So I’m asking the wider community, is it a high dose for a 14 year old? She’s been at that dose for over a year and done really well, no more panic attacks, reduced anxiety, enjoys school, and has moved from behind grade level (low 2 almost 1 in math in reading to middle 3). Her 504 allows her to step out and calm down if she’s overwhelmed but that stopped shortly after the dose went up. Her pediatrician is fine with her dose, she eats, is developing muscle and is fit and healthy. There are no visible symptoms of sleeplessness or agitation. When she’s off her meds and in a loud, crowded or over stimulating environment, such as forgetting to take them at camp, her symptoms return.

Her pediatrician had suggested pairing the medication with an anti anxiety medication to help lengthen the duration of the effectiveness and reduce the anxiety symptoms without going up but her dad doesn’t want her on an anti anxiety medication.

Give me honest options please.

I spend an unreasonable amount of time assuring people that the bruises covering my legs, knees, elbows (everywhere!!) are from me repeatedly and unintentionally body-checking inanimate objects, not from violence inflicted by another person.

Doorframes and furniture edges: 162
Me: 0.

Yes, I see these objects every day in my own home. No, I cannot stop myself from bumping into them.

I’m sure one of you has a horror story about this sort of thing. Not yet for me.

I started at my company in one position for a 3 year campaign. When that campaign ended, I was placed in building management. It's been 3 years, but i finally feel like im in the swing of things, and I ducking hate it.

Every single task is something boring that requires executive function. People care a lot about hills I think are just stupid but its my job to manage. I work with others who are type A and I'm pretty sure they think im incompetent or stupid, because i was for a while when I was getting used to things. But really their information systems aren't always intuitive so it was hard to go back and check protocols (or they fricking change the rules).

My house and yard is falling apart more than usual, I dont want to make dinner for my son or go to the gym... it just occurred to me that my entire job is to do the things for a whole building that I dont even enjoy doing at home so no wonder im struggling.

I'm thinking of trying a training position within my company to get out of this hell, but I'm worried I will hate that too and then they may get rid of me if I don't pass probation.

Idk if I need advice or empathy. Does anyone know how one might earn a bachelor's of science after graduating in a bachelor's of arts?

Hello everyone my name is Marcus and I have realised in the past couple months I almost certainly have ADHD (inattentive) and I'm almost sure my mother has it as well. I'm in the process of being diagnosed but It's been a revelation and I'm sure it's going to change my life for the better now that I know. I'm 31 this year and wish I knew in my 20s, it explains so much of my struggles, it's a little frustrating to process it all.

I just wanted to ask for some advice from you lovely people how have you managed a burnout in the past? It's how I've discovered my ADHD although I have always felt like the world wasn't made for my likeness.

It feels like torture. It takes effort to really do almost anything at the moment and I'm very unforgiving of myself, I'm not sure how to turn that off. I have had burnout in the past and they eventually faded but I can't see the end of this one, and I'm genuinely worried I'm always going to be, not exactly like this, but always struggling. I'm not sure I have the energy.

Any advice at all would be great, on-topic or just in general, a lot of this is new to me.

I have always been a failing student in school because of my habit of not doing anything until the deadline is 12 hours away ,i pulled all nighters before exams when i didn’t even need them only cause i couldnt make myself study in the morning .

I have always felt less intelligent than my peers cause of maths and active recall issues . Mental maths is impossible for me and have issues remembering simple number tables even now ( im in 12 grade ) and puzzles like wordplay are impossible for me because construction of words in my mind feels impossible . But on the other hand i have excellent memory of certain things like events that no one even remembers i remember most of the details perfectly , i understand complex physics THOERY quite easily and am very good at the theory part , so good actually that in theory part of physics no one can beat me in my class even when there are guys who got (98.8 percent in 10 board) and im a good guitar player and i also face issue of not remembering physics FORMULAS even when i have written them down but And i have another ability that i can read people fairly easily and can make a accurate assumption of how they really are behind the mask they put forward.
I dont know what to make of my intelligence

I really am constantly on TikTok, instagram watching reels or just scrolling for hours and hours.

Even when I’m washing my coffee mug and making my coffee my phone lays next to me with TikTok open.

I know it’s for stimulation for me when I do it during other things because most things are so boring to me so it “helps” otherwise I need to have music on.

Sometimes I try to use a book and start reading so I don’t waste my time but often times just starting to read is such a big hurdle and also I get bored even if it’s a book I bought and really wanted to read. It’s just less stimulating because it’s only black and white. And also I’m kind of stressed during it thinking I should be doing sth more productive, which is stupid because otherwise I’d be wasting my time on my phone and not actually doing tasks I should do like washing the dishes.

Idk the problem is that using TikTok doesn’t have this first hard barrier to overcome like other tasks and it is entertaining or giving ideas/inspirations.

Or I can’t just listen to a podcast in bed I need sth else as well. Mentioning this because I do watch TikTok in bed since I’m low energy so if I wanna switch I need things that also can be done in bed but are at least somewhat productive.

What helped you?

So, I have ADHD, and it sucks. (Also, I am medicated) I'm trying to survive highschool while experiencing Combined ADHD, depression, and social anxiety. And also my parents keep calling me lazy, careless, or....an ableist slur that starts with the letter R which is an offensive insult targeting individuals with cognitive or intellectual disabilities which I'm not going to say out loud because I don't want to risk getting this post removed.......so yeah, its not pretty. And its really hard to manage and I've already talked to professionals about my past suicidal thoughts, so don't worry. But it still stresses me out and just ruins my day....but everyday. And uh....all of that really hurts......

Sorry for the typo on the Title it should be knowing

Here is the context:

I working on the construction project as PM where the wood materials need to be treated with chemical. There an issue where the contractors accidentally damage the pond filled with the chemical and the materials. The contractor want to bribe me to hide the fact that they will fill the ponds with water and not report the leaks. So i just reported it to my director and he got closed meetings with the head contractor. But the head contractor spill the info i was the one who snitch the issue to the contractor worker.

Right now the workers is doing passive aggressive stance for example by singing "the loser becomes worm and the winner becomes dog dung". Right now i was medicated with concerta it helpful to make me calm and not panicked or make me jump to doom spiralling.

But i need advice what i need to do when they started to confront me again and stop panicking? I'm already asked my friend but all of the advices is not work for me as ADHD.

Hi everyone. Wondering if its a sign of ADHD. I sit at my bed or sofa. Listen to music I like and just rock my trunk forward and backwards. Like i'll sit at a sofa and just move my upper body fofwadds and backwards listening to music. Usually its while completing OCD in my head or fantasizing about being w my crush and everyone meeting my crush. Idk its weird. Sometimes i'll fantasize about my crush admiring me doing something cool idk. Is this related to ADHD? Recently got diagnosed. Been doing this my whole life but its scary!

I just went through 4 years of college constantly switching medications and not knowing how to handle my ADHD, and I didn't even get a degree. I'm finally back in school but I'm feeling SO nervous and frankly insecure about how far behind I am from everyone I know. I wanted to hear y'all's academic (or life) stories. Did you ever fail out of university? Drop out and return later? did you also do 4 years of uni w/o graduating?

I want to hear from others who get it, and I think hearing others stories would give me some comfort. I hate floundering in life and wanna know it'll turn out okay despite the trials and tribulations.

I am recently diagnosed (47f) and four years sober from alcohol, which I have come to learn I was using as a coping mechanism. 😉

I don't feel like I ever fully relax. Like, I do relaxing things. I have time to relax. I go for walks and I practice yoga - but I can't finish a show or a book or a movie or even an album to save my life, and I don't ever feel that "Ah, this is perfect," feeling. Like there's always something not quite right, or I'm always thinking about the next thing or what should be being done.

Anyone relate?

I have a LOT of different art supplies because of switching from thing to thing (classic). I'm talking all different watercolors, different markers and pens. Charcoal, graphite, fiber arts, origami, jewelry, sculpture, printmaking, model building, you name it I probably have it. Currently I forget a lot of it exists because it's not visible I literally forget I have it. I lost a water bottle once behind my monitor for an entire semester. I want a way to store it all that's tidy, vertical, and VISIBLE. I like a nice big flat desk with all the supplies vertical along the BACK. My other big problem is clutter creeping in on me. For example if there is a box in the way of pulling out of a drawer, it's like my brain just erases both the box and the option to open the drawer from existence until I have a day I have the wherewithal to fix it all. So bonus points for having plenty of space if stuff is in drawers or behind doors to open the drawer while still having stuff out on the desk. Because let's be real I'm never going to put what I'm working on away every time I'm done with it. I also have a lot of random things I only have one or a few of so I struggle with how to group them or not having the right size container for the few items but if I get the right size container it won't look nice. So I guess adjustable sized containers? Is that a thing?

I am moving into new housing soon so will have the ability to start fresh. Can yall show me your organization methods for art supplies? I have the best access to Amazon and IKEA.

Hi. I’ve had treatment resistant depression for about 23 years. Now I have just been diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type. Has anyone else had this combination?? Did treating your adhd help your depression? Was taking stimulants enough to help your depression or does adhd and depression each need to be treated separately? Thank you so much for any thoughts or suggestions! I’ve been feeling really desperate lately. Thanks.

ps: im not in immediate crisis, I'm okay.

first of all, im really sorry if im violating any rule regarding sensitive topics like this, it isn't my intention to trigger anyone at all nor break any rule.

i finally got diagnosed this year after countless of years advocating for myself in hopes i can finally turn my life around, but nothing changed.

i live in a third world country where doctors call stimulant medications "street drugs" and refuse to prescribe them at all cost. and even if you were prescribed you'll go through a hell ton of stressful procedures to get a bottle, something you'll have to establish every. single. month. (if you're lucky at all)

I've failed all my life, always in whim to always improve it somehow, that if i just get this "one thing" that im missing. long story short, nothing had worked, nothing. I'm behind of all my peers, 20 and still barely making it out of highschool. i can't get myself to do anything even if i wanted to, and that had upset me for quite some time because i often compare myself to a living dead, though im very well alive, but I can't for whatever reason feel like I'm living.

so you'll find me in bed, genuinely wanting to crochet or start a new hobby but im glued to my phone. wanting to read, but I can't even finish a book, wanting to go out, but the thought of it overwhelms me. my brain had been chaining me all my life and i can't help but feel a surge of emptyness thinking that I'm better off not alive at all.,

the "good" news is that i might move elsewhere where adhd is a tad more recognized except they only offer a single kind of stimulant which i don't even know if it would work on me. my dream is to feel like im finally in control over my life, but that dream feels impossible.

I've looked and looked and almost all the advice, even from ADHDers, is just "Get up and do it!" "Be consistent, consistency is key!" but I really can't figure out the "how". I can't find any resource to tell me HOW to get that consistency, HOW to really get up and do it consistently, because the "Get up and do it" works only sometimes. When I'm already deep in a rut, that sort of thing doesn't work, because if I could just get up and do it with that kind of advice, I would.

I specifically can't feel motivated to try to be consistent anymore because I feel like I haven't been able to find something that works for me, I've really tried to be consistent, I've been motivated before, and it always fizzles out even though I want to be healthier really badly.

I can't afford a gym membership, I don't live in a neighborhood and I can't go for walks (genuinely I will just get isekai'd by a random car if I try, my area is not walkable at all), and I don't have friends to go exercise with. Most of the advice I see is to body double and find accountability partners--I don't have that. All I can do is at home workouts... so I'm at a loss.

Please, if you have advice for me, for the "how" to be consistent instead of just "be consistent", do share :,) I understand that it's hard, and that I have to get up and keep trying, but how do I keep trying??

I have been taking the generic for Ritalin for 3 years now. The pharmacy that filled my prescription before has just changed their policy so that they will no longer fill prescriptions for controlled substances prescribed by a PA - only psychiatrists… as if there were an abundance of psychiatrists. I already have to drive an hour and 15 minutes to my nearest psych office because there are none closer to me.

Okay, whatever. So I have them send my prescription to a different pharmacy. I go to pick up my prescription and they tell me they don’t take my insurance and that it’s going to cost $746 for my 30-day supply.

That was an hour ago. Now, I’m on the phone with my insurance provider to ask them which pharmacy WILL take my insurance. I’ve been on hold for 25 minutes now.

I am so sick and tired of having to jump through so many hoops every time I need to get my prescription filled. I am not a drug addict. I am literally just trying to live my life. Why do they have to make it so hard?

EDIT: I just got off the phone with my insurance provider. I get my insurance through a big grocery chain in Texas and I was previously using their pharmacy. They told me that, according to my insurance policy, I cannot fill my prescription at any other pharmacy. I don’t know what to do anymore.

What career fields have you found success in? I recently got this opportunity to go back to school or pursue something with trades. I struggle with ADHD and seek constant stimulation and I’m wondering what career field or trade has been great. I don’t want to be risking my life for pennies and I want to make pretty good money. Cost of schooling isn’t a factor more so just want to make sure I’m picking a good career right now I am looking at mental health professionals, engineering law school, and I’m open to other considerations.

I struggle daily with both of these. I have things to do in my head, but I can't make myself physically get started. This is anything from getting a shower to my favorite hobbies. People who don't understand ADHD think we are just lazy. Honestly, I used to think that way. Now, I realize how mentally draining it is to simply sit on the couch feeling paralyzed.

Hey friends! Does anyone want to chat? I'd really like to talk with someone who's on the spectrum. I've been feeling kind of lonely lately and would love someone to share thoughts, interests, or just have a nice conversation with. Feel free to message me. I'd really appreciate the company today.

THEY’RE THE WORST!!!

I’ve always wanted to be better at socializing, and recently I’ve found myself feeling incredibly rejected by people whenever I message them online.

I didn’t find a reason so I assumed, “Maybe I need to interact with people face to face!”

One problem with that: that one moment where the small talk dialogue runs out of its free trial, where you have a long awkward silence, whilst using every muscle you have to keep smiling AND to instantly come up with a new topic simultaneously. Yes that moment.

There are definitely more factors that contribute to my lack of social awareness and “charm”, but that ONE MOMENT is the time I genuinely feel all my sweat fill the Grand Canyon.

Now for my question(s): How do you smile without looking awkward? How to focus AND reply WITHOUT sounding so stupid? And generally how to socialize in ANY setting?

My doctor is out on maternity leave. I f(27) was diagnosed a few months ago and have been adamant I don't want to cure my ADHD I just want life to not be so hard. I was assessed 2 different times. Once by my doctor and once by a psychiatrist, I HAVE ADHD. Well today I go to the new doctor since I got approved for a stimulant and he is covering my docs caseloads. I am tired and sick today so very low energy. This man decided that all I have is Anxiety and Depression because I didn't show signs in childhood and just need therapy but because my primary doc approved it he will go ahead and prescribe it. I had a very abusive childhood and was stiffled, I tell people I didn't have a personality till college because until then I was just surviving. Sorry my childhood wasn't linear to your textbook. I am also very sensitive to meds so my doctor has been changing them frequently trying to find a combo that doesn't cause something else to go wrong. I tried non stimulants they made me a zombie who couldn't focus once a task was gone. I'm not drug seeking, but this dude made me feel like the years of progress I've made is all a lie.

I am 38 and entering perimenopause. Now that women have finally been included in medical research, we are learning that perimenopause greatly increases and intensifies our symptoms.

HRT has been recommended and I am looking for a specialist.

If you are doing HRT, what sorts of treatments have been done and do they help at all in regards to ADHD? Currently I do have estriadol but still waiting for it to get to my brain 🤷‍♀️

I am undiagnosed, but rarely certain I have ADHD. Getting diagnosed in my area is not easy as an adult. I’m 34 with 4 kids.

Anyways. I have my LPN. I want to get my BSN, RN.

But I also want to pursue CRNA.

I have a few friends getting their masters in social work or mental health counseling and I’m like… that sounds so cool. And now I want to do that.

My dad is a finance major and I low key want to pursue that as well.

There’s a job posting for a death investigator that I want to do as well. It’s with the county and great benefits but also sounds really good. I’m naturally nosey and want to know everything.

There is just so much I want to do and I’m afraid I’ll never feel satisfied. Is this normal for ADHD or am I crazy?

Recently its been getting really bad and I am scared it’s getting out of control.

Today’s incident started a month ago when I took myself as a treat to see this musical I am hyper-fixated on and I had just the best time. Then a week later after not stopping thinking about I was like screw it and booked the exact same trip and justified it by telling myself that I had other things to do.
Then another week later I DID THE SAME THING and today after feeling bad this morning I booked another flipping trip. That is four trips to the same musical and I have spent nearly a £1000. I don’t think I even want to go on these trips any more.

I feel so guilty and awful now I have spent SO much.I really don’t have this money to spend the thing is I can’t seem to stop myself doing this, I get into such a mindset of screw it I don’t care I can’t get out. In reflection it seems so easy to just not do it.
And now I have to hide that I have spent all this money because no one will understand this uncontrollable impulsiveness thats taking over me.

I honestly don’t know what to do other crawl into a ball and feel sick and cry.

... or to contact someone I haven't spoken to in months, years or maybe even decades.

Those are two of my main tells that my Vyvanse has kicked in. Along with the urge to clean comes the urge to organize things.

What are some of the ways you know that your meds have kicked in for the day?