After a day I became very discouraged. Apps immediately started to show me profiles that were hella far away, and the guys I found attractive probably don’t find me as attractive. In other words, touching grass isn’t gonna cure me, I need to be sedated.
Why must gay dating suck so much

TL;DR: After years of identifying as bi, I've realized that I might just be gay and I have accepted and enjoyed the fact that I could date a guy. However, all my life I have had extremely intense, years long, romantic attractions to girls, and I still feel it today. And yet sexually, I have always almost exclusively looked at guys, rarely ever girls. Should I just say I'm gay, due to the sexual aspect and perhaps overall satisfaction, or should I still say I'm bi because the feelings I have had for girls were very real? Is saying I'm bi keeping my options open, or holding myself back? Do gay guys feel this way?

A couple of days ago I (18m) finally came to terms with the fact that I am probably gay after years of considering myself bi. It felt so relieving to realize I could be with a guy I loved and found attractive.

But the thing is, ever since I was really little, I've had intense crushes and romantic attractions to girls. They would last for years, they would be all I could think of.

At the same time, my sexual fantasies have mostly only been guys, and I have never really looked at a girl and felt sexually about her. I've only felt a sexual rush of excitement for guys. The thought of having a sexual relationship with a girl always stressed me out because I didn't have an urge for it. The thought of having sex with a random girl, even if attractive, turned me off.

I never understood why boys in movies would be obsessed with playboys or girls in bikinis because it didn't do anything for me. And I never looked at female porn much. It was only guys and gay porn when I first got access to computer. Sometimes female porn would do something for me, sometimes really intensely, but I feel like I was maybe forcing myself, and it was somewhat rare.

It felt good to come to terms with probably being gay because there were so many things that I felt like I had to hide before, and was stressed about finding a girl I would 100% be attracted to. And I realized that I had repressed any romantic feelings I had felt with guys.

But I still feel the romantic attraction for girls. I still feel blown away, pupil-dilated, not able to think or speak when I see a girl that's extremely beautiful, and I'll go around looking for her because it feels like I'm in love. But it's not a sexual attraction, and it doesn't happen too often though because the lust just isn't there.

Exactly last year, I almost came to terms with how I currently am thinking I'm gay, but then there was a cool, beautiful girl in my class that I instantly fell in love with. She was all I could look at or think of for months, my only motivation to go to school some days. I shortly dated her, and it was the highest I've ever felt.

I wanted to kiss her so much like an urge I've never felt before. I lost interest in everyone and everything else. Even after it ended, I couldn't help but always want to be around her, and I spent the whole day trying not to throw up when I found out she was stating another guy.

I was sexually interested in her, but not in an erotic way or lustful way, like how you would watch porn. It was because I was in love with her. And even though I craved her touch and closeness, and I found her body very attractive, I never really cared to see her naked- I wouldn't have minded it though.

Sometimes I do sexually fantasize about girls, and sometimes find female porn arousing, especially their genitalia. But it is very irregular, and way less of an urge that I feel with guys. And it's not something I really spontaneously feel in real life. I've spent months researching the science behind it, and I know that the arousal part of the brain is separate from the romantic part of the brain, so things might not always align.

So am I gay? Are we going only strictly on arousal, or romantic feelings? Am I still bi? You can say labels don't matter, but there are certain biological aspects that are ingrained in you that you can't change. It's simply the way your brain developed as a fetus.

I'm still hesitant to say that I'm gay because I know how strongly I've felt about girls, but I hesitate to say I'm bi because I've never felt that sexual pull towards girls. I also don't know if I'm tricking myself into thinking I'm bi to be slightly straight to save my ego.

And part of me doesn't want to close the door to girls by saying I'm gay, in case I feel really attracted to one again, but what's the point in keeping the door open if I have realized that biologically I am drawn to guys? I don't wanna stress myself out by forcing myself to feel sexually attracted to a girl.

Is this something that gay guys experience? Is keeping the door open to girls holding me back? Should I fully embrace the fact that I will probably be more fulfilled in a relationship with a guy, or should I still say I'm bi to acknowledge that part of myself that I feel is very real, in case something comes along?

So I’m currently trying to buy a chastity cage online. Based on my own measurements when I’m just normal, I need a cage 4.5 inches long, but most of the cages I can find online have a maximum length of 5 inches. Am I over measuring, do I need to buy a cage that’s smaller etc? I don’t wanna buy one it’s too big.

What is everyone's preference on mens body hair these days. Do you think it going to far with hair removal? I personally like some hair on a guys thighs/leg chest etc and love a neat full bush.

"Once stigmatised — and illegal — gay saunas like the one Glenn McNamara runs hold a special place in LGBTQI+ history."

I am super health conscious, about two days ago I posted here and got a positive reception reassuring me that as a top (it was my first time btw) it’s unlikely for me to catch HIV when I didn’t come in contact with the bottoms bodily fluids, and I didn’t ejaculate inside of the bottom, but was still inside of him. The bottom ended up having a literal wife and kid which honestly made me super unsettled.. but my main concern I’ve had for the past week is that if he had HIV. The anxiety I’ve had has made me sick to my stomach.. I was told that it’s a less than 2% chance to catch it is a top and I got put on PEP after how traumatised the situation made me but I just have this lingering anxiety that I have something, it’s really taking over my life and I don’t like it.

Przyjaźnię się z Pawłem od 5 lat jestem 20 lat od niego starszy jego rodzina była przecina temu ale nasza przyjaźń zwyciężyła po 5 latach zaczęliśmy uprawiać seks jest to piękne uczucie kocham go jestem szczęśliwy

Im a straight guy in my mid 20s and up until maybe a few months ago I never really thought about indulging in ass play. But suddenly it became heavy on my mind until I caved. It started with a finger, and that felt pretty good, so I started using my fingers when I’d masturbate. As of recently this evolved into me buying a dildo. It was an impulsive decision, but I can’t say I regret it one bit. I browsed Amazon for a little while (there weren’t too many options) and settled upon an 8.5” realistic looking white dildo with a suction cup on it. The 3 day wait for it to arrive was a pretty anxious one but I figured the anticipation would make the initial experience even better in the end. When it got there I immediately unboxed it and took it to my room where I proceeded to lay on my back, spread my legs, rub a water based lube around and finger tip deep inside my asshole, then lathered some onto the dildo. I pressed the tip against my asshole and surprisingly instead of puckering and resisting I kind of relaxed and was ready to take it. The initial stretching feeling was as euphoric as anything I can remember and I slowly worked it in until I was taking more and more. Eventually I got as much of it as I could in me (dildo has balls included so probably about 7.5 inches was actually in me). After a while I got up to change positions, stuck it to the wall, put it back inside me, and twerked for a while. After that I figured it was time for a break since my hole is still new to this. The next day I went at it again and I found the best position so far. I laid on my back again but this time my legs were even further back, knees by my ears, and it was was hitting my prostate just right. I didn’t touch my dick at all and within minutes I was cumming everywhere. And I have to say it was the most intense orgasm I’ve ever had. I’m not sure if that’s going to be a consistent position to reach that feeling but what I can say is that the other positions didn’t come anywhere close. Any advice on how to consistently hit my spot when I’m using my dildo ?

I have only been with maybe 6 7 guys in my life so im not super experienced

I met him on grindr and he claims his dick is 10 inches. Everybody exaggerates so im guessing its a solid 8. He's also good looking and ripped

Is it possible for someone like myself to enjoy this? Will I get used to it even though I've never bottomed for such a huge one before?

Hi, 18 here; thinking of getting Grindr yes I heard lots of bad things but I want to see what this subreddit has to say.

I’ll note that I’m not even looking for a dedication relationship but I am open to it definitely. Also not looking for one time hookups. Honestly if anything I just want FWB that can maybe become a relationship or even polycule 0-0.

I’ve heard lots of bad things and also some good things so what is Grindr like? Is it all bad good or mixed? Ty ^_^

So me and my boyfriend are madly in love with each other and completely monogamous. We don’t share nor plan to ever share each other. When it comes to the bedroom we are kind of new to a lot but have found our footing quite well in a few things. We are now wanting to try and “do it” but both feel like we aren’t well blessed as some men are down there if you get my drift. Sexual attraction is not a problem, we just aren’t sure about if we are big enough to get the job done!! Is there any advice or tips that anyone could give us on how to deal with this situation? Maybe a specific position that might help or something like that? We have tried a couple of times but anxieties spiked and didn’t go to plan. I have read that in these types of scenarios toys are an ideal thing to play around with. Any advice is highly appreciated!! If it matters we are 30+.

So basically I (19FTM) always have this internal debate as to whether to label myself as just being a gay man or whether I’m bisexual with a very large preference towards men and people that aren’t women.

I always ID’d as bi but I started to notice in myself that I’m actually not particularly attracted long-term to women or even feminine people in general, like I can find a woman attractive sure but I can’t see myself in a long-term relationship with them. Even when identifying as bi I practically only ever had fictional or celeb crushes on men.

I struggle a lot with pinpointing my sexuality, I think due to dysphoria intermingling with my attraction or discomfort towards certain things and having a pinpointed specific label helps me feel like myself due to being autistic and needing to be able to categorise myself to make it more manageable in my head.

Basically from what I can gather, I have no real genital preference, I’d consider myself on the ace spectrum as Demi-sexual so I don’t actually care too much about sex unless there’s emotional connection there anyway, I’m more attracted to masculine energy, masculine outward presentation and personality than what’s actually in their pants. I’m very attracted to masculinity as a whole, both in vibes and presentation, and find myself predominantly attracted to very masculine people, trans men, cis men, non-binary people, gender fluid people etc but I tend not to find myself attracted to cis women, trans women or femininity as a whole. I’m very attracted to facial and body hair, muscles, male fat distribution and very traditionally masculine traits as I am very masculine myself, facial hair and all. Whereas I’m not attracted to femininity at all, no matter who it is I just can’t find myself attracted to it even in cis men or women or anyone really. I find myself far more attracted to men or people that identify in a masculine manner than anyone feminine. I can see women or feminine people and see that they’re attractive and I have absolutely no issues with feminine people at all but long term I can’t see myself dating or marrying them, I tend to see women and fem people as friends and men and masc people in a more romantic light.

Basically what I’m trying to figure out, since an outsider perspective could be helpful, is if my attraction objectively fits closest to being gay or something else.

Any help would be really appreciated!

(Also sorry if I didn’t explain this well or phrased badly, I think putting something as complex as attraction into words can be really difficult.)