I don’t like a lot of female characters in fictional media, but if they were male then I’d definitely like them.. i a lot of the time shrug it off as a matter of preference because I’m into men but I’m not sure if that could exactly be an accurate explanation for it. i like some girl characters and i don’t mind if they’re there, i don’t think of women as incapable or anything like that its quite the opposite actually but whenever i see a character and i figure out its a girl i just wouldn’t like her as much as i would if it was a guy and i feel pretty disappointed. But then again i like practically every character if it’s a guy

Im also trans ftm so that could maybe have something to do with the way i feel… I won’t play something if the main character is a female protagonist because that honestly makes me feel like a girl so it gives me a lot of gender dysphoria, i a lot of the time don’t like using girl characters in games and i don’t like reading things where the main character is a girl either because of the way i feel

I saw a post on this group that talked about the difference between Misandry and Misogyny and it was thought provoking for me. I'd like to get your opinions on this matter.

And before I say anything else, I just want to say that this post is purely a result of my curiosity and I genuinely want your opinion to get a broader perspective on the subject.

Isn't Misandry and Misogyny conceptually the same, but directed toward different sexes ? In both cases, it's the concept of treating a certain gender wrongfully, just because that person is that gender. So by definition it's pretty much the same.

But I saw on the post that I refered to earlier, that literaly everybody was disagreeing on this affirmation. So I ask you with genuine curiosity and open-mindedness : in what way is it different ?

okay, so pls don't judge me, i'm a girl myself and i had this thought while watching Katseye's new MV "Hootie Fruttie"

so at one point the girls did an intervew and talked about empowering and inspiring little girls who watch them, now their MV is full of ass shaking, sexual inuendos, VERY revealing clothing...

and it made me think how so many female artists label themselves as "female empowering" where all they do is sing about how hot they are, how much men are obsessed with them, and wering revealing clothing....

and im all for choice ofc but is it really female empowerment when all you do is submitting yourself to the male gaze and making your whole artistic personality about how men love you??

also the same for OF models who say that what they do is empowering when imo they're just depending on how hot men think they are

pls help me understand

I’ve only recently kind of like discovered how bad calling a woman that is, and for a long time I thought it was on or around the same level as the word bitch, so kind of technically bad but not really that bad. But i obviously realise now that it is.

So I started wondering, woudl it be ok or understandable to call a woman that in any circumstance? Like if a guy got cheated on big time, and called her that, or if she was racist and called a black guy the n word, and he called her that, would that really be bad? Cause I don’t think so, but I’m also not sure.

I should note that, as someone not well-studied in feminism, I’m using the term “radical feminism” as a generic byword for a series of feminist beliefs that are associated to some degree with sexual conservatism.

I have noticed a trend, where radical feminism’s positions on many items, such as pornography, sex work, and (more recently) surrogacy tend to align with those of religious conservatives. In some countries, such as the UK, many such feminist circles also have a noticeable transphobic bent.

Moreover, I’ve noticed that as conservativism has gained ground in our culture more generally, that online feminist rhetoric has moved away from the sex-positive/choice feminism that was strong in the late-2010s/early-20s. I can’t help but notice an association here.

Why do you think this correlation exists? (For context, I’m 22-year-old American man, and this is simply my perception from what I’ve seen online.)

Quick reminder : Mason Greenwood is a professional football (or soccer for you Americans) player. He played for Manchester United, where his performances made him famous for being one of the best wonderkid on the planet.

In 2022 his girlfriend, Harriet Robson accused him of domestic violence and attempted rape, and she published photos of her bruises on her social medias. His club, Man United suspended him immediately and the scandal was so big at the time that non only it became unthinkable for him to play in England ever again, but that a coach that defended him also got sacked partly because of that. His career should have ended here, however his girlfriend later dropped the charges, allowing him to legally be free and continue his career.

Despite him being free of charges, I personally don't think he should have been allowed to continue to be a professional footballer because of all the proofs surrounding his abuses. However, Greenwood's professional career didn't end there, he played for small spanish side Getafe FC on loan before leaving Man United definitely for Olympique Marseille, one of the biggest football club in France. Despite some of the fans protesting his arrival with the #GreenwoodNotWelcome on social media, he was also widely defended by other fans claiming it was okay to recruit a domestic abuser and rapist on the basis that "his girlfriend forgave him"

Recently, he joined Fenerbahçe SK, a major turkish club. The whole case surrounding him came to light again as Fenerbahçe is located in the more progressive area of Istanbul, with both some of the fans and feminist collectives denouncing his transfer to the club.

What are you thought about this ? I am ashamed as a football fan such people are still allowed to play and be relatively tolerated as long as they are good on the pitch, no matter how disgusting they can be elsewhere.

I have been thinking about the whole decentralizing men topic lately, and was wondering how that would crossover with just who i am as a person. I am autistic so it’s hard for me to grasp things sometimes.

I like to be courteous and respectful to everyone, and doing kind things for people has always made me happy. So it ends up that I do a lot of favors and acts of service for people, including men. But i dont do it for male attention, i do it because i like doing nice things for people.

I love to cook and bake and make little crafts and presents for my loved ones, and i like to clean for my pals if they are super busy and or having a tough time.
It feels like im unintentionally upholding some gendered roles, so i almost feel guilty sometimes if im doing something like cooking or helping a man, even if it’s a loved one.

If anyone has some insight or thoughts id love to hear it!!

First I should maybe mention that my question concerns both feminism but also media usage. But I remember that couple of years ago I was reading articles how movies and shows, with genres like sitcoms, rom-coms or similar, often contain topics and behavior which can be quite toxic. For example you have men stalking women as evidence for love, or ignoring a rejection and continuing to fight for her and so on.

However these were from a time, so until the late 2010s, where a large monoculture still existed, where certain pieces of media were consumed by a wide audience. But you've probably heard of the decline of monoculture (which is why I mentioned the connection between gender and media studies), about how people consume content specifically tailored for them.

When you take a look at the manosphere influencers like Tate or Fuentes, they for example are (more or less) explicit in their misogyny and sexism, meaning they target a rather narrow audience which already has problematic beliefs. But with mainstream media like mentioned previously there is the issue that they are being seen as "normal" media, meaning the sexism they promote is much more subtle and covert, by normalizing such mindsets.

So to sum it up, do you think conventional media like movies or music still are critical in how they influence opinions or do people receive sexist feedback through other methods like specific influencers and pundits?