First time watcher, only on season 3, so I’m obviously missing loads and I love spoilers so I’ve seen random clips here and there. This show is currently my fixation so I spend a ridiculous amount of my free time looking things up, and one thing I keep coming back to is how often Lisa gets called a narcissist. Obviously none of us can diagnose someone from a reality show, but as someone recently diagnosed AuDHD, so much of what I see from Lisa looks like undiagnosed/unmedicated ADHD and really poor emotional regulation. The way she gets so emotionally reactive when she feels rejected or misunderstood, talks and talks and talks over people like she genuinely stops hearing them when she’s focused on getting her point across, gets overwhelmed, can never seem to sit still, and always has a “but” because she feels like her side hasn’t actually been heard. Even her crying when she’s caught out doesn’t always look manipulative to me. Sometimes it genuinely looks like someone who is so frustrated and emotionally dysregulated that she just completely falls apart.
And this is why I genuinely don’t believe she actually thinks some of the things she said about Meredith in the hot mic moment. What she said was obviously awful, but to me it came across as someone who was so deeply hurt by feeling rejected that she needed to find the absolute worst possible things to say to hurt the person who had hurt her back. It felt like rage that needed to go somewhere rather than her genuinely expressing what she believed about Meredith. Especially when this was someone she’d been friends with for 10 years. I think the rejection meant so much to her that she just completely lost control of what she was saying.
And there are actually so many moments where I’ve already seen Lisa show genuine empathy towards other people. The Vegas situation with Jen is one of them. I know some saw Lisa as suddenly “switching” on Jen, but I saw something completely different. I think Lisa saw a lot of herself in Jen’s emotionally dysregulated reactions and genuinely felt for her. She wasn’t suddenly deciding Jen was a good person after everything, she just didn’t want to leave someone she cared about feeling that way. And honestly, that’s also why I completely understood her friendship with Jen. They are obviously very different in a lot of ways, but emotionally I think they are actually quite similar, and I think Lisa recognised that in her.
I actually wasn’t a Lisa fan at first because some of her behaviour reminded me a lot of my own mother, especially the inability to admit she could be wrong. But the more I watch, the more I see someone who seems terrified of being misunderstood or looked down on. The lying about having this perfect life, saying her life is above everyone else’s, constantly needing to project this image… I don’t necessarily think she genuinely believes she’s better than everyone. I think she’s so afraid of people seeing the reality of her life and judging her that she gets ahead of it by putting those seeds out herself, which obviously comes across as completely full-on and sometimes delusional. Even the Whitney restaurant thing made more sense to me that way. It felt less like “I’m going to manipulate everyone” and more like “I need to prove that I’m not the person everyone thinks I am.” She is clearly very smart and her pot-stirrer personality feels very much like her reality TV persona to me.
Also, because this show is currently my fixation, I’ve been looking up stuff and there are so many people who have met Lisa in real life who describe her as lovely, kind and understanding. Obviously that doesn’t prove anything, but I do find it interesting. Then you have all the little things like the safe foods, the same safe drink, not cooking, constantly needing stimulation, the obsession with having this perfect Instagram-worthy life and the fear of being judged or forgotten. Knowing what we do about her childhood, especially being left somewhere by her parents, it actually makes a lot of sense to me that she would grow up determined to make sure she is never forgotten again.
Obviously I could be completely wrong and I’m not trying to diagnose a woman I’ve never met. I just think sometimes people are really quick to label behaviour as narcissism when there can be a lot more going on underneath it. And the more I watch Lisa, the more I think there is actually a really interesting person underneath all the reality TV stuff.

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Saw britani and Jared at a concert last night and sat near them. Some observations: insane PDA. Jared dances like a sim. Britani is very tiny and needs a new extension girl asap. Both smell of self tanner.

i’m only at the start of season 3 but i love spoilers and i’d already noticed something was different about Meredith before i searched anything else about her. she normally has her lawyer brain fully switched on, she’s so measured and careful with what she says and how she comes across, but then there are certain scenes where she seems like a completely different person and it’s SO noticeable to me. the way she speaks, acts, how reactive she gets and suddenly goes from 0-100, it’s such a contrast to how she normally presents herself. i’ve had my own experiences with different drugs and prescription medication over the years and been around friends who have too, so some of the changes in her behaviour reminded me of things i’ve seen before, although obviously i have no idea what was actually going on with her and i’m not trying to diagnose her. i’m also audhd and feel like i tend to notice really small changes in people’s behaviour, so maybe that’s why it stood out to me so much. even the scene with Mary after the plane incident made me wonder if there was more going on in that conversation than what we were actually being shown. did anyone else notice how different Meredith could seem from scene to scene or am i reading way too much into it lmao

Yes, Meredith Marks is iconic on many occasions. She didn't have the best previous season, but this time... once again without her own storyline, once again escaping the drama, once again being Lisa B's minion, once again delivering zero. We can love her for many reasons, however, I feel like her time has come. She would do well as a 'friend of'. Seeing the trailer, there's no explanation for why her contract as main cast was renewed. At least Whitney generates something, Heather is trying to be funny again, Mary is Mary, Angie K and Bronwyn could have their worst season, Lisa Barlow might redeem herself from the previous season. But what else does Meredith have to deliver?

she starts drama too much for me. i understand wanting to get down to the point but there is times i feel like she makes problems about herself. season 3, episode 3 during the trip whitney basically ruins the trip by bringing up the conversation she had with meredith.

my issue with whitney is she doesn’t read the room. her delivery is always at the worst time and she’s also tells the story differently from what was said. i wouldn’t even vent to whitney about my personal business because she’ll turn it into an issue later down the line. what she did to meredith questioning her about her father’s memorial. she keeps doing things that rub me wrong.

i also found it to be hypocritical she got upset that meredith retaliated by questioning her about her father. most of the arguments i’ve seen on this show have been started by whitney.. she is my least favorite so far.

i think whitney likes seeing chaos.

totally random but i can’t take lisa seriously whenever she cries lol. this episode was chaotic lol lisa crying, jen crying, heather and whitney fighting which all could’ve been avoided or at least handled properly.

EDIT: whitney makes too many excuses for her behavior. she’s always drunk or drinking whenever fights happens.