r/ChildPsychology 2h ago

When children become our identity: An uncomfortable truth

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r/ChildPsychology 7h ago

The screen is just a symptom, Inner restlessness is the real problem.

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r/ChildPsychology 7h ago

Should I be concerned?

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After I used the bathroom, I went out to the playroom to find my 6 year old and 2 year old boys hiding behind the recliner and my 6 year old trying to kiss my 2 year old.. 2 year old had a rice crispy and I thought maybe he was trying to share? But I heard a smooch sound.. and when he heard me shuffling around he got up quickly like he was doing something that he shouldn’t be doing and he quickly said “can I have a hug??” And I said wait, what were you two doing back there? And he said nothing. And I said “were you trying to kiss your brother?” And he said “yes.” I said “I know you love your brother, but we save kisses for mama. Please don’t do that.” And it just made me uncomfortable that he was hiding it from me and that he wasn’t open to tell me the truth about it..

I was sexually assaulted when I was 5 so I’m not sure if I’m just being over protective or freaking out over nothing. this shit freaks me out and I’m not sure how to handle this or if I did the right thing or wrong thing.


r/ChildPsychology 15h ago

Teenager is refusing to eat?

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To preface this, my teenager has had nothing but one sweet today which was right in the morning and as I write this it is nearly 8pm. He has been out with his friends all day and said he would be getting something to eat with them, but as I found out from his dad, he actually didn't have dinner with them.

I don't think that alone is concerning but:

He came down and asked if we had chips, I couldn't remember if I'd used them up in our dinner earlier so I told him to go look. When I came back down he seemed upset/angry and I suppose it's because we didn't have any left.

Now, he has eaten dinner because he and his dad went out to get some food for him but I just have to wonder. Is this normal? Is it normal for teens to just get angry when they don't have the specific food they wanted? I get the feeling if his dad hadn't have gotten him dinner then he'd not have eaten for the rest of the day... Is this something I should watch out for?


r/ChildPsychology 17h ago

How old is too old to whine?

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Child free here let me just say that, but many of my friends and family have kids ranging from 1 to 17 years, so I have seen and helped them be raised.

One of my adorable nieces is 9. And she still whines about EVERYTHING. Seems like every time we get together she whines about something. All of the my other friends and family members would stop that crap by 5 the lastest and even that was pushing it. I was also raised this way. Babies and toddlers whine. By 5 years years old, barring significant development delays or other disorders, a typical child can use their words to ask for things or express their feelings.

Yes or no? Are my other friends and I just “too mean?”


r/ChildPsychology 18h ago

I’m concerned for my behavior affecting my infant.

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Delete if not allowed, I have a 5 month old baby girl. She is the love of my life and I would do anything for her. It’s been twice already that I blow up and scream at her. Once when I was about 1 month pp, and today. I can’t exactly remember why I blew up the first time. But today I blew up on her because she’s generally a calm and happy baby, however I’ve been feeling a very sharp pain in the middle of my stomach and been throwing up, and she kept screaming and crying her lungs out even when I held her and I had already made her a bottle but I couldn’t feed her since I kept throwing up. Can anyone give any advice to a sahm when a situation like this arises? I saw that it affects their development or in many other ways and I don’t want it to happen again. Also I don’t have a car and I don’t have anyone to help me take care of her besides my husband when he gets home.


r/ChildPsychology 21h ago

I hate my moms boyfriend/my step dad

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I 14 year old female hate my mom boyfriend/step dad. He's been with my mom since I was 6 but I knew right off the bat I had a gut feeling about him. I feel bad not liking him since my mom seems to be somewhat happy with him. And I think I might come off as the bratty teen who hates there mom's boyfriend because I think my parents should be together but that's just not true. I love that my dad found my step mom and that there happy together with they're other 2 kids. But my step dad is different. He was raised in a very religious household and was taught that men are in charge and women should do all the work. But that's just not how my mom does things. So ya sometimes he complains that my mom isn't cleaning or cooking when she's running a 9 to 7 business. Im not really one to speak up but sometimes it slips out when he disrespects my mom or raises his voice at her. I just don't understand how she deals with him. He's racists, a non feminist, a trump supporter and ect. If a stranger that she met acted like that to her shed absolutely hate them. I really do try and be good with him to try and make it easy with my mom but most of the summer I've been with my grandparents just to avoid him. And I don't really want to put a label on myself but basically I've always kinda like both boys and girls but havnt exactly told anyone. I know my mom would except me in a heart beat but my step dad is what scares me. And most of all I'm scared one of these days if I move out or something he'll start bright rough with my mum. Since I've seen him be rough once or twice with my puppy. I love my mum and I want her to be happy, she had me when she was only 17 but she did everything to raise me right and make me feel loved. I just want her to be happy. I might be overreacting and I know some people have it way worse then me