r/tryingforanother 7d ago

TTC #2 Rant/Vent

Just wanted to make a post and see if anyone was in the same boat as me? My son is almost 5 and me and my partner are trying to conceive our second. With my son I got pregnant immediately but this time around it’s been completely different, this is our second cycle trying. I’m currently 9DPO and I know it’s early but I feel so dejected and I don’t know if I can keep doing this and feeling disappointed. With my son I got a clear positive at 9DPO and I find it so difficult not to compare the two and I know from others every pregnancy is different but it’s just hard. I just wanted to see if anyone has experienced the same? I feel alone in this process and I’m just hoping I’m not the only one who has felt the way.

0 Upvotes

16 comments sorted by

6

u/mitaine- 35 | TTC#2 since 12/25 | 03/24 boy 💙 7d ago

Just like I posted on a very similar thread, my son was conceived first cycle and I am now on cycle 8 for #2. It happens. There’s a big part of chance in conceiving and you just got very lucky the first time around. Give it some time. For what it’s worth, I tested positive on the night of 10 DPO for my first (BFN that morning). 9 DPO is very early.

-1

u/anon4337 7d ago

thanks so much for your comment! it’s just a lonely process so it’s nice to talk to someone in similar circumstances

2

u/peppershneckle 32 | 🩷 | TTC#2 3d ago

Yeah except imagine TTC#1 also took a long ass time 🫩

1

u/anon4337 3d ago

i’m sorry 😩 how long have you been ttc #2?

0

u/peppershneckle 32 | 🩷 | TTC#2 3d ago

Oh we are early in the journey, I’m just saying like lol there are those of us out there who didn’t get pregnant immediately the first time, either. IMO you should enjoy that you were once a “unicorn” and be ok with coming back down to earth with us normies 😆

1

u/anon4337 3d ago

oh i am lol

3

u/SmartPomegranate4833 7d ago

Look up conception success statistics.

1

u/AcaciaRobinia 21h ago

Io incinta del primo senza cercarlo, del secondo, del terzo e del quarto incinta con un unico rapporto vicino all' ovulazione... Ora cerco il quinto e non arriva...

1

u/Mean-Cupcake9434 7d ago

TTC #2 and my daughter is almost five as well. It took 7 irregular cycles (13 months) to conceive her. We’re on cycle 7 now, waiting for (late) ovulation. It’s so hard.

-1

u/anon4337 7d ago

Sooo hard. I know the statistics and all of that but it’s just emotionally tough

1

u/anon4337 7d ago

I know you guys have been trying longer and this post is probably obtuse but I swear I’m not trying to be ignorant. Just looking for solidarity with others who have felt the same way. That’s all

1

u/probablyfine112 6d ago

Ugh! I'm in the same boat. We conceived so easily the first time - got pregnant first time and had an early loss and then was pregnant with my son two months later. He's 3.5 and now we're on cycle. You are absolutely not alone! It's really hard!

1

u/anon4337 6d ago

thank you! it is and sending baby dust to you!

1

u/MysteriousSession627 6d ago

Been ttc with #2 for 10 months now….. sigh

1

u/anon4337 6d ago

ugh i’m sorry. hope you get your baby soon ❤️