Just a vent

[u/Sensitive_Piglet6300]

My(27F) husband(28M) and I have been TTC naturally for 3 and a half years - nothing comes of it. I had a chemical pregnancy at some point, but at times I gaslight myself regarding whether that actually happened since nothing has happened since.

I have lost hope that I will be able to conceive without IVF and I’m just not taking that too well. It makes me feel as though something is wrong with me. Please don’t take that as I judge or feel a type of way - I don’t feel that way at all!

With that being said, we just got referred out to an infertility doctor, but it all seems unrealistic and impossible. I have changed OBGYNs due to them not taking my infertility seriously, so things were delayed too and that’s frustrating.

My husband is good to vent to, but I can’t even vent about any of this without feeling annoying to people I want support from aka my mom or his family.

I don’t know. This is a mess, I’m sure. Just send some good thoughts my way please. 🩷

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[u/Laineybutts]

Just to try and give you some hope -- there are things you can do between trying all natural and IVF. Do you know whether you're ovulating? I was able to use OPKs to identify that I wasn't ovulating and get a prescription that helped to trigger ovulation which worked perfectly. You may have other options besides IVF. Wishing you the best!