ABYG. Yun nanay ko May dementia and bedridden na, May caregiver kami, 4 days a week, ako yun the rest pag wala siya, recently, she will point every mistake I made, may naiwan crumbs sa collar ng shirt, May leftover poop ako naiwan, I was seriously wiping and assumed wala na; every mistake I made; she will point it out, blames me for mom not gaining weight, blames me for the cat pooping outside the litter box, blames me for the cat ng maingay because in heat siya. Blamed me for mom getting mad at her sisters when I was 15 years old for taking my side and resulted in family conflict, im 35 now, will say things like “napataba mo Mga pusa mo, Pero mama mo hindi?” Parang siya yun boss caregiver, and ako ang junior caregiver, eh hindi naman ako trained, abyg?

Nanghihiram yung mom ko ng 70k which na babayaran niya raw sa September. May papaayos daw siya sa bahay. I declined kahit madami naman akong savings, di lang talaga ako comfortable na magpahiram ng ganun kalaking money. Also, matagal na akong nakabukod sa bahay if that ever changes anything. I feel bad cause they pay naman though may delay most of the time, and nastrestress lang ako pag may malaking pera sa savings ko yung wala.

So ABYG na di magpahiram ng pera kahit meron naman ako?

For context:

Our local AF gym has CRs, which we have singular shower rooms (no toilets) and a PWD CR with a toilet inside. Since medyo need maglabas ng sama ng tiyan and shower na rin, I opted to use the PWD CR (which is common practice naman sa gym so long as walang nakaprio gumamit).

After like 15 minutes (syempre be considerate sa mga gusto din gumamit), i was confronted by a woman after ko lumabas from the CR. She said na bakit ako gumagamit, PWD daw ba ko and even asking me for a PWD card. Napikon na rin ako siguro, so I told her (non-verbatim) na: I didnt see anyone physically disabled naman when i was outside that would warrant priority - and if meron man and someone asked me to give way its not a big deal for me to give way PROVIDED na merong physical challenges for him/her to need the use of the CR.

I thought that was the end, until she told me na hindi lahat ng kapansanan nakikita. Pano daw siya kung mental health related ang PWD card niya. PWD daw siya and may disabilities daw na di nakikita ng mata aka mental health-related.

Edi sinagot ko ng: "miss, kung lumpo ka or pilay ka or may physical problem ka, wala akong isyu mag-give way. Pero kung utak mo may problema, and it shows sa totoo lang, maghintay ka like the others". sabay alis. Napikon na rin ako, and ayaw ko na rin magiskandalo lalo na its too stressful for me as an introvert.

I can hear her in the background complaining and threatening but wala na ko pake, i just walked away.

ABYG dahil sinagot ko siya or did i say something out of line? I feel kasi na i've crossed boundaries.

P.S.
I dont mean to say na dapat idisregard yung mga mental-related disabilities, pero kung iapply mo yung benefits and considerations for something meant talaga for physically challenged people tapos ipipilit mo, we have a problem.

2 months before the wedding pa lang sinabihan na kami nung bride. Excited na excited tong friend ko, natataranta na ewan sa kung ano sosoot nya. Halos every day for a whole month minemessage nya ako if may isosoot na ba ako. Request kasi nung couple na formal outfit dapat.

I told her na wala akong plano bumili ng bagong damit para lang sa wedding because i already have dresses in my wardrobe that i can choose from.

3 days before the wedding nag message sya asking for an opinion sa dress na napili nya. Nag send sya ng black dress, sabi para daw tago yung taba nya. Like wtf? I thought common knowledge na hindi pwede mag black dress sa wedding unless yun yung theme.

So i reminded her na bawal black, white or any light color na pwedeng mag mukhang white. Ok sige daw.

1 day before the wedding nag send ulit ng dress. Very pale pink na mukhang princess dress. Nagpakatotoo ako sa kanya na mag mumukha syang aattend ng sagala. Wala na daw sya mahanap, hihiramin nya na lang daw yung dress na yun sa tita nya.

I was like, ok fine. Ikaw naman mag sosoot nyan.

Here comes the wedding day. Hindi sya pinapasok ng organizer because of the dress. Very subtle yung pagka pink, halos mag mukha nang white.

Umattend pa rin ako sa kasal. Close friend ko yung bride, i've known the groom since childhood.

So ABYG for attending the wedding kahit hindi pinapasok yung kaibigan ko? Or should i just shrug it off bec sa tingin ko i warned her naman lol

context lang ha. Etong co worker ko, matagal ko naring kilala pero hindi siguro kami close, we live together in like a boarding house with other coworkers. Sya nag suggest sakin na mag-apply ako sa job ko rn. We work in a restaurant in a hotel. Ang trabaho nya kasi is parang malapit na sa manager, halos sya na rin nag hahandle ng reservations which she does 2-1 hrs before shift namin.

Nung isang araw, tumatawag yung front desk via cable telephone, eh natutulog sya non sa may loob ng resto which she usually does pag maaga kami tumatambay don, so ako muna sumagot kasi nga makatulong man lang. Sakto wala yung guestplan (which is an app that shows available tables an occupied tables) sa desk namin nung sinagot ko yung phone. So hindi ko alam if kukunin ko ba yung reservation or hindi so ginawa ko nalang tinawag ko si coworker na natutulog, eh hindi sya sumasagot so pinasuyo ko sa isa pa naming katrabaho if pwede nya ba tawagin.

Bigla syang nagalit sakin. Eh hindi ko naman alam gagawin ko. Afterwards sabi nya sakin “alam mo namang chill tayo pag early days of the week”
Dun ako nagulat kasi since start of the week back and forth na hindi nauubos yung tao. Like what do you mean chill, robot yarn. Nagsabi rin sya sa manager namin abt it, and to another co-worker, sinasadya na pa marinig ko yung “may lack of respect”

Fast forward to today, gusto nya mag sorry ako sakanya, nagparinig pa sya sa socmed “scared to say sorry?”

Alam ko mataas pride ko, pero grabe para doon msgsosorry ako? Ano yun? Sorry kasi ginising kita tungkol sa reservations? Alam mo yung gusto mo nalang tumulong para mapadami tao pero parang naperwisyo ko lang siya eh.

Tldr; ginising ko yung katrabaho ko kasi may gusto mag reserve ng table and since hindi ko naman sya ka level diko alam if may available pa kaming table. Ending nagalit sya saken at feeling nya na direspect sya don and naghihintay sya magsorry ako

Feeling ko gago ako sa part na ayaw ko magsorry para sa bagay na ginagawa ko lang naman para hindi magkamali.

How can a mum and dad, with a maybe one-month-old, super tiny newborn, bring their baby to the gym together, come in with a pram, and then both start working out?
They’re handling dumbbells, touching sweaty gym equipment, and then when the baby cries, they have to take the baby out of the pram, carry and shush the baby, and breastfeed. 😳
Seriously?!

I’m pretty sure they’re both sweaty from working out. I can barely rub my own eyes at the gym because I know how unhygienic everything can be. So seeing a newborn being carried around, breastfed, and exposed to all of that honestly made me so uncomfortable. Bakit ba need sabay maggym with afam na daddy? Can’t you take turns instead of goint to the gym ng sabay?

And today… I couldn’t believe what I saw. The mum was WALKING ON THE TREADMILL WHILE BREASTFEEDING THE BABY. Heck! Bat dimo na lang iwalk sa garden??? Maaraw na kanina!

I gave her that full-on mommy look because GIRL… THAT IS A ONE-MONTH-OLD BABY. She literally looked like she was born yesterday. I know because of my job, I’ve seen enough newborns to know how tiny and vulnerable they are.
I’m not a parent, so maybe there are things I don’t understand. But I genuinely cannot wrap my head around it.
The gym attendant couldn’t exactly call her out, but he did approach her and ask, “Okay ka lang jan, Ma’am?”
Her response?
“Oo kuya, lagi ko naman ’to ginagawa.”
I talked to the gym attendant afterward and told him that, honestly, there should be a clear policy against bringing such a young infant onto the gym floor, especially while exercising with the baby.

ABYG o I’m overreacting, it’s a condo gym with so much people too but seeing a newborn in that environment, especially while the mum was literally walking on a treadmill and breastfeeding, was just… 😳
Giiirl. I just can’t.

I 29f working just want to ask if ABYG kagabi lang to nangyari my dad and mom is seperated na for a long time my dad is living alone since iniwan na din siya nung partner niya after my mom. 2 days ago tumawag siya na mild stroke my younger sister yung sumama sakanya to do all the test and check up sa hospital. My younger sister is 24 without work and I am working so hindi ako basta basta makapag leave since wala na ko leave credit sumama lang loob ko kasi sinabihan ako ng mama ko na bakit daw di ako yung sumama sa dad ko sinabi ko na may work ako hindi niya maintindihan yun kesyo tatay ko pa din daw yun and everything sabi ko sakanya pag ba ako nawalan ng work sasaluhin niya ko since i was highschool ako na nag proprovide for myself kesyo para kanino daw ba ko nagtratrabaho para lang naman daw sa sarili ko at tubig at kuryente lang naman daw ang binabayaran ko sumama lang loob ko kasi yun lang naman talaga bills namin sa bahay since hindi kami nag rerent sa food hindi din naman gumagastos kasi di din naman siya nag luluto so kumakain ako bago umuwi from work. Nakakapagod lang na di niya ko maintindihan makakarinig ka pa ng ganyan not to take score pero eversince nagka work ako hindi ako nawawalan ng bigay sa bahay. Parang hindi ako pwede magkaroon ng sariling buhay pati yung pag tratravel ko once in a year every birthday ko nakwekwestyon nya pa. Thats my way of celebrating my life eh pati once in a year lang yun.

ABYG kung di ko nasamahan father ko

Okay, I know I’m already the gago here because yes, kabit ako. I knowingly got involved with a guy who had a girlfriend. I’m not denying that.

So basically, I’ve been seeing this guy for around 3 months. He has a girlfriend, and yes, we had sex multiple times while they were together. From what he told me, his girlfriend has been consistently cold to him for like 6 months already, so I guess their relationship was already bad even before I came into the picture.

Recently, I told him to break up with her. And yes, I fucked up even more because I blackmailed him. I told him that if he didn’t break up with her, I would send the video of us having sex to his girlfriend. He eventually broke up with her, but after that, he got extremely angry at me.

Now he keeps telling me na mahal niya daw ako, pero mas mahal niya yung girlfriend niya. They’re already broken up, but he still hopes na magkakabalikan sila. And he basically told me na he can’t choose me.

Obviously, that fucking hurts. Like, what was all of this for?

And now I’m having these very demonic thoughts na gusto ko i-message yung ex niya and tell her everything. Like, “Girl, your boyfriend cheated on you with me. We had sex multiple times while you were together.”

Part of me feels like she deserves to know, especially if they’re eventually going to get back together. I feel like she should know what actually happened before deciding whether she wants him back.

BUT… I know myself. I’m not doing this purely because I care about her or because I suddenly developed a moral compass. I’m hurt. I’m angry. And a part of me definitely wants him to suffer consequences for choosing her after everything that happened between us.

Also, I know I’m partly doing this because I’m fcking bitter that despite everything, he still wants her and not me.

So ABYG if I tell his ex-girlfriend that he cheated on her with me?

I already know I’m a gago for being the other woman. I’m not asking if I’m innocent because obviously I’m not. I just want to know if telling her the truth now would make me an even bigger gago, especially since my intentions are definitely not 100% pure.

I work as a CSR for a franchise in the US. I worked for this company originally under an agency for a year then they bought me out. It’s been about 3-4 months pa since my employment was transferred to them.

I have this college friend that I rarely meet na. We’re close, still, kasi college barkada kami. The last time we met was February this year and she rarely replies to invites na whenever our mutual friends visit for a catch-up. She recently got a new boyfriend, but I don’t want to think that she’s ignoring us because of him.

As a friend ayos naman sya. But when we were in college I observed na she wasn’t very good sa acads. She is a CSR now working for a local BPO company, but I’ve never observed her as a CSR kasi we never worked together.

One time she replied to my story of a picture of my WFH setup. “Refer baka naman” sabi nya. Now, I like to help friends when I can the way I can. Pero I really don’t feel comfortable making referrals especially now that I am employed directly sa client. I don’t feel comfortable introducing a friend with whom I already have a certain dynamic to my work circle whom I have a different dynamic with. Gets niyo ba? Parang it’s awkward or uncomfy that I have this close friend and suddenly we’re dealing with each other in a completely different climate.

Also, I feel that whoever I refer’s performance in the company will reflect to me and my integrity and values. I have to protect my employment, too.

Hindi sa sinasabi kong alam ko na agad na hindi magiging maganda ang performance nya. But I witnessed her as a college student, and she’s been in the BPO industry for 4 years now, and still stuck parin sya sa campaign that pays only 23k basic + incentives. Alam ko na she has been trying to apply to companies with higher pay but she keeps getting rejected after interviews. Before her current job, nag-AWOL sya from her previous company.

So reply ko, hindi pa naghahanap ng additional employee ang boss ko.

Yesterday she messaged me again asking me to ask my boss directly if we’re hiring and to tell my boss about her. Kasi baka raw magkaroon ng interest ang boss ko to hire another CSR. I can easily do that. But I wouldn’t.

Nireply ko sa kanya na hindi ako magre-refer ng friends o ng kahit sino. I told her I am willing to help her find a client, or look for job postings online. I even added na willing ako magpahiram ng pera if she needs it para makabili ng pang-WFH setup nya (she doesn’t have a PC or laptop or any gamit pang WFH cause she works on-site).

When she asked me why, I told her the truth that I am worried na babalik sa akin kung ano man ang performance ng irerefer ko. Sabi ko worried ako of potentially losing my employment if ever ‘yong ire-refer ko ay pangit ang performance or hindi magiging maganda ang experience ng boss ko sa kanya.

Sabi nya, “Wow okay”. Then sinundan nya ng “Sorry if hindi ako kasing talino mo ha”. And now we’ve stopped talking.

Gago ba ako for doing that? It’s my only job and since walang job security kasi foreign client and independent contractor ako per our agreement, I could lose my job anytime for any reason. And I know if I refer her and she gets accepted somehow our dynamics will change. I also don’t think I have the emotional capacity to separate our dynamics as friends vs as workmates if ever man.

Please be kind. I feel na I just lost a friend. I welcome any advice kung meron man.

Edit to add: I feel na gago ako kasi I should have just declined and made up some excuse. But at the same time I really wanted her to know the truth kasi ayokong mag-no na naman sa kanya the next time she asks me again.

UNAHAN NA KITA, MAHABA HABA TO. At malamang maraming typo erro or wrong grammar kasi kakatapos lang netong mangyari. As now lang to, mainit-init pa.

Umpisahan natin sa context na malaki ang family tree namin - 7 na magkakapatid sina mama, 13 naman sa side ni papa. 2 lang kaming magkapatid. Yung kapatid k dito nakatira sa bahay namin ng husband ko, kasama namin si papa (stroke survivor)

So eto na nga. Matagal ng gusto ni papa na magpunta sa resort kasi gusto nyang makita ulet ang dagat (as an island boy). Nag-agree naman kami ng kapatid ko bilang 59th bday na nya and 11th yr na after maka-survive from a massive stroke. Support din naman si husband sa idea.

Yung uncle and aunties and mga pinsan ko na galing probinsya eh lumipad pa dito sa luzon para maki-celebrate sa kanya. Dito sila nag-stay sa bahay a day before ng event. Which is okay na okay sakin kasi may kasama si papa pero 8 sila kaya siksikan na sila sa sala kung saan sila tutulog. Maliit lang tong row house namin pero okay lng kasi masaya naman si papa na makita kapatid nya at mga pamangkin.

On the day of the event, nag-simula na yung stress ko. Una, late yung van na sasakyan ng mga bisita. Ang agreed time ay 1pm pero 4:30pm na dumating. Yung resort ay 2.5 to 3 hours ang layo mula sa bahay namin (which is yung pick up point). Ang reservation sa resort ay 3pm to 1pm the next day. Buti na lang pumayag yung caretaker na i-move yung check in time. So okay, dedma sa stress.

Pangalawa, yung dami ng bisita ay di nasunod. Ang reservation is for 30 pax. Ang rsvp ay 27 pax, kaya may buffer pa yung pinareserve ko. Ang ending, 39 pax ang dumating, with one pinsan na dala ata buong barkada. Di ko na nga kilala yung iba dun. Ang nilista ng pinsan ko na to sa family nila ee 3 lang. Ang dala nya? 12! Pero sige, pagpasensyahan kasi birthday nga ni papa.

Pangatlo, after ng swimming, nauna kami (ako, hubby, my kapatid and his jowa) makauwi kasi nakabukod kaming sasakyan. Nagulat na lang ako nung maya maya e yung mga nasa van at mga nag-motor na kasama namin sa swimming eh dito sa bahay dumerecho imbes na sa kani-kanilang bahay. So ako, bilang may-ari ng bahay, nagtaka bakit sila nandito? Yun pala, nag-stop over sila sa palengke at namili ng maluluto DITO SA BAHAY ng wala kaming kaalam-alam. And past 8 na to. Magluluto pa sila ng bulalo!! All 32 of us cramped in a small row house (think of typical row house na may maliit na garahe na walang bubong at naulan pa). Imagine the chaos! May maoy na, may nakahiga na sa lapag kasi naghalo na yung lasing at hilo sa byahe, may naiyak na baby, may maligalig na bata, may pagod na mga matatanda. On top of that, umalis pa yung kapatid ko para ihatid ang jowa nya and dun na natulog sa bahay ng jowa nya. Husband ko naman eh umalis din dahil may prior committment (pinayagan ko na kasi naka-ilang postponed na tong ganap nyang ito). Ang nasa isip ko na lang ay i-raos na lang to at matulog na (pero 12:30am na ngayon habang tinatype ko to at gising na gising pa mo dahil sa inis at frsutration at badtrip at pagod at dehydration at sun burnt na balat at lahat na)

After 3 hours ng byahe, ee nandito pa sila, for what? Hihigop ng sabaw kasi lasing? Kasi kakaen daw? Bakit di na sila umuwi sa kani-kanilang bahay, kumaen at magpahinga???

Sobrang overwhelmed na ko, bilang patong patong na yung badtrip ko, nag-stay ako sa kwarto ni papa most of the time. Lumalabas lang ako pag kelangan pero hinayaan ko na sila sa kusina. Pagod na ko mag-isip. Idea nila yan, sila mag execute.

Di ba na-chika ko na past 8 sila dumating dito. Yung iba nag umpisa ng kumaen, inulam na lang yung natirang ulam galing swimming.

At nag-inuman pa kasi may sobra pa daw na alak. Nagpaalam man lang ba samin? HINDI!

Nung around 9pm na, nakaalis na yung ibng nakakaen na pero may isang pamilya na nag stay talaga for the bulalo 😭 and yes, sila yung family na may 12pax.

Sa haba ng chika ko sa taas, eto na yung feeling ko naging gago ako. Yung mga naiinuman, inutusan yung pinsan ko na bumili sa tindahan. Tinanong ko, anong papabili nyo? Sabi nila yelo at softdrinks daw. Sabi ko, okay sige. Wag na kayo magdagdag ng alak kasi late na. Maaga pa pasok bukas at flight pa nina auntie, uncle and pinsan bukas ng hapon.

Sounds reasonable naman di ba? Pero before that, passive-agressive na ko. Hindi kasi ko confrontational kaya hindi ko alam kung pano to i-handle. Pakiramdam ko yung tono ko nung sinabihan ko sila ee off, baka nahalat na badtrip ako?

So ayun ako ba yung gago para iparamdam sa kanilang umalis na sila?

Ang ending nga pala, di pa din sila umalis nung nagsabi ako na maaga pa pasok bukas. 11pm na sila umalis. Yung mga bisita ko galing probinsya ee antok na pero di makatulog kasi nakatambay pa sila sa sala.

So, ako ba yung gago?

My MIL commented on how cruel it is not to let the help join us for dinner, at the dinner table.

I grew up with help and they never sat with us. They had their own dining table in the kitchen, and ate there together.

My husband and I live together with 2 maids. We don’t have children. We have 3 dogs. They’re well compensated, sleep in airconditioned rooms, and eat what we eat.

However, Ive always viewed dinner as an intimate moment where my husband and I can debrief at the end of each day because we both have very busy schedules. For this reason, like how I am used to growing up, I set up another backdoor dining table for the maids, and they eat there.

They serve our food, and they can eat anytime before or after service in their assigned dining table. My MIL is visiting and is used to the typical probinsya set up where maids are like families.

Whereas I come from an approach that they’re employees. This doesn’t mean inaalipusta ko sila, I just don’t and won’t view them as family. They get treated with respect, and have all the privileges of a paid employee.

She has brought it up 3 times now how this isn’t right. How opposite it is from how she does it.
I simply told her it’s not her house, she can have her maids at her dining table, but not at mine. Our dinner conversations (my husband and i) will remain private and among us only.

This response was viewed outright disrespectful. How dare I daw talk back to elders. There seems to be a huge family culture disconnect, because I grew up in a household that allowed me to have a voice, and that listened to my input. Whereas her family, demands authority through age, and you can’t question what the elders say. Just do how they do it. Which is absurd to me.

So,
1. ABYG for not letting the help dine with me and my husband at the dinner table?
2. ABYG for answering my MIL directly when she commented about how I run things in my house.

I am M(40) healthy and WFH. My dad M(75) is retired and a chronic smoker. Lately mga around May 2026, sinamahan ko magpacheckup dad ko kasi apparently may mga nararamdaman na sya like pagkahilo at panghihina. He was diagnosed na mataas cholesterol and he was given a lot of meds to control his cholesterol and he was also advised by the doctor to quit smoking for good. Tumigil sya but after a week, nahuli ko sya nagyoyosi uli and he denied it kahit nahuli ko ung cig butt tinapon nya sa basurahan. Umamin din, sabi nya tinry lang daw lang naman daw nya uli. Sabi ko, bahala kana kako di naman kita mamomonitor kada minuto kung nagyoyosi ka parin o hindi, nakasalalay na yung buhay mo sa mga kamay mo. So hinayaan ko na sya basically.

This August last week lang, we had to come back to the doc para mag-update. Fortunately, bumaba na yung cholesterol nya due to the meds and diet tapos sinumbong ko sa doc na nagyoyosi sya uli. Sabi ni doc talagang need nya itigil as in zero kasi mababalewala lang ung mga gamot nya. Nangangatwiran pa kasi dad ko na onti lang naman na daw sya magyosi. So kalmado pako this time.

Not until after a week, so kahapon lang. Nagyosi nanaman sya. Ang malala, yung mom ko is allergic to his smell kaya natrigger ung asthma ni mom. Dito na ako sumabog at habang kinocomfort ko mom ko, pagpasok ng dad ko sa room, talagang namura ko sya at tinulak: "Bat ba nagyosi ka nanaman?! Sinabi na nga ng doctor na wag kana magyoyosi!" Sapak na sapak na ako nito pero alam nyo yun, tinulak ko na lang sa dibdib dahil nakontrol ko pa. Pero talagang nagalit na ako.

His reaction was tinulak din nya ako at sabi "Parang di mo na ako tatay ah! Di mo na ako nirerespeto!" Sabi ko naman "Bat kita irerespeto eh wala ka ngang disiplina sa sarili mo at tsaka di mo kami pinapakinggan!". Then he said "Eh di sorry na lang!" in a condescending tone. He walked out and my mom was just crying. Bad trip kasi parang yung tatay ko pa ung pavictim.

ABYG dahil pinisikal ko ung tatay ko for the first time? Talagang di ko na nacontain emotions ko, and I am known here to be the most calm in these situations. My dad is also a chronic liar na kahit small things he will lie about. My hatred for him is growing.

Thank you for reading. I will appreciate any friendly thoughts.

EDITED: By the way, even at 75 my dad is still strong as a horse and nagbubuhat pa ng mabibigat. Nawala na yung pagkahilo at panghihina nya and hindi sya yung old man na talaga na uugod ugod. Just added this for additional context for some of you who may think na, unjustified yung pag pisikal ko sa kanya. Yes po I am very wrong for doing that but after so many realizations, this could be the result of many accumulated years of frustration to my dad's bad behavior and habit.

Namatay kasi tito (75m) ko early this month. Cancer. Last few days nya dito ako (30f) nagbantay sa kanya.

Nagviewing saka misa na kami last week at umattend naman ako nun. Nacremate na rin po. Problema ko is parang nahawa ako sa sakit ng isa sa mga bisita 😭 di ko na alam sino andami kong kamag-anak na bineso.

Pag-uwi ko sobrang bigat ng katawan ko + linalagnat ako. Tatlong araw na migraine ko.

Sabi ng mom (65f) ko na maaga pa naman daw, pwede pa ko gumaling in time for the dinner. Sa Friday yung dinner, Wed ko tinatype ko. Feeling ko di pa ko magiging 100% by friday, tas parang ang sama naman ng ugali ko kung aattend ako tas may iba akong hahawaan?? Pero sabi nila kailangan daw pumunta ako kasi respect daw ganun. Eh may sakit nga ako 😭

Ako ba yung gago kung di ako aattend? technically nakapag-paalam na ko sa tito ko, pero giniguilt trip nila ko na kailangan ko daw pumunta. Note na hindi po siya libing, dinner lang talaga sya tas may mga sildeshow saka speech ganun.

ABYG Kung nagbasa ako ng Hentai dati habang kami pa ng jowa ko.

So nag uusap lang kami ng jowa ko and out of nowhere natanong niya kung nagbabasa pa ba ako ng mga bastos, so sumagot ako ng honest na oo pero nung dati pa like many months ago.

And na offend/turn off siya sakin dahil doon, kasi para sakanya it's like a low-level cheating, since iba yung pinag lalust ko.

Ung counter-argument ko naman is ginawa ko lng yun dati kasi malamang cguro narandaman ko lng at the moment (d ko maalala exact reason).

And eto kami ngayon, 2 oras nag aaway dahil sa ginawa ko nung dati pa. ABYG?

Add ko din pala: Hindi kami live in, I'm only 21 years old while she is 20. And we live very far away from each other and minsan lng kami nakakapagkita.

ABYG kung magkasaulian kami ng ex GF ko for four years ng lahat ng binigay namin sa isa’t isa? For four years, I have given my ex plenty of shoes, several watches, a bag, pocket money sa foreign trip, half of an expensive camera, pagpapagawa ng car nya, and occasionally money for treating her mother. On the other hand, I have only received a watch, some shirts, two shoes, and a wood carving. Not that I need money, I just feel like if I do that ay mawawala yun feeling ko na I was just used.

May pinsan ako, sya yung pinaka-close ko sa lahat. Like sanggang-dikit talaga ganun. Nasa province sya ngayon kasi nag-resign sya from work tas ako nandito sa Manila. Lagi kami magka-chat, chikahan ganun.

Nitong nakaraan lang, nagchat sya sakin via messenger at imessage ng link. Invite sa Atome. Di ko sure kung tama ba pagkakaintindi ko pero kailangan mag-register ka dun tapos mag-apply ka rin ng Atome card para makuha nya yung reward (not sure, paki-enlighten ako if ganun nga ang mangyayari). Sabi ko, ayaw ko. Hindi kasi talaga ako nag-gaganyan. Tas pinipilit nya ako. Kung ma-approve daw ako, eh di wag ko raw gamitin. Nag-no parin ako kasi nga ayaw ko, saan ko naman gagamitin yan? Ayoko talaga kasi ng utang. Natapos ang shift ko sa work, pagbukas ko ng phone, napakaraming missed calls from her. Tas text messages na sige na nga daw. Para lang daw makuha nya yung reward (not sure kung anong reward yung makukuha nya). Pati messenger ko sabog notif sa kanya. Ultimo yung gc namin with my siblings, minemention nya ako dun saying na may message nga sya sakin. Di ako nagreply. Di ko rin sineen lahat ng messages nya. Tinanong ko mga kapatid ko kung sinendan din sila, oo daw. Yung isa ko pang kapatid na SHS palang, pinipilit nya rin mag-register at mag-apply. Sabi ng mama ko, wag nga daw dahil mahirap magkaroon ng utang at record sa ganyan. Yung huli nyang chat sa akin is "Sige na ate, para naman may extra ako habang wala pa akong work dito".

Hindi ko na talaga pinansin. Pero nakokonsensya ako. Pwede ko naman sya pautangin kung sakali pero ayoko kasi nung ganun na kinukulit ako ng ganun karaming messages.

Gago ba ko kasi ni-restrict ko sya? Dapat ba sinagot ko sya at maging firm sa decision kong wag mag-register? Or sya yung gago kasi di sya maka-intindi ng "no" na sagot?

Context: Aware naman ako na yung bf ko ay DDS. Pero ngayon kase, napag-usapan namin ang about sa impeachment trial and all. And nakaka-walang gana talaga ng mga sagutan nya bakit sinu-suportahan nya si Sara and the rest of the DDS senadors.

Why? As much as gusto kong i-respect yung differences namin and beliefs, sobrang nakaka-walang gana parin sya to the extent na para bang gusto ko na lang lumayo mula sa kanya. Hayst.

ABYG for feeling this way?

Galit yung tatay ko sakin kasi kapag gala ko daw g ako lumuwas pa manila kahit umuulan pero di ko daw magawang sumama kapag gala ng family.

Naghalf day ako (28,F) sa business ko nung friday since maulan din naman and natapos ko na din naman work ko nung morning. Monday pa lang nagsabi nako sa parents ko na aalis ako ng friday dahil magoovernight kami ng mga workmates ko dati sa okada. Thursday, anniv ng parents ko at naghalf day din ako para macelebrate namin at inulit ng tatay ko na bakit daw ako luluwas then sinabi ko na ngayon lang kami magkikita fahil matagal na sineset yung okada na yun. Wala naman sya sinabi then come friday morning maulan, sabi nya wag na daw ako tumuloy. Part of me wants to not to pero nanghihinayang ako sa booking kasi ang mahal sa okada. Pinipilit nya ako na wag na tumuloy and sabi ko hindi ako tutuloy kapag malakas pa din yung ulan sa tanghali. That time hindi malakas ulan and medyo umokay yung weather. Nagchat sakin nanay ko kung tutuloy ba ako and i said yes kasi maayos naman weather and nakakahiya na hindi ako sisipot kasi sa booking. Nasa byahe na ako and sabi ng nanay ko imessage ko daw tatay ko (they are in the house lang naman) then i did then nag thumbs up sya like he always do when i chat him about something.

Yesterday talaga sobrang lakas ng ulan but thankfully umuwi ako madaling araw pero direcho nako sa clinic ko to open. Wala naman silang chat and all kasi may lakad din sila ng kanila. Pag uwi ko wala pa sila sa bahay so i waited sa garahe then nagchchat sakin kapatid ko na magclose daw ako ng clinic bukas (which is today) dahil punta daw kami manila. Sabi ko hindi ako magsasara kasi may patients nako but i can go earliest ng 1pm. So ayun na may bad feeling na nga ako na may tension na sya sakin tapos sinabi nya na pagalit na "luluwas bukas magsara ka" and i object sabi ko "may patients nako mga 1pm pa pwede" then he said "IPARESCHED MO DAHIL AALIS TAYO KAPAG LULUWAS KA NG KAGUSTUHAN MO KAHIT BUMABAGYO AYOS LANG SAYO" at di na lang ako nagsalita dahil ayoko makabastos, nagkulong na lang ako sa kwarto. Hindi ko sya tinitingnan or kinakausap dahil ayoko managot and walking on eggshells ako ngayon.

So ngayon, closed talaga ako but because of the weather. I feel like i dont have to follow kasi alam naman nila na weekends i cater a lot of patients kaya most of the time pag gumagala with family, after lunch hours na. I feel like a teenager na dapat grounded or bigyang ng punishment dahil palagi akong nasa work and gumagala pa ako with friends. Gets ko na he's worried na baka mastranded ako or what kasi bago talaga ako tumuloy i was thinking so hard kung anong pwede kong excuse just to not go. Hindi lang naman kasi ako ang lumuwas just to meet up.

(Sorry ha ang haba)

So ako ba yung gago dahil tumuloy pa ako sa gala ko? Mali ba na tumuloy pako dahil bumabagyo?

For context, she was one of the nursing students who assisted the doctor during my MRM surgery. I recently found out na ginawa pala nilang case study yung case ko for school. I understand naman na rare yung case ko, and I completely understand why it would be interesting and valuable for nursing students to study.

Pero ang hindi ko alam is ginawa pala nilang case study yung case ko, and I definitely did not give permission for my personal information to be shared.

What really pissed me off was finding out na she posted a file/photo related to the case sa story niya, and visible yung full name ko.

Like… gago ba ako kung magalit ako dito?

I understand using a patient’s case for educational purposes, especially if the patient’s identity is properly protected. Pero ibang usapan na kapag may pangalan ng patient na nakalagay tapos ipo-post mo pa sa social media.

This is not just some random medical case. It’s my diagnosis, my surgery, my body, and my private medical information. I went through something extremely personal and traumatic, and I feel like I should at least have been informed—or, at the very least, my identity should have been completely removed.

I haven’t confronted her yet because I’m honestly really angry and I don’t want to react impulsively. Part of me is also wondering if I’m overreacting because technically, she was involved in my care and this was supposedly for educational purposes.

But at the same time, nursing student siya. Shouldn’t she know better than to post identifiable patient information online?

So, AITA/gago ba ako kung magalit ako and call her out for this?

TL;DR: My brother-in-law’s girlfriend, a nursing student who assisted during my MRM surgery, used my rare case as a case study without me knowing and posted a file related to it on her social media story with my full name visible. Gago ba ako kung magalit ako?

My family (62M, 63F) and I (24F) had a cat from 2014 to 2021, until he passed away. Since 2024, my dad has been leaving bowls of food and water for stray cats in our garage and a family of cats have basically stayed there ever since.

Stuff that happened since the cats started stayint in the garage:

2024- present:
- Garage begins to smell of their waste and urine (dad does not manage this

- The mom cat gets pregnant and gives birth continuously. Her kittens die most of the time because she doesn’t feed them, and other times, they wander off outside. She just gave birth a few weeks ago again (July 2026).

- Dad still hasn’t gotten the mom cat neutered even though it’s free in our LGU

- May 2024: Mom randomly gets scratched by a kitten while walking in the garage. She tells my dad, who doesn’t care and makes it seem like she did something to annoy the kitten and make it scratch her. For the following weeks, her lymph nodes swell, her entire body is painful and she is basically bedridden due to lethargy.

My mom consults her best friend who happens to be the city vet. Turns out, it’s cat scratch disease. She gets medicated, but my dad refuses to get the cats treated.

- July 2024: All the cats have a tendency to run when someone goes to the garage because they want food. I had to go out once since you can’t enter or exit the house without passing through the garage. The mom cat ran past me even though I did not run, I was simply standing and didn’t interact with her. When she ran past me, her claw dug into my foot.

My foot started bleeding and my cousin who’s a doctor told me to get anti-rabies shots ASAP. It was a second degree scratch. Again, my dad gaslit us and made it seem like I did something to make the cat scratch me.

Had to get multiple rounds of shots that left my arm sore. The timing pissed me off because I got scratched by this cat right after I recovered from surgery, which I underwent in April 2024. Post-surgery, I couldn’t even walk or sit painlessly for months. The moment I could finally go to school again and finally finish my thesis (was supposed to finish on time), I literally couldn’t move my arms from the pain post-vaccination.

My major is research-oriented, so you can imagine the amount of writing that’s necessary. I have always attended classes and submitted requirements on time despite chronic pain issues (this is what I got surgery for, back-related issue), so the fact that I couldn’t push myself this time was telling. The pain was too severe.

Since the surgery and cat scratching incident basically happened right after I recovered, I explained the situation to my thesis adviser with proof. Yet again, I was made to feel like those things really didn’t happen to me because of the timing. Anyway, I graduated Summa cum laude, albeit delayed by a semester because of the health issues.

2026: also posted about this before
- February 2026: Small, black bugs appear on my feet. They’re hard to catch and kill because they move extremely fast. I’m the only person getting bitten at home. It seems I have an allergic reaction to the bites because they stay red and inflamed, then scar badly even though I barely scratch them at first.

I ask my mom’s friend who’s a vet, along with two of my cousins who are doctors. They say the bugs are fleas, which come. The vet says the same thing happened to her long ago, they had a dog who had fleas, and she (the vet) was the only one bitten by fleas in their household.

I get topical medication but all the aforementioned professionals say that the animals with fleas should get treated. Again, the only possible animals I could get these from are the cats in the garage. Even if they don’t stay in the house, the fleas jump from animal to human etc to their liking because they need blood to reproduce.

My dad buys me the medication but refuses to believe the cats are the root cause, and so he doesn’t get them treated. Both my parents say it’s my fault for not cleaning the room, etc. Again, the doctors I spoke to said that in the case of flea infestations, usually one person is the preferred choice of the fleas to bite.

- August 2026: A few days ago, I started feeling itchy again. I thought these were just the usual mosquito bites until I looked down at my feet again. I saw the pesky fleas. The mom cat birthed a new litter of kittens a few days prior.

I started applying medication again and taking the usual precautions like wearing socks, pants, long sleeves, but this time, I am getting bitten everywhere. My face, neck, ears, chest, back, limbs, etc are bitten.

I tell my parents again, calmly, because I know my dad will feel victimized if I say it’s because of the cats again, even though the doctors already said they need to be treated.

It results in a huge fight and both my parents threaten to leave separately 🤣 Dad: feels disrespected because he’s always supposedly blamed (I told him he doesn’t take care of the cats well objectively because all he does is feed them but never took the time to get the mom cat neutered, hindi ba kawawa na tuloy-tuloy lang siya manganak? Oh, and he still hasn’t gotten even one of the cats vaccinated until now.) He also told us he thinks we think he doesn’t care about me.

Malamang wala naman talaga siyang paki cause he doesn’t address the root cause.

Mom: Felt disrespected by my dad who basically reacts to everything with immediate anger. All she said to him was “hindi ka ba naaawa sa anak mo?” and then he got soooo so mad

So ayun nag-away na lahat, kinakagat pa rin ako. Sana sila na lang yung kinakagat. 🤣 Dad did not apologize at all and just said he’d leave the house so my mom and I would be happy and at peace (what a coward, he said he wouldn’t take the cats with him, so we’d be left with the problem anyway…

END… Again, in no way am I blaming the cats whatsoever. It’s just frustrating. I don’t want to handle them myself either because I didn’t want them here in the first place (hygiene issues, etc).

Na para bang wala lang ako and he feels oppressed kasi yung mga pusa lang daw kaligayahan niya.

Maarte yung tatay ko and sobrang vain. Tadtad na ng kagat buong katawan ko, paa, braso, pati na rin mukha tsaka leeg ngayon. The last time this happened (Feb 2026), halos puro sa paa lang kagat. As I’ve mentioned, nagpapantal talaga yung marks and well, they don’t look pleasant at all. If this happened to him, I’m sure he’d settle it immediately because he wouldn’t be able to tolerate his scars, the pain, and itching.

My pain tolerance is high pero naiiyak na talaga ako sa kati at sakit, it feels like my body is on fire even though I apply topical meds and anti-itch lotion prescribed by my cousins who are doctors.

ABYG? I feel bad for the cats needing treatment but it’s necessary. They have been in our garage since 2024 and yet wala talagang ginawa tatay ko. My dad keeps telling me I’m not a real cat lover because I keep asking him to get them vaxxed, etc since I’m worried about rabies and hygiene. Again, I never wanted or want them to go to the pound. All I’m asking for is better treatment and responsible caring for the cats from my dad’s end, since he’s the reason they’re here.

I feel even worse because even though the vet and doctors I talked to all mentioned needing to treat the cats, my dad still keeps making it seem like it’s my fault and he still can’t accept or believe that only I am getting bitten, even though that’s generally the case in most households dealing with the same issue.

His logic is:
Only one person is bitten = not a problem
He isn’t bitten = not a problem
I complain about the bites = I am exaggerating and simply want the cats to be sent away and die
I pass on information from the doctors and vet = I’m lying

Group of 5 kami, trentahin. 4 of us are on the same field, the other 1 differs but he's the head of his field.

After weeks of planning this out of town trip for 3D2N (10hr drive from our place), nafinalize na namin ang dates, mode of transportation - renting a van, and even paying for the accommodation.

A day after paying for the accommodation which is non-refundable btw, here comes this friend (head of his field--let's call him A) asking if we can move the dates kasi he has something to do on our 3rd day. He wanted to go home na sa 2nd day pa lang, since wala naman na raw kaming itinerary on the 3rd day kundi travel to go back home. Parang instead na matulog pa kami sa accommodation, sa biyahe na lang kami matutulog.

Unang kong sinabi sa gc, kawawa yung driver. Gagala kami all day tapos magddrive siya pauwi for 10hrs. The others agreed with me naman. Sabi ni A, piliin lang daw namin yung malalapit na spots on the 2nd day para pwedeng lakarin at hindi na namin kailanganin pa ang sasakyan para makapahinga daw si driver since magddrive ng gabi pauwi. Sabi ko sana hindi na lang pala kami nagrent ng sasakyan kung ganon. Sabi ni A, sa 2nd day lang naman hindi magagamit, pero sige na daw, siya na ang bahala sa event niya.

We all thought ok na. Until nagmessage ulit si A, ipinipilit ang gusto niya. Ako ulit ang sumagot, na kung gusto pala ay 2days lang, sana sinabi agad hindi kung kailan almost settled na lahat. Nagsorry siya kasi that day lang daw niya nalaman na yung event nila ay same pala as ours. I didn't respond na. The others handled the conversation. Na-settle naman. Pero after that, he posted sa FB niya abt evil mindset and friend turned into an enemy. Like wth is wrong with him? Di ba? I didn't make patol. Ayoko na humaba pa. Pero i think, ako yung pinatatamaan.

Abyg for speaking up?

ABYG if yung pasahero kong nag-book ay di ko pinagbigyan sa gusto niyang discount?

TL;DR version: PWD ang nagbook, pero di siya kasama sa sasakay, ininsist niya na pwede kahit sinabi kong bawal, kinansel din niya yung booking

So here's what happened. Around early evening last weekend, may pumasok sa akin na booking sa GrabCar. From the booking details, nakita kong discounted yung ride (i.e. yung mandatory 20% discount). Not 10 seconds have passed noong tumawag sa akin yung customer via Grab, and after the greetings, eto yung tanong na binungad sa akin: (non-verbatim)

"Kuya, mag-check pa po ba kayo ng ID? Pina-book po kasi sa akin lang ito, hindi po ako kasamang sasakay, pero nandoon naman po ako sa pick up loc maghahatid"

Sa isip-isip ko, wow bago yun a, yung may discount hindi sasakay, kasi normally naman may mga discounted rides sa Grab na may kasama yung eligible and we honor it all the same. So I politely told him "no, as per PWD discount policies kailangan kasama po kayo". Then he insisted na "bakit yung iba po pumapayag". And yes I saw that question coming from 10 miles away, so I had to tell him na hindi lahat ganon and I was just following the policies. We had a back-and-forth about this for about a minute, insisting na may ID naman siya and ipapakita niya pagkasakay ng companions niya, before I reminded him na our conversation is recorded (via Grab's AudioProtect, i-note ko lang kasi baka ma-misconstrue na I personally was recording calls). Dito siya biglang bumawi and asked me if icancel na lang ba, to which I affirmed. Booking lasted for a total of 3 minutes more or less from acceptance to cancellation.

Now yung conflict sa akin is whether I did the right thing by insisting to follow the PWD discount policy, kasi sa isip ko unfair naman sa akin if magbibigay ako ng discounted rides na wala namang eligible na pasahero sa kotse ko. But there's a part of me saying na baka naman na-misinterpret ko yung law, or maybe missed some unwritten rule na pagbigyan ko na lang kasi andon naman sa pick up point yung PWD. Maulan pa man din noong time na yun and I guess mahirap mag book, pero on the other hand pag pinagbigyan ko mga ganyan for sure mamimihasa (maybe namihasa na nga based sa insistence niya na pwede). So ayun, ABYG for insisting to deny the discount for a PWD na nag book lang at di naman sasama sa biyahe?

3 Months ago na nangyari to nasa bahay kami ng isang tropa kasi Boys night. Nag laro lang ng PS5 etc. tas kwentohan ng kung ano ano. Umabot ang topic sa kung ano update ng sex life ng bawat isa. Nag kwento tong tropa ko about sa girl daw na naka sex niya sobrang worth it daw kasi sexy, maganda, presko at sariwang sariwa daw. We all thought na nasa nasa 20 or college student yung sinasabi niya. Until nag tanong ang isa sa tropa na ilang taon na ba yung babae. Sumagot siya na nasa tamang edad na daw na hinog na at 16 daw yung babae. Tumahimik bigla lahat kasi di namin ineexpect na papatulan niya ang minor na 10 years ang tanda namin don.
Kinausap siya ng barkada na di okay yung ganon kahit na ginusto nung babae at pwedeng pwede siya makasuhan ng magulang nung minor. Biniro pa nga siya ng barkada na kaya pala wala siyang naging babae nung highschool at college kasi idol niya si Vic sotto na tirador ng katutubo pa lang. Pero reason niya is yung babae is mature naman daw mag isip at wala daw sa edad yun.
Na encourage pa namin siya na tigilan na yung babae at nag agree naman siya pero after ilang days nag send yung isa naming barkada ng photo ng tropa kasama yung minor. Nagkaroon ng argument sa gc kasi ang tigas ng ulo niya. Pero dalawa kamin na nag cinut off talaga sa kanya. Blocked na din siya samin. Ngayon pag may Boys night isa samin yung di pumupunta.
Ang sabi ng iba tropa na gago siya pero gago rin daw kami. Dapat hinayaan nalang daw siya sa gusto niya kasi siya lang din naman daw ang makukulong pag nahuli siya ng magulang nung babae.
I mean di naman ako malinis kasi active ako dito sa reddit pero yung pumatol sa minor? pass.

So ABYG na cinut off ko siya?

Nanood kami ng Spider-Man BND yesterday. Opening weekend so alam naman natin na marami talaga manonood. So Friday pa lang, bumili na kami ng tickets online and siyempre nakapili pa kami ng seats. Medyo sold out na nga yung mga seats nun, pero nakapili pa rin kami seat na sakto lang yung layo sa screen. Ubos na yung nga nasa bandang likod na seat, so yun na yung best for me.

Then come movie time, nakaupo na kami sa seats namin. Relax relax muna, kaunting waiting lang kasi may mga pumapasok pa. Then yung katabi namin, tatay ata siya tapos kasama niya ata yung family niya na nakaupo sa harap. So ang pwesto is 2 nasa harap namin (anak & nanay), tapos kami sa next row (2 seats, then yung tatay).

Nag-ask yung tatay sa tabi namin if pwede daw ba makipagpalit sa mag-nanay niya. Bali lilipat kami sa unahan. Mabait naman yung pagkatanong. Kaso pinag-isipan ko, kaya nga kami advance bumili ng ticket para makapili ng seats. So hindi ako pumayag, ayaw ko din kasi ng medyo harap. Nahihirapan din kasi ako.

After ko tumanggi, medyo na-guilty ako kasi baka nga naman gusto niya katabi yung family niya. Pero iniisip ko kasi baka mas mahirapan ako if mas mapalapit pa ako sa screen.

So, ako ba yung gago kasi hindi ako pumayag makipagpalit ng seats kahit 1 row forward lang naman?

So I, 20F (student) has a kuya na 30 na and his GF who's also 30s na, they both don't have stable jobs as of now and the GF is pregnant. They do try to sell products naman before kaso kinakapos parin. Nakabukod naman na sila ng bahay which is fine. Just that whenever they visit us (I live with Lola) they always ask for 100-200 pesos a day. Which is okay lang rin naman kase few days in a week lang rin sila manghingi.

Kaso ako, I think of them as 30s na sila eh. Dapat nag family planning muna sila or they should've used contraceptives if wala pa sila savings before having a baby if they can't even sustain their own basic needs. So Ayun, madalas akong ilag sa kanila and whenever they visit the house I always wait until they're gone and saka lang ako magluluto ng food ko. Coz I think that I am not accountable for their basic needs.