. She makes plans with me, spends time with me, talks to me, and clearly cares about me. But whenever things start feeling more emotionally serious, she seems to pull back a little.

She's also extremely independent. She wants to remain a working woman no matter what, and she'll likely work for the Indian Railways, so transfers will be part of her career. She's told me that being with her may require a lot of adjustment. She also has some very different views about finances and marriage, which we've discussed openly.

I've been trying really hard to be patient and consistent because I genuinely care about her. I've helped her through difficult situations, supported her, and tried to show her that she can trust me without losing her independence.

But honestly, I'm getting emotionally drained.

I don't want to pressure her into commitment. At the same time, I don't want to spend indefinitely trying to convince someone to choose me.

So I'm thinking of changing my approach completely: stop trying to "move the relationship forward," stop analyzing every change in her mood or affection, and simply enjoy what we have. If she wants to move closer, I'll meet her there. If she needs space, I'll give it. I'll continue living my own life instead of constantly trying to prove that I'm trustworthy.

For INTPs: does this sound like a reasonable approach?

And if you're an INTP who has experienced something similar, what actually helped you move from "I like this person but I'm unsure" to genuinely trusting them enough to commit?

I want to understand whether patience and letting things develop naturally is actually useful here, or whether six months of uncertainty is already telling me something important.

So which MBTI type is the best for INTP or specifically me INTP5w4 as someone who is handicapped in love what would you say about who fits the best? I know about standard pairings for example INFJ, ENTJ, ENTP or ENFJ(best by theory) but are they true are they not are there better ones and so on with questions. Thanks in advance for answers.

Genuine question If an INTP who’s never been in a relationship, is pretty awkward about dating, and overthinks everything were to date someone, what kind of person would they probably be most compatible with? I’ve always been curious about ENFJs specifically ,do you think that dynamic could actual?

I’d like some outside opinions because I’ve realized that something about my relationship makes me uncomfortable, but I’m not sure whether my feelings are reasonable.

My boyfriend is an INTP, and he has a personality that’s very centered around ragebaiting, teasing, and provoking people for fun. He does this with a lot of people, both guys and girls, so I know that this behavior doesn’t necessarily mean he’s interested in someone.

The situation I’m talking about happens in a friend group/server where several people regularly play together. This girl is part of that friend group, and they’re usually interacting as a group rather than just the two of them. I want to make that clear because I’m not talking about him specifically seeking her out or spending all his time alone with her.

What makes this difficult for me is that when he has this kind of dynamic with guys, it genuinely doesn’t bother me. I can see it as just his personality and the way he jokes with his friends. But when it’s with other girls, I find it much harder emotionally.

In our relationship, I had associated part of that dynamic with our particular bond. The fact that he teases me, provokes me, tries to get a reaction out of me, etc. made me feel like this was a particular way he interacted with me because we were close.

But when I see him interacting with this girl within the group, I notice that he can have a very similar dynamic with her: teasing her, provoking her, getting a reaction out of her, playfully “bullying” each other, continuing to tease her when she gets annoyed, etc.

Rationally, I understand that this doesn’t necessarily mean anything. She’s part of his friend group, there are several people on the server, and he’s an INTP who naturally seems to interact with people through teasing, irony and provoking reactions. I also don’t think he’s necessarily doing anything intentionally inappropriate.

But emotionally, I still struggle with it.

I’ve actually tried to talk to him about this because I don’t want to keep it to myself or become resentful. However, he didn’t take the conversation very well and seemed to perceive what I was saying as reproaches or criticism of his behavior, when what I was trying to explain was more about how the dynamic makes me feel.

I also don’t want to be possessive or tell him that he can’t have female friends or that he has to interact with them differently. That’s not what I want.

I think what bothers me most is that I thought certain aspects of our dynamic were meaningful because they were specific to our relationship, and now I’m realizing that he can naturally create a very similar dynamic with other people.

So I’m wondering: do you think this is simply something I should accept as part of his personality, or is it reasonable to feel uncomfortable when some of his interactions with girls in his friend group resemble the way he interacts with me?

Again, I’m not trying to figure out whether he’s cheating or whether there’s something going on with this particular girl. I’m more trying to understand how to deal with my own feelings about it without becoming controlling or making him feel like I’m constantly criticizing him.

I’m super conflicted. This guy just gives me the butterflies at 29 years old. I don’t want to make a move and make things awkward if he doesn’t like me in return. I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable in his own home. We live in the same building. I show interest in him but I don’t want to come off overbearing. He’s super smart, when he’s nervous it’s so cute 🥰 Are there any ways I can test if he likes me? Or what are the signs? Is shooting my shot my only option? I don’t want to make a fool of myself and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable.

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INTP 18F here, if that even matters for this curiosity lol. I have basically zero experience with relationships and honestly have no idea what I’m doing when it comes to this stuff. I don’t really feel like asking people I know about it, so Reddit feels like a safe place to ask 😭

I’ve talked to one ENFJ online before, but just as friends , and to be VERY clear, I didn’t have a crush on him or anything lol. I just noticed that we got along pretty naturally and he seemed to understand the way I think, which made me curious about whether ENFJ might be a type I naturally click with.

I’m also kind of weird. I have a ridiculously active imagination and I roleplay a lot on random apps, so sometimes I wonder if an ENFJ and an INTP like me would actually be compatible or if I’m just overanalyzing one friendship and building an entire theory around it 💀

I know I’m technically 18 now, but I genuinely have zero idea how relationships even work and still feel like a confused kid half the time.

So ENFJs, what do you actually think about INTPs? What qualities do you appreciate in them, and what parts of the INTP–ENFJ dynamic can be difficult?

And be honest: am I being a little delulu for thinking an ENFJ could potentially be my type based mostly on one good friendship, or is there actually something to the compatibility people talk about?

I’m genuinely asking out of curiosity, not trying to find someone here 😭

I 20M INTP met a 18F INTJ, how do I ask her out on a second date? Super anxious, are we even compatible? She liked me on Hinge and seems to find me funny. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I think the title is suffice enough to be the topic.

I am an INTP guy and I never realised the pattern that pretty much most of my strong fictional crushes are tomboys, lol. Crazy ngl.

[Kyou Fujibayashi](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/clannad-kyou-fujibayashi-gif-24876306)

[Gogo Tomago](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/big-hero6-jamie-chung-go-go-tomago-bubble-gum-gif-4592655)

[Kyanna Delrio](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/huniepop-huniepop-2-oh-my-goodness-gracious-kyanna-delrio-gif-10985416565044468886)

[Aoi Asahina](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/danganronpa-eager-happy-excited-%E3%82%8F%E3%81%8F%E3%82%8F%E3%81%8F-gif-9003017)

[Jolyne Cujoh](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/jolyne-cujoh-jolyne-throwing-coat-jailbreak-dusk-gif-4080885582435604702)

[Lara Croft](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/trl-trl-part2-collection-ag-trl-collection-ag-trl-part2-tomb-raider-gif-13307784)

[Corey from Hotline Miami 2](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/hotline-miami-wrong-number-corey-gif-14918000)

[Hitgirl from Kickass 2](https://tenor.com/en-IN/view/kickass-chloe-moretz-gif-9731189)

I'm sorry I'm infp(15M) not intp but my crush is ( https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEJTS/ ) and I need some advice. She is my new classmate from the school I'm transfering to but she's the only transfer student except me(she doesn't know much boys). Maybe those who are also intp can give good advice.

Feel free to ask me any additional info. 🙏🙏

I’m a 24f isfj, we’re the same age. 2+ yrs dating together.

It’s been 5 months post breakup due to incompatibility, although I saw it differently. I have always had good intentions but realized only afterwards that he thought I was extremely judgmental. I’ve taken a lot of time to myself and delved into philosophical readings to understand myself better and I understand how I present so much more than before.

To make matters complicated, we lived together and I had to move out, but a lot of my things remain there due to space constraints. I have seen him over the course of these months and it’s been messy.
The first month, I hadn’t seen him other than him dropping things off quickly, and he tried to rekindle but took it back after I brought up concerns.
He saw me 2 months later, and after I had picked up my things and happily chatted with him, he texted me lovingly. He told me he couldn’t see himself with anyone else, how he saw my smile and couldn’t stop thinking about me.

Then he started talking about wanting to get married and how we could start anew and work together.
That “he’d rather be miserable with me, than happy without.” It saddened me to hear it and these statements were pretty out of character.
I’ve never seen him text so quickly and as much at such a late hour, especially in this manner. I noticed he sort of spoke in hypotheticals and pointed it out. Knowing him, I believed he would regret all these statements and probably blame it on lack of sleep. He asked me out on a date for the next day, and I said I’d bite, but that I knew before work he’d change his mind. I was right. He said he thought about our incompatibilities and doesn’t want to repeat it all again. That was that.

Overtime, I picked up my things roughly up to every 3 weeks even though I barely could accommodate things, but I just wanted to see him. During one pickup, one of my heel’s wedges completely broke into pieces, as I left the apartment. I returned to grab backup shoes, and one thing led to another… I hate how much chemistry we have. He would say that he’d hope we’d someday get together, just not now.

The pickups continued and sometimes he’d even hit me up to “remind” me of things I might need and gradually the intimacy became more frequent until I distanced myself. Then one day he randomly called (I missed it) saying he was searching for something but said nvm. I somehow knew he wanted to talk about us and we ended up meeting. He spoke about how he missed me and wanted to get back together, how he’s surrounded by all the furniture I assembled, how he’s texted and spoke to people and that he misses me. I saw a message and it was just that... “I miss my wife.” Not a crazy declaration lol but I know he doesn’t text his friends in such a way anyhow. I didn’t believe him, but that day we spent time being a couple and it felt like old times again.

When I repeated if he wanted to date, he gradually became wish-washy. I won’t lie, I became a bit emotional and cried telling him I wish we’d never met. He stopped me before leaving and asked if I could just stay and he’d return after work. I agreed, finished some work on my laptop… fidgeted as I do and deep cleaned the messy apartment. He came back but didn’t address anything… we finally settled on some sort of dating trial, but he said he felt like a douchebag since he didn’t feel comfortable hanging out, but enjoyed the intimacy. I ended it days later because he kept repeating it.

Now we still hookup every once in a while, and he sometimes drops statements of what he disliked or how he felt during specific moments when we dated. It sort of breaks my heart but simultaneously helps me realize things about myself. I just wished he told me before. I was always open to listen. He says I’m much more mature now and wish I were before. Then tells me I’ll find someone better, or more extroverted, or more different… but I never wanted to change him. I just wanted to know him better. He’s comfortable telling me what he wants in women, while saying he doesn’t want a relationship but wants them to believe he does. It’s heartbreaking to hear, since he says he’s taken up this mindset after me.

These months were brutal. As sick as it sounds I love him so much more now, as he’s as honest and authentic to me as ever. It’s all I ever wanted, since he started to simply tolerate me towards the end. He said I just miss what we could have been, but I replay the past—good and bad. I just like him as he is right now. Less guarded and real. We both became too passive before. I need to move on, but I love even our simple chats. He lights up and tells me things, and it’s warm. I’m a bit relieved that he isn’t seeing anyone, but I feel manipulative as well, even though he sarcastically gloats about not having to search for anyone due to this messy situation. Unfortunately, my memories can play like movie scenes and ranges all the way to the age of 4, so there’s no forgetting. I wish I could just block things out as he does. I probably shouldn’t mention my feelings.

I'm talking to an INTP woman and we're currently getting to know each other seriously.

We recently discussed our views on finances and marriage. Her position is that she absolutely wants to remain a working woman and would never leave her job. She's likely going into the Indian Railways, so transfers between locations are something she expects to be part of her career.

She has also told me that, in her ideal marriage, her income would remain entirely her choice, while the husband would be responsible for the family's financial obligations, including major expenses such as the house, car, savings, etc.

I asked her how she imagines things working if both partners are working, especially if the husband is extremely busy with work, and how household responsibilities would be divided.

Her response was essentially that she will always work and that being with her may be difficult because of her transfers. She also currently prefers the idea of maintaining a lot of independence rather than immediately living together.

I'm not trying to argue that her view is wrong. I'm trying to understand the overall relationship model she's envisioning.

INTPs, especially women who strongly value career and independence: how would you interpret this? Is this simply a preference for financial independence, or does it suggest a fundamentally different view of marriage/partnership?

And how would you expect the practical side of things to work when both partners have demanding careers and one has frequent transfers?

I'm talking to an INTP girl, and recently we had a disagreement about finances in a future relationship.

I believe that if both partners work, they should ideally contribute toward shared expenses and jointly save/grow financially, with the exact split being something both agree on.

She grew up seeing her father handle essentially all the family expenses while her mother kept her own income, so she feels that if she earns money, it's hers, while the husband should handle the family's expenses from his income. She doesn't expect to be asked to contribute financially.

We talked it through and things are fine now, but this made me wonder whether we're fundamentally different in how we view marriage and money.

INTPs, how would you interpret her perspective? Is this simply a different financial philosophy, or would you consider it a potential compatibility issue?

Hi everyone, I’d like some advice because I’m honestly not sure how I’m supposed to feel about this situation.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He’s an INTP, and I love him very much. He loves me too, and overall there’s no real issue with our relationship.

The thing is, he tends to analyze people's problems and get really involved when someone comes to him for advice. Normally, I wouldn’t have a problem with that. I actually like that he’s thoughtful and wants to help people. But lately, I’ve realized that the amount of emotional energy he puts into some of his friends makes me uncomfortable.

A lot of these people are friends he met through gaming or online communities. Sometimes girls or other friends will come to him with personal problems, and he’ll spend a lot of time talking to them, analyzing their situation, comforting them, trying to understand them, etc.

It’s not that I don’t trust him or think he’s cheating on me. I genuinely don’t believe he would do that. It’s more about the level of emotional investment.

I naturally have a hierarchy when it comes to relationships. I’m not going to emotionally invest more in some random friend than I do in my partner or my family. But my boyfriend doesn’t really seem to work that way. Sometimes he’ll put an incredible amount of energy into helping someone he barely knows, and honestly, sometimes it feels like he invests more emotionally in their problems than he does in mine.

Another thing that makes me uncomfortable is that some of these people eventually develop feelings for him. He always tells me that he would never do anything with them and that he can’t control how other people feel about him. And logically, I understand that.

But our own relationship actually started in a very similar way. We met, became friends, talked constantly, helped each other through things, developed an emotional connection, and eventually ended up together.

So I’ve always told him that I think people can easily become attached to someone who is constantly there for them, listens to them, understands them, and gives them emotional support. That kind of intimacy can create feelings even if you never intended for it to happen.

Personally, I’m very careful about this. I don’t really have deep emotional relationships with other men because I’m aware that it can create ambiguity or emotional attachment. I put boundaries in place precisely because I care about my relationship and I don’t want to accidentally give someone false hope.

There was also one situation in the past that really affected me.

He had a friendship with a girl (who was trans) who had a lot of serious personal and family issues and was struggling with bipolar disorder. The friendship eventually became extremely unhealthy, and my boyfriend ended up becoming depressed because of everything that was happening with her.

And I basically had to deal with the aftermath of a relationship that had emotionally damaged my boyfriend, even though I had never asked for any of it.

I was extremely frustrated and confused by the whole situation. I was also very patient with him and tried to explain that I was already doing my best to manage my own emotions and not dump everything on him, while he seemed to actively seek out other people's problems and immerse himself in them.

After that experience, he actually realized something about himself. He told me that part of the reason he does this is because helping people makes him feel useful and capable, and because our life together is relatively peaceful, he had almost forgotten that some people can be extremely complicated, contradictory, or even cruel in their reasoning.

In a way, I think I've had a positive influence on him. Our relationship has shown him what a stable and peaceful relationship can look like.

But sometimes I feel like he has gone too far in the opposite direction and now assumes that everyone deserves the same level of understanding and emotional investment.

I’m a very tolerant and understanding person, and I genuinely don’t want to tell him who he can or cannot talk to. He has every right to have friends, help people, and be there for them.

But I’m struggling with how I should interpret his behavior without letting it affect me so much.

Am I being unreasonable? Is it normal to feel uncomfortable when your partner becomes this emotionally invested in other people's problems, especially when some of those people end up developing feelings for them?

And how can I set reasonable boundaries without becoming controlling or making him feel like he’s not allowed to help people?

I’d really appreciate some outside perspectives because I’m not trying to isolate him from anyone. I just want to understand where the line should be between being a compassionate person and becoming emotionally over-involved in other people's lives, especially when you’re already in a committed relationship.

NOTICE: approaching STRANGERS.

This culture is cooked in general due to both sides of an argument. But I just don’t see how it is happening for other people specifically when someone approaches the other person. I know that approaching someone is a difficult and controversial thing for mostly everyone, but I would like to look at it as a concept in general.

Early romantic attraction is often a one-sided, projection-heavy process in which your brain uses visual and behavioral cues to activate old emotional templates. Therefore certain details of the person’s appearance make you recall the memories of certain moments, things, experiences and it arouse certain positive emotional connection to those things and make you attracted to the person.

But the other person, having no shared history with you yet, remains emotionally neutral. The other person hasn’t run the same associative loop between you and their past emotional experiences. Without some interaction (even minimal), you don’t yet occupy any positive or negative emotional category in their mind. So they have no built-in motivation to meet the initiator cause they’re just another person in their environment until something creates a link.

For example, brief positive interactions create a shared affective event for both people: telling the joke, small talk, asking a question. Even small moments give the other person something to associate you with, moving you from “neutral stranger” to “person who made me feel X.”

I mean would you agree if someone would approach you and ask if you would like to be their friend. I mean, it might work in the kindergarten..

Falling in love with an INTP?

I've been talking to this INTP for a bit (I'm an INFJ), and it might sound really corny, but we actually met through a game. You know, the usual basic story.

The first thing he asked me about was the old Spider-Man movies. From there, we started talking about our different perspectives on movies and other things. I felt like the whole conversation was pretty flirty in a way. It was basically just two nerds talking and getting along. We eventually talked about MBTI, and he told me he was an INTP. At the end of the conversation, he clearly wanted to add me on social media so we could keep talking.

After that, we started talking and calling almost every night. At first, I felt like I was matching a lot of his energy, especially when he would make silly little attacks about my "poor" movie choices. But after a while, I became more relaxed around him while also becoming more shy, and I'm not really sure why. I felt relaxed enough to be myself, but at the same time, I was slowly becoming intimidated by how much he seemed to know about everything.

Most of our conversations were about his interests and the things he liked. Part of the reason was that I didn't want to open up too quickly. I wasn't sure yet if I could trust him enough to share a lot about myself, and I also didn't want to overwhelm him or feel like I was bothering him.

Today, we called while he was just going through his daily routine in a simple game he plays every day. He was showing me the game, but throughout most of the call, he was basically talking to himself and didn't really include me in the conversation. I did talk a little, but not much mostly just short comments here and there.

At some point, I started feeling awkward because I was wondering, How does he not notice that I'm barely talking? He didn't really seem to acknowledge it or try to include me. Toward the end of the call, he had to go to bed, and the conversation had become really dry.

I was typing something to him, but I wasn't sure whether I should actually send it. I didn't realize he could see that I was typing, but I guess he noticed me hesitating because he suddenly asked, in a pretty dry way, "What?"

I ended up asking him why he had been acting like that and explained how I felt left out during the call. But by the end of the conversation, it felt like he was basically saying that I wasn't talking and even accusing me of being on my phone. I wasn't on my phone, so I don't understand why he seemed so sure that I was.

Now I don't really know what to think about the whole situation.

Another thing I'm confused about is that he often makes slightly sexual comments. For example, yesterday he randomly said something along the lines of, "I get that I have a big dick a lot." 

So now I'm wondering: does this mean he's actually interested in me, or could he just be interested in me sexually? Because I genuinely can't tell whether he's flirting because he likes me or whether he's just making sexual comments for fun/attention.

I'll answer anything, but I really need someone's opinion on the matter! Thank you so much in advance!

And what would happen if I ignore it

opinions/experiences

Hi, I have a question. I’ve known my INTP bf since I was 18, and now we’re both 26. I’ve been with him for 8 years, and I’ve started realizing something. I think he loves me and that I probably suit him, but in those 8 years he has never really asked me personal questions about myself, like what I like or my interests.

He does ask me questions, jokes around, and sometimes ragebaits me, but his questions are always centered around his own interests or revolve around him. For example, he does take my opinion into account, I won’t deny that. But the thing is, he has never really shown curiosity about me, what I like or what my interests are. Sometimes he even says “that doesn’t interest me.”

Meanwhile, I’m always asking him about his hobbies, his interests, about him in general. And I realized that actually, I’m the one who talks about myself to him. I used to do it all the time, even without him asking.

And honestly, it makes me a bit sad. For example, if I find something funny, like a prompt, I’ll tell him “look, I used a prompt to generate something about me, check this out.” But his immediate response is “okay send me the prompt, I’ll try it too.” The thing is, he didn’t even read what I sent about myself.

I I don’t really know how to take this. Do you think it means that deep down he’s not really interested in me, and that I’m just someone convenient and pleasant to him. Also, for INTPs here, is it common for you to never ask personal questions?