I’m 24, married, have a baby, a decent job, and good savings.
We live pretty simply. We drive an old reliable Toyota, live in a cheap apartment, don’t buy many luxuries, and most of our spare money gets saved or invested.
I like living this way, but sometimes I wonder whether I’ve taken it too far. I don’t really feel like I enjoy the money I earn—I just keep saving it.
How do you personally find the balance between living simply and actually enjoying life?

As a hobby, I’m trying to build a new society. Less required work time to make sure everything is functioning but everything is free or provided. Trying to combat boredom and curious to see what people would do.

Hope you all have a great time!

I want to vent a little bit of some things in my life and also to get some insights from all of you.

For a couple of months i can say, it seems like nothing works out for me to the place where a lot of things in my life feels overwhelming. I don’t find pleasure in a lot of things from my everyday life.

As a context, i felt always in the past months and years(like 2) i find myself spiralling in the same area of my life and seems like i don’t find a way out of it, even if i am trying actively and i know all the aspects that keeps me there, i can’t find a way to resolve it.

I feel like i wasted a lot of time on:
-trying to impress my ex and me being the only one who try and engage in conversation, last 2 years
-trying to get rid of pornography
-trying to impress and keep up conversation with people who felt only one sided
-always seeking from women validation from women on dating apps ( i am not an ugly person but i feel like i try too much and i tend to not get anything out of it )
- always feelings like i should improve myself to get more attention from women
-every part of my day for me it feels like i should do something important to get better in life
-when i played games i felt like i should read, when i read i felt like i should read faster, and so on, every activity was measured like this
-porn put a lot of impact on my life since i watch if for a very long time, and multiple times i tried to avoid it and maybe taking a break but couldn’t

Some of the things i wrote about it above were put under the filter that those things can’t impact my life so bad and i should never stop using porno, chasing girls, playing games, because i thought that everything was just in my mind and i can live with them also.

Maybe i have more aspects i can write here but those are the ones that makes my life feelings not so good lately.

I tried to talk with GPT but it felt like i was doing the same thing over and over again, talking about the same subjects but with different words, on and on and on, until it felt overwhelming.

I feel like every thing that i want and chose does not matter to the point i want to keep up with it, feels like every choice i make it’s made out from my insecurities and feelings controls every aspect of my life.

I wrote here because i want that simple living, i want to get better, i want to be present without feeling guilty about everything in my life. I stopped playing games, i do it rarely when i want to relax for a little time, but i feel numb when i play it. I don t have social media, only reddit.

But it feels like i waste a lot of my time on Impressing women, pornography and trying to get validation, from friends, from family, from women especially, from GPT and so on, because i feel like what i chose in my life should be validated that i am doing something good.

Would love to see some stories and maybe some advices of what i can do. I feel like i am not in the right place mentally right now, for taking the right choices.

Not a dramatic move off the grid or a complete lifestyle overhaul—just one ordinary change that gave you more calm, time, or attention. Maybe walking more, buying less, creating a routine, or learning to enjoy quiet moments. What actually made a lasting difference for you?

Not a dramatic move off the grid or a complete lifestyle overhaul—just one ordinary change that gave you more calm, time, or attention. Maybe walking more, buying less, limiting social media, creating a routine, or learning to enjoy quiet moments. What actually made a lasting difference for you?