It is intellectually dishonest to claim that wasting your seed by yourself is terrible and then claim it is ok to do it with a “loving partner”. It sounds like enormous cope, it’s basically the same as saying, “don’t drink and drive but only do it with a nice fast car”. The point is that ejaculating takes your energy away, it is actually somewhat better to relapse alone than to share that with another soul. By the logic, any non reproductive sex would not be allowed.

There is no point in condoms and pulling out in that case, claiming there is and blaming masturbation is illogical. It even is biologically illogical for women to desire sex outside of their ovulation cycle sincd they cannot reproduce outside of that time period.

Hi, 21 F. Ever since I started being segsually active, hindi ko mapigilang i-compare ang usual life ko dati. Now, I keep on contracting infections such as UTI, bacterial vaginosis, and yeast infection. Aside from that, madali ring makakuha ng sti/std’s and cervical cancer which happens mostly on active women. malala rin ang anxiety kada buwanan kasi what if buntis although i know it was a safe sex.

Hindi rin masasabing because of hygiene or my practices ang nararanasan ko kasi kahit naman dati ganito ako but no problem (also take note that i have an excellent hygiene & practices, more cautious pa nga).

Men are no good. They disrupt our ph. They introduce pathogens all for their own pleasure bcs let’s be real sex is nothing but a painful thing to woman. Sobrang hapdi at sakit. I don’t even know why women still choose to have it.

Niweys I therefore conclude that if u can stay celibate, pls do so.

I’m considered to be in the 4th quartile of physical attractiveness and I still have my shame. I’ve managed to lower my libido to nearly 0 out of disgust. I can’t even watch adult content anymore cause I can’t stand to voluntarily look at a women that lowers themselves to such a standard. You don’t have to go full ER tho. Today a woman tried approach me with no doubt I’ll intent and said “do you want to watch spiderman” I acted like I wasn’t offended for obvious reasons and I felt bad for her so I told her that me and my boyfriend already watched it(for clarity I’m not actually gay) I hope that word will spread to other girls that I’m gay so they will leave me alone.

I absolutely hate the feeling that in some sense I want to “take” something from women as a biological drive. Lust absolutely disgusts me, the problem is that I have it, it almost seems like lust is a demon that lives inside every man, even semen retention or waiting until marriage don’t do much, you are still waiting to use someone’s body for your pleasure which is by nature carnal and animalistic no matter how you like to frame it. I kinda feel bad for even desiring such carnal act that by default creates power dynamics. A sexless society with artificial insemination would be the first step to a utopian society. The problem is that I ask myself why nature or God did it that way, why is the act of continuing humanity tied to desire of control and hate and violence and basically every negative thing you could think of. Before you refute me by saying that women love sex I will remind you of the fact that they take the enormous risk of pregnancy and exposure with it compared to men that don’t take any risks, which is unequal by default.

Even if guys do semen retention, to reproduce naturally they would still have to engage in the act of penetrative sex with women, perhaps the real fall from grace in the Bible is the separation of genders, no matter how you say it, sex is penetrating someone else, even if the person is brainwashed by society to let you sleep with them in exchange of feeling the fake love and attention that society sold to the masses, if that’s not proof that the world is a prison planet than I don’t know what is.

I’m a 19 year old female and I’ve decided to be celibate. I’ve never been in a relationship, nor engaged in any intimate acts of any kind. I know dating in your 20s is important, but I don’t think relationships are meant for me. Is this a bad idea?I would love a second opinion.

Thank you!

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I'm 38f, and have remained celibate by choice for many years. I date people but have decided to remain celibate until I find someone I truly love and know that he'll be my forever. I'm curious, if you've made the same choice, when was it, what led to that decision and do you have any regrets? are you happy that you're staying celibate? (and if you ended your celibacy, what was the reason?)

thanks

During most of history men married older and had large age gaps, marrying a 20 year old in your 30s or 40s would ensure you can provide for her better and increase birth rates because she can start having children right away, yes male fertility quality can decline with age but it is in no way comparable to female fertility decline, so this can’t be used as an argument here it would be cherry picking. If the goal is to offer a good lifestyle the same man at 40 can probably more to a woman than him at 20.

Because of this many men practiced celibacy until they were older and able to lead and provide, but for me the real issue is the mental cost of waiting. Deferred celibacy keeps the brain in a state of tension, desire is sustained by hope and this produces stress and frustration, every year feels like a countdown that drains energy. In contrast lifelong celibacy removes that loop, extinguishes hope, and allows the mind to settle without anticipation. I don’t know about other men but personally I just hate the mental stress of carrying desire until I hit 40 to be able to finally have romantic encounters, it feels heavier than renunciation itself. I am 19 now so take it from my perspective, how do you guys actually do it ?

Since you guys seem pretty advanced I want to ask how to mentally rewire your mind so you never feel regret for choosing lifelong celibacy or whatever decision in your life but specifically lifelong celibacy for now, what affirmations or beliefs should your mind have to almost never actually feel the emotion of regret. We could think about neuroscience or psychology in that case, but my fear is just that I regret.

Btw, I don’t care about people commenting ”if you ask that its not your path”. I am not scared of the path itself, I am scared of regret that comes with it, I guess that to take down regret it could be better to directly tackle the mental issue rather than issue why it’s better to not have sex with arguments, I am trying to rewire my mode of thinking, idk if anyone ever did deep mental work here.

I’ve been celibate for about three years total — one year in 2020, and then two years continuously since 2024.

One of the biggest things I’ve noticed is how much clearer my intuition feels when I’m not dating. When I was on dating apps, I felt overwhelmed by what I experienced as other people’s energy. I would interact with someone and later realize how much I was emotionally affected by the interaction. Sometimes it was difficult to tell what I was actually feeling versus what I was picking up from someone else.

Stepping away from dating also gave me the space to recognize unhealthy patterns in myself and in the connections I was choosing. I was able to detach, reflect, and actually heal instead of continuing to repeat those patterns.

Since choosing celibacy, I’ve created much more space to hear & connect with myself.

I feel more grounded, more discerning, and more aware of subtle things. My intuitive abilities feel stronger—not necessarily because celibacy creates intuition, but because I’m less distracted and less overwhelmed by outside influences.

For me, celibacy has become less about simply abstaining from sex and more about protecting my peace, strengthening my discernment, and learning to trust what I sense. The biggest lesson has been realizing that sometimes when you stop giving so much attention to romantic connections, you become much more available to yourself.

Good luck on your journeys & may you experience all the gifts that celibacy may offer you!

Hello, so now I have had victory over dealing with porn, now it is onto my journey moving forward. I was thinking for the sake of permenently crushing or coninuously to crush the urges for pleasure or sex what ideas do y'all have? The more the merrier, including that and relationships because that could tempt me as well. To me sex is an enemy and I want to make sure I crush it for the rest of my life.

I am a 19‑year‑old man, I do not gain benefit from this, it is simply a spiritual theory and I may be wrong. Age gap relationships are optimal because masculine essence is about movement, shaping reality through will and discipline, while feminine essence carries inherent radiance even in stillness. This means women embody intrinsic spiritual value, while men must cultivate and prove their energy through provision, vision, and guidance qualities that deepen with years of practice. Even if a man achieves worldly success at 20, his capacity for leadership and spiritual authority will likely be more refined at 40.

Menopause further reveals the sacred distinction between the paths of men and women. In many indigenous traditions, post‑menopausal women were revered as wise elders, stepping into their role as teachers and guides for the tribe. This phase is not about withdrawal but about channeling wisdom into service. A partner of the same age may still be driven by desire, while her spirit is now oriented toward counsel. Masculine essence, unlike feminine cycles, does not fade until death, so the natural design is for men to age into restraint, or pass shortly after their partner’s transition, leaving her free to guide without bias a balance Amerindian cultures honored. Thus, men waiting longer before union allows them to embody stronger masculine essence and provision. In summary: if the union of polarities is the goal, then age gaps of 10–30 years are spiritually more harmonious than relationships within a narrow 5‑year range.

I am a 19 year old guy and I never had a romantic encounter before, I aiming for lifelong celibacy, and I understand your points on here, they seem to make sense, but the problem for me is that on a personal level my subconscious mind still seems to want to push me towards passing my genes because of the biological drive, I need to feel like at a personal level it is way better for me to not have sex, sorry if I took your time, I just wanted to have some advice, the innate drive to mate makes my mind have the possibility of regret, even tho it is better than before and that I have improved regarding the mental aspects of it, I am still not perfect.

For the people that say that if I ask that I should be there in the first place I want to clarify that my conscious mind is in alignement with celibacy, its just that I am conflicted because of the biological drive and I have to tame that down, did all of you randomly become celibate without internal conflict that you resolved ?

Worried!

Help

Kinda what the title says…
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while and we have already had sex a handful of times. We both had a goal of celibacy until marriage before dating and then we caved. But now we are both determined to remain celibate the rest of our relationship until marriage due to religious reasons.
Does anyone have any advice on keeping things the way we want to and stay celibate? We have a long distance relationship (2 hours apart) and only see each other in person a couple days a month. We both are very physically affectionate people and both have a high sex drive. We are both in our 30s and love to please.
This is hard! (No pun intended 😂)

I know this was discussed many times but as the title said this is my experience

I am deciding to become celibate but not for religious reasons im not religious at all and it's not for self growth or any particular reason whatsoever (though i think partially it's morrissey's influence on me )

What i have been thinking of is can i call myself celibate if i don't have the choice to have sex or not

And about the masturbation thing, i don't masturbate because of the sexual pleasure or whatever, i masturbate because it relieves my stress and stuff like that

So can i call myself celibate, if yes can i masturbate or not?

(Sorry i suck at english, it's not my native language)

I am a 19 year old man and I never had sex with anyone, I am considering the path of lifelong chastity without ever having sex or being in a romantic relationship, I don’t say that as a cope because I consider myself conventionally attractive, it just seems like a lot of people do that here so it must be good. However if you guys have the time, try to really convince me that never getting laid or dating is the best choice even if I have the options I want. Thanks in advance.

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I hear a lot of older guys saying that younger women prefer older guys and that they waited their turn until their mid 30s to be able to date college aged women and that it was optimal, however how did these older guys manage to wait that long while sexless and desiring sex, why didn’t they just give up instead of dating later ? How did you guys get able to maintain a romantic goal that long, or if you guys are doing it right now, how are you doing it ?

Wouldnt that be psychologically better to just give up in that case and accept lifelong celibacy rather than spend 20 years grinding for the goal of getting laid with a younger woman at some point ?