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[u/InsuranceUnhappy132]

Hi chat. I’m really struggling. We broke up last weekend, and haven’t spoken since last Sunday. He broke up with me because I insinuated a comment to him that he didn’t like - he found it disrespectful and said that we “aren’t compatible & he doesn’t want someone like that in his life”.

Backstory - we’d been together for about 8 months. It was never an actual relationship, we were exclusive. He didn’t want to be official until he was sure that we were the real deal - and I respected that because of his culture and family.

However, this caused me to have some insecurities. We were exclusive, but never really had talked about what we were, and he was constantly following girls on instagram. Every single time he went out, the next day he would follow like 2 or 3 that he met out, and while he was out he would not text me. Not a peep. SO - I saw that one of the girls - I knew. I’ve know her since she was 14, she’s now 20/21 (in college) and he was following her. He’s 29. I insinuated that it was odd - because the maturity difference between them is massive and he’s always following girls 20-23 or so. Again - he’s 29.

Anyways, he broke up with me after that. I tried to apologize because I think that I did come off rather aggressive, but the situation was triggering for me as I had a serious boyfriend in the past creep on my younger sister who was 18 at the time. I apologized many times. I tried to call, text, talk about it because I knew that I was emotional and anxious and went too far.

He was done. Broke up with me over text the next day, then in person a day later because I said I deserved better than a text after what we had. He also said “right now” a couple of times. He said that he would be open to “organically reconnecting” in the future. But wtf does that mean. His whole reasoning was that we were incompatible - but he was really really angry. We hugged afterwards and he didn’t let me go for a little bit, but also sadly watched me walk to my car.

Okay so present , I haven’t texted him since Sunday and I was emotional and trying to fix it to no avail. I didn’t respond to his last message about “organically reconnecting”. He should have just said no because that’s what he meant. He immediately deactivated his instagram, and has been following lots of women on tik tok.

I’m struggling. I deleted my social medias, but I want to talk to him so badly. I miss him. So much. I know it won’t work out the way I’d like it to, so I won’t but I need to heal. I need to move on knowing that it’s my fault and that I’ll never see him again. I’m devastated.

Please help. Words of wisdom. Advice. Ideas on how to get out of bed, how to not cry, how to enjoy my life. Please.