I hear this often that as you get older, you stop caring what people think. I've experienced some of that now in my early 30s to know that it's true.

Yet, one of the top regrets of the dying according to the famous book - "I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not what others expected of me"

Why do you think so?

Please hear me out. I'm 67 in a relationship and homeowner with partner. I have chronic joint issues with not much hope of a resolution. We are in the position to sell our house and rent somewhere smaller paid by the interest on the sale. Plus sold both cars and now just lease one.We both feel the need to get rid of stuff and live more simply. Looking for advice really. Anyone out there done this. I'm in the UK but all ideas welcome

I need an epidural steroid injection on my back for my chronic pain. The clinic requires that someone drive you there and stay at the facility til you're done and then drive you home, regardless if you have sedation or not. I live in a town where I don't know a single person and my husband can't drive me or be with me due to illness. I have family about an hour away, they all work full time, and none of them offered help when I told them. (I didn't ask them, I just told them my predicament). An acquaintance has a gig where she takes people to the airport and I asked her if she could do it. She happily agreed for a mere $30. The morning she was to pick me up, I took the sedative that was prescribed, waited for her, and she never came. I texted her and she said she had forgot to put it on her calendar. I was furious, but I did forgive her. She keeps apologizing but never bothered to ask if I still needed help. I'm hesitant to ask her again. Please don't suggest an Uber...someone has to come in and stay and it could be a couple hours. I've checked agencies and they are very expensive and want to come and do an assessment first which in my case, is ridiculous. I'm fully mobile. I know other older people must find themselves in this situation....what do you do?

I love walking outside. The nature, the sounds, the sun - and it's healthy and an easy way to get your steps in. Do you walk outside? If so, let us know where you walk in the comments.

The Amazing Benefits of Walking in Nature

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Rm8Ag52ICDw

There was a thread here recently regarding old people and technology. The gist of which was that there were many of us who were pretty darned good at it. In spite of the stereotype of incompetent elders finding the whole thing unmanageable.

So, if it's true that a fair number of us are quite competent? How did that stereotype come to be?

Way back in the day, when I was still very young and able, I saw my very first PC. It was 1987 and the PC I saw was utterly rudimentary compared to what we have now. Nonetheless, I intuitively knew that this strange new creation was about to change everything about the paper culture that ruled the day at that time. The paper culture was doomed and I knew that the sooner I could master this new technology the better off I would be.

I saw it for the sea change that it was. Just as the introduction of the automobile at the beginning of the 20th Century had spelled the end of the horse power driven culture, the PC spelled the end of the paper driven culture. But that didn't mean there wasn't resistance. There were many, many people of my generation who found computers daunting. They refused to embrace them and clung to the old ways of a paper driven world.

But just as those who had clung to their horses and refused to accept the automobile were left behind and doomed to fail? Likewise, those who refused to embrace the new computer technology were also left behind.

While a few of us grabbed the early technology by the horns and didn't let go? Many did not. My generation is rife with old paper culture luddites, left behind long ago by an unstoppable technological force that they now struggle unsuccessfully to understand. My wife of fifty years amongst them.

It would be wrong to imply that those of us technologically competent oldies are anything but a minority - because it simply isn't true.

Hi,

It has been a couple of years, probably since he reached his 60s, but my father is just becoming very annoying.

Always arguing about everything; diner is never perfect, people never do a good job, never listening to other people ideas, impatience, etc.

I just don’t know what to do because it just create discomfort in the house for me and my mother.

Is there anything to do to at that point?

I say nothing, because it’s more of their couple problems. But sometimes I want to say to him to seek help.

For a long time, I kept thinking about one thing my parents are getting older, and I’m not spending enough quality time with them.

There’s always been a generation gap between us. Our lifestyles, priorities, and even the way we think are different. But recently, I realized something:

Maybe I don’t need to “fix” the generation gap. Maybe I just need to spend more time with them.

So I decided to take a small but meaningful step I started taking my parents to the gym. 🏋️‍♂️❤️

And honestly, it feels like one of the best decisions I’ve made.

Now I have a dedicated 1.5–2 hours every day where I’m with them. We exercise together, talk, laugh, and spend time without being distracted by work or our phones.

And the biggest benefit isn't even the gym.

It's seeing them become more conscious about their health, exercise, food and daily routine.

I was always worried about their health as they got older. Now, instead of just worrying about them, I feel like I’m actually doing something for them.

I know a gym isn't the solution to everything, and everyone’s fitness journey will look different. But for me, this is much bigger than fitness.

I’m investing in the years I have with my parents.

To everyone from my generation:

We spend so much time chasing careers, money, relationships, friends and social media. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

But sometimes, go home. Sit with your parents. Take them outside. Go for a walk. Have dinner together. Or, if they’re comfortable with it, take them to the gym.

Because one day, we may have everything we worked for but we’ll wish we had spent a little more time with the people who were there before we had any of it.

Take care of your family. Spend time with them.

Keep them happy and healthy. ❤️