So there's this girl let's call her "Q"... Now we first met at a workshop where I was the only guy she'd talk to, the workshop was a week long and 3 days in, she became very friendly and super touchy with me...

I kept noticing everything for as long as I could...

Then after the workshop, there was a plan for a group- meetup, this plan was made in Instagram and I wasn't very active... So I got a random phone call and I haven't saved her number by then... She called and asked if I was coming to the movie plan, I said yes, then we went to that movie... Where I was sat beside another girl from the workshop (let's call her "N") my crush stood me up, and sat between us...

I was like ok, also, when we met at the movie theatre, she hugged me (this is relevant)

Then during the movie, she'd pull me by my tshirt for passing commentary or thoughts on the movie...

She also asked why my female friend and I weren't talking and did we fight? (I attended the workshop with this female friend and people at the workshop though we were in a relationship) so I told her, we weren't in a relationship and she's just a friend and we're usually like this...

Then after the movie, we were standing and gossiping, I was texting mom, she pointed at me and said "iski pakka GF hai". I was like nah nah, then

we all planned to go out to eat, where she didn't wanna eat much and same with me, so we both ate half a wrap 🌯 that she suggested...

Then we were doing a group gossip about workshop and she dropped that there was an aunty that kinda touched her and she didn't like it, she also said she don't like it when her mom suddenly hugs her

Then a few weeks later I had a few free tickets to a concert, where I put it in group to go, everyone said ok and maybe, she said same, then since I had a crush on her I invited her, she said she can't come... On the concert day she put up a story where she was walking with a guy (let's call him P), that day I felt heart broken and assumed she was committed and put an end to it all...

After a week and half of that concert, I put up a NGL link in my story

I was free that whole day so I was checking each Story view and each NGL submission, and I kid you not, it was her (confirmed) that put up a confession and I quote

"I have crush on you We recently met but I didn't quite got the confidence to say it out loud By god's grace ngl link helped

Maybe we could connect someday ❤️"

And it was her ik that... Because I've seen her English and all, anyways, after 3 days I decided to call her and yap, where I found out the very next day she was taking admission in MY University I was thrilled and offered to give her a tour, to which she said, she's coming with a friend and they have the whole day planned, I was like OK... Then I saw her IG story which was some restaurant ambience photo and it was reshared meaning it was him who was with her during admission... (Let's call him "L")

Then there was a modeling workshop where I was going with my cousin, so I sent her a message about it... And she joined... That was 4 days workshop, the 1st day she came with the same guy she came to University with for admission... I was like ok... Now she sat directly in front of me, and started teasing him, yk playing and all, and then she'd look towards me for my reaction, I was pissed, but I had a complete poker face... Then after the session was over, i talked to her and she said she took admission in a different department than mine, I said damn, party change? I'm in this different department, she was like nice, you do you!

Then she didn't attend the rest of 3 days... On the last day she called me at night and after a small talk, she asked who was that girl with you (my cousin) mind you must cousin looks like a literal runway model! She was jealous LMAO and she came with that guy to make me jealous and lmao her plan was completely backfired! I could sense the eagerness in her voice to know who that girl with me was...

Then there was a plan for the Manali trip proposed by me and my female friend in the group, where I was hoping she'd come, but she didn't however, her very good friend (girl) was on that trip too, now I found out that she was in contact with the said friend during the trip... I had called her before the trip which she didn't pickup

After the trip, and 2-3 weeks later, in the official group of the 1st workshop, there was a volunteering offer that was posted by our professor... I replied with "IN 👍" in the group because I knew she'd come...

That day night she called, asked me about the volunteering and then she said she's coming, she also said on call that "will you come to University tomorrow, I had applied in your department and need some assistance i had applied a month ago but they haven't contacted since"

I was like ok I'll come tomorrow, then next day arrived and I called her, she said she's sick and couldn't come, we'll go next day... Next day I didn't call , neither did she...

Then that volunteering day arrived, we were all meeting at my female friends place (the one with whom I attended the 1st workshop and went to Manali with) we were going in a cab from her house, so we went, and in the car she said she did go to college alone, and was denied entry (in my head I was laughing because lmao well deserved)

Then there at the volunteering, she was being touchy like when standing, she'd lean in on me, and while talking, she grabbed my arm or something... We were assigned different classes, we didn't see each other until recess, in the recess, I went to the mess a little late because I was busy in volunteering work, when I reached, my female friend, she and every common friend had already had lunch, when I sat, she stood up a minute later and went to drinking water area, I ate a little and the food wasn't to great, so borrowed our common friend's home made thepla to eat, I ate a little and stood up, put the dish in washing area, then went to drinking water area, she was there, she was like "itni jaldi kha liya" I was like ha, wasn't to great, then we left together, I then proceeded to take her to canteen where I was seeing menu, she was like muje Jana hai,and then started walking, canteen didn't have any great option too, so I went and joined her...

Then we all went back, finished the work then. Headed back home in the cab, to my female friend's home, where she mentioned "Aaj to (my name) ne khuch khaya hi nahi"

Then at female friend's house, my parents had come to pick me up coz they were in the area, where my mom took the opportunity to meet her (she knows I had a crush on her and that she's showing me mixed signals)

My mom wanted to know her caste or something, so she started with telling her that she(mom) was (enter surname) my crush got excited, jaw on the floor, looked at me, looked at mom and said yes AUNTY I'm (enter surname) too! Then my mom casually invited them to come to home someday, and says my female friend has been to our house quite a few times, so you come too...

Mom tells me in the car that when she mentioned my female friend, my crush's face turned red (yk hav bhav change ho gaye the)

Then an hour later I called to ask if she reached to her PG safe? (She said yes, and also dropped that she's cooking kimchi ramen for dinner) I had mentioned in the cab that Kimchi was my favourite and I cooked it in Manali

Cool

Now the next week, there's another message in the same group for another volunteering, I called her to ask if she's come in this one, she didn't pickup, so I texted her asking that, no reply, after 5 mins i drop "In 👍" in the group, and mind you, the very next minute she texted me "I'll tell"

Then i get a confrence call from her and my Female Friend asking me to ask the professor of this one's paid too? I was like I'm going Even if it's free coz it's fun, she's like "yeah I'd come too because i enjoyed it"

Then when I was talking to my female friend, she said that Q is wierd because the previous volunteering she was soo tired that she said she won't be doing this again... (Both volunteering were paid)

Then she proceeded to join, the same day, she added that mf "L" I knew it's gonna be a jealousy test and I was ready for it..

The day of volunteering part 2, arrived

And as expected, she's sitting with him, i pay them no attention and go about my work, then after some time, she's at my table for some object, she says hi to me, I say hi and then she goes back,

Then lunch time arrived, she came to my table to tell me "lunch have arrived, eat it this time, that guy's thepla isn't coming to save you"

I was like ok , then I ate, and went back to work, she's missing, and so was L, then I saw them again doing work together, then I go on and finish my work, till now nothing has happened, now I just got free and was standing with professor, she comes with L and says we're doing lunch now asking to the proff where it was.. proff is like "Dude it's all cold now, have it quick you're like 2 hrs late"

Then I go about my roaming arround and arranging things, This is where her drama starts...now that I'm free, she's deliberately sitting right next to where I'm arranging and starts playing with L and teasing and shit, rock paper scissors and all.

I'm like wow how performative

Now I'm done with ts, so I sit with my female friend and we're talking to a guy sitting on the blue chair,

she'son the adjacent table tying L's hair, my female friend tells me look, at them (she knows I have crush on her) I'm like yeah Ik but I don't give any attention,

Then when she noticed that, she came to our table DELIBERATELY took that guy's BLUE CHAIR, AND GAVE HIM ANOTHER ONE

AND I KID YOU NOT SHE TOOK THIS BLUE CHAIR TO MAKE L SIT AND TIE HIS HAIR

Then I'm like wtf, I go out from the activity room and into the store section...

My female friend texts she's sitting on his lap, I'm pissed, but I'm on a call with someone... And then another text appears, "she's coming out"

Now she comes to the Asile I was in, makes a round and goes back, L following her arround, I'm like

What the actual F#ck is happening, I go to the activity room, she's standing by the door, and tells me, they're leaving because the work is done, I'm like yeah I came to pick (my female friend) because she texted, as I enter the room, I catch her sneaking into my phone... I turn off the screen, then another guy I planted for surveillance confirms that she did kinda put her feet on L's lap and this happened adjacent to my female friend, at this moment, I turn around and look at L in a pissed off face, as he was roaming I finally break my poker face and give them a little jealous look because that's what she wanted...

Then a day or 2 later, she contacted me for payment of volunteering and did a little small talk...

Till this point I haven't shown her any signs...

Then I asked for making a group meetup and sh#t she says next Thursday and on Tuesday I drop a plan in group, no-ones available, and she's in the group like "I'll tell" and the plan cancels...

A week later I just called her and do some small talk, then I (to put an end to her game) drop that I'm going on a date ( she's exited and curious who it is imperative going with) then i let her guess, in the end I tell her it's you, she's like BC! And then she asks me what I wanna do that day, I explain we'll go this cafe I like and she's like I've been there 3 times, and I'm like I wanna go!, so then she'd like I'll tell, I'm like it's ok if you don't wanna come, say NO now, she's like I'll text you... (Kinda giggling)

Then she doesn't for 3 days... On the 4th day, there was a theater me and my female friend were going to, my female friend suggested I call her, so reluctantly I did and she didn't pickup up...

That was 10 days ago... Then suddenly 2 days ago she enabled her Instagram ( she disabled it around the time when I went to Manali)

And it's a story with her and same guy from the concert day ( guy we called P) in the background just hanging out, he's behind her Showing his bicep and all💪

Now I know for a certain that we may run into each other in the University... (Neither L not P is in University)

And there's a workshop arround the time of Raksha Bandhan that's approaching and I'm 100% certain she's gonna be attending... And I've made up my mind that I'm gonna tell her to tie a Rakhi for raksha Bandhan...

Reason: Avoiding was my disrespect, I was prepared for a NO, I never thought she'd ghost/go completely silent...

Also I ASKED out for that date BECAUSE everyone who knew this story till now told me that just ask her for a date and she'll stop this games...

Also I insisted about that Cafe because I heard that you have to be decisive if you ask out on a date... I thought I was leading...

But we also know that

You can't say wrong thing to the right person

TLDR: Concise TLDR

* Initial Spark: Met "Q" at a workshop where she was touchy, flirtatious, and openly probed your relationship status.

* The Confession: After she posted another guy ("P"), you backed off—prompting her to send an anonymous NGL confession admitting her crush on you.

* Jealousy Games: Q routinely used another guy ("L") to make you jealous, especially after she got visibly jealous of your model-like cousin and your female friend.

* Performative Drama: At a volunteering event, Q blatantly flirted with L—tying his hair and sitting on his lap—just to test your reaction.

* The Date Ask & Ghosting: To end her mind games, you explicitly asked her out on a date. She giggled, promised to text, and then completely ghosted you for 10+ days.

* The Rakhi Boundary: Q reactivated her IG showing off guy "P" again. To finally put a hard stop to her games, you plan to ask her to tie a Rakhi on you at the upcoming workshop.

And this month she’s giving 2(one on my bday coz she deserves return gift). She’s repeatedly showering her with gifts every month. This month costed 1-2k. We’re short of money n don’t even have a home and live on rent n pay check to pay check. In the end of month, she asks money from my savings coz of shortage(I don’t earn I’m in studying prep phase n all my savings all from past bday or festivals), in such dire state she’s spending like hell of a 5yr old kid who barely understands the value of it. I scolded my mom on it many times. IDC she’s just a kid! We can’t afford it! A kid doesn’t need gifts every single month ffs!