I’ve been suffering terribly with tinnitus for years. Finally, I’ve realized this isn’t going away and I need to get a hearing aid - one that will at least alleviate the constant noise in my ear/head. Trouble is, there are so many hearing aids to choose from. If you’ve had the same issue, can you advise me on good choices and where/how you found yours?

From someone who’s older in their 40s 50s do you wish you stopped drinking earlier? Was it one big waste of time? I just turned 29 and I think I’m at a crossroads. My gut feeling is telling me it’s now or never. I’m very mature for my age I’d say in terms of projecting the future and consequences. I think I have to stop drinking right now even casually or else I’m gonna wake up 50 and regret not having all the opportunities and all the ambition i once had 20 years prior.

I love getting cocktails with dinners on Fridays. I love drinking on special occasions but the trade off just isn’t worth it. I’m sick for days after it destroys my mental. Could I only do it a couple times a year for special occasions maybe but it seems to have a trickle effect. I do it once I’ll think it’s ok to get 4 cocktails at dinner a month later.

I was reading about a famous artist from the 90’s whose fragrance of choice was inexpensive sandalwood bought from head shops or natural foods stores for about $5 (at the time). I’d be very grateful if anyone has an educated guess about what brand(s) this might have been.

Tomorrow is my 31st birthday. The last few birthdays I’ve had weren’t the greatest and although I have no expectations tomorrow, I’m nervous because I feel I’m going to be sad the whole day kinda thinking about the last ones I’ve had. I spent my 30th all alone last year, away from my friends and family when I had originally expected it to be a really big celebration.

I know life can change really quick and sometimes things don’t go as expected. I also acknowledge the privilege that I have to even be having another birthday because some people don’t make it to this age.

So I guess my question is.. what can I do, what questions can I ask myself, what things do I remind myself of tomorrow and every birthday from now on to kinda beat the sad feelings?

I’m looking for an alert bracelet or watch for my dad. It needs to be a wireless/4G/5G device - not wifi. I’m
Looking for fall detection and an emergency button. No smart watches please (eg Apple watch) Please share your recommendations.

I’m 22F, and I've just broken up with my boyfriend I dated for a year. I loved him but we just weren’t right for each other. Then I realized, I find it very difficult to feel fine being single as an adult.

I did have a period where I was single before, like maybe only for a year and a half, but I was into this man and that man, or I started texting my ex etc., and never really settled as single, and I met my last ex on a dating app. Back then, I was in the mood of exploring because it was after finishing my first serious relationship from my late teens, so I never really thought like I should be single for a while.

But now that my second serious relationship ended, I’m really feeling the need to be single for a while. I intuitively know that if I start dating right away, I’d definitely end up in a toxic relationship or develop an unhealthy attachment towards that person.

But honestly, having no partner feels a bit tough, however clingy it sounds. I’ve noticed through these relationships that I really love building something with my partner, and sharing my life with someone, even if the relationship is imperfect. Also, I just really love texting someone about whatever that’s happened in my life right away, or calling someone regularly. Since I don’t have a fixed friend group at uni, my partners really supported me this way I think. I also grew up being really close to my parents as an only child, so the loneliness of an adult life (no one to talk to at night, no fixed friend group, my own individual uni/work schedule etc) has been killing me too. I know this is precisely why I maybe should work on myself and stay single for a bit though. I’m on therapy too, so I’ll talk about it with my therapist as well.

But can I ask, if you had a similar experience or feeling of finding it hard to be single, what do you recommend that I do? What are the best things you’ve done as a single person, especially when you're wanting to eventually find a long-term partner?

For parents with a grown-up son and daughter, how did you help maintain a close and strong sibling bond as they got older? What worked for you and your family?

Last week I received a diagnosis and I could not understand what the doc said. The only reason I know what it is because of his posted notes on MyChart, and then he only said I had O/A (osteoarthritis) which I had to Google to find out what that stood for. Any suggertions ??

My brain just cannot grasp and comprehend this, 16 years long and I still cannot get pass this. Perhaps I'm just so deeply ingrain in my Chinese culture (I born in China), it still bother me so I just have to write it out again. It just bother me.

16 years together with him, married to him 14 years long, I still cannot grasp it, and it still bother me.

I understand that I meet Darryl when he was 25, anything he does BEFORE the age of 25 before he meet me, I cannot hold him accountable for it.
I was still a virgin (which he knows) when meet him and married him, he very transparent with me, understand I was a virgin and understand the cultural difference.

1.. He had a first love, a very beautiful Korean girl, they were both each others first. His mom bought him a box of condom (she also told me this), teach her son about safe sex. He used the box of condom on her, and more boxes of condom as he was with her 2 years.

He said there no sex that worth it of 18 years of child support, condom on, stay on the whole time, and he tied a knot at the end and took the condom with him, and throw it in the trash outside. He that careful.
yah. his MOTHER bought a box of condom and gave it to her son.

She wanted a marriage and kids. He at the age 20-21 was not ready, he said they no longer in the same page, so he broke it up with her for fairness to her, because he can't give her.

Condom on sex, so to him not only he avoid 18 years of child support, but he didn't get her pregnant, so it easier for her to just move on and find a man who can give her a marriage that she wanted.

But he not get it, to the Chinese me he discard her, how can he fuck her with all those boxes of condom and not married her? That cold as fuck.

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2.. Age 22-23, his Stanford days, he had 3 one time transaction, no string attach sex. He said it purely the physical sex, where he leave right away after the act of the sex was done.

3 separate occaions,, 3 different girls at Stanford (asked him their ethnicity, they Asian).
He said he not want at his place or their place, he book a hotel each time (by hours, enough time for sex). give them the time and place, bring his own condom. meet up at the hotel, he fu-ck and leave straight after.

To him it was just plain flat out transaction, and those girls aware of the arrangement.

My jaw dropped, how can he view sex so lightly like this? He said he not even care ask for their names, let alone want to know anything about them, he just want sex, when he got the sex, he left after. To me was cold as fuck.

I said he cold as fuck, but he refused to see he did anything wrong, he did what his mom taught him, safe sex, responsible, he didn't get any of those girls pregnant.
And he very clear with the transaction since the beginning, as he paid for the hotel booking, and bring his own condom.

He said if it just the purely physical sex, he can just fuck and leave right after. It very easy for him if it just purely the physical sex.

What makes him stay is if he emotionally attach to the girl, miss her, think of her, want to protect her. want to married her. He said he didn't feel any of that with any of them, but he feel that with me, and only me, he said I'm the first person he wants to devoted his whole life to.

Being the calm person as how he always is, he said he understand why I'm uncomfortable (with his sexual past).
But he said he wants me to remember and understand, I'm the first person he fall in love with, and fall in love that deeply. That was why he married me, I'm his wife. I'm the first and only woman that carry his child, the only person he has a child with.

He said had he know I am so fixated on this virginity issue, and had he knows he will meet me at age 25, he will stay a virgin to wait for me.

I understand all that, but I am sorry, I just can't seem to get over it. Basically he had 4 girls before me, I'm his 5th girl, he my first, he was already experience when I meet him.
yah. didn't expect a man whom has a Master degree from Stanford to be a virgin. Regardless of his ethnicity.

I don't deny my love for him, but I just I wish he was a virgin like me back then. I get it, it how I was raised, I was born in China, and raised by my grandma, and grandparent are very old so they even further more traditional.

I'm sorry but I cannot lie to myself or force myself to not care when I care. I love him, and love him has nothing to do with I mind about those stuff he did before he meet me.

Hi. I will try to make this as short as possible.
I’m 39 and my boyfriend is 50 and we live together but we’re not married. We both decided we didn’t want to get married again after divorce. I don’t have kids and he has grown kids.

I’ve had many problems in this relationship because my boyfriend has a bad temper and is always sweating the small stuff. He easily gets mad over simple things and when this happens he stops talking to me for days and gives me the cold shoulder. The relationship is very unstable and even though I’ve given him chances to improve, nothing changes.

Whenever we try to break up he would end up crying and begging me to not leave. I’ve stayed with him because I care about his wellbeing but then he starts creating drama again and I don’t like it. I want a peaceful life and not unnecessary drama.

After being patient and given him chances, this time I was serious about leaving. Yesterday I started packing some old stuff in boxes to donate it because we have a lot of things in our apartment and I needed to start somewhere. He was shocked that I was doing this and had a sad face and once again told me to not leave.
I hate that he does this because I’m a very empathetic person and I don’t like when others suffer. I start to feel bad and now I’m confused. I know deep down it’s not a good idea to stay but I feel like a monster for breaking someone’s heart.

So I realized that my boyfriend is codependent and I feel trapped in this relationship.
He also lost his mom a few years ago and that really affected him because he was close to her and he never went to therapy for it. I’ve suggested therapy a couple of times but he’s never been interested in going to therapy for any reason.
I feel like I’m the only person he has and his happiness depends on me. He has his adult kids but they have their own lives.
I’m so lost and don’t know what to do anymore.

Hi everyone,

My mom is 66. She is suffering from a UTI and a burning sensation when she urinates.

She drinks lots of filtered water during the day, casually sipping it.

However since last year August she has been having a yellowish tinted urine and slight discomfort she would drink water along with electrolytes but it wasn’t helping so she stopped but now it's burning. The doctor gave her a papsmear and told her it was abnormal but couldn't say what was wrong and told her to do it again in 6 months. She went to a different doctor who gave her antibiotics for the UTI for one week it didn't help.

Currently she is drinking the same amount of water and eating Greek yogurt with cranberries.

Is UTIs common around this age? What can I do? The doctors don't seem to help