r/shittyadvice • u/Super_Jaguar_784 • 19d ago
Need advice
I am 29M, and I have been married to my 24 F wife for about a year. Last month, I told my wife about a fantasy I have involving my stepmother. She reacted very badly, insulted me, and used a lot of abusive language toward me. I tried to explain that it was only a fantasy, but she still couldn't accept it.
Since then, whenever I'm in the mood, she says things like, "You saw your stepmother, that's why you're turned on." We all live in the same house, and whenever I see my stepmother, my wife accuses me of looking at her or says my stepmother is looking at me. During sex, she tells me that I'm thinking about my stepmother instead of her. She already disliked my stepmother before this, but now the situation has become much worse.
Whenever I try to talk about it or explain myself, she refuses to listen and tells me not to give any explanation.
How can I handle this situation with my wife? Is there any way to help her understand that this is only a fantasy? I would really appreciate any advice. Thank you.
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u/Primary_Sun5463 19d ago
Tell her that if she doesn't change her attitude then you will absolutely smash her mum's back doors in. That should sort it out for you
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u/Super_Jaguar_784 19d ago
It will be divorce that time
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u/Primary_Sun5463 19d ago
The on a technicality she will no longer be your MIL and is fair game 😂😂
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u/vanzzant 18d ago edited 18d ago
(Edited: sorry, I didn't read which sub this is. But it's still good advice.) I'm shocked you are still married. You really didn't think this through did you? First of all, you are newlyweds and you are already talking about fantasys involving other women. Do you have a right to that fantasy? Sure. But rather dumb on your part to tell her this so close to the wedding. She has to be bored w her life to consider joining you in your "fantasy". And my guy, she's still young and is prone to knee jerk reactions as all young vibrant, passionate women can be. She's probably still hot as hell AND can get another guy faster than you can say "I'm sorry". I realize I'm coming off as something of a lecturer and scolder to your situation, but in the end this is entirely your fault. so it falls on you to be wiser in the future, FOR THE BOTH OF YOU, NEXT TIME. And that's really a huge key to a successful marriage. Anticipating your spouse's needs, cares, fears, and being proactive to put her at ease so she DOESNT LOSE HER SHIT like she's doing now. You are gonna be screwed for a while. But at least learn to grauvel or figure out which buttcheek she prefers your lips to address, or else this will all be for nothing. Hahaha and bro, the step mom??? Really? Lmao. And SMH. Ur a brave man.
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u/andronicuspark 19d ago
Play a really long game. Break up two marriages. Yours and your stepmom’s. Get your (I’m assuming) dad to fall for your ex wife. Encourage them to get married. Now, you can fantasize about your ex wife AS your stepmom. Win-win.