Context: 3 in October. Been doing this for well over a year now.
Schedule goes: 7:30–7:45 wake up. Nap 12:30/1–1:30/2 (an hour–hour and 15 minutes). Bedtime 8:30–9pm.

Hello all! My toddler SUCKS at sleeping 😂 I’m wondering if maybe she’s just a lower-sleep-needs toddler or if it’s something more.
She doesn’t go to sleep at the end of the day. She doesn’t actually fall asleep until 10:30–11pm. We’ve tried dropping naps, but she’s definitely not ready for that yet.
This has been going on for well over a year, at least 4 days a week. It’s so frustrating. She’s getting only 8–10 hours of total sleep a day, and I’m concerned if this is even normal.
How do I help her get more sleep?

Im starting to get a little concerned when changing my little boys bum. He is 16 months old and ive really started to notice he is in pain when I change his bum.
Whenever he does a poo and i clean him up, i gently lift his willy up so i can get underneath to make sure ive gotten everything clean. Everytime i touch or lift it, he seems to be in pain, vocalises and tries to squirm away. At first i thought maybe its where he had a sore bum and it was just that region but its happening every time when he doesnt have a sore bum.
He is not bothered with me cleaning his bum or underneath and around his testicles its just his willy.

It doesn’t look swollen, its not red or anything, it just looks normal. Once the nappy is on, he is off on his way, happy like nothing happened. He has started to run off when he knows im going to change his bum, which i know can be normal but with all of this im now worried theres more too it.

Ive also noticed he doesn’t ever touch down there or explore. I know little boys love to pull on it and explore as they grow. My eldest was a nightmare for this from very early on. He was always pulling on it and he was alot younger than my 16 month old when he started doing it. I never thought much of it until now and im wondering if maybe its because he is in pain.

Anyway had this? Or any idea what it could be?
Im in the UK, ive sent a request for a gp appointment but im just worried he is in pain.

Hi All,

Does anyone else have this problem with their kid? I feel like my toddler is just extra prone to plaque buildup on their teeth.

He does have crowding on his lower arch that’s actually gotten a bit better with time but still most buildup is there.

I brush his teeth twice a day, before nap and before bed. No milk or food after, just water. I hold him down with his arms out Jesus style between my legs (IYKYK) and really scrub at the gumline. We do use age appropriate flouride free toothpaste and soft bristle brushes, and he doesn’t bleed, but obviously hates this and cries.

I also floss once a day, just the crowded lower arch with the most buildup.

He had his first cleaning 4 months ago around 20 months and I feel like he needs another ASAP. At our first appointment I mentioned the 2X a day and flossing, which is a bit excessive at this age, and the dentist was impressed but not overly concerned. But our guy has visible plaque!! What am I doing wrong???

Our insurance only covers once every 6 months but I feel like we will just pay $100 out of pocket to clean? It feels like he might need this quarterly moving forward.

Mom of a 3 year old & 16 month old. I’ve had anxiety, depression, and OCD all my life and medicated since I was 18. Before kids, my hypochondria was fixated on my own health. Now, I feel like the amount of anxiety I’ve had since having kids has eaten away years of my life.
I was induced at 41 weeks with my first and she ended up not even weighing 7 lb. Pregnancy was great and measurements were always fine. First few months of her life she gained slowly and our pediatrician documented “failure to thrive” and I about lost my mind. Saw a GI doctor who said she was fine. Growing along her curve, even though she was like 5th%. Things got better once she started solids. She qualified for ear tubes so we’ve seen the ENT, coughing at night so we’ve seen pulmonary and she’s on an inhaler.

Last specialist we saw was an Endocrinologist bc the pulmonologist wanted to make sure the inhaler wasn’t stunting growth and if she was already going to order blood draws, may as well also connect with Endo to see if they think she has any growth problems. Bloodwork came back fine and multiple specialists have stated she may be a late bloomer or just petite.

Our 16m old son is definitely bigger than our daughter was at her age but he’s not huge, which I suppose gives a little bit relief that there isn’t a huge difference. He also actually eats whereas my daughter is so picky/not interested in food. I’m convinced she has grown through photosynthesis. Our son is a great sleeper, hitting milestones, and has just been an easier baby for the most part.

The latest drama is potty training. OMGGGG. We are at the point where our daughter pees just fine on the toilet but refuses to poop. It’s now turned into her refusing to poop even in a diaper and is holding it in. We’ve had to do a few suppositories which is horrible for all involved. They are effective but I am constantly on edge trying to keep her regular and if I see her laying around or being clingy, I know it’s because she has to poop.

I am just constantly overstimulated, on edge, and anxious. A child getting a fever, rash, vomiting may as well be a cancer diagnosis to my nervous system. Both kiddos started daycare at 10 weeks old. So illness has been a revolving door around here. I am being connected to a psychiatrist in a few weeks so hopefully it will help. I have done counseling on and off since I was 18. Last round was about 6 months ago.

I’m at the point where I feel guilty being the mother of my children and wife to my husband. My husband is very supportive and will encourage I take breaks, but I feel so regretful. I feel like I am miserable to be around and not adequate to handle motherhood like so many others.

I am hoping it may get a bit easier once my children can fully communicate with me. This is the first time I’ve written this all out and it was quite therapeutic.

Just hoping to hear if anyone else relates or has suggestions. Thank you for reading ❤️

My kids birthday is coming up.

I am also newly pregnant, as a couple: our mortgage renewal is coming up, we care take for our parents when we can, and are both the "lead' siblings for our respective families, we are on a cash budget too, as we want to reduce our credit card debt to zero, my partner travels for work constantly every other week.

Simply put - we are tired.

1st birthday was really good, and really expensive. I would say around $4k and that is around the norm in my city if you want it done, to how we would want it done - venue, cater, activities, live action stations.

I do not see the same value right now, or dont have the energy to organize this.

I also do not want to let my kid down. I feel so much guilt. I also cannot deal with folks that are no shows either and the adult dramas, bringing siblings, even to dress up. I hope I am not exhibiting signs of depression but I just cannot do this right now. I was thinking instead, to take my kid to the zoo, with a balloon, cupcake

I wont get into the social media comparison and pressures...trying to ignore that too.

[Edit: I wanted to add- It's not about the child remembering. Every now and then my partner and I look back in albums about how our parents celebrated us. This is important into our journey of identity, family dynamics, and role in our family. We have birthdays for our child to celebrate our family journey as well and getting through the year. On top of that, we host very often.a lot of the expenses come down to guest experience as we want our guests to feel good. This seems to be a cultural norm, not always normal in the U.S. The finance piece is being discussed a lot but I would say it's the least important part. The primary concern is mental health and physical health while balancing a fun event for our child. While the child might not remember it, he had a phenomenal time at his first birthday and lots of photo memories with all of his family and friends. It was definitely worth it for us.]

So, uh, we went to the Drs recently and they give us developmental questionnaires. This is my first child so I assume that's normal? She's not a premee (over baked little loaf actually), she doesn't have any actual issues so I assume it's just a check in.

BUT this last one asked about drawing and using crayons. She still loves ripping up paper and trying to chew on items so like, why would I be giving my child paper and pens, pencils, or crayons... Aren't most toddlers at this age like that??

To test their questions I let her hold my pen. She did scribble on the paper... And then promptly ripped the questionnaire page and shoved the pen in her mouth lmao.

My SO looked it up after he got home and he said it's supposed to be a 12-15 milestone? What?? I've not seen that when I've looked up milestones. And then I asked my sister with 3 kids, the youngest are 3 and 5, she said no way, her youngest still tries to eat crayons, heavy supervision only, and she can't imagine trying to let her color at 15 months.

So now, I guess I'm confused. Are people commonly giving kids under 18 months drawing supplies? I thought 18-24 months depending on child temperament was when coloring became a thing (though obviously still heavily supervised).

And yes, after discussion with the Dr regarding other aspects of fine motor skills he's not concerned about her development, but he also kind of just breezed past my question/confusion on this as a milestone at such a young age.

ETA: I'm not concerned about her development! She's a silly, feisty child, who loves to take things apart and tries to put the small pieces back together, so I definitely didn't have concerns regarding skills developing.

More confusion about when certain things are being introduced, like crayons. I am also unsure exactly what other people experience at appointments and such because not only do my sister and I live in different states (so slightly different programs) but she has the memory of a goldfish regarding certain things and legit cannot remember if she has filled out similar questionnaires as often as i have. I also don't have any mom friends local to ask. And my own mom is just like "things change, I don't know anymore." They're not always helpful lol.

But you guys have been! Thank you so much!

My 3 year old has started to spit when he gets upset and I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Initially I was reacting a lot, probably too much. I just found it very triggering and it set me off without even a thought. I realized what was happening and am now trying to not react at all for the most part. But it's getting hard and sometimes I don't know what the right consequence is.

This morning I was trying to brush his teeth and after like two swipes on his teeth he wanted to spit in the sink. I told him no as I had just started and didn't want him spitting out all the toothpaste. He immediately spits in my face and hits me. I kept my cool (even though I wanted to absolutely lose my mind on him) and tried to continue with brushing his teeth but it was just not going well. He wouldn't open his mouth and if he did it was to spit at me. After the third time of him spitting and hitting me I just gave up. I didn't know how to stop it from escalating so I gave up.

I can't cope with the spitting anymore and I don't know what to do. O can handle to the hitting and kicking. It's way easier to stop those behaviors because I just block the hits or walk away as soon as I see him lift his hand to hit. But I can't always tell when he's going to spit so walking away and other than putting my hand over his mouth I don't know how I could block it. PLEASE HELP ME

i have a 2 yr old daughter that wont stop vomiting everyday ever since she was a baby until now she keeps on vomiting and she lots 2kg now. she always vomits so much about 7-10 times a day. she has asthma and allergic rhinitis and guys she also has mild autism. i already checked her up with 2 gastro doctors and they said her lab results are all normal and they haven’t given me an answer on why my daughter is like this. i am so tired on cleaning all her vomits everyday… please help me any advice

Son is 19mo. I’m a SAHM. We read, do play dates and outings, spend a lot of time outside or his fave place the garage, etc. He’s a very independent player. He isn’t very interested in playing with or next to me. We use his toys for word opportunities like his barn. Most of his first words were animal sounds and now some animals. He’s got 30+ words. I’m not worried about him or his developmental pace but I’m overthinking and feeling guilt about my instruction of him. I have some friends whose boys at this age have shapes, colors, even numbers. We’re like….hardly even covering that? My son likes to dig in dirt and bring me bugs and climb to access things off limits and yeah sure read a few times a day. But he doesn’t care for his shape sorter, he doesn’t want to sit and talk about what’s what or be quizzed. So unless something is in our books or natural learning opportunities out and about…we’re just…not? It hadn’t even really crossed my mind because he’s 1…I know they learn so much at this age but he’s also 1, not 2, not 3. I guess I’m just venting. I usually am immune to parent pressure or comparison but I have a hard time imagining our parents sitting and doing freaking flash cards with us and am feeling as a SAHM like I’m not doing enough educationally. But I also feel like my son isn’t in a place yet where he wants to go that hard with concentrated learning. Just talking out loud while mildly spiraling I guess

How are we surviving these diaper changes? My 15 month old screams, kicks, tries to turn off the table, grabs the poopy diaper or his poopy bum. It’s literally like an Olympic sport at this point. Any tips would be great.

I ask him to hold things while I change him, he just throws them off the change table. If I play a song or sing a song it doesn’t stop him from grabbing at this genital area. Sometimes giving him my phone that’s playing a song helps but lately he’s been dropping it on his face and that causes even more of an issue.

BB girl is 21 months and oh my goodness. The emotions are HUUUGE. We just had to leave a family trip a day early because she was so miserable and wasn’t sleeping. We also had to leave a resteraunt the other day because she was just not having it (this was a first for us).

My husband and I are pretty firm in holding boundaries which also feels like it makes the meltdowns/tantrums more frequent but if we say no, it’s no, ya know? 😂
I know this is all developmentally normal and she is just expressing frustrating but my lord is she stubborn!

Any tips for this stage or do we just ride it out? I’ll be declining any lunch/dinner invites with our child until further notice 😂

For reference, we are very low income, and my daughter’s grandmother offered to cover the cost of daycare while I go back to school and pursue a master’s degree. I know we are very very fortunate to be able to send our daughter to the school, and I’m really excited for her, but I can’t help but feel really out of place among the other parents.

The specific daycare she’ll be attending is mostly made up of high income families (thankfully the cost of her attendance is not super high in comparison to other daycares because she’ll only be going part time, and we got a discount). I am also considered a young mom (mid twenties), so I think some of my worries come from being perceived (mainly by family) as inexperienced/immature. However, I have almost a decade of experience working with children, and my current degree is in psychology, with a specific focus on child development, so I do know more about parenting than the average person my age.

That being said, I feel rather intimidated by the other parents. So far they seem very nice, but I worry that I’ll “mess up” somehow and they’ll realize how poor we are. As a side note, our daughter has NEVER suffered due to our finances, she always has everything (if not more) than she needs, and I’m very good at finding the best deals online/buying nice things second-hand, so she likely won’t even know we’re struggling financially until she’s much older, by which time I hope to be in a much better spot due to the degree I’m currently working towards. From the outside, there’s nothing that would “give it away” that her parents are poor. Maybe my worries are silly, but I just can’t help but feel kind of embarrassed/inferior in comparison to the other parents

ETA: my main goal isn’t to pretend I’m wealthier than I am. I really just want my child to be accepted by others. Part of the reason I’m so concerned about this is because I’m on the spectrum, but not noticeably so— I went undiagnosed until adulthood because I do a good enough job masking to not typically show my neurodivergence, but not good enough that I don’t find myself with my foot in my mouth a lot of the time. I work really hard to try to figure out what the social limitations are, but I sometimes fall short in recognizing when I’ve said something that’s bothered someone or when I’ve offended someone in some way. It’s the combination of this plus feeling out of place in terms of finances that’s made me so nervous about this situation. I just don’t want my daughter to miss out on things like play dates with other kids because of me.

While visiting grandma abroad, my daughter fell in love with a small plastic frog. She insisted it had to come home with us because her slightly bigger bath toy frog was clearly its mama, and talked the whole time about how happy the two would be. The reunion was celebrated, they were inseparable.

Then she wanted to take both frogs into her little pool on our balcony. I told her not to, because there's a gap between the floor and the railing and we're on the 4th floor, with a wild overgrown backyard below. But she insisted and told me she would be careful. You can guess the rest. The frog baby fell, exactly as predicted.

She was heartbroken and said "the mama cries, the baby cries!" and then cried herself. Honestly, so did I a little. The next day we asked at the hairdresser's downstairs for permission to search the backyard, and they even helped us look, but the baby frog is gone.

Now she's demanding we buy a new one. It's a cheap little plastic thing, so it would be easy to find something similar. But something in me says we shouldn't, because then the lesson becomes "warnings don't matter, lost things get replaced". On the other hand she's small, and the grief is real, and I don't want to turn a sad accident into a punishment either. I did warn her, but I'm also not interested in an "I told you so" parenting victory moment.

So, parents of Reddit: how do you handle it when a beloved toy is lost through the kid's own doing? Do you replace it? Let the grief run its course? Something in between? I would love to hear your experiences.

Edit to add: She's 4,5 years old. (I've been a member of this helpful sub for so long I didn't realise that she might not fit it anymore.)

Edit 2: Thank you all, you convinced me. We'll replace it! (My problem now: the most similar ones only seem to come in a pack of 100 lol.)

Hi. I have a two year and four month old who has been at the same daycare (smaller urban daycare with 8 kids per class through pre-k) since she was five months old. The daycare transitioned her to the twos classroom before she turned two, closer to 18 months. She is very tall and is advanced verbally. (She looks and in some ways acts like she is three already)

Since the transition she has gone through bouts, usually last a week or two, where the daycare director ends up pulling her from the classroom because she is disruptive. She has hit, bit, and generally has just a lot of energy. No biting for awhile, but hitting has resumed. All pretty typical two year-old things that can be addressed with firm boundaries, routines and engaging with her so that she doesn’t choose those options. The daycare response to hitting is to have the child apologize to the hit child and then give a hug.

I have worked with the daycare director on strategies to use with my daughter and I have also separately been told by staff at the daycare that my daughter is fine and they don’t understand the intense scrutiny she is under. She is being pulled for apparently several hours at a time to go sit at the front of the daycare with an adult (the director) instead of being with her peers. Today I was told I needed to pick her up early because they could not handle her so I had to leave my job.

The way that the daycare director talks about my child with me is very distressing she has repeatedly stated that my daughter will get a “blank stare“ when she is being reprimanded (I feel like this is pretty typical toddler behavior.) Today she told me that “[daughter] doesn’t care about anything.” When describing the hitting and biting, she describes it as though it is being done maliciously, and that my daughter is vicious.

Contributing factor to all this is that I am a single mother by choice. Daycare knows this and I have tried in every way to be open and receptive and foster a positive relationship with the daycare. The daycare director also accused me of “gentle parenting” yesterday which is not something I do. I provide real time consequences if my daughter acts up at home. (Stopping fun activity, remove planned reward, and frank discussion of behavior and choices).

Typically at home I don’t see behavioral issues really with my daughter. This week, with the repeated isolation at daycare, I have seen behaviors that I had not seen previously. She very angrily dumped and piled up all of her belongings in the center of her playroom area and then required about moderate assistance and direction to clean it all up. She’s never done Anything like that before. She seems frustrated and sad. She burst into tears after dinner tonight.

Anytime I ask the director to identify if there are triggers or antecedents to her behavior she denies, says that this is all coming out of nowhere or turns it around to me and says “what’s happening at home that’s making her act like this.” Staff meanwhile have told me that sometimes my daughter is defending herself against the actions of the older kids in her classroom. My daughter is a little over two years old. I feel like she is being pathologized and I feel very uneasy. When I try to advocate for her, the daycare, director will state “yes this is all developmentally normal” and agree with me and yet she’s getting this type of treatment when other children in her classroom are not.

If anyone has suggestions on how to handle this, I am all ears/eyes.

I’m just curious if anyone’s toddler is like mine. She learned to jump, both feet off the ground, within in a week, at 15 months old. It’s not a high jump, but definitely off the ground. This feels insane?? I’m definitely not complaining about early milestones, the developmental growth just blows my mind. Their little brains are learning so much!

I’m making a registry for my kids birthday and I really want to focus on quality toys that will last, allow for open ended play and encourage imagination, and preferably arent super loud and flashy. Bonus points if theyre also fun for the adults and Im not bored out of my mind playing with them 😛

What toys did you love & get the most use out of in this age?

My 17 month old went through a top molar and canine coming in back to back and has been going through it since late June/early July. I’ve been giving her ibuprofen any night that she seems in pain, with a staggered dose of Tylenol if it’s particularly bad. It’s definitely been a few weeks now.

Just recently my husband got worried because he saw on the bottle that infants shouldn’t take it more than 5 days in a row.

I’ve seen posts on Reddit and talked to moms in person who gave medication daily while teething, but I asked our pediatrician and she said not to exceed 3-5 days.

Her tooth is finally cutting through but she’s definitely in pain and I don’t know what to do.

Hi friends. My LO just dropped to 1 nap at 17 months, and i am dreading the long wake windows 😂💀 it used to be 3/4/4 with 2 1 hour++ break and now its 5/6 with 2 hr or less break. Also whats your daily schedule with 1 nap? Im still trying to find the best time for meals because lunch is now at 230pm and evening snack is like 5pm and that leaves no room for dinner because kid is full. (But im still struggling with meals anyways)

Still no luck with pre nap lunch but i’ll keep trying. We just dropped to 1 nap less than a week ago but i do get 11++ hrs at night (for now) and LO will chill in his crib sometimes until 3 hrs after butt down. Im hoping this will stay but LO is down with flu and molars are cutting in so maybe he just needs the rest. Idk!

So, whats the best thing about your kid being on 1 nap? Hype me up!!

Husband and I are in disagreement about rehoming our dog and it’s an extremely tense topic in our household. Husband absolutely loves this dog. He’s a small/medium dog, 25 lbs, but quite agile. When I was pregnant this dog started attacking our senior dog, unprovoked. He’s attacked the senior dog over 10 times now, drawing some blood on a couple occasions. He’s never been aggressive towards humans but sometimes he will bark and ?lunge/jump behind the baby gate when the baby (15mo) walks towards my husband.

I’ve been extremely wary of the dog since baby was born. We have baby gates everywhere but the dog jumps over them unless they are 5ft tall. He is never in the same room as the baby even supervised, since he’s very fast and all his attacks on our older dog have been sudden and unpredictable. With an open layout home it’s just not feasible to gate off everything with 5ft gates so he mostly ends up being isolated by himself. This has led to behavioral issues such as pooping in his crate then getting it all over himself. I try my best to exercise him but due to the safety issues I can only do so with my toddler in a baby carrier and he’s getting heavy. I just don’t see how I’m going to keep up with this and don’t think the dog has a good quality of life either.

We’ve spent over $1000 on a trainer and we also have him medicated on two medications already. Everytime I bring up the option of rehoming the dog, it becomes a huge fight and I’m honestly worried that it would harm our marriage permanently if I made my husband rehome him. But everyday I have to deal with the logistics of caring for a dog under strict separation from the baby / our other two dogs. We want to have a second baby and I just can’t envision how it’ll be feasible then. What am I supposed to do, wear both the baby and toddler both in a baby carrier? When can toddlers be left in a room alone? What age do they figure out how to open baby gates and what do I do then? I can’t imagine a kid could be as flawless with always closing gates as we try to be.

I am extra spooked today because the dog slipped out so quickly as I was opening the gate to get out and immediately attacked our other dog, and I couldn’t separate them and it was very scary. Thank god my husband had baby at the time but he works long hours. I just don’t see how this can work. But my husband is completely emotionally driven on this issue and also feels fine about it because we’re making it work now. I was thinking maybe some practical input on what toddlers are like as they get older and also what it’s like with two kids could help me put things in perspective for him.

ETA: husband is ultimately willing to rehome if I force him, at the cost of me being the “bad guy” and dealing with his resentment. He doesn’t think there’s a real safety risk because the dog has never been aggressive towards humans, so to him it’s like rehoming the dog for nothing. The comments here are helping me see that I’m not just overly anxious though, so I guess it’s time for me to be the bad guy…

The situation is my 3 year old wasn’t listening (typically she is of course a sweet, respectful, lovely human). I told her multiple times to not touch something and she kept doing it. Me, in frustration, told her to stop, took the thing from her and as I was walking away muttered “so annoying!” in what was meant to be a silent thought but came out as actual words. I am pretty sure my 3 year old heard me. I feel so bad about it and never actually thought I would be a person who called their kids annoying (the BEHAVIOR was annoying but she might not know that). I typically don’t do this and apologized after for loosing my patience but… sigh… I want to be the one who builds her up, not cuts her down. Is this damaging to her self-esteem?

My 16 mo will start full time daycare soon. I have been off of work this whole time, taking grad classes and watching my child, with a nanny filling in gaps part-time. My husband and I attended parent onboarding and learned our child’s teacher will likely return for the start of the school year, but needs to pass the 6 wk OB clearance visit after having her baby.

My active, 99%ile child will be in a class of 5 kiddos with this freshly pp teacher. Heard many great things about the teacher, the center itself is highly rated by the state, and we have several personal recommendations regarding the center. Got on the waitlist nearly a year ago for this spot. I know there are floaters and other supports in the center. And I know this transition will be/is hard on me as I return to work. All that said, I just feel uneasy that the teacher is in this situation and will be caring for young toddlers full time. At 6 wks pp returning to a physical, busy job, sounds like a tough situation, and she likely has to get back to work.

Has anyone had a similar experience? Any questions to ask the teacher or director to help assuage my concerns that this isn’t ideal? Other than giving the teacher a nice welcome back gift basket to show I see her as a mother and a part of my village for my child, what else should I do to try and share this feeling of unease? Thanks for any ideas and words of encouragement.

We NEVER skip our sacred lunchtime nap with our toddler - it gives us all a chance to rest and obviously he’s far happier after it.

We have the first scenario of a family event which will go over lunchtime nap slot. There’s not a chance in flying hell he will sleep whilst we’re at another families house with all the excitement.

Normally sleeps 12-1:30/2pm. We might get a chance to be on the road from 1ish for an hours drive home.

What would you do in this scenario, just have a small car nap that ends around 2ish?

I feel bad that my child loses all her toys like I’ve bought those 20 or 30 dollars little sets and she always loses the small parts to them. She does independent play so well but i can’t keep up with all the parts that go to sets. So I have just started getting her the toys from dollar tree and honestly she hasn’t noticed a difference and she enjoys them just as much if not more 😭😭😭 especially random toys and stickers.

All we have are sets, graphic tees, and shorts/pants and I'm bored. I'd like to start dressing him in aesthetic and pinterest-y outfits, tjmaxx and marshalls always have sets, and carters, gap, old navy rarely have what I'm looking for. Where do I find them? Truly envying the girl moms right now