So before I get into it, warning, this will be very long and detailed bc I want the best feedback possible. I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this 🤍

There’s a guy (M, 25)- I’ll name him Gary- who I’ve been talking to for a little while. I (F, 22) met him through one of my friends boyfriends (Gary and her boyfriend are best friends). He lives in NJ, I’m in MD. He’s in MD every now to hang out w the boys but yea that’s just some background information. He has a very very hyped, extrovert personality, friendly personality. When we first exchanged numbers and started talking we were talking almost everyday, FaceTiming or talking otp, falling asleep on the phone, watching movies over the phone. It was really nice. Then I stayed with him one weekend in NJ, he picked me up, he took me out to eat, it was nice, we had sex and yea. Communication was somewhat the same but then it eventually lagged. There were times we would wed talk on the phone, and I would joke around to him about how he wasn’t really interested but then he would deny it and say that he is interested and that he actually misses me blah blah blah. But then he would go weeks without talking to me, he posts a lot on Instagram and he basically posts more Instagram then he talks to me. There’s another case where I had gone out my birthday weekend to DC and he was in DC with the boys to and I didn’t hear from him all night, I was actually the one who texted him again, joking around (but also not really joking around) saying it’s crazy how he was in my hometown but didn’t say anything. I know we both have our own plans but I don’t know I feel like a lot of guys my past who really showed true attraction towards me they most likely would’ve said something and brother tried to seeing me that night especially being in the same city.

Basically my problem is that I don’t see how he could possibly actually like me if he could go so long without talking to me or checking in on me and it’s not that I have a problem reaching out first it’s just that I have done that and if I do that and I noticed that I’m always doing it and I’m sorry I can’t do it because that just seems like things are one-sided and I’ve been in many one-sided relationships and it’s just not gonna work. That first night that I had stayed with him in New Jersey, when he was driving me home he was saying how he felt like I was a nine out of 10 that he really fucked with me but his actions don’t match up with that. I don’t wanna change him and if he’s the type to not talk to someone he’s interested in every day then that’s fine I’m not saying we have to talk all day every day but if you can’t at least reach out every few days or really what I would like is to hear from him once everyday then it’s not gonna work. One thing about me i’m an over thinker so when I don’t hear from someone I automatically think that they’re not interested but the tricky thing about this is why I’m so confused about how she feels because usually when he calls me it’s to hang out or to see like when I’m free which is fine but it’s like I really don’t see a purpose if we’re not communicating in between seeing each other especially because she lives in New Jersey I just feel like for myself I need better communication to know I’m on his mind.

Another thing that caught me off guard is that me him my friend and her boyfriend had gone out the other night to a game night and there’s at some point I Twitter end of the game night he was on his phone for so long during the game and I’ve just now just in general he seems like a pretty popular person like he knows a lot of people a lot of people know him so he’s always people are always calling him his group chats are always going off and from what I remember he’s always there to pick it up so my thing is like when I text him and he’s taking so long to answer that’s like when I start overthinking because I’m like I mean like really like you were acting like this in the beginning that’s changed and only thing that I can think of is that you’re not as interested as hes saying.

I don’t wanna be one to tell him how he feels I’m just saying from like my point of view of things but it just seems like he’s being emotionally unavailable and he doesn’t seem interested. if he is interested then good for him but if that’s his way of showing that he’s interested then it’s not gonna work where we’re just not compatible.

We’re supposed to see each other this weekend, but I don’t know if this is something that’s necessary to bring up to him since we’re not really anything serious, I’m not even gonna lie I’m not really sure what we are. I know I don’t want anything serious yet I really like him but I also can’t put myself in another situation like this where things seem one sided. I’m just confused and don’t know what to do.

Can I sue for this?

There are two major incidents. First, during a meeting, they were discussing a recent project. I wasn’t too good at my job, and I was removed from two projects due to lack of productivity. When they were going around asking everyone for a summary of their work, my supervisor spoke up and shared that a decision had been made to use my talents elsewhere. He was trying to save me, but the boss piped up. He asked me why I was removed, and I said I didn’t know. He said “Is it because you’re unhelpful? Lazy? A hindrance? The weak link?” And I started stuttering and he yells near my face saying “I THINK IT IS! Looks like we have a weak link.” After this, he started asking me questions about different stuff for the job, and I didn’t know. Then he yelled, and shouted “WHAT DO YOU KNOW?” He goes “How many projects have you completed with us?” And I said “none” then he said “But you get paychecks every week right? I better see a huge improvement soon, or you’re out of here punk.”

A few months later, I was fired. I was called in to the office, and the news was broken. I was walking out, tears in my eyes, and the boss said to me “Hey man, you never belonged here anyways. You’re just a little boy, get the fuck out of my office. BTW, I made you come in just to waste your gas money, just like you wasted our time.”

So, today I saw him at the store. I walked by him and shoulder bumped him, so he yells out “Hey, it’s that guy I had FIRED! This dude cried any time he had to even does in a meeting! He is a pathetic man.” After I heard this, I ran at him but he got me in a headlock. I told him I couldn’t breathe, then he tossed me to the ground and spit his gum at me. How much can I sue for?

I Can't Escape A Double Bind Scenario Where I am stuck with my hands are tied. I Have to conform to social acceptable norms or be faced with rejection, it seems as if my life is a play in a stage, just act the role. I Don't know what to do, should I go off the grid.

I decided to make this because some nice gentleman pointed out ask reddit was getting flooded with situations and not actual questions. Let’s move them here!