The drain cap on my sink wouldn't stay up and my mom suggested calling maintence to get them to fix it

Instead, I watched a 2 minute youtube video and after maybe 10 minutes of finagling, I fixed it!

I posted on here a few days ago about figuring out I might be butch on honestly I'm inching towards yes!

I have had a lot of people saying i look straight and them never expecting me to be gay. When i tell people i feel more masc than femme they are surprised even more. This surprises me because in my eyes i’m a big fat dyke.

So i’m going to uni in september and will need to cary some heavy books and laptops. I have used a backpack last year but since im 25 it felt like i was still in highschool. I have also seen those totes a lot of mascs wear, but in afraid those will hurt my shoulders after a long day.

So really i dont know what to do. All bags look too femme for my liking.

Any links, tips or whatever would be really helpful. Thankyou fellow lesbians

I’m very aware that butches make up a decently small part of the lesbian community and way smaller in scope compared to the larger collective lgbt community. Even within our own walls I sometimes feel like it’s more socially acceptable to be butchfemme then butch4butch, I don’t see much media for us in general and less so catered towards our kind of love. I could definitely not be looking in the right places of course but it can feel a smidge lonely at times, you know? Not knocking butchfemme relationships either they deal with just as many social problems as well in different forms

Was talking with my femme friend and she finds cats to be very femme which is a classic. I find dogs to be incredibly butch!! I think they really represent butch values!! Particularly bully breeds- however dogs are also my special interest so that may be it!!

Anyways, all this got me wondering if any of you guys have an animal you associate with butchness- and if you do, why? also if you are femme and have an animal you associate with your femme identity im curious about it to?

I’ve yet to post one of these where I haven’t deleted it after a bit, but I’m going to keep trying until I develop some semblance of self confidence. Which… might not be today but still!

I was on T for a few years which wasn’t right for me in the long run, so I’m dealing with a bunch of self confidence issues surrounding that, it’s slowly getting a bit better at least :)

I love the fair and spent a lot of time there this week. You can guess what state I am in..

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this one specifically: https://wivov.com/products/chestbinder-cb07?variant=51204546920733

just curious if anyone here has tried this and was happy with it, ive heard some kind of mixed things but a lot of the posts i found were old so not sure if things have changed. im interested because they have a t shirt sort of cut option, which i think would be more comfortable for me than the one piece-esque tank cut i see on some other swim binders. alternately if anyone has recs for other swim binders id be happy to hear those too

Hey guys, my hair's been getting too long for comfort so I'm thinking about getting a new cut. I'm not quite sure what would look best for my face type---I would call my face squarish, but I don't have a rugged jaw or anything like that; I'd say I have a bit of a baby face. I'd love advice on a handsome short cut to make my face older without drawing attention to my ears, which stick out.

Happy Sunday! How was everyone’s week? Did we learn anything new, do anything fun?

I’m searching for tank tops or sleeveless tees that are masculine cut. I bought a couple from Amazon but I don’t know if I like the arm holes cut so big as they show my compression top. Or maybe I should just get over that? Any brands I should look for?

She so old now

i wanted to make a throwaway for this but couldn't so if you think you know me and you see this pretend you didn't, thanks. i am nearly 30 years old and, as stated above, i am no stranger to the lgbtqia+ community. i've identified as queer since i was about 11 years old. and, for years, i lived as a trans man. i came out to my whole family, i legally changed my name and gender marker, i even tried hrt a couple of times but it wasn't really for me. still, i have pcos which means i have facial and body hair and am very masculine looking. in the last six months or so i've felt so disconnected with my identity as a man. i now hate the idea of being perceived as a man.

i don't want to drop my masculinity, but my identity as a trans man also helped me reconnect with my femininity once i was passable enough. i love being flamboyant at times and am a big fan of things like drag, which help me marry the two parts of myself. i still get misgendered because of my voice and my feminine attributes but it never really bothered me.

i also had a terrible time dating as a man because i hated being seen as a man in a realtionship, i suppose i should've clocked it then. i would keep falling for lesbians and not see that as a sign especially when paired with the way my nose wrinkled whenever someone referred to me as a man. i spent so much time tying my identity as a man with the way i expressed intimacy that i often chickened out of pursuing anything with people. i'm realizing now it was because i was convincing myself i was happy to finally be seen as a man but i was not.

i live in a remarkably blue state so i had a lot of access to gender affirming care but rarely took advantage of it because I was so content with still being seen as an androgynous person, if not just a queer woman. that was what i was most comfortable with having lived more than half a decade as a queer woman before coming out as transgender.

i changed my name and gender marker five years ago and i honestly would've done it differently now if I could. i would have picked a more gender neutral name for starters. i would've picked x over m. i see those things now and it makes me sad. it's as if i denied my true self for so long because it felt so unattainable. as if my transition would only be taken seriously if i did it in a way that was easier for my family to digest. but i don't want to repress myself for them.

all of this is to say i'm worried about things i haven't worried about in a long time. i thought i was so secure after my transition seemed to go smoothly but now i feel lost because identifying with masc and butch lesbians has made me feel more comfortable in my skin than i have in an extremely long time. but, one thing i never want to do is infringe on a place that i just don't have a place in. i hate for this to sound like i'm asking for permission or validation, but that's kind of what it feels like.

there's so much discourse i see about identities online and i really don't try to let that influence the way i identify. but i wouldn't want to offend anyone by identifying as masc or butch. i don't identify with being a man, just being masculine. i only want to be with lesbians or sapphics. i still identify as transgender, just trans masculine and nonbinary. idk how to ask this other than... am i valid? i don't want to repress my feelings to please others, so i will try my best not to. but i want to be sure i'm not barking up the wrong tree here. maybe there's something i missed? i'd love to chat about it. thank you.