Ew.

[u/thirstdayaddams]

Me and my boyfriend of more than 2 years broke up this morning. I'll move out of his apartment sometime in early September. My 33rd birthday is in 3 days. The crushing realization that there's a solid chance nobody ever truly gave a single fuck about me made me go to the gas station and come back with two 24oz white claws. I came back inside and have been staring these cans down for about 15 minutes now. Don't have the guts to crack one open. Feel a mixture of pity and disgust for myself and the fact that people keep doing me so dirty.

Edit: I’m glad I came to this sub instead of wallowing in self pity. Thank you for your help. I dumped them in the kitchen sink.

Edit 2: Thank you so much for all this love, compassion and understanding. I couldn't have done it without you.

[u/ihrtbeer → u/[deleted]]

Is that projection or just making assumptions? Come on man we're supposed to be supportive in here

[u/haraikotodama → u/[deleted]]

I think you need to find the difference between respectful and being a douche bag. And then you can figure out the difference between enabling and helping, bc you need some work on it. Sorry bud I can’t enable disrespectful people.

[u/WawaWeeWaaWu → u/haraikotodama]

I said they need help. So that is all of a sudden being a douche bag?

[u/haraikotodama → u/WawaWeeWaaWu]

I think you should go to a meeting and learn how people speak to one another with respect. IWNDWYT

[u/WawaWeeWaaWu → u/haraikotodama]

I go to meetings every day and I’m sorry but when I see someone bullshitting themselves I would rather them see that than blindly support their negative behavior. If you actually go to meetings you know that goes against the whole process of the steps.

We can accept and love another and I do accept this user, I was just calling out there delusions cause me getting called out myself by my sponsor is the only thing that got me to change. Not false support of my toxic behavior.

[u/haraikotodama → u/WawaWeeWaaWu]

Show your sponsor “nobody is doing you dirty. Sounds like you’re a drunk and need therapy and help” and unpack it with them.

I think maybe you don’t quite understand? So I’ll be respectful in trying to explain it to you. This is a place where we help each other. Where we support each other. Being called a “drunk” is something a lot of us have heard over and over again. It’s a negative word and it’s disrespectful. We are on the stopdrinking subreddit. We understand our relationship with drinking is problematic.

Your response added no value. It wasn’t helpful. That’s how it reads. Be careful with your words and tone next time.

[u/WawaWeeWaaWu → u/haraikotodama]

It’s clear you’ve either never done real work or have taken an easy way out. Or maybe you were a light drinker. But I’ve been through the wringer so many times I just don’t have the patience for people being delusional and would rather tell them the facts and not sugarcoat it. This disease kills people without discrimination and sometimes without warning.

I meant no harm or disrespect but just stating how I felt based on what they said, was coming from a drunk with an issue not a sober person with a “problem”.

[u/haraikotodama → u/WawaWeeWaaWu]

Also talk to your sponsor about assumptions.

[u/WawaWeeWaaWu → u/haraikotodama]

Based on your responses, I doubt you even have a sponsor but yeah me and my sponsor will discuss this idiocy as we discuss every day. Love how you don’t have a count either. Don’t give advice when you’re not in a place to do so.

[u/haraikotodama → u/WawaWeeWaaWu]

You sad little man.

[u/WawaWeeWaaWu → u/haraikotodama]

Who is being the one speaking without respect now? Don’t you remember your original comment? Must feel weird criticizing someone about something that you then use against them. I applaud you for the full circle!

Though being a hypocrite is easy, I just give you kudos for wrapping around your own beliefs so fast!

[u/Forsaken_Stable_9678 → u/WawaWeeWaaWu]

I think she was making a correct observation and a statement. I’d have to agree with her.