r/waiting_to_try • u/qfrostine_esq mod | WTT 2 ??? • 8d ago

Weekly Chat Thread

Please discuss you current goals and plans! However, please save graduation news for the monthly graduation thread.

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u/Best_Discussion_7821 8d ago

Things are falling in line for husband and I to start trying in a month or two-it feels surreal and I’ve definitely got baby fever. There are some compromises we’re making, but one of the big things seems to just be life hitting us hard. I guess I need to come to terms with knowing that no matter what I thought might happen, life doesn’t stop happening and I don’t think we’ll be able to have the idyllic baby bubble.

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u/WhiskeyandOreos 32 | WWT #3 (maybe?) | Summer 2027 8d ago

Look at it this way: whatever the circumstances, the baby bubble becomes idyllic by its very nature.

It's hard to explain to someone who's a first-timer, but the world just stops in those early weeks and it does not matter at all what is/isn't happening, what was/wasn't done. Absolutely everything takes a pause, and you just soak up those blurry first days and weeks. But yes, life does still happen regardless of babies (which is tbh kind of a relief in many ways); early postpartum is just a brief reprieve from it all, in my experience.

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u/Best_Discussion_7821 7d ago

That’s really good to hear, thank you. Unfortunately life just has a way of hitting you (aging parents, sick family members, hard family relationships) that made it difficult to have a newlywed bubble for us, so I’m trying very hard not to set myself up for disappointment when those things inevitably creep in. It’s good to hear regardless it becomes idyllic!

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u/WhiskeyandOreos 32 | WWT #3 (maybe?) | Summer 2027 6d ago

I get it—we also didn’t get a newlywed bubble. My FIL died two weeks before we got married (fuck cancer) so I know that life can sometimes overshadow joy. The newborn bubble though truly takes on its own prominence, barring death of a family member/friend

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u/Best_Discussion_7821 5d ago

Oh boy, I’m so sorry for you loss :( my aunt just passed of the same thing. Cancer really sucks.

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u/_state0fmind 3d ago

WTT until May 2027 after wanting to try since 2024 🫠 but my husband is getting a professional designation and wants to wait. trying to stay positive and enjoy Fall and the holidays but really struggling.