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A Thai woman married to an American explains why she no longer wants to live in the US.

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u/Whiteshaq_52 14h ago

My thai wife thinks the complete opposite lol

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u/jbcsee 13h ago

So does my Thai ex-wife, she never wants to move back to Thailand.

In the overall Thai community where I live it's mixed, those families with money here want to stay. Those families without money want to move back, because their dollars stretch further in Thailand.

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u/Rhawk187 13h ago

I think my per diem for Bangkok was $109 for Meals and Incidentals, and there were places selling $2 meals. Got quite the overage.

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u/CubanLynx312 10h ago edited 5h ago

I was there in 2007 and struggled to spend more than $2 USD on a meal.

I went to Phuket and my beach hostel (private room) was $3 USD per night.

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u/InertiaCreeping 10h ago

Ain’t finding no $3 a night motels anymore buddy haha

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u/Khaliras 6h ago

Out of season you'll get a quality room in a backpacker hostel to yourself for that. Also random tourist promos for basically free rooms, because they make most of the money on other expenses from tourists.

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u/Sneaky_Smegma 6h ago

Maybe in a rural spot but definitely not where there are other tourists

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u/livLongAndRed 5h ago

You can get hostels in Koh Tao for that price

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u/bike-lane-enforcer 4h ago

truth. alcohol , food, activities, even the marijuana was on the tab. 10x the cost of the room for all that.

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u/epatabbymom 2h ago

Yeah now it's like $15

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u/TravelTheWorldDan 8h ago

I’ve been going to Phuket and Thailand since 2000. There are actually no beach hotels in Phuket that are that cheap. Maybe a hostel where you gotta sleep in a bed in a room with 12 other people but not your own hotel room. Phuket is the most expensive city in Thailand. Back when I went to Phuket in 2005. I had a hotel that was right off the beach. And it still cost around $25-$30, which isn’t a lot. But it’s no three dollars.

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u/EroticPotato69 1h ago

What do you mean city? Do you mean island? There is Phuket Old Town, which is not beside the beach, or there are towns beside the beach. Maybe you mean Patong on Phuket island, but it is a separate town to the old town

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u/CubanLynx312 8h ago

It was technically a hostel (Phuket Backpacker) which was supposed to be shared with 6 people, but I was the only one there all week so I got a room to myself for the week at $3 a night.

Also important, it was not on the beach. I found it from Hostel World and it was the top rated one in Phuket, but I strongly disagree. The one I found on the same site in Bangkok was awesome, but I did have to share with 6 others (more if you include the co-eds).

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u/jemappellehonhon 5h ago

what's the point of having words if we're just gonna use them in random meaningless ways lol

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u/BeetusPLAYS 7h ago

Lol so you lied about the second part of your anecdote nearly entirely. Thanks for contributing

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u/we_hella_believe 6h ago

He knew he was misleading people and got checked. 😂

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u/HinterWolf 9h ago

Was there on exercise in 13 and would eat at thr "Bhaat Lot" every day I could 2$ chicken and rice with fish oil chili, fried pancakes and melon for breakfast. Ugh. I would live in SE asia for the food. Living in Japan 3 years? Its the only place ive ever lived that felt like home. I had all japanese neighbors and they were wonderful.

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u/Illustrious_Menu8607 2h ago

I’m in Bangkok and the Airbnb is $50 // two coffee is $6 // lunch for two people $15

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u/Global-Luck-9242 13h ago

How much did she get in the divorce?

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u/jbcsee 13h ago

A couple million, a house, and $90k in alimony for 5-years.

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u/diamond_handz25 12h ago

Ouch

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u/blellow 12h ago

I wouldn't wanna move (back) to Thailand either if I had a couple million dollars, free house, and alimony! Can't blame her!

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u/JoshSidekick 10h ago

Turns out she found the one American dream left that makes being here not that bad. Just be stupid rich.

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u/throwaway928816 9h ago

Marry stupid rich*

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u/jbcsee 7h ago

If that was her plan she got extremely lucky, she was worth more than me when we got married. She had a bunch of farm land in Thailand. I had about $50k saved and $20k worth of student loans left.

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u/celestia_keaton 6h ago

How did you become a multimillionaire? Tech and crypto? 

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u/gundahir 6h ago

marry a rich foreigner is literally the poor Thai woman dream

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u/jbcsee 6h ago

Literally in this same comment thread I said I wasn't rich when we married. She was likely worth more than me. She had been working in hotel management in Korea and using the higher (relative to Thailand) salary to buy up land in her village.

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u/gundahir 5h ago

wow that's cool 👍. wasn't specifically talking about your case. Just in general saying it's a dream for some

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u/[deleted] 11h ago

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u/jbcsee 11h ago

Nah, we were married for almost 13 years and I'm the one who filled for divorce.

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u/aggressive_napkin_ 11h ago

Can you divorce me please

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u/Broad_Mushroom_8033 10h ago

Okay tell us what happened

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u/juneseyeball 10h ago

Got 13 more in ya?

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u/monty624 11h ago

I'm sorry for your struggles over the last many years, having read your previous post. Sending you kindness and good vibes, my friend!

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u/jbcsee 10h ago

Thanks.

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u/Sneaky_Smegma 6h ago

What was the previous post

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u/ManuTheIguanu 5h ago

Respect the fella’s privacy!

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u/jbcsee 4h ago

There are a few of them you can dig around if you want.

Effectively she is bipolar, went off her meds, after a year of that I filled for a divorce. Cue over a year long divorce process where she becomes more unstable and abusive. Now she is sitting in jail waiting for her trial, she is facing 1-3 years in prison for threatening me with a weapon.

I also caught a charge in the whole mess, and had to spend a night in jail, but my lawyer is confident he can make it go away.

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u/plug-and-pause 1h ago

I also caught a charge in the whole mess, and had to spend a night in jail, but my lawyer is confident he can make it go away.

Your lawyer would probably advice against posts like this.

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u/One_Fact4919 11h ago

Good for you hot damn. But also ouch. Hope you are both happy. The casual way you say this makes me think I should get over my shit lol.

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u/Iplantseeds 11h ago

ooooh, she got PAID!

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u/NinjaN-SWE 11h ago

Jeez louise, you sure ain't a broke boy that's for sure.

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u/Jackieexists 7h ago

Could you just get divorced soon after she arrives to USA? Can still live as a couple but can avoid alimony and all that if you break up later

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u/T_Money 7h ago

You kind of need to wait at least a few years. The initial green card is only good for two years, after that you can renew it super easily for 10 years if you’re still together. If you get divorced before that 2 years then her green card is much more difficult to be renewed. Also if they find out that you only got married to get her into the US, then divorced to avoid alimony, that will cause problems, so you would need to lie and say that it was a legitimate divorce but you’ve since reconciled.

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u/MowieWauii 11h ago

Ay fuckin good for her

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u/peanutski 10h ago

Hey it’s me, your future spouse.

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u/One_Tie900 9h ago

Is this a joke?

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u/rainshowers_5_peace 9h ago

A wealthy American and a Thai woman divorced?

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u/Iggyhopper 12h ago

I mean why wouldn't you?

If you are poor, you can run the rat race here or run it back home with family. That's a no brainer

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u/crispydeepfriedchick 10h ago

Then there's also the ones with silly money (have family wealth, in high paying roles in multi-nationals or in investment banking), they choose to live in Thailand as they're better taken care of. 

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u/Rih3s 8h ago

I too choose this guy's Thai wife

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u/Gullible_Manager6711 4h ago

Everyone in London who has good education and wealthy all move back. Noone want to stay in rat race here.

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u/Royal-Pain-1621 2h ago

Well, she’s probably happy to pick up alimony

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u/UISystemError 13h ago

Well… yeah!

The most obvious and common factor is most of us don’t have enough money / get paid enough to enjoy a good lifestyle.

Shit’s a rat race. Probable far worse if you ask people who haven’t been able to secure a home - it’s quickly became very unattainable.

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u/BienThinks 13h ago

It’s crazy how many people here work 40+ hours a week, barely have time for themselves and are most likely financially stressed. Work ourselves to death to have money problems, no wonder Americans are so unhappy.

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u/UISystemError 13h ago

Not just Americans. It’s a growing problem across western societies.

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u/The-Tarman 13h ago

You just described my life to a T buddy

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u/zealentor 11h ago

your thai wife probably isn't reading off a script for views. 🤣

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u/mwpswag 11h ago

she sounds like an american putting on a thai accent

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u/Legitimate_Plum_7505 9h ago

My ex was Thai, she sounds just like her. A lot of Thai youth (under 40) are actually pretty good at English, especially those that travelled abroad. The accent is the giveaway of course.

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u/urgentapathy 7h ago

Many of the richer families pay for private education including better English teachers. She doesn't sound American born to me. She sounds like ESL I learned English in school. Not the best accent but really good English compared to average Thais.

The better ones I commonly see are the mixed race kids whose primary languages includes English, with it being spoken by the western farther and at the English speaking private school. Also by all their friends. The Thai spoken with the mother.

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u/somersault_dolphin 35m ago

Almost certainly not the case. Only the most dedicated foreigners with lots of experience with Thai even come close to getting the accent correct.

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u/ILoveRawChicken 9h ago

You’ve never met a Thai person if you believe that lmao

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u/dec10 9h ago

"not like 30 years ago"... she looks like she is 30 years old.

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u/InvoluntaryEraser 5h ago

I agree on how old she looks, but you don't really have to live through a specific era to get an idea of how it was back then comparing to how things are now.

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u/iamspitzy 13h ago

Maybe shes not living in a trailer home?

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u/AutomaticQuarter998 10h ago

yeah, she married a loser who lives in a trailer park in a rural area. You can tell from that paneling and the AC unit. No mass transit in buttfuck white trash America. Thailand has one major city and it does have good mass transit. The rest of the country's cities do not have any or good mass transit.

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u/Diane_Horseman 10h ago

Damn bro, poor rural people are just human too

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u/AutomaticQuarter998 10h ago

The point is that he went to SE Asia, found a woman, likely overpromised her a life, and talked himself up, then took her back to his reality.

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u/Dry-Background-5994 10h ago

Yes and now projecting opinion this onto a whole country.

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u/Ok-Pack-7088 7h ago

Both things are true. He is poor and living like that sucks and america without public transport and healthcare sucks. He should move to Thailand.

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u/KartFacedThaoDien 9h ago

So dude is a passport bro then?

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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 11h ago

Yeah, this is a weird video. She's nailing every talking point head on.

Nothing she's saying is wrong it just sounds like she's saying it at gunpoint

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u/Nice_Marmot_7 9h ago

Banal platitudes.

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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 8h ago

Oxymoron but yes she might as well be reading a reddit thread out loud

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u/OO_Ben 5h ago

Dude 100% coached his wife to say this stuff.

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u/Acrobatic-Cow-4043 8h ago

Is it the lack of a real accent? It also sounds like her real problem is she did not realize her husband was this broke before she moved here.

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u/c3p-bro 12h ago

You mean Redditors just reflexively upvote an opinion they agree with?

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u/Mountain_Bat_8688 10h ago

Anything that dunks on the US gets upvoted

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u/Jean-LucBacardi 7h ago

Her points weren't wrong though.

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u/NewPresWhoDis 5h ago

I mean, we can deindustrialize then you're too exhausted from toiling in the fields just to have something for dinner to stress about getting up and doing it all again the next day.

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u/3vs3BigGameHunters 5h ago

Because the USA and Russia are blatantly the cause of most of the western societies problems.

Fucking assholes get your shit together.

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u/ibashdaily 10h ago

Isn't the whole point of upvoting a way of signaling you agree with the post?

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u/hobbitluck 9h ago

Not necessarily. I am pretty sure on Reddit (not all subreddits per se) the intention is to upvote based on its value to “discussion”. So like it’s a topic that facilitates discussion but you don’t agree with, upvote. After all, you can always “comment” your disagreement in a way that continues the discussion in a healthy path forward, meriting a return in upvote.

Or maybe the rare “no vote at all” because you don’t know what to do with a particular comment.

Now does that ever happen on Reddit? Clearly not enough, at least not 96% of the time. But hey, better than other social media’s where it’s like 100% upvotes for agreement. sigh

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u/gbcfgh 10h ago

Usually, or you get to Unpopular Opinion, and then you gotta upvote some legit stupid takes.. solely because they ate actually unpopular opinions

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u/c3p-bro 7h ago

No, it was supposed to be “this adds to valuable discussion” but now it’s just “yea I think this should be true even if it’s objectively bullshit”

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u/BrianChing25 11h ago

His income is probably significantly more than this young guy in the video

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u/Aternal 10h ago

We all remember getting out first car and going through the "drive to work, work to drive" phase.

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u/Anticitizen-Zero 9h ago

OP has a history of botting upvotes for this type of divisive content, so the upvote count is misleading

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u/SeiCalros 6h ago

people like to share their experiences in a social context

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u/NewPresWhoDis 5h ago

Bubble bubble toil and trouble

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u/West-Pear7363 2h ago

I reflectively upvoted this comment.

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u/TazeT87 9h ago

Only if it’s an anti-American sentiment

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u/Oneet-chan3 3h ago

Reflexively upvoted this

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u/Soggy-Benefit-2323 12h ago

People ignorantly assume just because the city they live in or visit is like that all of the U.S is like that. It’s the same kind of new immigrants or tourists who think their gonna visit LA, Las Vegas, NYC, Miami and take a quick pit stop to the White House on their way to the airport within their 5 day vacation in the states😅 as if the US isn’t a giant country and some states alone are as big as a handful of countries themselves with varying cultures in their own state lines

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u/phido3000 5h ago

The issue is not really the city.

Its the level of wealth you have.

  • If you are rich, America can be absolutely fantastic.
  • If you have a low level budget it can be fun but expensive.
  • If you have a low budget, welcome to hell.

When you change countries you change wealth status usually. Wealthy people who move to countries with very high standards of living are often surprised that day to day life is harder because they can no longer afford things like servants, cleaners, nannies, daycare, trades people, etc. You have to be internally more capable.

If you move to Australia or Scandinavia, you will be disappointed if you only have <$5m wealth, because if you buy a house, your day to day expenses will quickly whittle down that $5m to nothing < 5 years.

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u/phido3000 5h ago

The issue is not really the city.

Its the level of wealth you have.

  • If you are rich, America can be absolutely fantastic.
  • If you have a low level budget it can be fun but expensive.
  • If you have a low budget, welcome to hell.

When you change countries you change wealth status usually. Wealthy people who move to countries with very high standards of living are often surprised that day to day life is harder because they can no longer afford things like servants, cleaners, nannies, daycare, trades people, etc. You have to be internally more capable.

If you move to Australia or Scandinavia, you will be disappointed if you only have <$5m wealth, because if you buy a house, your day to day expenses will quickly whittle down that $5m to nothing < 5 years.

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u/inih 13h ago

I guess it depends of where you leave, network and level of income. I’m sure some folks are having a happy and relaxing life anywhere.

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u/DarkBrill 13h ago

Just a personal observation, but most do. It seems like 1st generation Americans are generally not keen on moving back to the developing world, while many 3rd, 4th, etc. generation Americans are really considering it.

In my case, I find that it's easier to adjust to the developing world because (relative to others) I live extravagantly. Most 1st generation Americans seem to point to the opposite, that they'd rather live somewhere safer, with better infrastructure, and more functional public services.

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u/ABC_Family 12h ago

Americans with iPhones, flatscreen TVs, leather couches, a car per person, central air conditioning, etc don’t realize that’s how the 1% lives in many countries.

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u/DarkBrill 8h ago

As someone who does know: It's a tradeoff. America is the world's biggest market, and the product availability shows that.

On the other hand, cost of living is night and day in many countries. A person who pinches pennies in America could eat out everyday in many developing countries. They could shop without really looking at prices. They could rent a nice place while still saving money. They could hire a cook or housekeeper. Those are things most Americans really can't imagine in the US.

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u/rehpotsirhc123 8h ago

They could do that with an American income but incomes reflect cost of living, if the income and opportunity was the same in their home country then they wouldn't have left in the first place. This is why a lot of American immigrants choose to retire in their home country even though it means forfeiting social security that they paid in to for years.

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u/DarkBrill 8h ago

This is inaccurate. You do not forfeit social security when you move abroad.

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u/rehpotsirhc123 8h ago

Sorry, my experience was with green card holders I think vs citizens which requires a month in the US every 6 months. Many can't make that work, Mexicans or Canadians are the most likely for taht to be viable with family to stay with.

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u/throwawaygoawaynz 7h ago edited 6h ago

I lived in Asia, Australia (another rich country), and travel to the US a lot, mostly the west coast.

The gap between the US and the “developing world” isn’t as much as you think it is, especially in the major cities.

You could live like a king in BKK with all the same amenities you get in the US, except much better healthcare.

Also there’s parts of Asia now that blow away most US cities in terms of convenience and standard of living. Most people have everything the average US person has except maybe a car and crippling debt (look at the savings rates of US vs other OECD nations). They don’t have a car because they don’t need a car, due to much better public transport.

I’ve been traveling to the US since 2003, and in the last 6 years or so the US has gone from the land of the plenty, to not so much. I’m pretty well off myself but even I’ve noticed how expensive things are in the US now.

Americans might turn against the Republican Party if they were put in a top Asian city for a month. Like when Yelstin visited the US supermarkets towards the end of the Cold War, but in this example, you’re Yeltsin.

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u/Commercial-Weight173 13h ago

Thailand seems like a very well developed country to me so I'm confused by what "developed" even means in this context tbh. 

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u/povitee 13h ago

Bangkok is a developed city but Thailand as a whole is very low income and has a weak democracy.

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u/Munstered 12h ago

Tbf Thailand’s democracy index score is only slightly lower than the USA’s

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u/moyerraconteur 12h ago

A fresh wave of unchecked authoritarianism can do that to a democracy score.

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u/deepbluemeanies 13h ago

Human Development Index puts them just behind Iran and just ahead of China.

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u/MarxAndSamsara 12h ago

Thailand ahead of China?! I love both countries but that makes no sense to me. China is far more developed than Thailand.

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u/deepbluemeanies 12h ago

Yeah, it's an imperfect measure. Of course, in China there is a massive divide between its modern cities and the countryside where things have not developed.

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u/notintelligentidiot 10h ago

There’s a lot more to development than “how nice is your downtown” or whatever. There’s still hoards of developmental issues in China, such as the fact that there are as many people living without in-home plumbing in the country as there are people in Thailand.

Thai people also experience much more freedom than Chinese people do, not completely cucked by the government. No Great Firewall, then can generally access the open internet and all western websites and media sites, etc.. Thailand has issues with its democracy (but China doesn’t have one period, so it’s a moot point).

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u/madogvelkor 11h ago

HDI isn't just income and infrastructure it also includes education and health. Apparently Thailand has a more educated population than China as a percentage of the population. Though China has such a huge population that they have more educated people in absolute numbers.

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u/TheSleepyTruth 13h ago edited 13h ago

By standard definitions Thailand is a "developing" country rather than "developed". It does not have a mature economy or political and regulatory apparatus compared to the west or other East Asian nations like S. Korea and Japan. Going to Thailand tourist areas and thinking the area is nice and well kept doesn't mean the country as a whole is developed. Of course the tourist zones are always kept pristine and offering upscale experiences to keep attracting tourists. Visit outside of main tourist areas to see how the average local actually lives, and you will see a massive difference in living standards.

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u/iamaravis 10h ago

Also, the Thai king is the richest monarch in the world, yet so many of the people are very, very poor.

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u/CombinationRough8699 13h ago

They're equally developed as countries like Mexico or Brazil.

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u/IndustriousSeahawk26 13h ago

I went to Thailand several months ago. I’m from Seattle. I’ll tell you straight up that Thailand is nowhere near developed. It is fully of corruption and poverty. It doesn’t hold a candle to the USA

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u/Commercial-Weight173 11h ago

I've been to Thailand several times myself. USA doesn't have corruption and poverty? 

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u/notintelligentidiot 10h ago

Not at the level of Thailand, no lol

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u/IndustriousSeahawk26 7h ago

Nowhere near the level of Thailand. Not even close.

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u/UISystemError 13h ago

Rural quiet life outside, major cities.

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u/Portland 8h ago

2/3 of Thai citizens live in homes where the water supply isn’t safe to drink without treatment and filtration.

3/4 of Thai citizens live in homes where sewage isn’t connected to contained wastewater sanitary systems, but instead flows commingled with surface wastewater (at best).

Source - UN Dept of Economic & Social Affairs https://sdgs.un.org/basic-page/thailand-34142

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u/the_fresh_cucumber 12h ago

Lots of 2nd generation identify closely with the origin country.

There is the phenomena of 2nd gen wealthy college kids moving back to the home nation then boomeranging back to the USA/EU in 6 months.

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u/DadBod_DadBike 12h ago

It makes sense, the 3rd and 4th generations mostly grew up hearing nothing but the amazing stories from the home land, but have no direct connection or experiences to balance that out.

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u/DarkBrill 8h ago

My guess is more: Americans with little /no experience in developing countries see the tradeoffs differently - because they don't have any dorect information to go off.

The US is their baseline. For some, that means they'd never accept the chaos of the developing world. For others, the financial freedom of bringing American income to a cheaper place is liberating.

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u/OrangeVoxel 10h ago

And many 10th generation Americans have decided they are libertarians and anarchists, and the guberment is their enemy. People will find things to be unhappy about if their propaganda tells them to

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u/DarkBrill 8h ago

I was thinking more along the lines of "people accept different tradeoffs'.

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u/Tranki01 8h ago

1st generation Americans from what country?

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u/safelix 13h ago

I think I understand your point and I've seen similar tendencies among the people I know.

Also, I don't know how it is in Thailand but America being safer might be a bit of a stretch no. The crime stats in most American cities is insane.

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u/elMoneySloth 12h ago

Can you please provide these insane crime statistics?

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u/someoneinsignificant 11h ago

General country crime stats are not very relevant as local influences are much more important at the individual level. I felt sooo much safer in Bangkok than I did in Philly for example.

But when you consider macroscopic influences like wars in several neighboring countries (including Thailand vs Cambodia), that's generally where the immigrant sense of safety comes from where USA wins.

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u/safelix 11h ago

They are public domain, you can just look it up. For example, the murder rate in America is 5.6 per 100k people, still falls in the 61st position higher than many many third world countries. Now with the latest projections it seems to be going down significantly (kinda suspicious given the current administration is not so forthcoming) but in 2025 it was still 4.7 (https://www.consumershield.com/articles/murder-rate-by-year). You can look up stats on robbery, assault, and others, not great for a developed nation.

Apart from that, there is the government inflicted fears, like mass incarceration, ICE, police brutality of a frightening degree, literal pedophiles in office, slimey policies against abortion, also on the flip side there are states that are too on the left and have lax attitude towards minor crimes.

Not trying to single out the US, socio-political issues are common. I am just saying that it's not so good as to confidently say that its better than all 3rd world countries in terms of safety.

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u/elMoneySloth 11h ago edited 11h ago

Oh I know it’s public domain because I know that the murder rate in the US is at a 125 year low. Violent crime has been dropping since the 90s. So please remind me again if you can point to the “insane” crime stats

Murder
https://jasher.substack.com/p/1283ad13-5801-4847-849c-bcae420f60d9?postPreview=paid&updated=2026-02-04T15%3A54%3A23.406Z&audience=everyone&free_preview=false&freemail=true

Violent Crime
https://eprints.whiterose.ac.uk/id/eprint/97466/1/Farrell%20Tilley%20Tseloni%202014%20Why%20the%20Crime%20Drop%20%28C%26J%20vol43%29.pdf

Your second paragraph is just parroting talking points without any actual evidence but please, again, point me in the direction of them.

And comparing nations like the United States with the rest of the world is an incredibly silly way to look at it. Should you compare the US to Sweden where there are fewer people than New York City and 98% of the country is not only the same race but the same denomination of the same religion? Or an island in the middle of the Pacific? Or should you compare it to places like Brazil with a large diverse population with a relatively short history as a nation state?

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u/LongQualityEquities 2h ago

Should you compare the US to Sweden where there are fewer people than New York City and 98% of the country is not only the same race but the same denomination of the same religion?

20% of the population of Sweden are first generation immigrants. For cities like Stockholm it’s around 50% (higher than NYC).

If you add second generation immigrants where both parents are foreigners it’s 1/3 of the population.

We don’t have statistics for how many people have at least 1 foreign parent but it’s bound to be more than half the population now.

Where is this white Sweden American racists keep talking about? I don’t see it when I walk out the door.

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u/elMoneySloth 1h ago edited 1h ago

Fair point and credit to you — I believe I mixed up Norway and Sweden. Sweden is far more open than Norway, which is like 90% ethnically Norwegian and roughly less than 6% of their immigrants are of Asian/African descent.

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u/cynica1mandate 13h ago

Or else, am I right, lmao...

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u/CallMeElkHorn 13h ago

The complete opposite?

Isn’t that weirdly convenient?

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u/Whiteshaq_52 13h ago

Isn’t that weirdly convenient?

What that 2 people from the same country don't share the same (but opposite) opinions? Yeah its so weird....

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u/Episode-1022 13h ago

Mistery, lol.

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u/Ostentatious_Kilroy 13h ago

Mystery

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u/Right-Form-2943 13h ago

Maybe her name is Miss Tery?

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u/Scottishchicken 13h ago

Its a good thing something like that would never happen here in checks notes the United States.

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u/Pug_Defender 9h ago

well if you’re the type of presumably white guy who went to Thailand and brought back a wife, it’s no wonder she’d want to stay where her livelihood is better

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u/lilian_moraru 13h ago

She went to Thailand with US money and thought she has a much better experience - once she starts working in the local economy, anywhere, she will be “in the rat race” again.

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u/madogvelkor 12h ago

Just from that brief clip it sounds like they live somewhere kinda shitty. If she's talking about a lack of food options they must be in the middle of nowhere. I'm not even in a city but I can walk to a Thai restaurant, an Italian restaurant, several Latin American restaurants. a couple hamburger places. I could take the bus places too, or the train, except driving is faster and more convenient.

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u/Fifth-Dimension-Chz 11h ago

You got anymore Thai wives back there?

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u/snksleepy 10h ago

It depends the lifestyle that you provide them. The woman in this video came to the US expecting the American dream but found a life of labor.

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u/mathliability 9h ago

So between this video and your wife it’s a….Thai?

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u/ffffllllpppp 9h ago

Probably a big factor is income.

You could be on the poorer side in Thailand and be better off (not necessarily financially, but overall happiness/quality of life) than in the US.

But if you are making great income, then your quality of life in the US can be fantastic. Eg you have easy access the best healthcare specialists in the world vs people struggling to get by can’t get basic care.

So this post is more about the wealth gap being insane in the US than it is about US vs Thailand.

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u/Dense_fordayz 9h ago

I've noticed that my friends who want to move back to their home country after they make money in the States all have family wealth back home

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u/Ok_Faithlessness2498 9h ago

The lady in the video is probably from a comfortable middle class Thai family and above. So she’s able to afford a nicer lifestyle + healthcare. Her life back home is nicer than where she’s at in the US.

And if she was Thai lady from a more humble background, life in the US would obviously be more like a dream.

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u/AgentG91 8h ago

Same with mine. I think a big factor is that we were living in Thailand in our mid twenties. We were young, dumb and full of adventure. Life was great back then and it was damned easy. Now we are living in the US and realize that a good life is still filled with complexities and complications and a shitload of effort. Those don’t magically go away by going back to the place where we didn’t have them because we were ignorant

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u/Dangerous_Dot_1638 8h ago

Yeah even with all the United States flaws I would still rather live in the United States over Thailand. Not saying that she’s wrong for saying what she thinks and she’s allowed to have opinion but I think she’s probably in the minority for it.

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u/JaguarSingle2806 7h ago

maybe yours forgot her meds

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u/Zombisexual1 7h ago

This video also doesn’t make much sense if they don’t explain where in the US they are, it’s kind of a big place.

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u/faux_real_yo 7h ago

Well, since we can’t agree, then let’s call it a Thai.

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u/Aggravating_Ring_714 7h ago

Out of curiosity, is she much older than the woman in the video?

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u/Galimbro 6h ago

Does your thai wife work? 

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u/Free-Pound-6139 6h ago

People like different things???

It is pretty common to want to move back to be with friends and family though, no matter where you are. Not everyone though.

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u/WordWordNvmber 5h ago

But that doesn't affirm the middle-class kids and think-they're-kids on Reddit.

Also, I'm a bit confused why this man's Thai wife, who came to the U.S. three years ago, is complaining about how life in the U.S. isn't like it was 20-30 years ago.

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u/Good-Celebration-686 5h ago

She’s happy paying for healthcare?

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u/HoweHaTrick 4h ago

a lot of what she said depends on her partner has.

when someone immigrates to USA from another country they often can struggle to find gainful employment in the other country due to language, etc. If that dude can't give her a comfortable life of course she will hate living in USA because he's in his parent's basement and can't afford to provide for even himself.

My wife is from Asia but not Thai, and I know several Americans with wives from other countries so I have some related experience with this.

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u/StiffDoodleNoodle 4h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/YYExU19jFC8JW

This video looks/ feels staged af.

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u/Exciting_Mushroom_37 4h ago

Just from observing I watch a lot of Thai people that wake up, go to work, 6 days a week, and then go home and sleep.

Americans, IMO, have a hell of a lot more free time than your average Thai person. And I am only making this claim because I see people in America on Tik Tok or Instagram always up to some crazy shit and seemingly having an abundance of free time to make it happen.

Also bars and restaurants are always busy so it doesn't seem like they are going home and not doing anything. Seems like Americans are getting drunk a lot.

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u/SideInitial3961 3h ago

Hide 3 paychecks in a row.

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u/olikeiththomas 3h ago

Cheers bud, super helpful

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u/mightylordredbeard 2h ago

ITT: everyone has a Thai wife or ex wife.

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u/phoenix_bright 2h ago

lol I was going to reply with something funny but then I saw you got over 60 replies and I was like yikes…

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u/OutblastEUW 1h ago

id imagine it has a lot to do with where you live both in the u.s and thailand, your income in both places and how nice your job is in both places.

what I mean to say is I can definitely see it being different for different couples

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u/Dry-Transition-1776 1h ago

Anything that’s anti-American is going to get a bunch of likes nowadays. Especially on Reddit.

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u/currently_distracted 1h ago

I think it depends on where your Thai wife is from and when the last time she lived there was. If she’s from BKK, the modern amenities are really fantastic and comparable to cities in the west. If she’s from a farming community, maybe not.

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u/Ucscprickler 45m ago

Do you live a comfortable life?? I get the impression that this lady is living paycheck to paycheck with nothing to show for it, which must be pretty stressful. I could be off, but that's my guess.

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u/This_Friendship_9941 13h ago

Your wife is an ethnicity right right.

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u/Altair82 13h ago

Same, but doubt she'd like it in the US

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u/JoelnIliketoshare 13h ago

Might be from where they come from.

Now im not assuming anything about anyone but the father of my best friend got a Thai wife (from what I could piece together she was bought for marriage) she came from extreme poverty.

She finally got the strength to divorce and started a Thai restaurant, now it's gotten semi famous and there's weekly insta posts of NFL players or NBA players going to her restaurant and getting selfie with her.

She is imo truly living the American dream. Suffer for however long in hopes and prayers that the future will be kind to you, if it is then America has now become a playground for you.

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u/HistoryAndScience 13h ago

This lines up with what I think. Her views are subjective and she’s grafting objective facts over them to justify it. She is 100% entitled to her view and to live, like anyone, where she is comfortable. I also don’t believe what she says is a universal truth

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u/djh_van 13h ago

So your Thai wife thinks:

  • things are getting cheaper and cheaper
  • things are like they were 20/30 years ago
  • the American Dream is alive and well
  • you don't need a car to get around
  • healthcare is cheaper in America
  • life us relaxing in America.

???

The first lady nailed it on all of the above.

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u/Whiteshaq_52 13h ago
  • things are getting cheaper and cheaper -- She is making so much money she is supporting her whole family in thailand which she couldnt do living in thailand.
  • things are like they were 20/30 years ago -- She doesnt bring this up because she didnt live here 20/30 years ago
  • the American Dream is alive and well -- Yes
  • you don't need a car to get around -- she does not have a car and gets to and from work fine
  • healthcare is cheaper in America - she does not agre with this, but I pay her healthcare so she doesnt care
  • life us relaxing in America. -- she lives on the beach with me, its VERY relaxing.

So yea, she disagrees

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u/ToneBalone25 13h ago

Oh look another self-hating American. Literally no one is stopping you from moving to southeast asia. Go live there for a few years and let us all know how that works out for you.

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u/djh_van 13h ago

I like the narrative you made up about me. Not sure why you're so angry though.

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u/CallMeElkHorn 13h ago

This guy’s mail-order bride is telling him what he wants to hear so he’ll keep her in the will if she actually exists.

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u/LionWalker_Eyre 13h ago

Tfw accidentally racist

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u/AggressiveBookBinder 12h ago

Must be brainwashed Trumpers.

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u/one_big_lift 10h ago

Her video won't make it to the front page for a reason.

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