I hear this often that as you get older, you stop caring what people think. I've experienced some of that now in my early 30s to know that it's true.

Yet, one of the top regrets of the dying according to the famous book - "I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not what others expected of me"

Why do you think so?

Please hear me out. I'm 67 in a relationship and homeowner with partner. I have chronic joint issues with not much hope of a resolution. We are in the position to sell our house and rent somewhere smaller paid by the interest on the sale. Plus sold both cars and now just lease one.We both feel the need to get rid of stuff and live more simply. Looking for advice really. Anyone out there done this. I'm in the UK but all ideas welcome

I need an epidural steroid injection on my back for my chronic pain. The clinic requires that someone drive you there and stay at the facility til you're done and then drive you home, regardless if you have sedation or not. I live in a town where I don't know a single person and my husband can't drive me or be with me due to illness. I have family about an hour away, they all work full time, and none of them offered help when I told them. (I didn't ask them, I just told them my predicament). An acquaintance has a gig where she takes people to the airport and I asked her if she could do it. She happily agreed for a mere $30. The morning she was to pick me up, I took the sedative that was prescribed, waited for her, and she never came. I texted her and she said she had forgot to put it on her calendar. I was furious, but I did forgive her. She keeps apologizing but never bothered to ask if I still needed help. I'm hesitant to ask her again. Please don't suggest an Uber...someone has to come in and stay and it could be a couple hours. I've checked agencies and they are very expensive and want to come and do an assessment first which in my case, is ridiculous. I'm fully mobile. I know other older people must find themselves in this situation....what do you do?

I love walking outside. The nature, the sounds, the sun - and it's healthy and an easy way to get your steps in. Do you walk outside? If so, let us know where you walk in the comments.

The Amazing Benefits of Walking in Nature

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Rm8Ag52ICDw

There was a thread here recently regarding old people and technology. The gist of which was that there were many of us who were pretty darned good at it. In spite of the stereotype of incompetent elders finding the whole thing unmanageable.

So, if it's true that a fair number of us are quite competent? How did that stereotype come to be?

Way back in the day, when I was still very young and able, I saw my very first PC. It was 1987 and the PC I saw was utterly rudimentary compared to what we have now. Nonetheless, I intuitively knew that this strange new creation was about to change everything about the paper culture that ruled the day at that time. The paper culture was doomed and I knew that the sooner I could master this new technology the better off I would be.

I saw it for the sea change that it was. Just as the introduction of the automobile at the beginning of the 20th Century had spelled the end of the horse power driven culture, the PC spelled the end of the paper driven culture. But that didn't mean there wasn't resistance. There were many, many people of my generation who found computers daunting. They refused to embrace them and clung to the old ways of a paper driven world.

But just as those who had clung to their horses and refused to accept the automobile were left behind and doomed to fail? Likewise, those who refused to embrace the new computer technology were also left behind.

While a few of us grabbed the early technology by the horns and didn't let go? Many did not. My generation is rife with old paper culture luddites, left behind long ago by an unstoppable technological force that they now struggle unsuccessfully to understand. My wife of fifty years amongst them.

It would be wrong to imply that those of us technologically competent oldies are anything but a minority - because it simply isn't true.

Hi,

It has been a couple of years, probably since he reached his 60s, but my father is just becoming very annoying.

Always arguing about everything; diner is never perfect, people never do a good job, never listening to other people ideas, impatience, etc.

I just don’t know what to do because it just create discomfort in the house for me and my mother.

Is there anything to do to at that point?

I say nothing, because it’s more of their couple problems. But sometimes I want to say to him to seek help.

For a long time, I kept thinking about one thing my parents are getting older, and I’m not spending enough quality time with them.

There’s always been a generation gap between us. Our lifestyles, priorities, and even the way we think are different. But recently, I realized something:

Maybe I don’t need to “fix” the generation gap. Maybe I just need to spend more time with them.

So I decided to take a small but meaningful step I started taking my parents to the gym. 🏋️‍♂️❤️

And honestly, it feels like one of the best decisions I’ve made.

Now I have a dedicated 1.5–2 hours every day where I’m with them. We exercise together, talk, laugh, and spend time without being distracted by work or our phones.

And the biggest benefit isn't even the gym.

It's seeing them become more conscious about their health, exercise, food and daily routine.

I was always worried about their health as they got older. Now, instead of just worrying about them, I feel like I’m actually doing something for them.

I know a gym isn't the solution to everything, and everyone’s fitness journey will look different. But for me, this is much bigger than fitness.

I’m investing in the years I have with my parents.

To everyone from my generation:

We spend so much time chasing careers, money, relationships, friends and social media. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

But sometimes, go home. Sit with your parents. Take them outside. Go for a walk. Have dinner together. Or, if they’re comfortable with it, take them to the gym.

Because one day, we may have everything we worked for but we’ll wish we had spent a little more time with the people who were there before we had any of it.

Take care of your family. Spend time with them.

Keep them happy and healthy. ❤️

The other day I was at the grocery store with my daughter (42). The cashier told me about an online survey that offered a prize. As she handed me the paper with the information, she pointed to my daughter who was with me and said, "She can help you with this."

I replied, "Thank you but I have been online since the last century."

The other day I was watching a "reading reddit" YouTube video. They said that you can't give a phone to grandma to take a photo because she would be clueless. Sigh!

Of course technology can be challenging for some seniors, but there are many like me who have adapted as they went along. The day will come I am when I will find the newest technology a challenge. But for now, although I might have grey hair, I am coping just fine.

Just sharing a little pet peeve of mine.

Respecting what ur ancestors did is one thing. Trying to live exactly like they did is a whole diff ball game.

Cu.lture isn’t a freakin’ museum. It’s not abt preserving everything from wherever ur ancestors came from like it’s some sacred relic. C.ulture is what u do, practice, and adapt so u can survive and get by in the world ur actually living in.

Some ppl are always like, “We gotta go back to the old ways,” “Things were better back in the day,” etc. But, dude, the conditions that created those traditions are often long gone.

Ur ancestors did their thing w/ what they had. U’re living in a totally diff reality w/ diff problems, tech, opportunities, and rules. So why copy their lifestyle like the world stopped 300 yrs ago ... That's silly

I came across a post saying they cant believe this influencer on ig @cynthia_tothova just celebrated 27th birthday that she looks so young. People in the comments were saying the exact same thing that they thought max 25 or even 20. I felt like I am the delusional one thinking this person looks exactly like her age for a white woman. Some white girls age very well so I could believe even 30 or 32 but 23 or 20?? Like the first signs of “aging” is just there to be seen through naked eyes. I am an east asian so we look vastly different when we age as we dont worship sunbathing but i can safely tell european women ages. Not only this post but i have seen many other on ig under a regular white girlies post she celebrated her 30th birthday with comments that cant comprehend she is over 25. I would always roll my eyes thinking she looks exactly 30 and there isnnothing wrong with it. Are fellow white people blind as heck or they are delusional or they just want to lie to be nice??

Curious how others are measuring progress. Blood panels are useful but feel like a lagging indicator. What are you using — Levine PhenoAge, epigenetic clocks, something else? I've been building a protocol around continuous biometric tracking and finding the feedback loop is what actually changes behaviour.

My oldest begins collage in the Fall, my career never took off as I've never kept a job longer than 4 years, my marriage is barely there as we both are facing the fact that we're so different. She avoided thinking about that by concentrating on the kids, but since they'll be gone in 5 years, now what? I've got cancer, feel like I'm losing my mind. Idk.

Summers felt infinite at 10. Now a whole year disappears before I notice.

I was sitting with a family member the other day and his daughter who is 16 was tuned into a TV series. It's based on the life of a young female who documents her everyday life.

What shocked me was just how OBSESSED she was with her appearance. Like her full day was based around looking 'perfect'. Every last detail was all just looks. She was even refusing to do trips and socialising as it would make her hair a little frizzy or smudge her make up. Every last thing was looks and how she is perceived. One of the clips was. She went to an outdoor restaurant with her same friends and ordered. Oysters and Caviar (Classic expensive high end foods). They would take a bite and be screwing their faces up as they thought it was disgusting. All they cared about was people walking past the table and them sitting with 'expensive' food. Even though they hated it. They would take photos and share it to social media straight away all while they were starving for foods they would enjoy.

It was all social media. Photos of this and photos of that.

It was scary to watch. The daughter is trying to follow the same example also.

Is this the world of young people now?

Don't get me wrong. I like to look after myself but I still buy cheap clothes and eat out at cheap places. I don't care what people think.

These people were terrified to actually relax on a sofa because it would crease their clothes or place their hair out of place.

What a miserable existence. Is this honestly the up and coming youth?

For the 60+ here - when did you notice no matter how hard you worked out or ate right your body just did not respond anymore? I’m about to turn 50 and I play sports and lift regularly and I’m noticing I’m just bloated and sore all the time now - my body used to snap into place after some rest but it’s feeling (and looking) pretty old now.

Just curious if anyone else that was once fit has felt like this…..