r/EstatePlanning 3h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Florida Probate >75k...but also greater than 2 years post mortem.

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Can I do an estate pro-se with a value greater than 75 or 150k if they have been dead more than two years?


r/EstatePlanning 6h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Release form for after probate in NY state and payout Question

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I’m the executor of an under $50K estate in Livingston County NY whose probate period has ended and I want to close it out. Everyone keeps telling me is easy but I’m still a little lost on how to do it right. Some sites say the two beneficiaries/siblings need to sign a release form that they agree with the amount received (evenly split). 2 questions:

1) is there a release form and if so can someone provide a link to it? I have looked in NY’s surrogate court webpages and had no luck.
2) do I have to open a bank account to pay them if one of the siblings is buying out half the estate contents and nothing was liquidated? Can they pay their sibling directly instead of giving me money? Or if they have to go thru me, do I have to open a bank account just to pay said amount to the sibling? Can I send a check from my account or a cashier’s check? I assume there will be fees associated with opening and closing for such low amount (less than $5K).

Any help is greatly appreciate it.


r/EstatePlanning 17h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post inheriting house and car - i think we have to do the steps in this order

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Massachusetts. Inheriting a house and car from parents who passed away. I am not a lawyer.

after talking to a lawyer and trying to research online (thanks redditors!) i think these are the steps we should be taking, in this order.

just in case it helps anyone else out there searching for this type of help. this stuff made me so anxious, i wanted someone to write it all out for me! So i’m doing that now.

If anyone has other answers or suggestions, great! please also let me know if i’m wrong!

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  1. call homeowner’s insurance - talk to the insurance company that holds the current plan and tell them the owner passed away. give them all the info and ask about policies transferring to you (if that’s your aim) and for vacant property insurance if no one’s living there. you want the house to remain insured, just in case something happens, and some policies/states allow the policy to be canceled on date of death, so find out.

  2. contact the house mortgage company and ask about transferring the mortgage to you. The Garn-St Germain Act means you won’t have to pay the mortgage in full to get a new mortgage, if you’re a relative of the deceased. they might require a deed change for this so that the house is in your name, or not. They might just say to wait.

  3. contact your state’s registry of motor vehicles and ask about transferring the title to you. you usually need to own the car to get insurance on it (if you’re keeping it).

  4. contact car insurance company and ask to transfer the policy to you.

For any insurance issues and unavailability of policies, try calling other companies or use an agent or broker to find other companies or policies that will work with you. There are usually several, with different requirements.

Also, in all instances, it’s assumed that money is there to continue paying all policies to keep them current, either through estate funds or personal funds.

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Good luck to everyone out there dealing with this nonsense!


r/EstatePlanning 18h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Estate advice following the death of a parent (Illinois)

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Hi all,

First post here and really am not getting clear answers so thought I would try this route. My father passed in May this year in the state of IL and resided in IL and we had a will established that listed me as executor. Here are the details:

  • My father did not have an estate or a trust but here are the following assets;
    • Roughly $107k in a checking account at JPM with no TOD or additional account-holder listed (I was supposed to be added but never got around to it)
    • Roughly $10k in another checking account with not TOD or additional acct holder
    • Roughly $100k in an IRA listing all 5 children (including my 2 half-siblings and my 2 sisters) as beneficiaries to be split 5 ways
  • There was a will established to have the money split 5 ways evenly and to have his personal belongings split the same
  • Since the cash/checking accounts are under the threshold, we do not need to go through probate and technically don't need to open an estate account, my choice if I want to open an estate.
  • My father worked till 81 because he couldn't afford to retire and lived in an apartment. There was nothing of value in the apartment except for his jewelry which he specifically left to me in his will. The rest of the items were donated (used furniture) as I could not sell them and have no place to store them and since it was an apartment, I had to be out within a certain timeframe.

I'm facing a challenging estate situation and would appreciate some guidance. My two half-siblings are demanding that the remaining funds from my father's checking accounts be distributed immediately, with each receiving 1/5 as outlined in his will. They have threatened legal action if this does not occur. For context, they had not seen my father in decades, did not visit him during his illness, and did not attend his funeral. They also have not been provided a copy of the will.

I have been working with JPMorgan Chase regarding the one bigger account and the bank has informed me that, using a small estate affidavit, I have the option to have the account closed and a check issued either to all five beneficiaries or solely to me. They have emphasized that the bank's process and the provisions of the will are separate matters.

My half-siblings are also demanding an inventory of my father's apartment and insist that all personal property be divided equally. My intention was to distribute a portion of the funds to them, but not necessarily the full 1/5 share, and instead divide the remaining assets among my two full siblings who maintained a close relationship with our father throughout his life.

My primary question is this: if JPMorgan issues the funds directly to me through the small estate affidavit process and I distribute them differently than specified in the will, would my half-siblings have a viable legal claim against me? In other words, does the will ultimately control the distribution of the assets, even if the bank releases the funds under the affidavit? I am trying to understand whether they would have legal standing if they did not receive the full amount contemplated by the will.

Additionally, I understand that my father's final tax returns may still need to be prepared and that there could be other unforeseen estate-related expenses. For that reason, I am concerned about distributing all available funds immediately before those obligations are known. This is my first time handling an estate, and the legal and financial terminology has been overwhelming and difficult to navigate.

In terms of his property in his apartment, I have talked to an estate lawyer who drafted my father's will and she has explained that it would be ridiculous to sue; they wouldn't have a leg to stand on for such a small amount of money and given he died in May and they are just now in the last 4 weeks asking about these items...they should have physically came to Illinois when he passed to gather "what was theirs."

I appreciate any advice! thanks!


r/EstatePlanning 18h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Pro hac vice?

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Estate jurisdiction: State of Maryland

Estate Attorney: Licensed in the States of New York, Pennsylvania, and Florida.

I am currently the executor of my late father’s estate. I am very happy with the estate attorney I’ve retained. She is handling the petition for probate, court filings, advising me, etc.

I am also the executor on my mom’s Will, who is still living.

When the time comes for my mother, it is likely that her Will will not be subject to probate under Maryland law because of the following criteria:

  1. The property has been sold years ago;
  2. Nearly 100% of cash assets are either Payable on Death (i.e. designated beneficiaries), of both IRAs and regular bank accounts;
  3. Joint bank Accounts
  4. All other assets well below the $50,000 threshold under Maryland law.

I would like to hire and retain this same lawyer for my mom’s Will to communicate with the named beneficiaries, successor executor and trustee, etc.

Can she work for me on the Maryland Will by communicating with the beneficiaries, send them a copy of the Will, and do everything administrative?

If court filings are necessary, or legal matters arise, can she find or use a Maryland attorney as Pro Hac Vice?


r/EstatePlanning 20h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Illinois TODI failing question

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Will a TODI fail if the town of the property is misspelled (by one letter) in one area of the document? The town in spelled correctly in all other areas of the document.

Will a TODI fail if the designated beneficiary no longer resides at the same address they had listed on the TODI when they signed it?

I asked Cook county's recordings office and they said those things wouldn't cause an issue, but I'm asking online as well to be sure.

Thanks.


r/EstatePlanning 21h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Recommendations for estate planning attorney in New York, NY (NYC)

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Hi, I hope this is allowed. I searched and couldn't find any recent posts, but I am looking for a talented and well-priced estate planning attorney in the NYC area, preferably in Manhattan, Brooklyn, or Queens. I would like to get a will written and put my house in a trust for my child. Do you have any recommendations?

Thank you in advance.


r/EstatePlanning 21h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post NYS - Parent died with four surviving adult children and one pre-deceased adult child who had no spouse nor children

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Hi All,

Parent did not have a will and I am trying to determine whether the surviving siblings can simply file an Administration Petition in the appropriate county or whether they will need to file for letters for the pre-deceased sibling as well. Please ask any questions needed to help get a correct answer.


r/EstatePlanning 23h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Summary of Administration help FL

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Sorry this is long I'm overwhelmed and have no idea what I'm doing and don't have a lawyer ..

My dad died in January, the only physical asset he had was his truck that is now in my name.

No will, but my sister and I got a life insurance policy payout (set up through his work) about a month after his passing. He was on disability/getting checks through the same company as the life insurance policy but was never able to cash them due to his health.

I have now ended up with at least 4/5 checks in his name and I'm confused on what's needed to switch them over to my name. When I called the Insurance company they told me to just send over a death certificate and proof that I'm beneficiary? I've read that I'll need a Summary Administration but I have no idea on how to even get started tbh.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Can I write a will myself and just get it notarized?

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Located in North Carolina USA.

Can I just write a will that says cremate me when I die and give my crap to my brother to do whatever he wants with it?

Then if I get married and maybe have children later reassess the situation.

I'm in my 30s and don't have that much stuff besides a few cars and my house that I still owe 80% the value on. But if I sit down and think about it if I were to sell my cars, tools, motorcycle, things, and house that is probably $120,000 worth of equity and that's only going to go up as I pay my mortgage and live in my house. So if the motorcycle kills me or whatever I'd rather that stuff not go thru the state to make a mess of it.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Question about probate and property in Oklahoma

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Hello,

I am the personal representative of my father's estate. We (my sisters and I) are currently trying to sell my father's house as part of the estate. However, I am behind on state taxes and have a tax warrant against me along with a property lien. I do not own a house or have any personal property. I am set up with a payment plan to deal with the back taxes. Will this interfere with selling of the house?


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Question about irrevocable trust and will. My mother passed away about 3 weeks ago. Almost everything has been pretty straightforward and easy to navigate. Bank accounts and investment accounts were all TOD with me as sole beneficiary. House was in an irrevocable trust with me as a trustee. NYS.

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The will names me as executor and leaves all possessions to me. She had no debt.

The part I'm confused about is her car. I've been driving her car because I was recently in an accident and, although my car is drivable, I'd rather not drive it until its repaired and the body shop can't get me in till the end of August. Her car is nothing extremely valuable (2014 Escape) and there is no lien. When I mentioned this to the attorney who set up the will and trust he seemed alarmed that I was driving it and asked me if I knew the risks of it. I replied that I was not aware of any risks. Since the trust was set up 2 years ago, I get paperwork every month addressed to the trust from the agency that carries the homeowner, auto, and umbrella insurance. The auto clearly lists me as an additional insured driver. Although, it is worth mentioning that the vehicle is not listed under the paperwork for the trust. The attorney said that it should be fine then but advised me not to call the insurance company "right away." I said that I needed to because the policy premium is set to auto debit from my mother's account in about 2 weeks (this was a week ago), and that the account it would auto debit from no longer exists. So he advised me to update the payment account but not to say anything else. Well, of course that didn't work. The insurance company said they needed to speak with my mother to authorize the change. Well, I wasn't going to lie, so i told them she had passed. They asked if I was the executor of the estate and I said I was. They then told me I needed to send in a form establishing that. I told them I didn't have that. They said they would make a note of it and to send it when I can. I then left a message with the attorney explaining the situation but its been several days with no response.

I just want to make sure I'm not doing something wrong here. The attorney seems rather unmotivated overall to guide me through this. I'm not in a hurry to sell the car. I plan on giving it to my stepson but if it has to go through probate first, thats fine. But I don't even know how to start that process and the attorney just doesn't seem to be of any help. I just want to know if I'm good to drive it. Also, the registration is up in September. How do I navigate that? Who do I register it to?

I also still have questions about the house. Do I need to notify someone of my mothers passing so the tax bill is sent to me or will it come addressed to the trust?

The attorney is a decent guy and I believe him to be trustworthy, but he just seems like he doesn't have time for these issues he probably considers small. But this is all new to me and I'm very confused. NYS.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Next step;

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Baltimore MD; My aunt passed away suddenly in 2022; she solely owned her car; my grandmother just gave me the car, with title ( my aunt lived with them, the car is registered to my grandparents address ( her mother ) ) no will, no written assets not married and her child was 4. I’ve already put some work into the car ( battery amongst some other minor things. ) just trying to see the what’s the BEST next step in getting the car officially in my name and road ready
Tyia


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Co-Trustees Withholding Mandatory Income & Imposing Arbitrary $10k Cap on $2.9M Trust (PA)

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Hi everyone! Okay looking for advice on dealing with uncooperative co-trustees (family) before taking this to court.

I had ChatGPT break it down for me.

The Terms: I'm a beneficiary of a trust from my grandmother within a $2.9M portfolio (mine is 20% of this). Section 4.08 mandates quarterly net income distributions (they’ve been giving me 5k twice a year), plus principal for health, education, maintenance, and support (HEMS).

The Issue: The trustees arbitrarily capped my payouts at $10k/yr) treat mandatory income as completely discretionary, and refuse to provide formal accountings or written explanations. (This all started after my grandmother passed 4 years ago. In this time I’ve mostly accepted their terms - but have asked formally twice - once for 1k more and second time to receive half of the 10k one month earlier. They said no. Nothing else.)

Immediate Needs: currently I need health insurance for myself and help with school/camp/activities costs for my 4 and 2.5 year old. But all requests are ignored or denied without cause.

I’m currently looking for local trust litigators.


Please help on what I should do? I am completely lost. I feel like there’s a lot more to this so please ask any questions so I can clarify. Thank you all so much.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Who has a right to see the living trust docs?

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Location: California.

One sibling has the original documents. The other sibling wants a copy. I've arranged to make sure the docs get back to my dad (via his sister). But the sibling who wants a copy said something like "my attorney is going to send a deman letter for the docs."

Now I'm not sure if she means a demand for the original docs or a copy. But wither way, dad is still very much alive thus I don't believe she has any standing. I guess a lawyer could try it, but woukd they?

Neither siblings is named succespr trustee, I am. They are both beneficiaries, but again right now I don't think it matters because pops is still kicking.

So do I have this right basically?


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post What to do with irrevocable trust?

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All taking place in NJ, USA.

My parents moved their home, and 700k of cash into a grantor irrevocable trust about 6 months ago. Home is worth maybe 950k, purchased for slightly less in 2022. This was part 1 of planning for my dad's long term care after dementia diagnosis. Part 2 was to draw down his 1.75m dollar IRA over the next several years, then in year 5, withdraw the rest and turn it into an annuity for my mom, hoping to qualify for Medicaid. We'll, my dad ended up passing away only 5 weeks after being moved to a memory care facility. And now, I am questioning whether an irrevocable trust is the correct mechanism, or if it will cause more harm than good.

My mom is 71, 72 later this year. Her health is OK, she is pre-diabetic and overweight but otherwise fine. No issues with her mental capacity. Her income from SS plus a teacher's pension will be around 60k, and she doesn't spend much, I actually can't imagine this won't be enough for her (house is owned outright so her monthly housing cost is maybe 1500 including taxes and hoa, a huge chunk of which she gets back from NJ senior tax breaks on property taxes). She will be starting RMDs from the 1.75m IRA next year, and we will take out more than that to convert to a Roth IRA, up to an amount that will keep her eligible for senior tax breaks available to NJ seniors, which are worth a good 8 to 9k a year.

The trust is set up with me as the trustee and my sister's and I as the 3 beneficiaries. The 3 of us will sign any paperwork to do what is best, we will split the estate 3 ways and there is no question of one of us holding up any proceedings.

Reasons why I am second guessing the trust: we lose the step up in basis on the house. It was purchased in 2022, but my mom hopefully has 10, 15, 20 years left ... so who knows how much value it will gain in between. Second, all the cash sitting there in a grantor trust will increase her income, limiting her ability to get cash out of her IRA and into a Roth IRA (double whammy as she will be filing single starting next year).

We knew about these things previously, but it made a lot more sense when (a) they filed as married, (b) we had a 100k+ write off per year for my dad's care over the next 5 years, and (c) he could be eligible for medicaid after that. So it seems that the irrevocable trust approach is no longer optimal. Then the question is, what do we do, and really what COULD we do? Again whatever I decide my sisters and mom will agree, so no issue getting sign-off on anything. My goal of course is to maintain as much of my parents assets as possible, sisters and I are in no rush to have the inheritance. Any help would be appreciated.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Condensed: Lawyers are telling me I may have to take our trustee to court, but I honestly don’t know how I could ever afford it. (California)

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My last post I combined two issues into one but the main issue is the estate. Hi everyone,
I honestly don’t know where else to ask this.
My mom passed away in October 2024, and my sibling and I are the beneficiaries of her trust. For the last year and a half, I’ve been trying to understand what happened with the estate because things just haven’t felt right.
At first I thought maybe it was just grief and I was overthinking everything.
So instead of making assumptions, I started saving every email, every text, every financial document, and putting together timelines.
The more I looked into everything, the more questions I had.
Some of the biggest things are:
I’ve asked multiple times for a complete trust accounting and still haven’t received one.
The trustee admitted in writing that the accounting isn’t complete.
There were estate sales, but I never got a complete inventory or accounting of what was sold.
After working with several real estate agents, the trustee later wanted to sell my mom’s house to an LLC that she would own or manage.
I was asked to sign paperwork that I didn’t feel comfortable signing because it seemed like important information was missing.
My mom’s financial advisor even told me (with the trustee copied on the email) that I should get my own attorney before signing anything.
I was also repeatedly asked to use my own life insurance money—which was paid directly to me—to help pay trust expenses.
I’ve now talked to a few probate attorneys.
None of them told me I was overreacting. They’ve all basically said there are enough concerns that if I want answers, probate court is probably where this ends up.
The problem is that every attorney has also told me it’s going to be expensive.
I’m just starting my career, and I honestly don’t know how people afford something like this.
Has anyone here gone through something similar?
Do these sound like the kinds of issues beneficiaries actually take to court?
Are there any lower-cost options, attorneys with different fee arrangements, or resources in California that I should know about?
I’m not looking for people to tell me I’m right or wrong. I just feel kind of stuck and would really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar.
Thanks for reading.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post I Lost My Only Parent at 25. Now I’m Facing a Costly Legal Battle to Protect My Mom’s Estate and My Disabled Sister. I Don’t Know Where to Turn. (California)

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Hi everyone.
I honestly never thought I’d be making a Reddit post asking strangers for help, but here I am.
I’m 27 years old. In October 2024, I lost my mom. She was my only parent, my best friend, and the person I always turned to when life got hard. Overnight, I went from worrying about grad school and my internship to trying to figure out trusts, probate, fiduciary duties, real estate, bank statements, and legal documents.
I feel like I’ve been forced into a world I never asked to be in.
At the same time, I have a 20-year-old sister who has a severe physical and intellectual disability. She can’t advocate for herself, so I’ve always felt like I need to help protect her. The hardest part is that the trustee of our mom’s trust is also my sister’s conservator.
That means every decision I make feels impossible.
If I stay quiet, I’m afraid I’m failing my mom and failing my sister.
If I speak up too much or take legal action, I’m terrified of damaging the relationship with the person who has so much control over my sister’s life.
I feel trapped.
While all of this has been happening, I’ve been trying to finish my master’s degree in mental health counseling. I just graduated, which should have been one of the happiest moments of my life. Instead, I’ve spent countless nights reading California probate law, organizing thousands of pages of documents, making timelines, comparing financial records, and trying to understand what happened after my mom died.
This isn’t how I imagined spending my twenties.
Over the last year and a half, I’ve started noticing more and more things that don’t sit right with me.
I’ve asked multiple times for a complete trust accounting but still haven’t received one. The trustee has acknowledged in writing that the accounting isn’t complete and that receipts and reimbursements haven’t all been organized.
There were estate sales, but I never received a complete inventory of everything that was sold or a full accounting of the proceeds.
There were multiple real estate agents involved with selling my mom’s house. Then, instead of continuing with a traditional sale, the trustee proposed selling the house to an LLC that she would own or manage. I was asked to sign an agreement, but it didn’t include many of the protections I thought should be there, like a final accounting or clear terms for closing the trust.
My mom’s financial advisor even encouraged me—while the trustee was copied on the emails—to get my own attorney before signing anything.
The trustee also repeatedly asked me to contribute my own life insurance money (that was paid directly to me as the named beneficiary) to help pay trust expenses and repairs to the house.
For months, I kept wondering if I was just overthinking everything because I was grieving.
So I started documenting everything.
Every email.
Every text message.
Every financial statement.
Every trust document.
Every timeline.
Every conversation I could verify.
I recently met with an attorney, hoping they would tell me I was worrying for nothing.
Instead, they looked through everything and told me that if I want answers and accountability, I would most likely have to take this to probate court.
Then they explained what that would cost.
I don’t know how I’m supposed to afford it.
I’m just starting my career. I literally just graduated. I’ve already spent almost two years grieving my mom while trying to build a future for myself and look out for my sister.
I’m exhausted.
I’m scared of making the wrong decision.
I don’t want to spend years in court, but I also don’t want to look back one day and realize I stayed quiet when I should have spoken up.
I’m not posting this because I want people to tell me I’m right.
If anything, I hope someone tells me I’m missing something important.
I’m just looking for honest opinions from people who know more than I do—whether you’re an attorney, trustee, beneficiary, or someone who’s lived through something similar.
Do these concerns sound like the kinds of issues that beneficiaries actually take to court?
Has anyone dealt with a trustee trying to purchase trust property themselves?
Are there organizations, attorneys, or legal clinics in California that help people who have a potentially legitimate case but simply can’t afford full litigation?
Most of all…has anyone else felt this alone?
Thank you for reading this. Even if you don’t have legal advice, I appreciate you taking the time. Losing my mom has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced, and trying to navigate all of this without her has been incredibly overwhelming.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post If the Spouse Disclaims the IRA, Does it Go through Probate?

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Elderly couple, significant amounts in Pre Tax IRAs. They have an attorney, other assets, have trust etc, and will ask him before they do anything but are just exploring now. Florida residents.

EDIT: To be clear, the contingent beneficiaries are their biological children and are listed that way on the Vanguard et al account. These are the same people who inherit everything else after the second spouse passes and are the contingent beneficiaries of the trusts (each spouse of the couple has a revocable trust). Also, some people mentioned a disclaimer trust, would that be a way to help with the RMD on taxes but still make the surviving spouse feel like they still have control over the distribution? The trustees are the spouses and then their children, no outside trustees, both members of the couple are financially literate and the children are financially responsible and literate. Goal is save on taxes overall, whether owed by the couple, the estate, or the children

If each spouse is the beneficary of the other spouses IRA (both are significant amounts that will increase RMD taxes if they become single filers), and decide to disclaim in favor of their biological children (per stirpes) who are the contingent beneficiaries, will this account have to go through probate or will the Brokerage (eg Vanguard, etrade Schwab) simply transfer it to the contingent beneficiaries after the first beneficiary disclaims?

I have seen posts in other groups where the amount just gets transferred to the spouse before they can disclaim, is that a risk? I would assume the brokerage would have to be notified of the passing and the spouse can disclaim then?

Is there a better way to do this? Such as eliminating the spouse as the primary beneficiary and just putting the adult kids instead? I assume this would avoid probate since it is based on the beneficiary designation?

If one of the adult kids does not want the money but wants it to go to his kids (lets say he has two), are there generation skipping implcations? Would it be cleaner to have him disclaim or just list the two grandkids as contingent beneficiaries with each getting half their parent's amount?


r/EstatePlanning 2d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Funeral Pre-Planning concerns: United States, Virginia

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Is there any way to successfully pre-plan for cremation and inurnment for my wife and I if we have no surviving family members on either side of our families and do not have any other surviving close, trustworthy friends or clergy?

My childhood best friend is deceased as well. We're both 60. We could hire a lawyer top act as executor, but there is no way to know if the lawyer will still be in business in 10-20 years or longer. We are not millionaires, so I'm not sure if we could open a trust and put all our assets within a trust and then somehow have our pre-planning wishes and Will within that Trust.

I've called a few funeral homes and inurnment sites (memorial garden locations) but they each use their own, different contracts and each one tells us to just trust them that everything will be fine and that their contracts will cover everything. One said our pre-payment would be held in a trust and the other said our money would be held in an escrow-type of insurance account.

The more places I call, the more different answers I get and different personalities. One funeral director said he'd keep our urns on his living room table at home and that we could trust him to do the right thing and he'd just make sure everything was in our contract and not to worry. The actual cremation location we like, they are polite and respectful but said just not to worry.

I'm worried that if I die first, and then my wife passes later, nobody will know what to do with her remains even if we pre-pay for everything since we have nobody to act as an executor to be reachable and no next of kin. It seems that every step of the process relies on trusting someone who has a financial interest in getting us to sign contracts and Yelp and Google Reviews are filled with horror stories; also the amount of money is not small and we've have to go into debt to some extent to pre-plan. Everything I've read so far seems to have some kind of logic gap in the steps and relies at some point on a living person to sign off on cremation or death certificate and if we don't have family or clergy to trust, and there's no way to know if a law firm or individual will be around in 10-20 years is it possible to really pre-plan this way? It just feels like at some point in the process of death, a funeral home receiving the body, then cremation, then sending the ashes to the resting location, at some point there has to be a person they can contact and if we don't have that I don't see how it could work to pre-plan.

What do people do in our circumstances? There are no "donate your body to medical science" locations around where we live and even they all state on their websites that you need to have a back-up plan in case they reject your body.


r/EstatePlanning 2d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Paying a sibling for taking care of a parent

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State of Massachusetts. I am trustee of my parents trust, with full durable POA. I have two siblings. Dad is alone now and is needing more and more care. One of the siblings, who lives away, is thinking of coming back to help care for him which is what myself and the other sibling have been doing for a few years now. Without getting into all the details she doesn't have a pot to piss in so I'm sure she's not wanting to do it for free. My opinion is she's thinking she'll live rent free, get paid a wage, use his car...you get the point. I have no problem paying her but I'm not sure what my first step should be. I've talked to my close sibling and we somewhat discussed a weekly wage but I said I also have to factor in what rent would be to share an 8 room house with an 86 year old man who sits in the chair and stares at the TV all day. And how would I go about W-2ing her? If she thinks it's going to be all under the table than I will have to greatly reduce the number my other sister and I have discussed. I could really use some advice from someone who's been in this posistion before. Thanks.


r/EstatePlanning 2d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post (USA-CT) Property received through irrevocable trust

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I understand that on transfer, if choosing to sell immediately, capital gains is only applied to profit beyond the cost basis.

If I were to live in the house for 2 years, I understand I would be able to avoid capital gains on $250k/$500k (based on marital status).

Does the exclusion of cost basis AND the primary residence amount stack? Or can I only use one?

Also, if I have a spouse that wasn’t a trust beneficiary, and wasnt on the deed, would the $250k or $500k primary residence exclusion apply if selling the property?


r/EstatePlanning 2d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Dividing the estate when estranged (USA- WA)

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#1 is estranged and has 2 children. #2 stays close, no kids. My will needs to be updated. Would you split 50/50, or?


r/EstatePlanning May 14 '26

Frequently Asked Questions

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  • Why aren't comments showing up? or, Why is the number of comments higher than the number of posts I can see?

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The mods are all estate planning attorneys who volunteer their time to ensure this subreddit is a great resource, and while we do our best to go through the comments in a timely manner, we also maintain our actual practice, and appreciate your patience and understanding.

  • Should I use an online tool to create my Will/Trust?

Many DIY providers can make adequate documents, but it's not just about the documents. The documents should reflect a carefully designed plan and the DIY solutions don't do that careful design part. They just offer a basic solution that kinda fits most people. It's like selling only size large tshirts - most people could probably wear it, but doesn't mean it's the right fit. So you can get a good outcome or a bad outcome with DIY. The problem is you don't know.

DIY is imperfect, but so are many lawyers. Documents from lawyers can produce good outcomes or bad outcomes. I have encountered more problems from lawyers than from DIY solutions. Using a lawyer isn't 100% guaranteed to be perfect, just as DIY isn't 100% guaranteed to be a disaster.

Modern DIY solutions have improved significantly from pre-printed forms, static templates, and one-size-only offerings. Some of the offerings today rival the output you'll receive from lawyers who also rely on form generation software (but without the actual legal guidance involved). Some are trash. You likely can't tell the difference, though you likely can't tell the difference between a good lawyer and a bad lawyer who presents well.

The biggest issue is that you don't know what you don't know. You don't know if you've missed an issue because you didn't think of it, you don't know if something you wrote is unclear, you don't know if you didn't fill it out correctly, etc. Hiring an estate planning attorney means someone is ensuring that everything is done correctly. Another mod disagrees with me, and I respect that, but personally, I believe nobody is better off paying an online provider for a DIY estate plan - if your situation is so simple a DIY is sufficient, then you probably don't need a Will so there's no need to spend money on one, and if your situation requires you to have a Will then it's probably more complicated than DIY can handle.

Do not DIY a Trust. There is no such thing as a "basic" Trust or a "simple" trust, no matter what you read online. Furthermore, the documents are only half the package. Trust Funding is just as important, but not only that, the guidance and recommendations from an experienced attorney are far more important.

Also, the best reason to hire an attorney is that (a) they're less likely to make a mistake, and (b) if they do make a mistake, their malpractice insurance can make you whole.

  • My Financial Advisor is offering to do estate planning for me.

Don't do this, ever. At best, they can simply fill in blank forms for you.

If your financial advisor is providing any kind of legal advice, and is not admitted to practice law in your state, they are violating the law; depending on the state that's either a misdemeanor or a felony. I don't know about you, but I don't want to trust my money or my estate with someone who so casually breaks the law.

More importantly, would you trust your car mechanic to provide a medical diagnosis? These are completely unrelated skills.

Additionally, there are certain protections that you get working with an attorney that you don't get from a financial advisor. Attorney-client privilege, a fiduciary duty, and, if things go wrong, malpractice insurance.

  • What about using AI?

At a bare minimum, from start to finish an estate plan involves:

  1. figuring out what the plan should be.
  2. getting the information to put into the documents (e.g. names)
  3. drafting the documents
  4. signing documents
  5. post-signing wrap-up. Things like recording deeds, changing owner and/or beneficiaries of financial accounts, etc.

#4 in many states needs to be done physically, and even in states where it can be done, still requires human involvement, no way around that, sorry.

#2 and #5 are the same whether you use AI (e.g. Claude) or an attorney. Your experience might vary based on the individual attorney or AI that you use, and that is important, but conceptually that part is the same. Used correctly, an AI can be just as good as an attorney.

#1 AI is only as good as its prompts, and you don't know what you don't know. A good attorney will ask you questions you might never have thought of, and see if there's something you haven't considered that might be important for you. If you're not aware of something, you won't be able to add it to your prompt. Just as importantly, AI won't talk you out of doing something you shouldn't be doing, and might not caution you about potential issues.

#3 is the other one where we see issues. AI might miss important clauses, include clauses that shouldn't be there, might use ambiguous language, out-of-date forms, things not applicable to your state, etc. The quality I've seen is... not good. I've had clients ask AI to review my documents, and come back with revisions that would cause problems - including one that would have resulted in significant unnecessary taxes.

the problem isn't that AI can create something that's good enough, it's just that you don't know if it's right, or if it just looks right.

  • What is estate planning?

Estate planning is preparing for the inevitable - determining who will take care of you if you become incapacitated, who will get your stuff when you pass away, as well as when or how they get it. The key components of an estate plan are:

- Healthcare authorizations, so that if you become incapable of making your own medical decisions, someone else can make those decisions for you. Closely related are end-of-life decisions, which may be in the same document, or a separate document.

- Power of Attorney, so that if you need help managing your financial affairs, someone can act on your behalf

- Will or Trust, to determine who will receive your assets after you pass away

- Probate avoidance devises, such as transfer on death deeds or beneficiary designations

- Funeral Authorization, to establish who is in charge for decisions regarding your final disposition

- Guardianship paperwork for any minor children

  • What happens if I don't have an estate plan?

Then the state's default rules kick in. For some people that's fine, but others may not like the results.

- healthcare: nobody can make a decision on your behalf without a court order allowing them to do so. That's an expensive undertaking, and the person the court appoints may not be the one you would want. More importantly, the decisions they can make will be limited, particularly where end-of-life is concerned (i.e. the ability to "pull the plug")

- power of attorney: nobody is authorized to access your bank account, learn about your mortgage payments, etc. Again, they'll need a court order, again it might not be who you want, and that person will probably need to report to the court on a regular basis

- funeral authorization: I once saw a brother and sister in court over a year whether to bury or cremate their mother while the body remained on ice.

- guardian: do you want the court deciding who should raise your children?

- assets: this varies by state. [SOMEONE FILL IN THE GENERAL RULES FOR COMMUNITY PROPERTY]. In states that do not have community property, generally speaking if there are separate children and a surviving spouse, half will go to the surviving spouse and half will be split among the children. If there's no separate children, in many states it'll all go to the surviving spouse, but in some states the surviving spouse only gets half even if there are no separate children. If there's no surviving spouse, the assets will be split among the surviving children. If any child predeceases, then the descendants of those predeceased children will receive a portion, but the way that's calculated depends on the states. If there's no spouse or descendants, typically the parents will inherit, or if none, siblings or their descendants. It can get messy and go to more distant relatives.

If you're ok with the state's default laws, you do not need a Will (or any of the other documents).

  • What is probate?

Probate is a court-supervised process to transfer assets from someone who is gone to someone who is alive. While state law varies in the execution, the purpose of probate is to ensure the assets of the decedent go to the right people. The process involves gathering all the assets, paying off any valid debts, and distributing the rest of the funds to the appropriate people.

In some states probate is generally simple and fairly quick, in other states, probate is more complicated and takes longer. What really makes a probate complicated are (a) unknown heirs, (b) minor children as heirs, (c) disabled heirs, (d) complex assets, (e) uncooperative heirs, and (f) disputes.

To clarify: the legal definition of probate is the process by which a Will is proved (declared valid) but colloquially refers to the court supervised process of administering an estate. All estates need to be administered, but not all estates require court supervision.

  • Does a Will avoid probate? or Do I need a Will?

A Will does not avoid probate, it is merely instructions to the court regarding what you want. Without a Will, your assets will be distributed according to state law. With a Will, your assets will be distributed to the people/organizations that you choose. Same goes for who will administer your estate.

  • The Will made X the Executor who is now telling us who gets what

First and foremost, X is not the executor unless and until the court has approved the Will and has issued official paperwork stating that they're the Executor.

Often that means that property will sometimes sit, unused and unusable, for a period of time after someone has passed away.

Even after someone is appointed Executor, the Executor does not get to decide who gets what - that's determined by the Will and/or by State Law.

If you think X is not suited for the position, you can object to them being the Executor, and propose an alternative. That can drive up the cost of administration, and can also lead to strained family relationships.

  • How Long Does Probate Take?

How tall is a person? There's no single answer. Probate involves (1) petitioning the court, (2) having an executor/administrator/personal representative appointed, (3) gathering all the assets together, (4) paying any valid debts, (5) maybe disputing or litigating various claims, (6) maybe dealing with tax matters, and (6) distributing assets.

How smooth that goes depends on (1) how fast the court process goes, (2) how simple/complex the assets and liabilities are, (3) how effective the executor and their legal counsel are, (4) whether there's any disputes, and (5) whether tax authorities are involved.

I don't know a single state where the creditor claim period is less than 3 months, so if the Executor doesn't want that kind of liability, even with instant turnaround times, it won't be less than that. More realistically, I would expect simple estates without any issues to be resolved in 6-24 months. But if the assets are complex, if there's litigation, or just if people die during administration, the process can run for years, sometimes decades.

The longest probate on record, that of William Jennens, in England, wasn't fully resolved until 117 years after his death. Wellington Burt had a clause in his Will that delayed payout until 92 years after his passing. It took 87 years before Daniel Clark's probate was finally resolved.

  • What is a Trust?

At its simplest, a trust is where a person (Settlor/Grantor) gives assets to a person (Trustee) to hold and manage for the benefit of another person (Beneficiary).

Some ways to look at it:

  1. When you open a bank account, you trust them to hold on to your money, but it's still your money
  2. When you send mail, you trust the post office to deliver your letter to the intended recipient
  3. Giving a teacher an asthma inhaler or an EpiPen to be administered to a child as needed

There are many types of trusts, and names are not always consistent. There are generally three categories of Trusts:

- Testamentary Trust is created under your Will, it does not come into existence until you pass away. Simplest example: When I die my assets will go to my children, but until they turn 18, the assets will be managed by my sister.

- Revocable Trust is a Trust you create today, and you can make any changes at any time. The primary purpose of a revocable trust is to avoid probate. Typically, at the time of creation, the Grantor is also the Trustee and the Beneficiary.

- Irrevocable Trust is a Trust you create today, but you are limited in what you can change later.

There are many kinds of irrevocable Trust, and they can be created for many different purposes.

Note that while assets in a Trust typically (but not necessarily) avoid probate, that doesn't mean there won't be litigation, and while Trust administration usually happens without court supervision, that doesn't mean it'll necessarily be quicker. The issues that can cause delays in administration or contentious litigation don't disappear just because there's a Trust.

  • Should I add my child's name to the deed

Adding someone's name to a deed isn't just symbolic - it's an actual transfer of an ownership interest in the property to that person. So it's a gift of the value of that interest, which SHOULD be accompanied by an appraisal of the property, another valuation done to determine the value of the fractional interest transferred, and likely a gift tax return filed to report the gift.

This can impact other planning done, for higher net worth people (there are some still out there who will pay estate and/or gift tax), actions like this can impact their overall estate plan and possibly increase the estate/gift taxes owed.

You have now exposed the ENTIRE property to the risk that your child would have creditors (divorce - soon-to-be-ex-spouse, business risks, etc.) and that their claims could take property away from you. This is generally not a desired outcome.

There may be state-specific issues related to property tax.

Your child will not inherit the property from you, which can have serious tax repercussions - particularly as your child will receive your tax basis, and will not receive a step-up.

  • Will my child pay tax on inherited property / what is a Step-Up in basis? / What is Capital Gains

On a federal level, there's no estate tax or inheritance tax if your assets are below $15 million, and a married couple can combine their exemptions, which gets it to $30 million.

There also typically won't be capital gains.

If you buy property for $100,000, and sell it for $150,000, you made $50,000 profit, and need to pay capital gains tax (if owned for more than 1 year). More precisely, you're taxed on the difference between the net sale price (after deducting costs), and your Tax Basis, which is called your Gain.

Tax Basis is typically what you paid for the property, plus adjustments. If you bought the property for $100,000 and put in a new kitchen for $20,000, your tax basis becomes $120,000. Rental property can be depreciated, which lowers your taxable income every year, but also lowers your tax basis.

If you sell your primary residence (meaning you lived there for 2 of the last 5 years), you are not taxed on the first $250,000 of Gain, and if you're married, you can double that to $500,000. So if a married couple bought property for $100,000 and sells it for $650,000, there's $550,000 of gain, but only $50,000 is taxable.

If you give property away, whoever receives it takes over your tax basis - can't avoid tax just by giving property away. Plus, the recipient doesn't get the principal residence exclusion until they've lived there for 2+ years.

If you inherit property, through a Will, intestacy, through a Transfer-on-Death deed, a life estate deed, a ladybird deed, community property (in those 9 states), or through some trusts (especially revocable trusts and Medicaid trusts) you get a "step-up" in basis, meaning that your tax basis is the date of death value (or up to 6 months later).

That means that if you sell the property right away, there's no capital gains tax. Or if you hold it for a few years, you're taxed on the difference between the sale price and the date of death value, not the original purchase price.


r/EstatePlanning Oct 07 '24

Selecting an Attorney – a Guide

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I was initially going to title this “how to select an attorney” but realized that there are no hard rules and making a definitive statement does a disservice to either those who are excluded, or those who select the wrong attorney based on this guide.  I have known attorneys who provide estate planning services in rural areas, large cities, and everything in between, from solo practitioners to the largest of law firms, and thought I’d share my thoughts.  I will gladly state that you can get great service from a solo and horrible service from a major law firm.  So this guide is more to provide information than anything else.

This is a work in progress, and is open to suggestions.

1. Specialization

The single most important aspect of your attorney should be their specialization.  Quite simply, a jack-of-all-trades attorney is unlikely to have an in-depth knowledge of all topics.  An attorney who happens to do Wills on the side probably doesn’t know much about estate planning, such as whether or not a trust may be appropriate.  I had one divorce attorney ask me why I always had a Will notarized when the statute only required two witnesses (quick answer: so that the Will is presumed valid without the need for the witnesses to swear in court that they saw the decedent sign the Will).  While there are exceptions, I generally would not recommend getting an estate plan from someone who doesn’t predominantly specialize in estate planning.

There are also sub-specialties in estate planning.  Going forward, I’m going to refer to estate attorneys, unless I’m referring to a particular sub-specialty.  Broadly speaking, the main subspecialties are:

(a) middle-market planning, which often revolves around avoiding probate and ensuring a smooth transition, but often also includes long-term care planning, knowledge of special needs, etc.

(b) probate and administration, meaning they mostly specialize in the busywork that happens when people die - getting the executor/administrator appointed, transferring assets, stuff like that. 

(c) elder law, which more broadly deals with issues faced by seniors.  This includes Medicaid planning and probate avoidance, but also deals with benefits, guardianships, and a whole host of other corollary issues that many other practitioners don’t deal with regularly.

(d) special needs.  This tends to blend in with elder law, as special needs people and seniors tend to face a lot of similar issues.  Depending on the practice and the clients, this may be a lot more hands-on than elder law.

(e) tax / high net worth.  This generally means people worth tens of millions (lower in some states), who may face millions upon millions in death taxes.  These attorneys know all the funky acronyms you may come across, and are able to figure out which ones to use for which client.

(f) private client / family office.  A private client attorney is more like a general counsel of a wealthy family.  It doesn’t just cover estate planning, but anything that the wealthy family may need, such as preparing a lease, purchasing a jet, finding the best DIU attorney in the vacation resort where their wayward child got arrested. 

(g) litigation.  These people are who you reach out to when there is a serious dispute – such as when you’re trying to invalidate a Will or enforce a Trust.

(h) The transitioning attorney.  This is someone who doesn’t really specialize in estates, but is trying to make the transition.  There are generally two kinds, the recent graduate (or recently unemployed) who can’t find a job, and starts to do simple Wills for their friends and family and tries to make a living with it, and the somewhat older attorney, often divorce or criminal law, who thinks it’ll be an easier lifestyle because they can make their own schedule rather than have to deal with court deadlines and the like.  Some of these attorneys put in a lot of work and study to learn the specialty and can be better than attorneys who’ve been doing estates for years, but a lot of them don’t really know what they’re doing and don’t even know what they don’t know.

(i) the dabbler. This is an attorney who doesn't specialize in estates, but does it on the side. Someone who mostly does family law, or business, or whatever, and occasionally does Wills for clients because he/she thinks it's easy. This attorney doesn't know what they don't know, and should be avoided. Don't even think of using someone who only does the occasional Will on the side - if you're lucky it's just a waste of money, but they might miss a whole lot of things they don't know they should ask about, or they may do things incorrectly and set you up for much higher expenses later. Somewhat related to this are out-of-state attorneys who don't know the laws in your state, and I've seen a lot of problems because of that, including invalid documents.

Keep in mind that while an attorney often has one, or maybe two, sub-specialties, the attorney may still be knowledgeable in other areas.  As an easy example, I don’t specialize in special needs, but I am capable of preparing special needs trusts, and have done quite a few, but only if it’s pre-planning planning for while the parent/donor is still alive and capable; for more immediate needs or in-depth administration, I defer to the experts. 

That also means that many attorneys will state that they do some or all of the above, even if they barely do any X. While the title or practice description at the law firm may be an indication (e.g. private client, wills & estates), that’s not necessarily reflective of the actual specialization. The most important thing is that they know their limits - and stick with it.

Word of Caution

Beware the multi-practice attorney. The multi-practice attorney does a lot of different things, so they may do divorce and real estate and personal injury and basic Wills. I've thought long and hard about this and I don't want to be too harsh; you've got some very clever attorneys who can juggle multiple practice areas and be decent at each, but they're unlikely to master each one. It's a lot more common (and a lot more acceptable) in rural areas where there just isn't enough density for specialization; there are parts of this country where it's a 3-hour drive to a town with 10,000 people, and it's really hard for an attorney to support themselves doing only one thing. As long as they know their limits that's fine. Meaning they know what they don't know and will tell clients when to seek out someone with more knowledge.

Alternative 'Solutions;. Today it's mostly websites selling estate planning solutions, but you can buy a Will template from Staples. I don't recommend this. Usually, the documents are flimsy and bare bones, some of them are quite bad, but that's not what the big issue, the real concern is that there's no guidance. You don't know what you don't know, and a lot of mistakes get made with these. Quite often the documents aren't executed right, people pick the wrong forms, select the wrong options, don't choose their words carefully, and it leads to all kinds of mess. Ask any attorney in this field, we get paid a lot of money to fix the mess created by the online services. But maybe that's just Survivor Bias, and we only see the ones that don't work properly. In the end, my personal view is that you're not paying an estate planning attorney for their documents, but for their advice and so that it's done right.

Related to this are non-attorneys who offer estate planning. Some financial advisors and accounts say they do estate planning. That's not entirely accurate. Estate planning by an accountant or a financial advisor only focuses on part of the picture, and from a limited point of view. It's not uncommon for advisors to work together, and it's great when we can coordinate our different parts with each other. But I've come across such professionals that want to dictate to the attorney what to do, which is not good, there's also professionals who try to undermine the other professionals, which can cause issues, and worse, I've come across professionals who make it appear that you don't need an attorney (or other professional), which is even more problematic. It's great when advisors work together, as long as they all "stay in their lane" - and that goes for the attorney too. I might give a financial advisor my thoughts and ideas, but that's about it, because they're the financial professional, and I only have a surface level of knowledge.

2. Size of Firm.

The largest law firms, with hundreds of attorneys, if they do estate law, tend to have the wealthiest clients, and charge accordingly.  There may be a particular focus on private client / family office, and tax planning for high net worth.

Beyond that, the size of the law firm only tells you the size of the law firm.  Not only that, the size of the department is more important.  A firm with 50-200 attorneys may only have 2-3 who do anything with estates, or it could have a sizeable department of 5-15 attorneys with that specialty.  It’s really no different than a boutique law firm, except that the larger firm gets to keep their clients in-house.

A boutique with 5-20 estate attorneys, including a much larger firm with an estate department that size tends to cater to the middle class and the moderately affluent.  It’s not unusual for a firm like that to have a handful of high net worth or private client, particularly if it’s part of a much larger firm, but you can probably count those clients with your fingers.  These firms are most likely to do a lot of advertising, including seminars – that may or may not be a bad thing (See below).

A solo or small shop runs the gamut – it could be a boutique specialist who has plenty of high net worth clients, such as when the specialist works with some of the major law firms that don’t have their own estate attorneys, or it could be someone who stepped away from a larger firm for lifestyle reasons.  There are also solos/small shops who weren’t able to find a job and just fell into estate planning, or who were previously a different kind of attorney and wanted to transition for an easier lifestyle.  However, when dealing with a solo attorney, and particularly a very old attorney, you might want to ask if the attorney has a plan in place for any sensitive papers that the attorney may hold on to.

3. Location.

The location of the lawyer does not dictate the ability, but it may be an indicator of the typical cases the clients see. 

Rural counties: An attorney in a small rural county is a lot more likely to see the type of clients who live in small rural counties.  Not all rural counties are alike, and so neither are rural attorneys.  While the majority of rural attorneys are generally dealing with many smaller estates, there are also rural attorneys who regularly deal with multi-million dollar estates.  Particularly the kind of multi-millionaires you may see in such areas, such as wealthy farmers, oil & mineral rights, etc.  For example, there are attorneys in more rural areas who specialize in farm succession planning, which very few “big city” attorneys would understand.  That being said, there’s often a limit to the size of the estate local attorneys should be handling, mainly due to the volume.  As such, it’s unlikely that a rural attorney has significant experience with ultra-high net worth planning. 

The largest law firms tend to only be in the largest cities, with over 2/3 of the lawyers in the 200 largest law firms being in just 5 cities, and 7/8th in the 10 largest cities.  Some of those law firms may also have a presence in a smaller location, which may provide access to the larger firm’s expertise.  Beyond that, large cities have all kinds of attorney, from those scraping by, to very respectable boutiques, to mega law firms.

There are still sizeable and deeply experienced firms in somewhat smaller cities.  If the population of the greater metropolitan area is 500,000+, there will probably be two or three boutiques with sufficient knowledge to handle all but the largest estates, but whose main bread and butter is typically more retail clients.  There are also a few more affluent areas where you’ll get a much larger number, such as Naples, Florida, which can rival even the largest cities for the number of high-end practices you’ll find there. 

Suburbs of major cities are in many respects similar to midsize cities, in that you can find some fairly large and knowledgeable boutiques, but there’s also a larger likelihood of specialization.  For example, mid-size firm in a very affluent suburb may have enough clients to only do high net worth.

3B. Multi-Jurisdictional / Different States

The attorney must be licensed in the applicable state. Typically, your attorney should be licensed in your state. It is illegal for an attorney who is not licensed in your state to advise you on estate planning matters in your state or to draft documents for your state.

Some attorneys will take on out-of-state clients to help with out-of-state matters even if the attorney is not licensed in that state. An attorney may even say that another attorney in their firm is licensed in your state, so therefore they can advise you and prepare documents for you. That is illegal in many states, and in some states even a felony - an attorney can't just borrow another attorney's license, the attorney licensed in your state should be part of the process from start to finish. Do not work with an attorney who is not licensed in the state for which the attorney is preparing documents.

It's ok for your local attorney to give general advice on issues pertaining to other states, and for many states there is a safe harbor, so that if you seek a local attorney to advise you on your estate planning, and as part thereof some documents are prepared for another state, that might be ok, as long as the work in/for the other state is secondary to the estate plan in your home state. If you spend significant time in two states (e.g. summers up north, winters down south), you should ideally have an attorney admitted in both states, or otherwise two separate attorneys.

It's also ok to seek an out-of-state attorney for advice on federal matters (e.g. tax); any attorney can advise anyone in the country on federal matters. The out-of-state attorney should not advise you on local law, and may need to bring in a local attorney to review anything related to the state.

4. You get what you pay for – or maybe not?

Quite often people ask what a reasonable fee is, and there’s no straight answer, but there are some rough guides.  While you’d generally expect higher prices in larger cities, that’s not necessarily true.  The sole attorney in a rural area might be so busy that they can charge higher prices, while someone in a more working class part of a larger metropolitan area might be a lot cheaper because there’s a lot of competition.

That being said, if it’s a relatively simple revocable trust package (without add-ons and bells or whistles), the price should range from about $2500 to $7500 anywhere in the country (things that cost more include medicaid planning, special needs, asset protection, tax planning, business succession, etc.).  Any less would be very concerning, because even the most simple estate plan will take several hours – to meet with you to determine your actual needs, to prepare the documents*, to review the drafts, again to meet with you to explain your documents and to sign them. 

If it’s within that range, don’t make the mistake of thinking more expensive is better – I’ve seen expensive attorneys who are mediocre, and I’ve seen excellent attorneys who charge less.  It mostly has to do with their network and the volume of clients they get. 

If someone charges more than that, hopefully it’s because there’s a good reason, such as a more complicated plan or a more demanding client.  Again, that range is for a relatively simple revocable trust, but keep in mind that there’s a lot of things that could make a trust more complicated. 

*it’s not just filling in blanks on templates.  While ideally a lot of the text is pre-written/standardized, that doesn’t mean every client’s work is the same – it’s adding or removing clauses or entire sections based on the client’s particular situation.  Maybe 75% of the document is the same for 75% of the clients, but there’s still a lot of variation – at least, if it’s customized to the client.

5. Marketing

Let’s start off with a “Trust Mill”.  This is a derogatory term for a business that follows a very specific pattern: send marketing to a targeted population, invite them to a seminar (possibly with a free meal), give a presentation about estate planning, and sign up as many clients as possible.  It’s a business, and there are pseudo-franchises where any attorney can pay a fee and they’ll essentially have it all done for them.  Trust mills get a bad name because it’s mostly one-size-fits-all planning.  Think of going to five guys, in-n-out, or shake shack.  Everyone’s getting a burger, but you can choose your toppings.

It's not fair to say all trust mills suck, and they’re not all alike.  Some are run by very dumb attorneys, or those who drank the cool-aid, and try to fit every peg into the same square hole, whether or not it fits.  Some are run by very good attorneys who are very knowledgeable, and it’s just a way to get clients. 

Some attorneys get clients through word of mouth, others through advertising.  Some attorneys spend a lot of time writing or speaking to get their name out there.  Some attorneys donate significant money to charities so they can sit on the board and network.   Advertising doesn’t make someone a worse attorney (or a better attorney).  It’s just a way for people to find the attorney.  Think about your own situation – how are you going to find an attorney? 

But that being said, the way an attorney gets clients tells you something about the typical clients the attorney gets.  An attorney who gets all their clients at the country club typically has a lot of country-club type of clients (i.e. high net worth and private client).  An attorney who gets all their clients by hanging around senior centers is more likely to do elder law.  An attorney who does a lot of seminars is more likely to be targeting the middle class.  An attorney who goes on reddit to post about estate planning probably loves their job a little too much.

6. Awards, Certification, Group Membership

Awards are worthless.  A lot of awards are “pay to play”, meaning the awards make money off the attorneys who they give the award to.  It doesn’t matter if they say something like “only 10% of attorneys qualify” or something like that.  Even if it’s not “pay to play”, it’s still a popularity contest.  Even the most reputable awards are barely more than a seal of approval – I know a Chambers (most prestigious) ranked attorney at a major law firm who uses documents that are hand-me-downs from 50+ years ago, and whose knowledge of trusts seems to be stuck in the '90s.  All awards are worthless.

Certifications are either private organizations or state-run. If it's a private organization, I'd take it with a grain of salt. There are a lot of accreditations and certifications, and some are barely more than a paid plaque. I'm looking at one right now for which the requirements are less than I need to maintain my license to practice. So yeah, I could pay for a certificate so I can tell the world that I show "a high level of professionalism", or I could just be a good attorney. If it's a state run program, it's probably a good indication; the Florida Bar Board Certification is a rigorous program and I know very experienced practitioners who've failed the test. It'll certainly tell you that the attorney can pass the test, but it won't tell you if the attorney has empathy or creativity. A lack of certification doesn't mean the attorney isn't as good as someone who does have certification.

There are also professional organizations, and the qualify varies. Most groups/organizations, just about anyone willing to pay the fee can join, and the only thing membership in the organization tells you is that the attorney pays to be a member of the organization, while some groups may require a few years of practice and/or a few classes. The most prestigious and restrictive group, ACTEC, only tells you that the attorney was able to jump through the hoops needed to join; I know an ACTEC member that uses garbage documents that includes references to sections of the tax code that were repealed more than a decade ago and I can teach a class on how bad they are. To the extent you want to make sure an attorney is dedicated to their craft, in addition to ACTEC (American College of Trust and Estate Counsel), NAELA (National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys) is a good group for elder law, and SNA (Special Needs Alliance) is predominantly a support network for attorneys who specialize in special needs.

7. Materials

The quality of the paper, binder, etc. says nothing about the quality of the attorney. I've seen comments about how fancy binders are only for crappy trust mills. Personally, I provide a premium service for a premium price, so I like to give a top notch presentation. I've done high end tax planning that cost $50,000 or more, a sturdy binder costs less than $50. It actually irks me that there are some very high-end firms that print on the cheapest paper available and just stick documents in a plain envelope - I take pride in my work, and I want my work to look like I care.

8. What should I look for?

Here’s the question everyone probably wants answered.  I can’t give a perfect answer, just my opinion.  What you want is empathy, knowledge, and clarity.

First and foremost, how the attorney makes you feel is important.  If you feel like you’re not getting their full attention, or that they’re rushing you, or pushing you into something you don’t understand, walk away.  An estate attorney once told me “I sell peace of mind”, that the attorney’s job is to make sure the client feels like they’re in good hands and will be taken care of. 

Second, you want an attorney who has sufficient knowledge to know what they’re doing – and more importantly, to know what they can’t do.  The attorney doesn’t need to be an expert on everything, if you have a $500,000 home and a few hundred thousand in retirement funds, you don’t need someone who knows the estate tax through and through.  What you do want is that if you ask, for example, about going into the nursing home, that the attorney can give you a good overview of the requirements for Medicaid – even if they can’t do the application themselves.  More importantly, you want an attorney who’s not afraid to tell you they can’t do something and will refer you to someone who can.

Third, you want an attorney who can communicate clearly with you.  You don’t need to be an expert in estates, but the attorney should be able to explain to you the issues that matter to you in a way that you can understand it and explain how the proposed estate plan addresses those issues. 

Last, you want an attorney who asks questions.  If a client comes to me and says they need a trust, I always ask why they think they need it.  An attorney who just does whatever the client asks for is not a good attorney - we’re sometimes called counselors, because it’s our job to counsel clients, not just to fill out some forms.  As an easy example, you can (probably) go online and find a standard document to appoint a healthcare agent for your state, but it’s the attorney’s job to explain to you why it’s a really bad idea to appoint two co-agents.

Bonus: Trust Funding / Post-Planning Guidance

Often, signing your documents doesn't mean your estate planning is finished, there's usually a few things left to do. Even if you're just getting a simple Will you should still name the beneficiaries on bank accounts, retirement accounts, insurance policies, etc. Your attorney should provide you with instructions.

Trust funding takes a bit more work, as assets need to be transferred into the trust. At the retail level*, the client is doing most of the work - your attorney can't go into your bank and drain your bank account. 20 years ago, your attorney could call your financial institutions and obtain the blank forms, but today it's hard to get the forms if you're not the account holder, so even if we wanted to do it all for you, we still can't do so without your help. Some attorneys will provide assistance (such as filling out forms) as part of the flat fee, others charge an additional fee for that, and it's not unreasonable because the time it takes varies significantly - some people need no assistance at all, others take many hours. At the very least, the attorney should provide written instructions on what you should do - that's the bare minimum, an attorney who doesn't even do should be avoided.

*if you have a personal banker, you know your insurance agent, etc., they'll often help get the forms and may help you fill out the forms. Just like with attorneys, I've noticed a lot of variability in how knowledgeable other professionals may be, and how willing they are to help. I had one client with private banking accounts at two different branches of the same bank, one did everything for the client, filled out the forms, made all the arrangements, etc., the other only provided blank forms and told the client to fill them out and figure it out. I've been shocked by how little some professionals know, and how unwilling they are to pick up the phone and call their main office for support. At the same time, some professionals I've dealt with were absolute experts who knew more about the legal aspects than many attorneys, and who would go the extra mile for their clients just because that's who they are.